I wrote a "rant" of sorts about this a few weeks back. I also ride to relax, because I enjoy it. I ride just to have fun. I don't:
-Use a computer. In fact, I'm suspicious of the entire concept.
-Ride with any clubs or groups. Some of us just function better when we're by ourselves. I seem to be one of these.
-set speed / distance / mileage goals. My goal is to enjoy my evening rides.
I could go on, but you get the idea.