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Old 12-11-08, 09:25 PM   #1
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Passenger apologized for yelling at me

About an hour ago a passenger in a passing car yelled "@%$& YOU!" at me. I was riding in the bike lane, obeying all traffic laws, and was lit up like a Christmas tree. It has been years since anybody has yelled at me while riding, and the drivers in my neighborhood are usually very considerate towards cyclists. Anyway, I caught up to the car at a red light and looked at them as I passed them (they were second in line at the light). When the light turned green and the car passed me again I saw the passenger window open a crack and heard a guy yell "I'm sorry!". I got a chuckle out of that. I have never had anyone apologize to me for yelling out their car window before.
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Old 12-11-08, 11:04 PM   #2
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Ha. That's an interesting sequence.
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Was he yelling at you?

Sometimes I've heard people being loud in vehicles thinking they're trying to get my attention but were just being loud ****s in their car.
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Nice.
A driver cut me off a few days ago and we ended up going into the same coffee shop where she was super nice and kept apologizing to me. It was a very nice change of pace
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Was he yelling at you?
Yes.
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Old 12-12-08, 12:43 AM   #6
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Yes.
Hmm okay, just wondering if you considered the much more often issue of people being loud ****s.
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Ha funny story
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Mistaken identity.
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Driver probably corrected him.

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Nice.
A driver cut me off a few days ago and we ended up going into the same coffee shop where she was super nice and kept apologizing to me. It was a very nice change of pace

It's the same as the internet tough guy syndrome. People are much tougher and meaner when they think there is no way they are going to have to actually face whoever they are yelling/cursing/making obscene gestures at. Just like on the internet, people think they are safe from retaliation while in their cars, and thus you have road rage

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What part of the planet did this happen in?

In my area, we've brow-beaten the drivers into whimpering submission. The only problem is that we're getting so many people moving into the area that there are always new drivers that haven't gotten the message yet.
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It has been years since anybody has yelled at me while riding
How much do you ride? I average one yell every 50-100 miles and one honk every 25-50 miles.
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Old 12-13-08, 12:12 AM   #13
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Hmm okay, just wondering if you considered the much more often issue of people being loud ****s.
Yes, but their windows were up when I caught up to them at the red light. The rear passenger rolled his window down about 2" to yell his apology. Why would he apologize to me if he hadn't been yelling at me in the first place?


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Driver probably corrected him.
Good possibilities.

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Sacramento, CA

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How much do you ride? I average one yell every 50-100 miles and one honk every 25-50 miles.
I ride quite a bit, usually every day. I do ride a recumbent trike, so that may be why I don't get yelled at as much. I got yelled at a lot more when I rode a mountain bike and a road bike.
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Maybe with a trike they thought you were handicapped.

Passenger in back: "Hey stupid, you just yelled at a handicapped dude" !!!
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Was his wife driving?
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My hope is that the driver has gotten in trouble for harassing cyclist before and does not want his plate # turned in again. So he has passed on his education to his passenger (as in apologize or start walking).
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Yes, but their windows were up when I caught up to them at the red light. The rear passenger rolled his window down about 2" to yell his apology. Why would he apologize to me if he hadn't been yelling at me in the first place?
Are you seriously asking that question?


Fairly simple, the look he got made him realize you thought he was yelling at you.


I just find it hard to have a 100% change of heart for no reason, seems kind of illogical.
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Are you seriously asking that question?
Are you seriously trying to start trouble?

Seems like every message board has to have at least one "keyboard cowboy" who likes to stir the pot. If you don't want to believe me, fine. I was there, you weren't. He was yelling at me. Deal with it.
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About an hour ago a passenger in a passing car yelled "@%$& YOU!" at me. I was riding in the bike lane, obeying all traffic laws, and was lit up like a Christmas tree. It has been years since anybody has yelled at me while riding, and the drivers in my neighborhood are usually very considerate towards cyclists. Anyway, I caught up to the car at a red light and looked at them as I passed them (they were second in line at the light). When the light turned green and the car passed me again I saw the passenger window open a crack and heard a guy yell "I'm sorry!". I got a chuckle out of that. I have never had anyone apologize to me for yelling out their car window before.
I think the guy was not being truthful in his apology.
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I just find it hard to have a 100% change of heart for no reason, seems kind of illogical.
I think the driver - concerned about getting a Sidi-dent in HIS passenger door - told his passenger to smooth out his transgression OR ELSE i.e., "If that cyclist damages my car because of what you said, I am going to take it out of your A**."
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I'm sorry for reading this!
That doesn't sound like a truthful apology to me.

Bentrike, thanks for sharing your entertaining encounter.
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I think the driver - concerned about getting a Sidi-dent in HIS passenger door - told his passenger to smooth out his transgression OR ELSE i.e., "If that cyclist damages my car because of what you said, I am going to take it out of your A**."
Interesting twist on the theory. I would not be surprised if it was the case (provided the reply was sincere/cowardly).

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It's the same as the internet tough guy syndrome. People are much tougher and meaner when they think there is no way they are going to have to actually face whoever they are yelling/cursing/making obscene gestures at. Just like on the internet, people think they are safe from retaliation while in their cars, and thus you have road rage

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Exactly, this is very true ...
I guess 95% of people have this syndrome, even i do sometimes
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