Foo - Work Troubles

Before typing this message, I want to clear the air that I am not to be a person seeking gossip or drama; however, I am an advocate of all that is wrong with drama, especially in the workplace. After seeing my boss and other co-workers today, I thought I would get public testimonials to see as what I am doing is wrong or if people are overstressing the situation. About a year ago, my bigger boss, brought her daughter to start working at the Shell Oil Station. At the time, she was 17 and I was 20 and now that I am in college I typically work during the winter and summer vacations I have, an average of 4-5 months of the year. From what I learned later, my bosses' daughter established a crush on me.

I starting hesitating towards the situation, reassuring that I did not want drama nor do relationships within the workplace, adding the fact that this girl was in still in fact my bosses' daughter. Now a year later and halfway through my summer break I learned she still has a crush on me, now that she is 18 and I am 21 (I will be 22 before she turns 19) my other boss has been has been pressuring me to take her on a date, as friends; so they would like to think. Like any other workplace, gossip travels faster than anything I can ponder at the moment and within days the entire store brings up the situation whenever possible.

After talking to my boss, she recommended that I take her on a date. I reluctantly agreed but did not disclose when I would take her out. For added information I work third shift on a full time basis because it pays well and all I need to do is clean all night. So without really using my opinion this girl, who may I mention is 18 and does not have her license, plans the date for this past Sunday, basically giving less than a weeks notice. The next day I talked to a co-worker and a good friend of mine and I told him that I did not believe I would be in any condition to take her out on Sunday, especially seeing how I would only be getting 4-5 hours of sleep after working my shift. The following day I told the girl that it'd be easier to do it when we both have prolonged time off so I can sleep and be in better condition to go out. With her going to California for 2 weeks, I mentioned that after she gets back in August it'd be much easier. She disagreed but in a jokingly way so I played it off.

So Sunday morning comes and I am wiped after a long night of work and a lack of sleep the following night and tell her that the Sunday she planned would not be a good idea because I didn't feel well nor had I gotten sleep in awhile so I would need my only day off in awhile to sleep. She told me it was fine and we'd do it another time. So I was on my bike ride this morning and I usually pass by my work and I went to go grab a water and my boss came up to me and angrily told me that postponing "our date" was stupid and that "I better not break her heart" and to add to the fire the girl's mother, and as mentioned earlier my "bigger boss" was there, who is usually very open to talk to me and friendly with me, chose not to talk to me at all while I was there.

To conclude, my boss is basically ticked off at me because she is taking it that I am going to break this girl’s heart when I have been reluctant to the whole situation from the start. Other co-workers don’t appear to be too happy either about the situation and what I have supposedly done. I don’t want the situation to escalate to a relationship when she can’t drive and I go back to college in about a month. The question to you all; is my boss and co-workers overreacting to the situation and drama and relationships truly don’t belong in the workplace or is what I have done wrong? Thanks for your patience and help all. Time to go on another bike ride to relieve some stress before going into work :rolleyes: .

I nevereverevereverevereverever mix my professional and personal lives. Which isn't too difficult, I guess, since I'm in engineering and it's very male-dominated.

Yes, these tools are overreacting. My advice would be make it very, very clear to your coworkers that your private life is absolutely none of their business and to not date this girl. They'll get over it, she'll get over it. It would probably be good to explain your situation to the girl. Nobody else needs to be involved.

Your boss was 100% wrong to ask you to take the girl out on a date - and you were wrong to agree. The only reason you should ask someone out is if you want to go out with them and it doesn't sound like you really did. That aside, it was completely wrong and unprofessional for someone in a supervisory position to put you in a position where you felt pressure to do something that impacted on your private life or infringed on your enjoyment of your time off. I feel for the girl (because the boss felt she needed to ask you and then needed to get indignant) but, really, it was a bad situation to begin with. What you've already experienced is a shadow of what you would experience if you embroiled yourself into a relationship with her and then it went bad.

I say get a room, flog her till she can't walk, give the room key to her mother, proclaim "How do you like me now?" and find another job... fast!

I say get a room, flog her till she can't walk, give the room key to her mother, proclaim "How do you like me now?" and find another job... fast!
I like this idea. Make sure to get a lot of pictures, too.

I like this idea. Make sure to get a lot of pictures, too.
Word dat! This would be useless without pictures :D

Somewhere you needed to say, "I'm feeling harrassed."

I say get a room, flog her till she can't walk, give the room key to her mother, proclaim "How do you like me now?" and find another job... fast!

:roflmao:


Thats outrageous that the boss freaks out like that. I would go in his office and tell him how unprofessional he is acting, and say it's not a good idea to do that dating an office girl scheme.

Somewhere you needed to say, "I'm feeling harrassed."
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The whole situation is wrong from the start. Bosses mind your own bidness, girls get your own dates, NEVER EVER go out with the bosses' anything, EVER, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU WORK SOMEWHERE YOU CAN BE SET ON FIRE EASILY!!!!

The fact the boss gets bent because you delayed "the date", *shutters*..... run mother f*&ker. Don't look back, don't go back for a final cheque.

Ever see The Graduate? Drive like a maniac and take her to a titty bar.

Seriously, though,this is a difficult situation. Because it sounds like you don't want to go there. If you don't go out with her, you'll break her heart now, if you go out with her, then that may only give her expectations and the let doen later may be bigger.

Tough choice. How about not bathing for a couple of days and eating a couple of cans of baked beans right before the date so she cuts it off.

Don't look back, don't go back for a final cheque.
After you nail the boss's daughter, of course.

After you nail the boss's daughter, of course.
With the parent/boss trying the setup? I don't think so man, there's more to this that we can't see.:rolleyes:

by being hesitant to date your boss's daughter and the outcome proved it! the fact that one boss would even get involved in your personal choice is wrong.

If you don't go out with her, you'll break her heart now, if you go out with her, then that may only give her expectations and the let doen later may be bigger.
If his not going out with her breaks her heart, then she has far greater problems to deal with than dating this guy. Such as her manipulative mother.

Maybe the mom-boss has the hots for Kevin and is trying to live vicariously through her daughter. If he plays this right, he might be able to bag them both.

For that we will need pictures! :lol:

Yes your boss was completely wrong. Is this girl SOO hard up that he mom needs to help her get a date???
Yikes!!! I feel for you. I would nicely tell them all you don't want to mix business with pleasure and that you hope they all will respect your feelings in this matter.
Plus, I didn't hear you say at all that you had a thing for this girl.

Don't get involved!!!

Jees... it's like a bad shotgun wedding TV sitcom.

Hey thanks for all of your opinions. To appoint several issues upon the situation, my co-worker, Candace, who has a crush on me, her mom is lesbian. To make the situation interesting, Candace is also bisexual. The Shell Oil Station is partnered by us and a Dunkin Donuts and throughout this tirade I would like to say I have nothing against gays/lesbians/bisexuals, but counting about ten to fifteen girls, two of them are only heterosexual, the rest; including Candace are bisexual or lesbian. Annnddd one of the girls over at the Dunkin Donuts has also dated her! When I saw my boss today it appeared now it was my problem too! She wanted nothing of it and basically threatened me not to break her heart. Why oh why I went back, probably for the money, eh? Not the first time I quit, about 2 years ago I quit due to other drama within the Shell. I wasn't personally involved, but it made working very unpleasant. To avoid another long reply I won't go into details, but this isn't a first.

Learn from the past or the future will hit you like a freight train.

Any way you can turn this into an orgy?

Tell your boss all you did was delay the date but now thanks to her attitude and weirdness the date is off and she can blame herself for breaking her daughters heart. Tell Candace at the same time too, talk to them both at the same time.

Hey thanks for all of your opinions. To appoint several issues upon the situation, my co-worker, Candace, who has a crush on me, her mom is lesbian. To make the situation interesting, Candace is also bisexual. The Shell Oil Station is partnered by us and a Dunkin Donuts and throughout this tirade I would like to say I have nothing against gays/lesbians/bisexuals, but counting about ten to fifteen girls, two of them are only heterosexual, the rest; including Candace are bisexual or lesbian. Annnddd one of the girls over at the Dunkin Donuts has also dated her! When I saw my boss today it appeared now it was my problem too! She wanted nothing of it and basically threatened me not to break her heart. Why oh why I went back, probably for the money, eh? Not the first time I quit, about 2 years ago I quit due to other drama within the Shell. I wasn't personally involved, but it made working very unpleasant. To avoid another long reply I won't go into details, but this isn't a first.


Hey, I'll take your job. Sounds like all they need is a token trannie and they'll have a well rounded work enviroment :D

Hey thanks for all of your opinions. To appoint several issues upon the situation, my co-worker, Candace, who has a crush on me, her mom is lesbian. To make the situation interesting, Candace is also bisexual. The Shell Oil Station is partnered by us and a Dunkin Donuts and throughout this tirade I would like to say I have nothing against gays/lesbians/bisexuals, but counting about ten to fifteen girls, two of them are only heterosexual, the rest; including Candace are bisexual or lesbian. Annnddd one of the girls over at the Dunkin Donuts has also dated her! When I saw my boss today it appeared now it was my problem too! She wanted nothing of it and basically threatened me not to break her heart. Why oh why I went back, probably for the money, eh? Not the first time I quit, about 2 years ago I quit due to other drama within the Shell. I wasn't personally involved, but it made working very unpleasant. To avoid another long reply I won't go into details, but this isn't a first.

I take it all back. Dude, what are you waiting for? This has 3 way written all over it!

Hey thanks for all of your opinions. To appoint several issues upon the situation, my co-worker, Candace, who has a crush on me, her mom is lesbian. To make the situation interesting, Candace is also bisexual. The Shell Oil Station is partnered by us and a Dunkin Donuts and throughout this tirade I would like to say I have nothing against gays/lesbians/bisexuals, but counting about ten to fifteen girls, two of them are only heterosexual, the rest; including Candace are bisexual or lesbian. Annnddd one of the girls over at the Dunkin Donuts has also dated her! When I saw my boss today it appeared now it was my problem too! She wanted nothing of it and basically threatened me not to break her heart. Why oh why I went back, probably for the money, eh? Not the first time I quit, about 2 years ago I quit due to other drama within the Shell. I wasn't personally involved, but it made working very unpleasant. To avoid another long reply I won't go into details, but this isn't a first.
omg is this the shell station I go to? I think Candace has been having her eyes on me too!:eek: :eek:

I take it all back. Dude, what are you waiting for? This has 3 way written all over it!


3 way hell... group grope!

You don't even mention whether or not you like HER all that much
Don't feel pressured into taking this girl out even once. LMAO

If you would like to take her out than go out tired
It's ONE NIGHT, pu***! lol
"I'm not in any condition to take you out" HAHAHA
More time to sleep?
Dude


"run mother f*&ker" LMFAO
+1

omg is this the shell station I go to? I think Candace has been having her eyes on me too!:eek: :eek:Are youfor real?

omg is this the shell station I go to? I think Candace has been having her eyes on me too!:eek: :eek:

Haha, Goffstown Shell...Can't miss it. And if that's the case, I am sure as hell you can't miss Candace.

Is she attractive?

You don't even mention whether or not you like HER all that much
Don't feel pressured into taking this girl out even once. LMAO

If you would like to take her out than go out tired
It's ONE NIGHT, pu***! lol
"I'm not in any condition to take you out" HAHAHA
More time to sleep?
Dude


"run mother f*&ker" LMFAO
+1

Haha sorry, I did forget. She is attractive, but I am not ready for a relationship in which with her situation will end up being a long distance one. And to be totally blunt, she is an 18 year old with the mindset of a 12 year old. Hell, her 13 year old sister is more mature than she is.

HAHAHA
Coffee, doughnuts with sprinkles, dirty lesbian gas-tank orgy, paycheck
I think I've seen this website before

I take it all back. Dude, what are you waiting for? This has 3 way written all over it!
At least! I'm thinking more like 8-13 way!

*bowmp chicka bowmp bowmp*

omg is this the shell station I go to? I think Candace has been having her eyes on me too!:eek: :eek:
If this is so, please go there and confirm the story and also take a lot of pics. Lots of 'em. I'm talking good ones too. Don't forget the pics.

But, yeah, on a serious note: Don't go back. They're crazy and manipulative. Find another job for the month you have before you go back to school. Mow lawns or sell drugs or something.

And another serious note: Orgy, photos, damnit.

Yes, I have considered quitting that job on several occasions, for several different reasons. One being this girls mother has promised me a raise that I still have not recieved.

Here comes to obvious answer, "Bang her and you'll get double the raise." Haha :D

But on a serious not, im getting ready to go over there now and basically tell my boss that yes I was wrong and moreover so was she, and if she wants my job because it, she can have it.

ooh. don't leave us hanging. how'd it work out?

just don't date the 13 year old sister, please.

The "conversation" had it ups and downs. I went right in and told my boss that I didn't want to deal with this drama issue anymore. My boss got up and told me that it was m fault and my situation now that I had agreed to take her on a date to begin with. I got angry and I stormed out of the store where I later began receiving text messages, apologizing of sorts. If my boss knows anything, she knows it’s not to get me upset because she knows I can and will quit in an instant, and that store would go to hell if I did. So we texted back and forth and I calmed down a bit and then the girl called me after work randomly tonight and I agreed to take her on a date, just as friends, nothing more tomorrow.

Haha and don't worry I know plenty well not to go after her sister :rolleyes:

Dude, you messed up! You could've had a mother-daughter threesome if you had played this right! :eek: Sucks that you were caught in a lose-lose situation; if you didn't go out with her, you'd break her heart. And by agreeing to the date, you broke her heart! You need to TAKE CHARGE and stop letting lesbians run your life! Be the man, YOU have the car, YOU'LL plan the date, WHEN and WHERE YOU choose and let them know it. Your hesitation, reluctance and weak acquiescence let them take the reins and dictated the terms you didn't like, such as the girl planning the date, and not confirming and working with you.. THE MAN! So... you can still salvage this and your job, but you gotta TAKE CONTROL of the situation... remember... mother-daughter threesome! :)

BTW - no one asked the most important question of all... is this girl even halfway hot? And how's her mom lookin'?

I say get a room, flog her till she can't walk, give the room key to her mother, proclaim "How do you like me now?" and find another job... fast!

This is the best advice here.

Whoa, you texted with the mother.
Yes, this is the classic "Frustrate the **** out the guy and then calm him down with good, old-fashioned grudge sex" routine. She apologized showing just how much she NEEDS you.
You're like one step away.
This mom ain't no lesbian
She's a damn freak and wants you to work the inside of her own personal shell station.

bwhahaha....people making this sound like a porn movie come to life...

By take her on a date, do you mean show up at her house, spend some time in her room screaming, "Who's your daddy?!?", then stopping off at her mom's room to say good night and then recreating the whole date w/ her?

Shag her, then run off to college and never work there again!:p

Seriously... I'd extract myself from that situation right away. It has BAD written all over it. Tell them both that you are flattered that she would like to screw...errr...I mean go out with you, but that your heading off to college and being involved in a relationship is not what you want right now.

Don't fall asleep with ANY of them, lest you wake up tied to a burning bed.
Run away my friend, and say "HEY I KNOW THEM", when you finally see your former gas station on the news.