+1 And all the other excellent advice given above..................................Etc.
. Don't force yourself to have fun if you're not... find an activity you love and look forward to, and that's the one you will continue to do.
Realistic short-term goals, one day at a time... one meal at a time.... one ride at a time... you can do it.
Big Rider
Just had to reread Yens reply to you and she has not been cycling long. Everything she says is from experience and it has worked for her. Probably plenty of others aswell but take her as your "HERO". Follow her example as we'll be seeing you on organised rides next year but you will have to change your handle by then as bigrider won't be suitable.
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