Foo - Question for doods

Like how would you feel if some chick that you weren't really attracted to but thought was nice made a compliment that was... well... flirty?

Just wondering.

Koffee

within reason theres no such thing as a chick we aren't "really attracted to"-it is just that we are attracted to some more than others

flirty comments will certainly pique my interest

God. that is such an uncomfortable position. I actually had that happen to me alot the first couple of years I started working. Its really bad when its between younger people like 16+. I still have yet to find a proper way to avoid situations like that but I've not had to deal with in quite a long time.

Just to clarify- not like I'd do it all the time, but just like a one time thing where I said something flirty. I'm smitten but not stupid. ;)

Koffee

Just to clarify- not like I'd do it all the time, but just like a one time thing where I said something flirty. I'm smitten but not stupid. ;)

Koffee
Yeah. Honestly i feel the older one gets the better and more fun flirting gets (older being say 19+). I usually dont have any problem with flirting as long as its in a casual / joking manner. It can be a disaster when the other party is younger and alot more pushy.

Any flirt is fine. It makes me good and it's (usually) harmless fun. So I walk away with a big smile and a slightly inflated ego.

hmm...well guys are stupid when it comes to this...i mena girls can just look at me and smile and i'll take it as flirting whether it is or not...im also 20 if that means anyhting....but if i were that guy...id be like hey "shes flirting with me" and i would flirt back.

Flirtin', goofin', s#$% talkin. As long as it's in good nature, a cool chick is way better than a hot chick with a b#$%^& attitude any day.
As long as both sides know we're all having fun, it always brightens up the day.
My office has all age and sex groups and some days, we just get on a roll. Nothing directed at anyone in particular but just throwing out jabs. Last Friday we got going so well that we actually had someone almost spit coffee out their nose.
Lighten up the day, and the week is a breeze.
Have fun and be nice!!!!!

A little flirting is good. Just remember, boiling rabbits is not flirting.

nothing wrong with trying it out. however, if it's not well recieved right off the bat best not to try again. the old statement "keep trying" just isn't true. good luck...not that you need it ;-)

Personally, I find it charming. It's an ego boost when I get flirted with...even if I'm not attracted to the person.

Koffee,

Don't worry about it. I can tell from you posts that you are an intelligent, fun, and witty woman. Just be! If the guy is uptight or it makes him uncomfortable, you probably want to look elsewhere anyway. I am a big fan of being real, and letting everything else take care of itself.

Steve
-I'm no dear abby, but my bottom line is don't worry too much about what other people think

Like how would you feel if some chick that you weren't really attracted to but thought was nice made a compliment that was... well... flirty?

Just wondering.

Koffee


Well, if I were single, I would start trying to re-evaluate why I wasn't attracted to her. Like the other guy said, there isn't much "with-in reason" that we aren't attracted to. Standards have a way of changing. I used to see it at the bar all of the time back in the day.

While somebody may not have been overly appealing at 8 PM, by 3 AM there is a pretty good chance you can reason yourself into thinking they are hot.

I would agree with most posts here, in that I feel it makes me feel better. I (and I would think most people) like flirting. it is what it is. it's not an invatiation to a no-tell-motel. Flirt away Koffee, flirt away.
barley

The difference between a dog and a fox?




Why, about 4 hours of hours of drinking. Of course!

Like how would you feel if some chick that you weren't really attracted to but thought was nice made a compliment that was... well... flirty?

Just wondering.

Koffee
I'd feel flattered.

Like how would you feel if some chick that you weren't really attracted to but thought was nice made a compliment that was... well... flirty?

Just wondering.

Koffee


I like it.

Yup. Even if you're not into the girl, it's definitely an ego boost.

I'd flirt right back and have some fun. :) Flirting's just innocent fun and mutually complementing, doesn't mean anything more than that.

I'd flirt right back and have some fun. :) Flirting's just innocent fun and mutually complementing, doesn't mean anything more than that.

I think the divorce courts are full of people that used to think the same thing. :rolleyes:

Some might find it interesting to read Billy Graham's thoughts on fidelity. The intelligent man, knows that he should not put himself in a place of temptation.


Interviewer: What safeguards have you taken over the years to protect yourself and maintain personal spiritual purity?


Billy Graham: I decided there were three areas that Satan could attack in--pride, morals, and finances. Over the years I tried to set up safeguards against the dangers of each...

Concerning morals: I'm sure I've been tempted, especially in my younger years. But there has never been anything close to an incident. I took precautions. From the earliest days I've never had a meal alone with a woman other than Ruth, not even in a restaurant. I've never ridden in an automobile alone with a woman. Those kinds of precautions can lead to some misunderstandings. There was a time when Ruth thought I was too cold to women. But I always had this in the back of my mind. There is always the chance of misunderstanding.

(Billy Graham as quoted in an interview published in Christianity Today, Vol. 32, No. 17, Nov. 18, 1988, pp.21-23.) (http://timbayly.worldmagblog.com/timbayly/archives/012085.html)

I think the divorce courts are full of people that used to think the same thing. :rolleyes:

Some might find it interesting to read Billy Graham's thoughts on fidelity. The intelligent man, knows that he should not put himself in a place of temptation.



(Billy Graham as quoted in an interview published in Christianity Today, Vol. 32, No. 17, Nov. 18, 1988, pp.21-23.) (http://timbayly.worldmagblog.com/timbayly/archives/012085.html)
I think thats a bit over dramatic. but to each their own.

It depends a lot on the setting and degree.

The current state of sexual harassment laws makes flirting at work much less attractive than it used to be. Also it seems that flirting at work is much more apt to come back and bite the guy involved. So from someone at work who I am not attracted to flirting is somewhat unwelcome. HOWEVER as long as it is just once, or once in a while, so I can deal with it by just smiling and not responding directly, yet still not seem to be ignoring them or being negative to them, then it is fine. Actually like previous posters have said a bit of an ego boost.

Elsewhere it is generally welcome. Only time it is a problem outside of work is when I am unsure just how serious the flirting is. But even then as long as it is someone who is nice and will laugh about it later is we read each other wrong it is much more good than bad.

Well, if I were single, I would start trying to re-evaluate why I wasn't attracted to her.

Stole the words from my keyboard. Maybe he's not attracted because he didn't think she was interested. Some guys are funny that way.

I think flirting, beyond a smile, is a big mistake for women. Some women think they understand men. They haven't a clue.

Like how would you feel if some chick that you weren't really attracted to but thought was nice made a compliment that was... well... flirty?

Just wondering.

Koffee

Uh oh, Is there soemthing you arent telling us koff? (koffee= :love: ) ;)

Well in all honesty, kind of awkward, but most of the time I am good at by passing, I never really had a girlfriend, and honeslty dont need one right now. Too much crap going on in life, no need for another :)

I think the divorce courts are full of people that used to think the same thing.

Some might find it interesting to read Billy Graham's thoughts on fidelity. The intelligent man, knows that he should not put himself in a place of temptation.

(Billy Graham as quoted in an interview published in Christianity Today, Vol. 32, No. 17, Nov. 18, 1988, pp.21-23.)
I think thats a bit over dramatic. but to each their own.Yeah, if you think flirting is such a bad thing, you've got bigger worries on the horizon that you're not even aware of ;). Flirting's one thing, but taking it beyond that is something else altogether. Not being able to distinguish the difference between flirting, and giving up commitments is gonna get you in trouble...

And it's only sexual harrassment if you're not date-worthy! :)


BTW- The rates of women marrying their older bosses is way, way higher than men doing the same thing. Obviously there had to be something going on before they got married.. ;)

It's all a toss up, Koffee. Some men take it as a proposal of marriage while others take it for what it is. You seem like a great person. I say be who you are.

Yeah, if you think flirting is such a bad thing, you've got bigger worries on the horizon that you're not even aware of ;). Flirting's one thing, but taking it beyond that is something else altogether. Not being able to distinguish the difference between flirting, and giving up commitments is gonna get you in trouble...

And it's only sexual harrassment if you're not date-worthy! :)
:roflmao:

oh, i'd think the same thing i think everytime someone comes up to me with something uninteresting... "go away you *insert situation compatible insult* !" :D

It depends if the chick is hot or not. If she's not hot, drop that **** like it's hot. If she is, well, you know what goes next.

Attraction is more about attitude than looks, IMVHO.

Koffee, deliver the flirt with confidence and a wry grin.

When I'm on the receiving end of a flirt I like to flash a smile and return serve.

Are you going to start your flirt with "Like, dood..." ? :( :p

Koffee, Everybody is different. Sometimes the situation could make a difference as well. Personally, it rarely bothers me (and I'm happily married - whether that makes a difference in my attitude towards it or not), and if it came from you, I'd be quite flattered. :D

Like how would you feel if some chick that you weren't really attracted to but thought was nice made a compliment that was... well... flirty?

Just wondering.

Koffee


I wouldn't mid really. At first I was creeped out by it, since I mostly got it from women my mom's age...but after a while I got over that whole age thing, and found it at the least a good compliment.

...OK...so the one time an older woman noticed I was wearing button fly pants (in a less than eloquent manner) did disturb me, but that's pretty much expected...I take pride in my demin-dwelling buddy as much as any other red-blooded male, but when that buddy feels like the hunted instead of the hunter...it runs for cover. :o

And it's only sexual harrassment if you're not date-worthy! :)
Exactly! 50 something guy = not good
20 something and it's completely different.

Well, I took the advice- flirty, but in a very lighthearted way. He's not a co-worker... he works out at the fitness club I work at. And I love the latin men and that little accent of his. We talked about sports and dancing and travelling. He likes soccer (football), and I know a little about European football, so I talked to him about that for a bit. Then we talked a bit about his home country and the type of dancing they do there, and I talked about my dancing and how I do my choreography. Then we talked about cycling, and guess what? He has a mountain bike in the building, but he never uses it because the chain skips. Of course, I had to brag about my (meager) mechanical skills for fixing bikes since I took the Park Tools course. Easy fix! I told him, and he promised to take me to the bike, and once I fix it, we're going to do some easy rides at noon around Washington DC at lunch- just the Mall! And only on nice, sunny days. Then I talked to him a bit more about cycling and growing up in Chicago, and we ended it because I told him it had been 45 min, and he needs to get back to work! But we did end it with a promise to talk about fixing the bike and the thought of doing some dancing (practicing) in the spare room. All in good fun. Now if he'd been married, I would have not even bothered, but I didn't see a ring before I started said flirt, and fun was had by both.

*sigh* I loooooooooove the latin types. I have to be careful with this one. Oh- and he's my age... and no... I didn't start by saying "hey dood!". ;)

Koffee

"Love is in the air"
"Everywhere I look around"
"Love is in the air"
"every sight and every sound"

Nice koff, nice!
Congrats, smooth like buttah! :D

You go, girlfriend!!

nice move Koffee

...ok, time for a cata-mutation of a Beatle's song...

Hey dood....
koffee wants you bad
so get over here
and get your mack on
..(i ran out of words!)

(ok, so it's safe to assume I won't ever be a songwriter :p )

And now Jim, let's watch as the female lion quietly stalks her prey....

Yeah... I'm stalking. But I can look at the merchandise, as long as I don't touch (or if I do, I don't break).

Koffee

Well played.

Good call Koffee.
Flirting 101 classes begin here!~

I guess I can not answer this thread :cry:

Mandy

Okay, when you go on your ride with him, make sure you wear your tightest lycra. White would be best. Oh, and when you fix his bike, make sure you get covered in grease. Any woman covered in grease is pure hot.

Good lord... no one wears white after labor day! What, you wanna get me killed or something? :D Besides, I hate white.

I'll go with the grease thing. Maybe I'll smear some chicken grease on me or something.


Koffee

I'd think it was nice and carry on with what I was doing

The year is defined as how long it takes for our planet to make one revolution around the sun, the starting point is completely arbitrary. Who is to say that Labor Day isn't the last day of the year? That way, every day would be before labor day. Living by your own calendar = hot.

But, anyway, grease. Yes. Not chicken. That's unhealthy. Unless it's fried chicken grease. Then that's hot in its own special way.

of course I have always been completely bloody oblivious.

If my, now, wife hadn't hog-tied me as part of the flirting process ( one-sided) I'd still be single.

I guess I can not answer this thread :cry:

Mandy


uh... don't you want to be a chick? O_o... besides.. think about how much easier it will be to run when yer goin commando without the wreckin balls smashin around.