Foo - Am I old??

This just got me to thinking about the whole drinking thread. I don't go to night clubs anymore. I can't stand the competition between girls and what they wear and how they look.
Also, do the men out there really believe that you will find your soul-mate at a night club??
This really is an question.
I work with a girl whom is 34 and she is always going to nightclubs/concerts etc. I would just think that this gets old at some point. I mean when your in your 30's the people most likely to go out are in their 20's??

Am I just a snob?? I just think that there are much better ways of meeting someone then heading out to the night club getting all drunk and feeling like crap just to meet a few girls or guys out there.

Now I'm not saying that it can't happened. Cause thats how I met my ex, keyword my ex.

I'd like to hear what you all think.

I'm 19 and I don't think you're old.

Those people who club hop are caught up in an unhealthy lifestyle. They get drunk, meet people, and usually have one night stands. I think just maybe you've became mature enough to realize that maybe that isn't for you, and you want to be healthy. Plus you have a boyfriend, so why would you need to go to clubs. You don't have to dress like a skank you don't have anything to prove.

Just my opinion of course.

You're right, there are much better ways. But to each his/her own I guess.

No, you are NOT old.

Im exactly the same way,
I dont go out, rarely, and find that kind of excitment in other places.
I think you are mature, not old!
I think your friend who is 34 and going out partying to find a soul mate needs some of your wisdom!
you come at a point in your life where you understand what works and doesnt work for you, you've achieve that! ( you old bag!:p :p )

IMO...the best way to meet people is to meet them while doing the things you enjoy i.e. cycling, hiking, concerts, etc... I would not expect to meet many "quality" people at a bar or club. Funny that I met my current girlfriend (who is a great girl by the way) online.:D But I personally wouldn't go to a bar looking for miss right...more like miss right-now.

So basically, I agree with you snowy. But I'm 37 so maybe we are old!:p ;)

This just got me to thinking about the whole drinking thread. I don't go to night clubs anymore. I can't stand the competition between girls and what they wear and how they look.
Also, do the men out there really believe that you will find your soul-mate at a night club??
This really is an question.
I work with a girl whom is 34 and she is always going to nightclubs/concerts etc. I would just think that this gets old at some point. I mean when your in your 30's the people most likely to go out are in their 20's??

Am I just a snob?? I just think that there are much better ways of meeting someone then heading out to the night club getting all drunk and feeling like crap just to meet a few girls or guys out there.

Now I'm not saying that it can't happened. Cause thats how I met my ex, keyword my ex.

I'd like to hear what you all think.
Not old, wise yes but certainly not a geezerette!

Nah, you've just grown out of that phase. I didn't go to nightclubs to meet my soul-mate, I went to meet drunk, horny girls. After a while, it gets old, you get tired of the hassle and losing your hearing and you just want to do something more chill.

Pheard, for being 19 your pretty smart guy. :) I'm glad that people your age see the light too.

Thanks everyone. I guess we all want different things in life and I have to remind myself of that too. :)

I need to be the dissenter here. Snowy, you make the earth look young!

j/k :)

This just got me to thinking about the whole drinking thread. I don't go to night clubs anymore. I can't stand the competition between girls and what they wear and how they look.
Also, do the men out there really believe that you will find your soul-mate at a night club??
This really is an question.
I work with a girl whom is 34 and she is always going to nightclubs/concerts etc. I would just think that this gets old at some point. I mean when your in your 30's the people most likely to go out are in their 20's??

Am I just a snob?? I just think that there are much better ways of meeting someone then heading out to the night club getting all drunk and feeling like crap just to meet a few girls or guys out there.

Now I'm not saying that it can't happened. Cause thats how I met my ex, keyword my ex.

I'd like to hear what you all think.

Nah, but some we might get laid for the night.

Some clubs can be fun. The classic pickup joints do not make it for me. Perhaps it goes back to when my boss and a subordinate would go to night clubs quite a bit and noticed it was the car you drove and how thick your wallet was that attracted the girls. (It was my boss who made the comment. He had a lot going for him, smart, witty, but wallet was all that was noticed.) Guess that is payback for all the guys who only notice the tits on a girl who is smart, nice and witty.

Final answer from my standpoint. A club is fun now and then, but doing it a lot is a bad sign, no matter what your age.

we all walk life in the ways we choose to. I choose to walk it sober. I choose to stay home with my kids. I choose riding and running over dancing in clubs.
Id rather be an old bag on any day. Works for me!

Nightclubs are for serving as "heat-sinks" for ******bags so they stay out of the bars I like. Bars are for getting drunk and hanging out with friends. Concerts are for listening to music I like. At none of these do I ever expect to meet my "soul mate." That's what orgies are for.

Pheard, for being 19 your pretty smart guy. :) I'm glad that people your age see the light too.

Thanks everyone. I guess we all want different things in life and I have to remind myself of that too. :)
Well I'm sure not everyone my age feels the same way. But I've always been in the belief that if you need to drink to have fun, then your trying to hide your real personality. I don't find that attractive, and wouldn't want any part of it.

Hey, you didn't tell us how old you are. Tell me your age and I'll tell you if you're old :)
I'm 38, I don't mind going to a sports bar to watch a game and have a few drinks, I can't do the crowded night club thing though. I will occasionally go to a club check out a band. I do think it's sad when you see someone in there 30's or 40's trying to fit in and hook up with the 20 yr olds.

That's what orgies are for.

Zombie orgies?

^^^ Thats pretty true I feel too.

Explody pup, your too funny. :)

I agree nightclubs and such aren't the place to be looking for "soulmates", but you are making the assumption that people your age are going there for that reason. I know many in our age group who still love to go to clubs....definitely women more than men, but its just because they love to dance. They just go vent a little by shakin' some tushy. It's not about trying to meet people.

Hey, you didn't tell us how old you are. Tell me your age and I'll tell you if you're old :)
I'm 38, I don't mind going to a sports bar to watch a game and have a few drinks, I can't do the crowded night club thing though. I will occasionally go to a club check out a band. I do think it's sad when you see someone in there 30's or 40's trying to fit in and hook up with the 20 yr olds.

I'm 32. But I haven't been to a nightclub, gosh in a few years. Bars yes, like a sports bar kind of thing but even that its been a long while.

Zombie orgies?
**** yeah. If I can find 'em.

The only time I go to night clubs or bars is to watch our local band play. I'm 19, so they wouldn't even let me drink anyway. Sometimes I'm amazed at some of the crazy stuff I do when I'm completely sober. :rolleyes:


IMO...the best way to meet people is to meet them while doing the things you enjoy i.e. cycling, hiking, concerts, etc...

+1 I always keep my eyes open on the trails. :)

I agree nightclubs and such aren't the place to be looking for "soulmates", but you are making the assumption that people your age are going there for that reason. I know many in our age group who still love to go to clubs....definitely women more than men, but its just because they love to dance. They just go vent a little by shakin' some tushy. It's not about trying to meet people.
Those dances from the 1920's don't involve shaking your bootay. Geeze gramps did someone forget to give you your medication? :)

i go there to study....






















































...women :p

Those dances from the 1920's don't involve shaking your bootay. Geeze gramps did someone forget to give you your medication? :)
You're just jealous because you aren't old enough to get in to a night club yet. :p

Id rather be an old bag on any day. Works for me!

Sorry, but you're not an old bag. :D

Met my wife at a bar. In Feb we'll have been married 10 years now. :-)

I'm 32. But I haven't been to a nightclub, gosh in a few years. Bars yes, like a sports bar kind of thing but even that its been a long while.

32 is far from old, lil darlin, you're just hitting the best years of your life.

we all walk life in the ways we choose to. I choose to walk it sober. I choose to stay home with my kids. I choose riding and running over dancing in clubs.
Id rather be an old bag on any day. Works for me!
BDG, if you're an "Old Bag", then you are awfully well preserved!:D

Sorry, but you're not an old bag. :D
Whether she's an old bag or not, she's one fine WOman.

Whether she's an old bag or not, she's one fine WOman.

That reminds me of Bill Cosby. He said that when Adam first saw Eve he said, "Whoa Man!!", thus how woman was named.

I divorced my first wife when I was 31. I went with some buds to a bar that we used to frequent when we were young and figured out real fast that it was a place for young 20 somethings. We actually looked at each other and decided to go to a sports bar instead.
We never expected to pick up the love of our lives at Nightclubs when we were young. It was a place to drink, dance, and hopefully pick up someone for a one night stand.
I met my current wife (of 14 happy years) at the apartment where I lived. Usually, the ones who make the biggest difference in your lives are the ones you aren’t looking for.
I wouldn't say your old Snowy, just smart enough to move past those activities.

Also, do the men out there really believe that you will find your soul-mate at a night club??


I do hit the bars/clubs occasionally, and I can't speak for all men, but when I'm in a place like that, the last thing on my mind is Ms. Right. Just Ms. Right Now, and that don't mean that I'll call tomorrow, or ever.

when i was single, i found bars and clubs the hardest place to meet anyone. much much easier at house parties where you can actually talk.

I'm 32. But I haven't been to a nightclub, gosh in a few years. Bars yes, like a sports bar kind of thing but even that its been a long while.

32... Yes you are in fact old. Cycling at our age could be dangerous, you could break a hip. Time to give it up and take up knitting or maybe learn to play canasta.

:roflmao:
Turning 30 sucked, but every year after that seems to get better. Now i'm dreading turning 40.

I met me wife at happy hour so I'm a believer that Mr./Ms. Right can exist in any enviroment.

I'm 31 and I'm good for about a 3-4x a month visit to a bar with friends and more often than not, my wife. However, I've noticed that my friends that go out multiple times a week keep hanging out with younger and younger kids.

Whether she's an old bag or not, she's one fine WOman.
it's been very hard here to prove that Im mature and well mannered with your sig hanging over my head:lol:

it's been very hard here to prove that Im mature and well mannered with your sig hanging over my head:lol:
Since when did people care if hot blondes were well mannered and mature? as long as they are fun!

http://www.funfilesandsmiles.com/smilies/2179.gif

I need to be the dissenter here. Snowy, you make the earth look young!

j/k :)


Well you're the one with gray hair in your avatar.:p

Also, do the men out there really believe that you will find your soul-mate at a night club?? I think there is an assumption that everyone wants the same thing out life... and I think it's even more presumptive to think that everyone else wants what you want...

There is something about U.S. culture that brainwashes one into thinking there's one "ideal" path in life:

1. you're born
2. you grow up, hopefully not turn into a punk and deliquent
3. you go to college and get a degree so you'll be worth something to society
4. you meet your sweetheart "soulmate" (anyone read the Thomas Moore series?)
5. you get a respectable "career", with pay you what you're "worth" and you retire at 65 after working there your entire life
6. you get married, pump out a couple of puppies and live happily ever after...

I'm not sure where this idea came from, especially the white-knight and the castle stuff. A lot of it is from Hollywood, but I suspect they only cater to the common themes already out there. These fantasies appear to go way back several millenia even as they are common to pretty much all cultures in the world.

However, one area that the U.S. differs greatly from the rest of the world is comparing reality with fantasy. A lot, if not most people in the world, people live their life day to day in barely subsistence living, getting enough to eat, being sheltered from the elements and the maurauding hordes. Maybe if their kids survive 'til reproductive age, they'll consider themselves to be lucky..


Anything and everything above that, I consider such a pleasure and luxury. I love having free time to be able to go out and meet people and hang out. It could be going on bike-rides, hikes, shopping, hanging out over coffee, grabbing a drink in a pub, going dancing in various clubs, etc. I think humans aren't that much different than all the other creatures you see on the Discovery Channel kicking it on the Serengeti enjoying life each and every single day...

Life doesn't have to be so .... "significant"... It's not the end of the world if I spill my coffee or break a nail or if someone new talks to me. I think the most troubling things in life are the "shoulds" that we impose upon ourselves. It distances us from truly being able to fully enjoy the really wonderful moments that we have in life. Have lots of them every day before it's all over. "The past is but a memory, the future is but a dream... and today... today is a GIFT, that's why it's called the present..."

That said, there are weird people everywhere, not just in the clubs. If anything, that's one of the most honest places in the world because people aren't hiding behind a plastic mask. I usually bring my own group with me when we go out so we can all have a good time together. They also act as a protective shield, there's nothing better than hot chics around you to keep the creepy ones away... :)

Since when did people care if hot blondes were well mannered and mature? as long as they are fun!

http://www.funfilesandsmiles.com/smilies/2179.gif
since there was me, people started to look at blondes a little differently...
:p

I think I figured out how to calculate old.

Old is the next decade of the age you are now until you reach 3 years from that decade then skip up to the next decade.

For example.

If your 32 than anyone 40 or older is "old" until you reach 37 at which time you realize 40 is just around the corner then anyone 50 or older is "old."

Bill

Since when did people care if hot blondes were well mannered and mature? as long as they are fun!

http://www.funfilesandsmiles.com/smilies/2179.gifBah! BAD blondes are more fun! :)

BTW, you're as old as the one you're "dating"...

Lets all have a party at blondie's house and see who can lay the best pickup lines on her. You know, the ones that make girls weak in the knees.

My parents met in a bar, more than 40 years ago. Can't say anything about anybody else, but they each met their soulmate in a bar.

(As for me, I met my wife on a ski lift.)

Lets all have a party at blondie's house and see who can lay the best pickup lines on her. You know, the ones that make girls weak in the knees.That's not where we want them to feel weak...

That's not where we want them to feel weak...
Keep it PG danno!!! *shakes fist

i go to clubs a few times a year at the most-- and that's only if I have a hookup--(friend is dj-ing, friend's birthday, guestlist, etc.) when I go, it's usually to get my dance on with the girls then by about midnight I've had my fill. there's nothing grosser than sweaty drunk boys dancing way too close trying to cop a feel.

i don't think you're old snowy-- i think you're just sane-- everytime i venture to hollywood to go out, i always find myself wondering why i bothered, it's always too packed, too loud and too expensive. a better option for me is a mellow martini or wine bar where you can be out with your friends yet still hear them.

^^^Danno meant to say weak heart.

What were you thinking, perv?

Snowy, you're not old...you're just a good catch.

Damn. Somebody already caught you, didn't they?

Damn.

Back to the club for me, then.

This just got me to thinking about the whole drinking thread. I don't go to night clubs anymore. I can't stand the competition between girls and what they wear and how they look.
Also, do the men out there really believe that you will find your soul-mate at a night club??
This really is an question.
I work with a girl whom is 34 and she is always going to nightclubs/concerts etc. I would just think that this gets old at some point. I mean when your in your 30's the people most likely to go out are in their 20's??

Am I just a snob?? I just think that there are much better ways of meeting someone then heading out to the night club getting all drunk and feeling like crap just to meet a few girls or guys out there.

Now I'm not saying that it can't happened. Cause thats how I met my ex, keyword my ex.

I'd like to hear what you all think.

You're not old. You're very young still. :)

You are wise enough to know what you want in life, while others are either trapped in bad habits, or are traveling through life without any direction.