Originally Posted by viros20
ill admit im feeling a bit bad now for being so tough on her.
Good!
That means you are probably riding with the right person, and the wrong attitude. The attitude can be changed, and you have expressed the desire to do that...
When you are with your S/O don't think of it as riding a bike, think of it as a journey with her, that just happens to be on a bike... Maybe some day it will turn into a faster ride, but for now, enjoy it for what it is.
If you find yourself correcting her style/position etc too often, try to stick to one suggestion per ride. Something I struggle with, but try to remember is that I should be more interested in improving/correcting myself than in improving/correcting others.