i split the difference and got a cyclocross (Nashbar steel w/ carbon fork and Shimano 105's). i run 30's with a mild knob, but i'm going to Vittoria Rando 32's for my 60/40 road/gravel commute. i usually run max to max+5psi.
i spend most of my time on the hoods, but alternate with the drops when hands get stiff/numb.
i do like the speed/handling of road bikes and may pick one up and add 5mi to my commute to make it all pavement. just to change things up.