Just a thought. I do not have your issue so I am just talking from my own experience.
According to Ayurveda an old holistic medical system from India, it is a good idea to massage your body (including coating your baby finger and putting it in each ear) in the morning with some kind of light edible oil such as olive or sesame or coconut.
I suspect that if you have hardened wax in your ear that sesame oil would be the best as it has a slight heating effect. This will tend to keep the wax from building up and hardening.
There may be other Ayurvedic suggestions beyond my knowledge and if you have accesss to a Vaidya or Ayurvedic doctor I suggest going that route.
SSF,
My experience with Allopathic (regular north American MDs) is that they either give you pills or want to do surgery or they tell you nothing is wrong with you.