Foo - Best way to ask a girl out via email

Hey all - I can probably handle this on my own but thought it might make for a fun topic for FOO. :) I found a really cute girl that I think (but not 100% sure) has been flirting with me. For the record I'm as obtuse as a brick when it comes to picking up on hints from women so if I think I'm picking up on something its probably fairly obvious to 99% of the rest of the population. :D :D :D Because of logistics I think email is perhaps the best/only option (cube farm and a phone call could be subjected to an enormous amount of hecking/razzing from peers, esp. if it goes south...). How would you approach it? Hmmm, I've been going over the "worst lines" thread for inspiration but I don't know about that..... ;)

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Well, since you've sunk to asking her by email instead of sauntering over to her cube in person, I'd say, start off with that^. There's no way she isn't yours after that.

Link her to this thread first, then tell her you're having trouble getting dates, and you swear you won't talk too much about dungeons and dragons if she goes out with you.

Umm... this wouldn't happen to be following up from the SoCal holiday party, would it? :p

Send her an email where she has to check one of two boxes:

q: Would you like to go out with me?

Yes

No

To which she will add the 'Maybe' option and check that one.

Do you use outlook or something like it at work? You could send her one of those "meeting invitation" thingys my bosses are always sending. You know, the ones you can accept or decline. You set the date and time and all she has to do is click the check mark. Make the email all businessy and stuff. Sweet. You can thank me later.

Have you tried wearing an Arrow White shirt to work?

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Hey all - I can probably handle this on my own but thought it might make for a fun topic for FOO. :) I found a really cute girl that I think (but not 100% sure) has been flirting with me. For the record I'm as obtuse as a brick when it comes to picking up on hints from women so if I think I'm picking up on something its probably fairly obvious to 99% of the rest of the population. :D :D :D Because of logistics I think email is perhaps the best/only option (cube farm and a phone call could be subjected to an enormous amount of hecking/razzing from peers, esp. if it goes south...). How would you approach it? Hmmm, I've been going over the "worst lines" thread for inspiration but I don't know about that..... ;)


Well just ask her out for dinner, say what you feel about her and it just might work.

send her a virus via email and then tell her going out with you will be less painful:)

Well just ask her out for dinner, say what you feel about her and it just might work.

Dude, that touchy feely crap doesn't work on girls. They say it does, but it doesn't. They say they just want a sensitive, nice, honest guy but they don't. Just look at the guys that get all the girls. Nope, unless you already did something to make her like you (it sounds like you may have) you're gonna have to do better than just saying "I like you, wanna get some dinner" if you want to really make an impression. On the other hand, getting a girl to go out on a first date isn't all that hard so pretty much anything you do ought to work.

ravenmore, I think you need to clarify that she doesn't work in your office.

send her a virus via email and then tell her going out with you will be less painful:)

That's a good one. Couple that with promising not to talk about D&D and you have a winner.

I wouldn't do it via email.

But then maybe it's me. I have this thing about email being substituted for vocal conversation. But here I am posting by typing.....*sigh*.

Oh nevermind.

Just imagine if this were a conference call. :rolleyes:

i wouldnt, might seem impersonel

Wowsers - lot of folks jumping on this one in a hurry. ;) Arrow white shirt eh? Hmmm - I'll give it a try. ;)

Pheard - but your mom seemed to like talking about dungeons and dragons?..... (back at ya ;) gawd, I feel like I'm 12 again with the "your mom" put downs. I'm clearly regressing..)

Jschen - no, but if I lived in SoCal I'd be elf chasin' for sure. :D Of course they look like they're pretty quick... Might be hard to catch. ;) (lets see if I can embarass myself further :) )

Gear Jammer - I'm probably going to just take your approach.

send her a virus via email and then tell her going out with you will be less painful:)
I should bookmark this advice for my own future reference. :lol:

Say "Hey wanna do coffee?" If she says yes, great. If she says no, oh well. :)

Email content: Nice shoes. Wanna f**k?

ravenmore, I think you need to clarify that she doesn't work in your office.

uhmmm - well she does, a few buildings over. Not in my building. Which is part of the logistics. Of course I'm not planning on being here much longer. Plans are in the works already regarding that....

send her a virus via email and then tell her going out with you will be less painful:)

Yeah that will for sure do it, cool idea though.

Just imagine if this were a conference call. :rolleyes:

I would rather not!!!!

Email content: Nice shoes. Wanna f**k?

Any stats on if that ever worked.

Email content: Nice shoes. Wanna f**k?

LOL! :)

reminds me of a story a buddy of mine told me.

In college there was a pay phone within sight of their dorm room. So they got the number for the phone and used to call it when they saw a hot girl approaching(wish I'd thought of that in college). His redneck buddy wanted to take a turn. He asked the girl if she liked peanut butter(wtf right?). When she said yes he said something like whats up above. They somehow ended up dating for several months from that. Go figure....

Yes, I know a guy who gets success with the "nice shoes, wanna f--k" line somewhat regularly.....thing is the guy sounds so.....metro....doing it that it's more comical than offensive.

Hius best pick up line though is talking like a little kid and asking if she wants to see a movie at his place and they can cuddle and be evil, but only if you want to.....or something like that. It's so funny I can't hear it to this day without spraying whatever I'm drinking out of my nose.


Ravenmore: Don't use this line... "OMFG U = 1337 |-|@\/\/7 (|-|@ \/\/7), I R 73|-| |-|@r|). 8@|\|6 |\/|3 plz!!!!!!!!!!two!!!"

....it's like dehydrated water, it just doesn't work :p

Any stats on if that ever worked.
No empirical data, but why waste our time with small talk and flowers?

Ravenmore: Don't use this line... "OMFG U = 1337 |-|@\/\/7 (|-|@ \/\/7), I R 73|-| |-|@r|). 8@|\|6 |\/|3 plz!!!!!!!!!!two!!!"

....it's like dehydrated water, it just doesn't work :p

Damn! That explains my lack of success AND why I'm so thirsty right now...

Damn! That explains my lack of success AND why I'm so thirsty right now...

Pop over to the Foo Party and slake your thirst. Might even get to boogie a bit! Par-tay! :D

No empirical data, but why waste our time with small talk and flowers?

I quite agree


back in the uk, i worked in several bars one off these days I will need to share some off the unusal lines I have heard over the years.

Ravenmore: Don't use this line... "OMFG U = 1337 |-|@\/\/7 (|-|@ \/\/7), I R 73|-| |-|@r|). 8@|\|6 |\/|3 plz!!!!!!!!!!two!!!"

....it's like dehydrated water, it just doesn't work :p

Whew. Thanks! Ya saved me. :D

Tell her that you're going to ask her out and then wait for a reply before you do
Something that odd only has two possible outcomes
She won't reply
She will reply
If she does reply than asking her out for real and in person isn't going to have as big of a letdown if she says no ..cause she isn't turned off enough by the thoughtto stop talking with you

Even if she doesn't respond again you could play the smooth, cute guy and try to win her over in person

I don't think I'd ever actually ask a girl out in an email that I could ask out in person easily

Never ever by email. Personal preference but you loose the ability to adapt to her physical responses. I have more than a few times fumbled the ball on initial conversation but been able to recover once I have seen her reaction to my humour and playing off of that.

Maybe its my age, but email seems a little cowardly. (any major decisions and requests should never happen over email) Razzing from the peers is an interesting excuse, but thats half the fun, when you conquer you get to turn around and scream. When you fail, your buds take you out for a drink. Unless they aren't friends anyways.

Best of luck, I miss the flirty/asking out stages. That was usually more fun than the dating stage imo.

Email content: Nice shoes. Wanna f**k?

Funny story, I once took part in an impromtu test at a bar. One of my buddies who was renowned for getting girls to go home with him promised that if you go to 10 woman and say that exact line (everyone needed to be slightly drunk as well) that you would have at the very least cheered someone up and more than likely taken someone home.

3 weekends in a row it worked. I never took the girl home (not into drunk slobbery action) but still, it was interesting to see. They eventually got sick of the pick up lines and appreciated the subtle humour masked with a nasty word..haha..

Send her a semi-naked picture of yourself and then ask her if she wants to come over to your place to see the rest. That usually works.

If you're scared of getting razzed for failure over the phone, can you imagine the flame if your failure is committed to email?

Man up, just do it in person. If she says no, at least you'll know it's no and move on.

Plus it'll be a lot easier for her to turn you down via email. She might at least give you a sympathy date if you ask her in person.

Send her a semi-naked picture of yourself and then ask her if she wants to come over to your place to see the rest. That usually works.

Sweet. At least this would get me fired from the job that has been annoying me the past few months. The sexual harassment lawsuit could be a bit of a bother though. ;)

I don't have a problem asking girls out. I do go out somewhat often so its not a big deal. I almost wish I hadn't started this. :) I was sitting there at work yesterday thinking about the conundrum and thought I'd throw it out here for the sake of conversation. I'll probably do what I always do and just say something like "hey, what are you doing for lunch?" and see if she wants to go get a bite to eat somewhere, then see where it goes from there.

I'm not really scared of the heckling, btw. It is distracting though - its a game with my coworkers to see how much they can mess me up on the phone sometimes. They love doing it with a normal phone conversation so something like this would give them tons of material to work me over for days. ;) I hate cube farms.

Just be casual. It shouldn't be a big deal. :)

I wouldn't do it via email.

But then maybe it's me. I have this thing about email being substituted for vocal conversation. But here I am posting by typing.....*sigh*.

Oh nevermind.

good point, but then again i just had a fling with someone i hadn't seen in over a year, and the majority of our contact was via text messages, with the occasional email. this was mainly due to the fact that we're in different countries.

Just be casual. It shouldn't be a big deal. :)

Lol - I was out with a bunch of friends last night and the girls were all looking at this one guy. When I suggested to one girl (who is quite pretty btw) that she go ask him to dance she was mortified at the thought. She even said something along the lines of "she couldn't do that - its too hard...." I laughed and told her "see what we guys go through?".... Asking someone out that you like IS kind of a big deal. If it wasn't, it wouldn't be worth the trouble in the first place.

Lol - I was out with a bunch of friends last night and the girls were all looking at this one guy. When I suggested to one girl (who is quite pretty btw) that she go ask him to dance she was mortified at the thought. She even said something along the lines of "she couldn't do that - its too hard...." I laughed and told her "see what we guys go through?".... Asking someone out that you like IS kind of a big deal. If it wasn't, it wouldn't be worth the trouble in the first place.


Yes, in a way I guess it can be a big deal. But really, it should just be exciting. It doesn't have to be like some big life altering event. Just fun, casual and not really that important. It should be a thing that will not make too much of a difference either way. If she says yes, fine. If she says no, fine. :) I could see how it would make a person nervous, but just try to play it like it doesn't really matter whether she says yes or no. You'll be ok either way, and if she's not interested, you can easily find someone else who is. :)

botto? fling?

good point, but then again i just had a fling with someone i hadn't seen in over a year, and the majority of our contact was via text messages, with the occasional email. this was mainly due to the fact that we're in different countries.


Communicating that way is okay, especially if you are far away from each other...I meant asking someone out if you aren't even sure if they have it going on for you.

yeah - I normally do it in person, over the phone, ect... Just some extenuating circumstances here. I've had it work before actually. One of my ex's and I started dating because I emailed her. I was pretty sure she was interested before hand though. The office culture at that job kind of frowned on employees dating so I had to be discreet about asking her out.