This is starting to seem odd to me. Trust me, I understand attitude and costs of going to shops in NYC. Racking my brain, I can't think of one I go to that treats me badly. Bikeworks, Trackstar, Velo, Both Larry and Jeff's uptown, Chelsea, Metro on 88th, and even Frank's.
I don't feel I have ever been taken for a ride, or talked down to. Maybe I am just lucky.