I would also like to add that you should not feel like wsd saddles are necessarily better or more appropriate just because you are female. If one works for you for the type of riding you want to do, great. If a non-wsd saddle also works, great. It's about the fit and the level of comfort you have on the saddle.
Best idea, and the one that saves you the most money, is call around to your LBS's in your area to inquire about test saddle programs. If you can test saddles for free or a small fee, find out they don't work, then you have saved yourself the time and money figuring out that saddle X does not work for you, on to the next.
The discomfort you describe sounds like the saddle is nosed up too far, and its not far enough forward, so you end up sitting on the nose of the saddle (not comfy) because your body is going into that position. You could try EITHER moving the saddle forward or adjusting the angle. You want to try one at a time so you know what does and doesn't work to make the saddle comfortable. If no adjustment makes it comfortable, time to sell that one on CL or ebay and move on to the next one.