Living Car Free - Dating (and more) without a car?

Where I live it is a cultural tradition that kids live at home with their parents until marriage. Many even continue to live with their own parents after marriage for a few years so they can save up money for a house. What this means is that virtually all premarital sex and some martial sex takes place in cheap "love" motels or DVD rooms (private mini theaters with couches or beds). Combined this with extremely high levels of education which causes most people to put off marriage until their late 20s or early 30s and you have a huge super industry of VERY cheap places to go.

If cars were to disappear tomorrow the market would make accommodations for young people to do their thing. It also makes traveling really cheap for the rest of us with hotels for as little as $10 a night! ;)
That must be a very horny country!

Do they have a very low birth rate like Japan?

That must be a very horny country!

Do they have a very low birth rate like Japan?

Very low. Its a big problem especially for the national health care system and building industry. The low birthrate is relatively new though so it has not had a huge impact on the country yet.

I don't think they are any hornier than any other country though... I read a statistic that said that about 1/2 of married Korean men admitted to having sex with a prostitute. Who knows how many didn't admit to it. The motel industry gets quite a boost from that despite the fact that it is illegal to cheat on your spouse punishable by jail time.

This is a neat thread i'm glad i stumbled upon.

I used to be addicted to cars! I'm 21, and have owned 14 cars since i was 16. I have owned everything from 5 Honda Civics to a new mustang complete with nitrous and all the other goodies a car guy could ask for. I'd say im a handsome guy with a decent fashion sense and can 'spit some game' if i have to..haha. Anyways, i noticed throughout my teenage career that cars did play a big role with the women who would talk to me. A completely different type of girl would talk to me if driving my civic, compared to the mustang, or even compared to my muddy Subaru WRX. I realized a girl who was basing me by my car wasn't the type of girl that I truly was into. I also found this judgment to take place alot more during my high school years than it did after i came to college.

Now that i'm carless (which has only been a couple months) i find that most girls dig it. They think its 'cute' i ride my bike around everywhere and think its great that im 'saving the planet'. I found the girls that like the fact i am carless are defiantly more my type as well! I'm an outdoor kinda guy. I enjoy hiking, fishing, snowboarding, exc. I found when i had cars like a Mustang i was picking up the super girly girls who just wanted to spend the day shopping (although i do enjoy a good shopping spree!). Now the girls im talking to enjoy camping, hiking, and disk golf! Things that are way more fun IMO!

I think i just needed to stop caring about 'image' and the 'norm' of what society has taught me to do and just do what i wanted to do. A true women, whether a girly girl or not, will respect you for doing what you want to do. That is the kind of women you want in your life.

.Chris

I think i just needed to stop caring about 'image' and the 'norm' of what society has taught me to do and just do what i wanted to do. A true women, whether a girly girl or not, will respect you for doing what you want to do. That is the kind of women you want in your life.
The corollary is that someone who expects you to change the essence of yourself for the sake of a relationship is someone not worthy of your affections.

The corollary is that someone who expects you to change the essence of yourself for the sake of a relationship is someone not worthy of your affections.

Worded perfectly my friend, worded perfectly.

Before I met my like-minded husband, I dated a bit through online dating sites. I filtered for people that similarly had an interest in bicycles. My first thought was to not date anyone that admitted to owning a car, as I was living in Toronto, where despite the prevailing beliefs of the masses, owning a car was completely unnecessary. However I tried to keep an open mind because there may be a good reason someone needed to own a car and if they were using it as needed and not as a way of moving about downtown Toronto thats fine.

Here's a couple of examples of people that I met up with for one date:
1. Owned a bike store. Lived about 5 km or so from the store. Drove to work, would like to bike commute but sounded like he had never even tried. <brain boggle>
2. Another cyclist, said he used his car mostly to visit family. Oh where does your family live? Still in Toronto, a quite easy bike ride away (5 miles-ish?), although more suburban, I can understand how some people may not be comfortable with that ride. But he lived on a subway line, and so did the family, the same subway line. <brain boggle>

So just wanted to point out while NOT having a car may turn off some women, HAVING a car may turn off others ;)

Very low. Its a big problem especially for the national health care system and building industry. The low birthrate is relatively new though so it has not had a huge impact on the country yet.

I don't think they are any hornier than any other country though... I read a statistic that said that about 1/2 of married Korean men admitted to having sex with a prostitute. Who knows how many didn't admit to it. The motel industry gets quite a boost from that despite the fact that it is illegal to cheat on your spouse punishable by jail time.

Apparently very high rates of male spouse abuse also. Probably a Korean thing.

The corollary is that someone who expects you to change the essence of yourself for the sake of a relationship is someone not worthy of your affections.

Sometimes there are good changes to make in a relationship instead of ditching it, saying that... trying to shape a person into something more like yourself is wrong.

Apparently very high rates of male spouse abuse also. Probably a Korean thing.

Yes, its a Korean thing. Koreans don't think they have a high rate of spousal abuse because they don't consider a lot of it to be abusive. The Confucian moral code is still in full swing. Children are below adults, workers are below their boss, and women are below their husbands. This is changing very rapidly as more and more Koreans are getting married for love rather than allowing arrangements. Divorce is also becoming more common which, while seen as been bad, is actually great news for women. Remember that Korea has really only been a "developed" country since the mid-1908's.

For more on this, read: Getting Married in Korea by Kendall