well, an experienced fitter an an lbs can try to adapt a road bike to fit you. sounds like you're looking for a more upright/relaxed style. a road bike may not be the way to go then. if you do, it may take some time to get used to the feel (even when the bike 'technically' fits you). when i first started on my roadie, i was pretty upright....high stem angle, saddle about even with bars. over time, i started changing to a more agressive fit.
when i was shopping for my first roadie, the trek pilot and felt z series were the most comfortable fitting bikes for me.
good luck. have fun. ride lots.