Living Car Free - free at last

im sure you all read my thread about my gf leaving me if not catch up here http://www.bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=172535 here is my update i rented a small apartment for my self and moved out of the parents. i now am on my owen again. just thought i would update all of you.

Good for you. That was a heart breaking post you made. Now you can start your life over again.

Good luck.

So when is the party and who is responsible for bringing the chicks (err women - no disrespect intended)?

update

my bike stays in my bedroom
i have lots of food
i have my owen space
the girl mentioned above has started to make a effort( i think) to get back in my life ( not sure how i feel about this not sure if the new place has anything to do with it)
i just got cable (have to watch mythbusters)
i bought nothing for my apartment family and freinds gave me all there extra stuff. it was cool.
thats all i got for now ill add more later

Please don't be a schlep. Cut the friggin' cord and get away from the girl.

Koffee

koffee koffee your honstey kills me. i know thats the right thing to do, but i sure is hard. im working on it.

"working on it"?
"it's hard" this may be true but its harder if you drag it out. If you want to grow and want your next relationship to be better you have to be different and make changes.

To quote: " There is not try, do or do not"
and good luck!

You are wasting your time and your good years chasing some chick, and the good one is slipping farther and farther away from you. Cut off all contact. Or at least cut it off for a year and see what happens when you come back in a year.

Koffee

is this some female insight?

Cabana you're cool. i wish you lived in Lansing instead of Muskegon so i could knock some sense into you! :)

Koffee says give it a rest for a year. i think a month would be long enough to figure out what you really want.

is that a pick up line?

listen to koffee, she's smart like that........

congrats on the freedom, just remember, freedom is earned, and it constantly has to be fed and taken care of so to speak

Yes, the new place has a lot to do with it. She doesn't have to deal with your parents.

She must accept you as you are, carless and all.

I'd say consider yourself free. Get some fresh air. Meet some other gals. You stayed together for a long while. A little perspective wouldn't hurt. In a while you'll know what to do.

Cabana you're cool. i wish you lived in Lansing instead of Muskegon so i could knock some sense into you! :)

Koffee says give it a rest for a year. i think a month would be long enough to figure out what you really want.

No. A year. He's already been playing the game for a month, and look where it's gotten him- nowhere!

One year.

Koffee

ok heres where im at, she still lives with the other guy. im not going to even think about getting involved till his ass is gone. plus things have gone so far im not sure they can even be fixed...

ill have to spend some more money on your fine products to help you out a little.

btw: seen all the newest stickers coming through sticker guy, they look great, ill have to get some of them for sure

ok heres where im at, she still lives with the other guy. im not going to even think about getting involved till his ass is gone. plus things have gone so far im not sure they can even be fixed...

UNTIL?

Dood, you are seriously bending over for a fisting-o-rama. If she's with another guy, that means she doesn't want you. Move on already!

Sorry... but you seem like a nice guy. LET IT GO. If you set someone free and they come back to you unconditionally, then it was meant to be.

LET. IT. GO.

Koffee

btw: seen all the newest stickers coming through sticker guy, they look great, ill have to get some of them for sure

do you work for sticker guy?

UNTIL?

Dood, you are seriously bending over for a fisting-o-rama. If she's with another guy, that means she doesn't want you. Move on already!

Sorry... but you seem like a nice guy. LET IT GO. If you set someone free and they come back to you unconditionally, then it was meant to be.

LET. IT. GO.

Koffee

she's not coming back. i sent my last email to her a few days ago. time will tell i guess

thanx

No more emails.

No phone calls.

No letters.

No text messenging.

No contact.

Just cut the cord and let it go. Someday, if she leaves the guy, if she's interested, she'll call you. Then you can consider dealing with her. In the meantime, block her email so it doesn't even come to you anymore.

Koffee

im done...lets see what happens, ill give updates.

No "let's see what happens" either. Just move on with your life and focus on things that matter to you- food, shelter, friends, family, fun.... stuff like that. If something happens in the love department, it'll happen once you stop trying to focus on it, and not necessarily with that woman either.

Good job! :) And good luck!

Koffee

No "let's see what happens" either. Just move on with your life and focus on things that matter to you- food, shelter, friends, family, fun.... stuff like that. If something happens in the love department, it'll happen once you stop trying to focus on it, and not necessarily with that woman either.

Good job! :) And good luck!

Koffee
Yikes! Ann Landers, or is it her twin, resurrected on the BF.:eek:

Don't forget in the next advice to the lovelorn posting :love: to include a blurb for the lad to see his pastor for spiritual guidance.

ok.. i know im not supposed to talk to her but i took a call from her today, but its a story about karma. its pretty scary. turns out other guy was riding his bike home (no helmet) when he came to four way stop, stoped and then goes, a truck takes off hitting him and peels out. i guess he's pretty beat up but over all fine, the cops cant find the truck so hes s.o.l. i wished something bad for him but damn... now i feel bad