i mentioned your username because a particular line in your post resonated with me, but the rest of my post (i didn't make it clear) was speaking more to the whole discussion that had taken place in the last page or so.
i understand your philosophy as written and happen to agree with it; i try to live it myself (therein is a quest). the example i might give is the whole 'we train in order to race' philosophy that often gets expounded. i (and many others) spend way more time training than racing, so if i don't love training as well as racing then i better change my mindset to find a way to enjoy it.
i believe in accountability and lack of excuses. i dislike the point of view that stating an objective can, in some circles, act as a proxy for actually achieving anything meaningful. intention is ok, but action is notable. the paradox comes in where we need intention to guide action.
if our pursuit is only the end result, it is often a path that leads to dissatisfaction. cycling especially seems to be a ripe ground for this. for example, if one finishes 2nd he could have finished 3rd. if one climbs the hill in 30:01 perhaps he could have done it in 29:59. if one wins the 35+ race, well, it wasn't the pro/1 race. people upgrade and upgrade until they reach a point where (most people) simply can't compete. you get the idea.
until one realizes there is joy and satisfaction in the process, whether it is cycling or anything else, the outcome may either be unsatisfying or fleeting in terms of satisfaction.
but in the end, who really cares what someone else does or doesn't get out of the sport? (not saying you feel this way.) when i re-read the thread i don't find anywhere where people said they would be unsatisfied if they try their best and fail to achieve their goals, so we can give everyone the benefit of the doubt that they might feel as you do--or at least have more similarities than differences.
i think fudgy said it somewhere above, effectively 'training is fun.' i took that to mean he finds joy in the process.
you wrote earlier that 'winning is fun' (it seemed to me like you presented it in opposition to what he wrote). when we strip the zen from it, i take the broad meaning of what you write directly above to mean that when we distill things to their core, your point of view probably has more in common with what fudgy succinctly stated than you take exception to it.
because one wants to be a 'better person' (faster racer?) in the future does not mean one is not good enough today. seems like we all agree on that.