Foo - staying friends with an ex

so...how did that work out for ya?:p

Never did....Everytime we ended up back in bed and someone being hurt.

These were long term relationships. The short term ones we usually never got beyond the "this is the fun period" so being friends with perks was never not a far stretch to friends without perks.

worked out good for me. :)

I stayed friends with several of my exes, until we lost touch for other reasons.

Except for Crazy Mary. No point in even trying to stay friends with her.

nope...although i become friends with someone i intially started dating. we went out a few times, but nothing romantic was happening so we just migrated into friendship. since we are both in seperate relationships now the friendship has endured.

Depends...sometimes it works out well, othertimes it's a total trainwreck.

The worst of it is when the ex starts dating some of your close friends, and you now get the weird sexual questions

"Dude, about her...so how do you.."
*GAAH SHUT THE SPORK UP, QUIT TALKING ABOUT MY EX'S GENITALS!**
"but dude..."
*but? but??....have you ever had to have a boot removed from your backside surgically?*
"no..."
*you're about to, unless you disonctinue this course of discussion, figure it out on your own, Capt Kirk...*


....those are the times that make me wonder if dating is actually some kind of twisted joke created millenia ago...

that's exactly why i only dated women outside my circle of friends. most of my good friends all did the same thing. we kept a tight circle amongst ourselves. friends that date other friends exs just doesn't sit well with me.

For the most part it does not work for me either. One of my exes and I can hang out for a weekend or so every couple of years. It takes a few days for us to remember that we broke up because we grate on each others' nerves.

--A

No problems so far.

It dpends upon the person and the relationship. I have had several develope into good friends. If noboody really got hurt in the breakup and the other person does not try to make you jealous every time you seem them it can work.

In my experience, the longer you have been apart the easier it is to be friends. Of course I have had more failures at friendships afterwards than success stories.

of my long-term relationships (3), only one I'd be cool with hanging out. Haven't spoken to her in a long time, but there's no animosity. The other two, well, let's just move on, shall we?

I'm currently decent friends with one girl whom I dated for a little over a month. She's since become a neighbor and borrows my lawnmower and I watch her dog and crap. And she has a new guy that may be moving in with her soon. She's happy, I'm happy, it's all good. She's rare, though.

I'd say on the whole, it just doesn't work out so well. Shrug.

Of course I have had more failures at friendships afterwards than success stories.

that means you're normal. these things are usually unsuccessful. it's worth a shot to try, but really people need to decide if it's worth it or not to stay friends. often times, it's just not worth it. a clean break is usually the best method IMO.

women usually hate me when I am done with them. My ex wife and I are on "friendly" terms, but there is a child involved, otherwise......I would hate her.

Mine are all in the box freezer downstairs.

Mine are all in the box freezer downstairs.
Speaking of which, when's the next chili cookoff?

Nope. She seems to have fallen off the face of the earth.

I stay friends with most of my ex's. One of my old ex's cut my hair for years and fixed me up with another of her friends. She also cut my wifes hair up until she moved to West Texas.. I met my wife through another old ex, and we still do stuff with her and her husband.

I've had some that worked and some that didn't.

One of my best friends in this world is an ex. I'm great friends with her and her husband. They even made me god father for their 2nd child.

so...how did that work out for ya?:p

I made an attempt to ask out a girl who i work with and still work with and it is a battle, worst decision i have made while working there:(.

I play scrabble with my exes and let them win. We're cool like that.

Better than slaying friends with an ax.

I have had 4, two of which had been serious relationships. And I'm working on a 5th ...grrrrr.

Better than slaying friends with an ax.
that is a matter of opinion.;) Maybe that is why all my exes still want to stay friends with me.:D all but one that is!:eek:

For me, it seems to turn out based upon the circumstances of the relationship before the break-up. The ones that were great friends before we hooked up had a better chance of being friends afterwards. And the relationships where I broke things off first tended to have them still hang around, whereas when they broke things off, they disappeared.

My mum once told me something along the lines of... "lovers will kill each other, but friends won't hurt you". :)

ehh, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt

They are your ex for a reason lol.

My ex gave me tourette's.

That *5#!*$&@*$ woman!

My ex gave me tourette's.

That *5#!*$&@*$ woman!

:roflmao:
I dont hate any of them. I may see them at a party because we have mutual friends or something and I dont avoid them but I wouldnt call it friendship. I wouldnt call one of them if I needed something and they wouldnt call me.

I don't have any ex-boyfriends, only current boyfriends!

:D

I don't have any ex-boyfriends, only current boyfriends!

:D
well then I would have to say that you are one of a kind :D

I'd say I've parted company with all my ex girlfriends/realtionships on decent terms. You both move on though... and almost all of them I've lost touch with over the course of time.

The one exception is my ex wife. I really tried to take the high road, to do everything I could to not have our divorce be messy and more painful than it had to be. I wanted and hoped that we could have some semblance of good will toward each other...But sadly...though I wish her only the best...we didn't part on decent terms and I really just hope she stays out of my life and moves on with hers. She's too unstable and too much of a destructive person to be in my life anymore. I wish her the best, but we'll never be friends or even friendly.

well then I would have to say that you are one of a kind :D

Then I would have to say that you are right!

:D

Restraining orders keep me from contacting my ex's. Otherwise I know we'd still be friends. I know they still love me. I KNOW THEY DO!!!!!!!

Never works. Messy. Has ended in a paternity suit before. Not me, but it leads to a lot of other questions...

I've had a lot of self-destructive behavior in my life. Thanks for reminding me...

scary place....the world

Thought we could have been friends but her attitude and behaviour after the breakup sort of nixed the idea. It got worse as I found out that she'd been cheating on me online right behind my back (we had an office set-up back-to-back) with her new lover/significant other along with other details. Personally, I don't see how she could ever have thought that we could have remained friends without me putting 2 and 2 together and seeing the truth. Maybe she figured that since she'd pulled the wool over my eyes for the past decade that she could keep on doing it. :mad:

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They are your ex for a reason lol.

so simply put yet so true.

I think it's better to not look back. After years, felt obliged to contact her and return some family pictures of earlier Christmas' that should stay with her family. She thanked me. Had been over 10 years. Thanks to the internet I was able to locate her. When we left town 12 years ago , she suggested maybe it'd be nice to stay friends. I was cool with the idea, but told her, I think it's better to move on. I hear through others that in the last year, she is divorced again.

except for psycho brian.

yeah.

Yeah it happened again....long after his relationship with "her" ended....he had to ask weird sexual questions again.

....this is why friends should not date other friend's EXs....I really don't approve of any vision where I would visualize my friend naked....frankly the vision should be denounced by every organized religion, and most popular cults. It's on par with a vision of Cheny dressed up as a pony, and Bush riding on his back wearing buttless leather chaps and flinging around a riding crop....it's the kind of sight that makes you want to claw your eyes out.

Then I would have to say that you are right!

:D
well then we will have to agree to agree!

so simply put yet so true.
The most obvious answer is usually the correct one.

It works for me, most of the time.

I don't have any ex-boyfriends, only current boyfriends!

:D

I wonder where the ex's are buried.

I have no idea where any are, nor care, that all ended 24+ years ago.

Restraining orders keep me from contacting my ex's. Otherwise I know we'd still be friends. I know they still love me. I KNOW THEY DO!!!!!!!

Remember this helpful little phrase: "Your Honor, I was simply admiring from a far, not actually stalking' ."