SBW, you escaped with your wallet intact. Just don't go back, that kind of customer service is unacceptable.
Sooooooooooooo many differerent sources say that manufacturers/shops can provide a certain level of parts spec for less than a consumer could, so why is this clown pushing "You can upgrade it later"? He just wants to unload the bike to a woman, whom he thinks doesn't know any better. IME, most guys won't recognize a woman's knowledge until the woman makes him look stupid by doing something HE doesn't know how to do.
Personally, I like that; my 2nd wife impressed the sh** out of me by matching me lift for lift during a truck unload at work one night, oh so many years ago.