Foo - Well guess what, she has completely lost her mind

Thanks to those of you who gave some very helpful replies in my "What am I going to do, Karma awarded for good suggestions" thread!

She has really lost it. On monday, she comes into my class and tells me she needs to talk to me. (This is my ex girlfriend for those who are not in tune). THis is the first time she has spoken to me in 3 weeks, and by now I was really getting over her. I now realize this is the best for me, and my life feels less stresful. I, feel healthier. But anyways, she tells me "My friends told me to not even tell you about this and leave, or leave a note and that is all, but after 2.75 years of putting up with me I thought you deserved to know, I am moving to Arkansas. I have a train ticket for wednesday".
I am stunned. I know a it about this however. She is involved in yahoo groups, fanfiction, she is an excellent writer. She met some guy several months ago who is supposedly a screen writer. So they have been talking, I never really thought much of it. He did mention that if she wants to live with him after highschool and go to COllege in Arkansas, he will not charge her rent or anything.

So I tell her okay, thats her choice. SHe says "have a nice life" and walks off. I knew she was trying to escape, and is thinking that a new world in Arkansas will be much better than here in NH. So yes I am a bit concerned, I've still not completely gotten over her. I get a call tuesday evening from her parents asking if I know anything about where she is. Meanwhile, a teacher of mine who was also a teacher of hers, who is what you might say a friend of mine as well, asked about her. I told her about her Arkansas plan, she was shocked. She apparently contacts the police, who do a little investigating.

The parents call me, and tell me the results. This guy is 56 years old, single, lives in the Ozarks of Arkansas. THe town is green Forest. Also, the police went to the address this guy gave...

Unless he lives in a tree house, there was nothing there.

I guess that tuesday night her parents went to track her down, and her father did find her. BUt she was ranting and screaming about how she needs to escape this world, and how horrible I am (which I guess is a large contributor of her reason to go). Little does she know what awaits her....

I do feel a bit uneasy about this:(

omg... desperate, so vulnerable.. what a close call, hopefully someone will make sense out of her now, yicks, was a very naive thing to do!
that's kinda sad how people just go ahead and trust anyone, you'd think with everything that's out there about online predators that she would of known better!

This is so freaking scary!! I hope she gets help. I understand you feeling uneasy, but consider the alternative.

- i certainly hope she gets the help she needs...

- but it sounds like you have your head screwed on right...

- It's tough to be a man, baby!™

:-)

So, uh, think you could give me her yahoo ID?

yea, I hope she gets help. At this point, she is so screwed up she is her own worse enemy, and won't seek help until she has really screwed up. Meanwhile, she is going to be very easy to be taken advantage of, sickening to think about. I don't mean to be offensive toward anybody who has any connections or lives in Arkansas but...

Green Forest Arkansas is not the land of opportunity. All her life she has in DOver, population about 30k. Average median income household about 65k

Green forest- 2700 for population. 23k average household income!

Also, a quick google search shows a rather high molar concentration of religious cults, sects, and movements. Baptist in particular. And she wants to pursue a more intensive writing career, I just don't this this as the place to start. Nevermind the scholarships she had lined up here for college, like 30 or 40k

So, uh, think you could give me her yahoo ID?

That's not even funny.

with a chick that psycho, the sex must have been AWESOME.

Thanks to those of you who gave some very helpful replies in my "What am I going to do, Karma awarded for good suggestions" thread!

She has really lost it. On monday, she comes into my class and tells me she needs to talk to me. (This is my ex girlfriend for those who are not in tune). THis is the first time she has spoken to me in 3 weeks, and by now I was really getting over her. I now realize this is the best for me, and my life feels less stresful. I, feel healthier. But anyways, she tells me "My friends told me to not even tell you about this and leave, or leave a note and that is all, but after 2.75 years of putting up with me I thought you deserved to know, I am moving to Arkansas. I have a train ticket for wednesday".
I am stunned. I know a it about this however. She is involved in yahoo groups, fanfiction, she is an excellent writer. She met some guy several months ago who is supposedly a screen writer. So they have been talking, I never really thought much of it. He did mention that if she wants to live with him after highschool and go to COllege in Arkansas, he will not charge her rent or anything.

So I tell her okay, thats her choice. SHe says "have a nice life" and walks off. I knew she was trying to escape, and is thinking that a new world in Arkansas will be much better than here in NH. So yes I am a bit concerned, I've still not completely gotten over her. I get a call tuesday evening from her parents asking if I know anything about where she is. Meanwhile, a teacher of mine who was also a teacher of hers, who is what you might say a friend of mine as well, asked about her. I told her about her Arkansas plan, she was shocked. She apparently contacts the police, who do a little investigating.

The parents call me, and tell me the results. This guy is 56 years old, single, lives in the Ozarks of Arkansas. THe town is green Forest. Also, the police went to the address this guy gave...

Unless he lives in a tree house, there was nothing there.

I guess that tuesday night her parents went to track her down, and her father did find her. BUt she was ranting and screaming about how she needs to escape this world, and how horrible I am (which I guess is a large contributor of her reason to go). Little does she know what awaits her....

I do feel a bit uneasy about this:(
PC: First of....Kudos! Good decision to talk to someone about this! Very very very good thing to do! Good job! I haven't read through the thread yet, so I don't know if I am echoing anybody else. so I'll say it again....GOOD JOB!:D :beer:

with a chick that psycho, the sex must have been AWESOME.
How sensitive can ya get!:rolleyes: Grow up.

with a chick that psycho, the sex must have been AWESOME.

I assume intelligence isn't your strong suit.

Wow.

She left New Hampshire for Arkansas?? Arkansas??

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Poor girl, she's an emotional mess from her upbringing, making her extremely vulnerable to "attractive" offers. Oh well, someday she'll grow up and learn her lesson. Same one you're picking up, watch out for NO.1 first! No one is responsible for you but you. Thank you for sharing your experiences.:)

This might sound cold and callus but, we play the hand we're dealt combined with the cards we take. She knew the dcards she was dealt, hopefully the cards she draws play better. You've got to let go and let her play them and only hope no harm befalls her.

who dumped who?

you know that could be off limit but...
maybe since you've been taking care of her for a long time, maybe this is just a cry for help.
think about it, why did she had to tell you this?
maybe she knew you'd rescue her as you have done in the past.
We all know way too many people who walk into "bad" situations on purpose because after all, bad attention, is still attention.

with a chick that psycho, the sex must have been AWESOME.
Here's a man that knows a thing or two about the real world. I second that. :D
Every guy I've known with a crazy girl friend has said, "She's the best lay I've had. A real freak in the sack."

also

...you'd think with everything that's out there about online predators that she would of known better!
Natural selection.

Well, I wont be helping her. If I get a call in a few months, I will refer her the police or a homeless shelter. She has made her choices, I am moving on now :).

A wise person told me "Bernard, you will either go down together or one of you go down". Well, it wont be me!

A wise person told me "Bernard, you will either go down together or one of you go down". Well, it wont be me!
I've had first-hand up-close experience with someone close to me
suffering from schizophrenia. Your decision is the wisest for both
of you. This is nothing for a non-professional to undertake.

...she was trying to escape, and is thinking that a new world in Arkansas will be much better than here in NH.

Yeah, she might be a bit unhinged. Basically, she told you because she wanted to get caught. Sounds like what Dr. Drew would call a chaotic relationship, which can be quite intoxicating. But they ain't good for you. Moving on is the healthy choice.

My version of the advice you quote, which I learned the hard way: "If someone is going down the toilet, only an idiot jumps in after them."

She did sort of get caught. Remember by now she is 18, so she CAN go. She dropped out of school, smart eh?
When I say get caught, I mean her parents found out by that teacher who notified the police. I have no idea where she is now.

Why did he call you 'Bernard'? Your name is phantomcow2!

:roflmao:
Why did he call you 'Bernard'? Your name is phantomcow2!

:p I do have some people call me 'cow' or 'pcow', 'phantomcow'.
My name is easy to play with

May I call you Bernie?

Just don't call him Nard! :eek:

Bernie is by far the most popular name I have. Nard, I have heard before.

Damn. I want to be unique. May I call you Clarence?

Well played - I've had my share of crazies. In a way you're lucky you got one early in life so you know the warning signs if you run across someone similar - I wish I read this thread about 15 years ago!

She does need help. If the school has a counselor I would spend a little energy getting her to go if she contacts you. I don't know if she has schizephrenia (if that was in another thread sorry I missed that) or if she's just an over zealous teenager but she needs some help in learning how to sort and cope.

Sorry to hear this all PC, I do agree that it's best to keep your distance, no matter what the outcome.


People have to make mistakes to learn, and if sheltered, they will never grow into a fully-functional person. The key though is having a support network around. By moving, she is abandoning any support network she has, and that's disturbing.


Hopefully she stays away from this guy though....I hope I'm wrong and he's just a very odd but good natured guy, but he sounds like a cult recruiter to me.


I hope she stays in NH and gets some psychiatric help....

She is quite possibly going into a cult. I hope I am wrong too, but I just find these circumstances a little...peculiar.
My question is, what is a screen writer doing in Green Forest Arkansas anyways? Again, not trying to be rude toward residents there but....
A town with the specifications I saw on wikipedia does not seem like an ideal domicile for a screen writer. This area smells like baptism to me. And yet, she was actually abused by organized religion as a child, and told me she will never go near it again!

Staying in NH and getting help would be great, but I doubt she is here. I have no idea where she is. I guess she had trouble raising the funds to pay for the train ticket or something, and ran away from where she was staying on foot. I've not heard of or about her since tuesday (when this happened).