One of the advantages of being as old as I am is that I don't give a rat's arse what most youngsters think about my personal appearance. My seats have gotten lighter, flatter, and firmer over the years, and they seem to be working just fine. So, my recommendation is that after one has ridden enough to firm up some of those backside muscles, that one gets a flat, firm seat and then spend ample time getting the adjustment dialed in. I've found that seats with too much padding are good for short rides, but for longer one, you sink down in and get pressure discomfort in places you wouldn't with a firm flat perch.