Mate, one thing I've discovered in my journey, is that you do NOT know what 'right' feels like until you've actually experienced it. I've suffered so much over the years simply because I thought what I was feeling was 'right'. My current set up is the most comfortable I've had, but I now know it isn't 'right' because for one ride, I had the bars set about 2" higher than they are now and suddenly realised what it means not to have pressure on your hands. I don't really like sitting that high and the steering was so remote it wasn't nice, so I've gone back to my current compromise. It works between about 10km out (once my body is warm) and 30km. After that, I'm getting tired and the weight starts to come back onto the hands as my back gives up on the effort.
Richard