Sipper,
Every thing you said applies to me, also. My wife has concluded the same thing about me that your wife has about you. Obviously, being closer (and sometimes too intimate) to traffic on a daily basis due to my bike commuting has eroded my patience and tolerance to zero.
I am gratefull I don't have grenades with me on my commutes...although I do have some handy pockets for them in my jersey. Maybe a gift opportunity for me someday...