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    Feeling a little deflated

    So it looks like my racing is over for a while, and I'm getting kind of depressed. Maybe y'all can provide some encouragement.

    - I graduate college in a little over a month.
    - After graduation I have to move, then start my new job.
    - I'm moving to an area that isn't exactly biker friendly (in all aspects: driver awareness, route availability, road quality, etc.)
    - I still have a wedding (August 24) to plan. And a honeymoon.
    - Every weekend from here to Graduation is booked with wedding stuff, job stuff, family stuff, etc.

    i'm depressed.

    Addition: I'm moving to Herndon, VA
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    If it makes you feel better, my balls hurt.
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    all this and you're 22? sounds to me like u should be happy about ur wedding and all this stuff if u chose to do it now.

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    I am happy, but I want to race damnit.
    "When you are chewing the bars at the business end of a 90 mile road race you really dont care what gear you have hanging from your bike so long as it works."
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    Quote Originally Posted by bdcheung

    - I still have a wedding (August 24) to plan. And a honeymoon.

    i'm depressed.
    Consider:

    1) Angelinia Jolie is never going to look at you as anything other than a creepy stalker. The fact that anyone even remotely sane will marry you with that restraining order out there should have you skipping around like a little schoolgirl.

    2) Just because the travel agent suggested Detroit or Trenton for a honeymoon location doesn't mean you have to go there.

    3) Even if you end up in Trenton or Detroit for your honeymoon, there's at least a possibility you'll finally have sex with someone (other than yourself).

    4) The Classics season has started.

    That's all I have.
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    Well,

    at some point reality and life's other requirements take over. Yeah it sucks, but instead of worrying about racing, see this as an opportunity to train. Training can for the most part still be done on the weekdays and weeekends (start early). Also - as I have done with my fiance. Make them understand the importance of cycling in your life and how it effects your mood. It could be worse, you could also be expecting a kid.

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    Seriously?! Stop whining! These are all great milestones in your life and they are all coming at the same time. You are entering a new phase of your life and it only get's better from here...unless you crash and break your neck or something (knock, knock).

    If all you REALLY want to do is race, maybe you should reconsider your career and wedding...

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    you are young and consumed by the competitive passion that is unfortunately stifled in too many of today's youth. iirc you were a runner that has converted to cycling and have carried over the same killer instinct from that sport. i am very similar in this regard--> converted track runner now cycling having just graduated from college. i was in a similar situation over the summer (cept no wife/wedding). i was graduating, dealing with a relationship ending, determining where i was going to go to law school, working at my shop everyday, sick family memeber, etc. but i took comfort in the fact that these are all things that happen very infrequently in a lifetime. we (hopefully) only get married once, have careers that prosper, have wonderful homes and family ties, etc. you are experiencing several of these once in a lifetime events at one time which is rare. although it is frustrating now, you will emerge as a more complete person, even more determined/LIKELY to succeed at your sport.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vinokurtov
    Consider:

    1)
    Angelinia Jolie is never going to look at you as anything other than a creepy stalker. The fact that anyone even remotely sane will marry you with that restraining order out there should have you skipping around like a little schoolgirl.

    2) Just because the travel agent suggested Detroit or Trenton for a honeymoon location doesn't mean you have to go there.

    3) Even if you end up in Trenton or Detroit for your honeymoon, there's at least a possibility you'll finally have sex with someone (other than yourself).

    4) The Classics season has started.

    That's all I have.
    couldn't get past the jolie citation. she's a nutter. period. understood?

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    Quote Originally Posted by bdcheung
    So it looks like my racing is over for a while, and I'm getting kind of depressed. Maybe y'all can provide some encouragement.

    - I graduate college in a little over a month.
    - After graduation I have to move, then start my new job.
    - I'm moving to an area that isn't exactly biker friendly (in all aspects: driver awareness, route availability, road quality, etc.)
    - I still have a wedding (August 24) to plan. And a honeymoon.
    - Every weekend from here to Graduation is booked with wedding stuff, job stuff, family stuff, etc.

    i'm depressed.
    It doesn't really matter. Once you are married, you'll have to sell your bikes anyway. Of course I'm kidding, but I have seen this happen several times!

    ... Brad

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    weekday crits.

    where you movin, anyhows?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cypress
    If it makes you feel better, my balls hurt.
    ...spit my pretzel out!

    Ah, the magic of Cypress.

    Now, to the OP.....
    Just let it be forr a while.

    Cycling comes and goes in CYCLES....If other things take over for a while...so be it. You'll come back to cycling when the time is right.

    Depressed?

    Hell, you've got the best years of your life ahead of you now....go make some real money and buy some bling...get married and get neutered of all that is single guy lifestyle...
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    There's a reason why the stats surge for participation of this sport for folks in their mid 30's. You may well have just hit upon it.

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    If you don't have time to race or train for racing, then just ride when you have the time.

    It's nothing to get depressed about. Depression should be reserved for funerals, winter, and your wedding.

    So it does look like you do have a reason to be depressed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bdcheung
    So it looks like my racing is over for a while, and I'm getting kind of depressed. Maybe y'all can provide some encouragement.

    - I graduate college in a little over a month.
    - After graduation I have to move, then start my new job.
    - I'm moving to an area that isn't exactly biker friendly (in all aspects: driver awareness, route availability, road quality, etc.)
    - I still have a wedding (August 24) to plan. And a honeymoon.
    - Every weekend from here to Graduation is booked with wedding stuff, job stuff, family stuff, etc.

    i'm depressed.

    Addition: I'm moving to Herndon, VA

    Why are you growing up soo soon??

    Isn't that why they invented grad school??

    Where exactly on BF did you read that getting married would be good for biking??

    Call off the wedding, get into grad school and prolong all your agony another 2-3 years, you only have a short time to save the next 2-3 years fo your life, make these decisions now and get them behind you.

    And if your really lucky, you will already have tickets for your honeymoon, take your bike, and get in some good training at your exotic location!

    Isn't this what you were hoping to hear?

    BTW, graduated from grad school at 27, got married at 33 and first kid at 38, I loved my twenties, would not change a thing.

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    met a girl, fell in love, yadda yadda yadda, she rides too.
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    Why the rush anyways?

    Are you Mormon?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cypress
    If it makes you feel better, my balls hurt.
    Really? Have you had this checked? Do you know how to do a self exam? I'm actually being serious here...
    "Unless he was racing there was no way he could match my speed."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cypress
    Why the rush anyways?

    Are you Mormon?
    No, Catholic *hint hint wink wink nudge nudge*
    "When you are chewing the bars at the business end of a 90 mile road race you really dont care what gear you have hanging from your bike so long as it works."
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    Quote Originally Posted by DrPete
    Really? Have you had this checked? Do you know how to do a self exam? I'm actually being serious here...
    I'll check em in the shower tonight. It was all of a sudden random nut pain.

    Catholic, eh? You're screwed either way, so you might as well ride.
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    When I was 22 I had no assets, I was in the Navy and I hated it and still had 4 years to go, and no women would even speak to me because I always smelled like the inside of a submarine. Started college at 26 so I was pretty much broke until I was 30.

    But now I live in the best place in the world to ride a bike.
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    I was supposed to move in with my gf of 5 1/2 years in the fall, but she got cold feet. She dropped out of college and is living with her parents again. She says she wants her space, will barely talk to me, and cheated on me last week. I was seriously half a second away from buying this girl an engagement ring. I've decided to forgive her and still want to be with her, but she's not sure what the hell she wants at this point and this could take months to work out. I've skipped class for the past week because I can't concentrate, can only fall asleep in the living room of my house because I have memories of her sleeping with me in my bed, and have lost 10lbs because I haven't been able to make myself eat all that much. This is a 10 lb loss in the past week, mind you. And, I've been off my bike for 10 days now, because whenever I'm on my bike I think, and thinking is the last thing I want to do. Right now I'm driving myself crazy waiting for her to read an e-mail I wrote asking if I can drop off gifts for her and her family on easter. Right now, I'm a shell of a man.

    I'm racing the battenkill roubaix in 2 weekends no matter what. If I can do it, you can do it.

    go get em sucka.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheKillerPenguin
    go get em sucka.
    "Unless he was racing there was no way he could match my speed."

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    It could be worse. You could be me

    Start off the year fast, and able to handle volume...now not so much.
    Got two knee surgeries, and now having random problems with patellar tendonitis and chrondomalacia that I wasn't before.
    Stoplossed in a job I hate (at this point...)for an extra year in a crap-tacular town with paltry financial recompense.

    I'm still going to race this year. Hell or high water man

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vinokurtov
    Angelinia Jolie is never going to look at you as anything other than a creepy stalker.
    She didn't look at me as a creepy stalker... Mind you, I am gorgeous.



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