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Old 09-18-07, 11:55 AM   #1
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Cancer

I'm posting to say I'm going to taking a leave of absense here.

My wife of 29 years has been diagnosed with cancer and it looks like I'm going to be pre-occupied for a bit of time. We're off to London to visit our daughter before we begin treatment while my wife is still feeling well.

As much as I enjoy this board, my time is going to be put to use in another area.

I may still look in from time to time, and I don't want anyone to think I'm avoiding responding or not interested in the arguments on how best to advocate for cycling, it's just that for now, priorities have shifted
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Old 09-18-07, 12:04 PM   #2
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I'm sorry to hear that. My best wishes to you and your wife for a full recovery of her health.
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Old 09-18-07, 12:07 PM   #3
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Best wishes to you and your wife.

Your priorities are clear.

Cancer can be beaten; my mother has been cancer-free for 17 years, and I have been cancer-free for four years.
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We are so sorry./ I very well know that sinking feeling - Closet. Our battle took over half a year and I was a nervous wreck. For several months I was unable to ride much. But, to keep up my resolve- but coming back to an empty home at night I'd get on the trainer for 20-30 minutes . That seemed to help keep my resolve somewhat intact during the worst of it. Cancer can be beaten. Our thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself in order to be strong for her. Only time I actually thought the trainer worth having. Man, did I ever crank out a speedy cadence to try and stay on top of my worries.

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Very sorry to hear that, and all the best to both of you. Keep us posted occasionally, if you get time.
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I'm posting to say I'm going to taking a leave of absense here.

My wife of 29 years has been diagnosed with cancer and it looks like I'm going to be pre-occupied for a bit of time. We're off to London to visit our daughter before we begin treatment while my wife is still feeling well.

As much as I enjoy this board, my time is going to be put to use in another area.

I may still look in from time to time, and I don't want anyone to think I'm avoiding responding or not interested in the arguments on how best to advocate for cycling, it's just that for now, priorities have shifted
Sorry to hear that. Good luck.
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I'm so sorry to hear that, closetbiker. Best wishes to you and your wife. I hope you have a nice time in London.
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Old 09-18-07, 01:09 PM   #8
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Best wishes, CB. I know where you're at, my wife is a cancer survivor, so whatever you do, don't give up.
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I'm posting to say I'm going to taking a leave of absense here.

My wife of 29 years has been diagnosed with cancer and it looks like I'm going to be pre-occupied for a bit of time. We're off to London to visit our daughter before we begin treatment while my wife is still feeling well.

As much as I enjoy this board, my time is going to be put to use in another area.

I may still look in from time to time, and I don't want anyone to think I'm avoiding responding or not interested in the arguments on how best to advocate for cycling, it's just that for now, priorities have shifted
Bummer. My best wishes to you both during your ordeal.
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Take care of yourself and take care of her too. Good luck.
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Best thoughts and wishes to you and your family Closetbiker.
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Although I don't post in A/S, and when I do it's usually jokingly I want to still wish you a good trip and your wife a speedy recovery.
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Old 09-18-07, 04:01 PM   #13
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We'll be looking forward to hearing back from you when your wifes cancer goes into remission and she is feeling better.
And yes, I said when.

Take care of her, and yourself.
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Damn right.

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I'm posting to say I'm going to taking a leave of absense here.

My wife of 29 years has been diagnosed with cancer and it looks like I'm going to be pre-occupied for a bit of time. We're off to London to visit our daughter before we begin treatment while my wife is still feeling well.

As much as I enjoy this board, my time is going to be put to use in another area.

I may still look in from time to time, and I don't want anyone to think I'm avoiding responding or not interested in the arguments on how best to advocate for cycling, it's just that for now, priorities have shifted
I'm a survivor for six years now. I sympathize with your situation. I have enjoyed our debate regarding helmet effectiveness etc. and will miss your postings. Of course your wife needs all your support and hopefully you both have additional support through family, friends, church etc. Just don't try to deal with it alone. There are support groups available also. I learned that many times people are uncomfortable with the subject. Try not to allow the occasional unthinking comment to get you down either. Most folks mean well, they often just don't know what to say or how to listen. We will keep you, your wife and family in our prayers.
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Old 09-18-07, 04:35 PM   #16
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ClosetBiker - take care of her and yourself. We will still be here when you return.
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so sad to hear news like that. hope she receives the best treatment/recovery, and your family grows in strength.
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Sad news, stay strong. Cancer is an equal opportunity destroyer, yet the most unfair.

I ride every year for cancer, especially for my friend Ann.

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My best wishes to you and your wife. I've already had one cancer scare myself and can vividly remember the feeling that the word can bring. The cycling community will miss your input, but we will be here when you take care of those much more important.
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Thanks for posting, closetbiker, and best wishes to both of you. Since my wife is a 15-year survivor of thyroid cancer, I do understand what you are going through. We had much to celebrate on our 20th anniversary, which came 6 months after her surgery and radiation treatment.
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You don't mention any details, and it isn't our business to know. Regardless, the course of treatment will leave you and yours feeling euphoric one moment and at the brink the next. Many of us have stood where you now find yourself. Your present business definitely takes priority. Our thoughts and prayers go with you and your wife.

If you feel like sharing, then, update us. If not, then, just know that this poster will keep you in his prayers.

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It isn't just priorities that keeps you from posting. When cancer struck my mother at the begining this year, I didn't enjoy posting or even riding anymore. Cancer can do that to you. I hope your wife makes a full recovery. You have my condolences.
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Thank you for sharing this very personal situation. My family has been cut down to a small size by cancer, but never mind that. My very, very best hopes and wishes for your wife - and for you. Please come back when you're ready, and by all means, if you wish, keeps us posted.
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I may still look in from time to time, and I don't want anyone to think I'm avoiding responding or not interested in the arguments on how best to advocate for cycling, it's just that for now, priorities have shifted
I don't think any reasonable person would blame you for your decision under the circumstances.

Seriously, I wish you the best of luck, and hope everything turns out as it should.
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closetbiker, your priorities are clear. You are obviously needed elsewhere right now. Best wishes for you and your wife.

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