Foo - I can't believe I just got dumped right before the holidays

So the girl I've been seeing just tells me she's confused about her feelings, etc. and can't see me. Worse part is, she tells me that to me through an email. I kind of saw it coming though, she was only occasionally returning my calls lately. Thing is, up until about a week and a half ago, things seemed to be going great.

Trying to seem cheerful and festive around everyone is going to be pretty tough, I'm really not looking forward to it now.

Oh crap. You and me. Coffee. Now. We need to talk.

aww... that stinks!!!! wow... Im sorry!

So the girl I've been seeing just tells me she's confused about her feelings, etc. and can't see me. Worse part is, she tells me that to me through an email. I kind of saw it coming though, she was only occasionally returning my calls lately. Thing is, up until about a week and a half ago, things seemed to be going great.

Trying to seem cheerful and festive around everyone is going to be pretty tough, I'm really not looking forward to it now.



Ever watch "Cheaters"? That will give you your first clue.

End of a serious relationship or just a short fling? In either case stay positive.

That happened to one of my daughters a few years ago, just before christmas. She was a mess.

Take back her Christmas gifts.

End of a serious relationship or just a short fling? In either case stay positive.

Friends for many years, just started getting closer recently.

And, thanks, I'm trying.

Mind if I give her a call?

It always hurts and there is not really anything anyone can say to make
it 'better', but I have found someone 'better' eventually comes along making
you forget whatsthiername........As much as relationship ending stinks, the
new beginning and all the cool stuff that goes with it is always something to
look forward to :D
Hang in there.

So the girl I've been seeing just tells me she's confused about her feelings, etc. and can't see me. Worse part is, she tells me that to me through an email. I kind of saw it coming though, she was only occasionally returning my calls lately. Thing is, up until about a week and a half ago, things seemed to be going great.

Trying to seem cheerful and festive around everyone is going to be pretty tough, I'm really not looking forward to it now.

how old are you two? HS/College/early-mid 20s/late 20s/30s?

Awww that sucks. :( ((HUGS))

Take back her Christmas gifts.

Right before the holidays? VERY popular time to dump someone, as it saves the 'dumper' from having to buy a gift & face the whole New Year's thing. Better you got dumped now, rather than after you gave her a nice gift! And, there's still plenty of time to get out & about & find that NY's date! Go buy yourself a nice present & feel better ;)

Yes! Good idea, ap! :)

I have no real idea of this woman's character. That said, breaking up through email? I think she unintentionally did you a big favor.

Gee, Splody. You have feelings?

Saves you the humiliation of crying in front of her. If not cry, the hurt in your voice. :o

I have no real idea of this woman's character. That said, breaking up through email? I think she unintentionally did you a big favor.

Yeah, that's the part that is really messed up. Not having the decency to confront me in person or at the very least by phone is pretty disappointing.

Gee, Splody. You have feelings?
No. They were getting in the way.

And I think you're part right, Siu. Except, I think she was more concerned with saving herself from her own pain than his.

Anyway, nick, sorry. This is a ****ty time and way to break up. Keep that in mind when you think about her. Also, keep in mind that you have 2 big fun holidays to look forward to. Don't let this stop you from making the most of them.

she obviously wasnt worth being this upset about if she did this to you. you may not see it that way now...but you will. :)

Is there ever a good time to get dumped?

Is there ever a good time to get dumped?
Right before her birthday. Or at least before you buy the present.

Yeah, that's the part that is really messed up. Not having the decency to confront me in person or at the very least by phone is pretty disappointing.

I'm with EP on this one. Sounds like a passive-aggressive behavior, and communication would have been a recurring issue if the relationship had continued. It would have been worse if the relationship continued and she was too timid to tell you how she really felt about things. Sounds like her issue, not hers.

Sorry your feelings got hurt Nick. Chalk this one up to experience, learn from it, move on and be happy.

how old are you two? HS/College/early-mid 20s/late 20s/30s?
Nick burns is 41.

Yeah, that's the part that is really messed up. Not having the decency to confront me in person or at the very least by phone is pretty disappointing.
you know why right?
that's guilt, not being able to tell you face to face indicates she knew she was being a little ****, the girl is a coward! a coward I say! tell her to meet me out back!:p

So the girl I've been seeing just tells me she's confused about her feelings, etc. and can't see me. Worse part is, she tells me that to me through an email. I kind of saw it coming though, she was only occasionally returning my calls lately. Thing is, up until about a week and a half ago, things seemed to be going great.

Trying to seem cheerful and festive around everyone is going to be pretty tough, I'm really not looking forward to it now.
Sorry to hear! Some people can just be A-holes! Rise above, the best form of revenge is to live well!:D

Look, if she was only occasionaly returning your calls, and if you 'kind of' saw it coming, what's up? She had placed herself on the way out, and took the electronic highway. Get over it, she was obviously not the one for you. Like I said before, buy yourself a nice present & get out there!

No matter what she does, she can't change the fact that you've seen her naked.
:D

Email? Might as well have left it as a comment on your MySpace page. Sorry, but there's probably already someone lined up. It's ****ed up, but that's how it is.

Thanks for all the support everyone. I know I lurk here mostly and don't post as often as a lot of other people, but I do think of everyone here as friends.

I'm really not all that devastated by what happened, we hadn't been together all that long. Mostly I'm just angry by the lack of respect that she gave me. This thread just helped me vent that a little.

Ok, I'm a little bit sad too, I'll admit it. :o

But I'll get over it. ;)

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you. It seems it takes people a LONG time to grow up when it comes to relationships. They never seem to end without someone being disrespected.

Yes, you'll get over it. Have a great time over the holidays and start the new year with a new plan.

aww that sucks, nick. sorry, man.

channel your emotions into something creative.

tacky girl....e-mail, sheesh! sorry to hear about this for you but I have the feeling that she's just stepping aside for another really cool person to get in line for you! (my crystal ball knows all!!!)

There's more to life than just getting some ass. Move on and find something better to do with your time. Seems harsh but look at it this way, she dumped you and she's still ruining your life.

Seems harash but look at it this way, she dumped you and she's still ruining your life.

Slvoid doesn't post much anymore but when he does, he hits you hard but makes a lot of sense. (you know you're killing me here, right?)

Is there ever a good time to get dumped?
After the sex, and before you buy a house together.

no seriously though, cheer up man. She wasn't for you. The attachment will soon die, with the memory of this chick, who quite disrespectfully, just dumped you.

That blows dude. Getting dumped sux. Right before the holidays sux more. Via email really blows. I had one girl dump me via email and IM. She wouldn't talk to me in person. I found out later it was hard for her and she did it that way because she didn't have the courage to face me.

Anyway - sorry this happened to you. Get out and do as many positive/fun things as you can think of.

I don't know - I see this as a positive thing. I never did like being attached around this time of year, there's so many dating opportunities between holiday parties, New Year's, new people in the area visiting relatives/friends, etc... I envy you! :D

She was probably cheating on you - there's something beyond guilt in breaking up over email if you were seeing each other for a significant amount of time.

My view? She's the kind of girl who would dump someone over e-mail. Not a high quality person. It's just unfortunate that you found that out the hard way.

Sure, it doesn't help the pain. Time will, though. I swear, brother.

Be glad it was before xmas, you can still take the ***** back. After xmas she'd have kept it, :)

Be glad it was before xmas, you can still take the ***** back. After xmas she'd have kept it, :)

ahhh you are so practical thinking stacey :)

Ochams razor :D

Sorry Nick, that sucks. :(

I'm with ya man. Go and have some fun, and try not to waste too much time feeling blue. She doesn't deserve your heartache.

how great can she be? she broke up with you over email. that's means she's nothing special to begin with.

Mind if I give her a call?
:eek: :rolleyes:

Nick, quit simply lurking around Foo. We expect to see you hoppin' around at the next Foo Party! Got it?

((BIG HUG)). There, don't you feel a little better already? :)

Yeah, cheer up bro, and come over here and show me how to print this document!

Nick, quit simply lurking around Foo. We expect to see you hoppin' around at the next Foo Party! Got it?

((BIG HUG)). There, don't you feel a little better already? :)

Aw, shucks! :)



Yeah, cheer up bro, and come over here and show me how to print this document!

Here we go. Geez Louise. :D

Sorry to hear about your breakup man. Breaking up is hard to do and I have experienced more than once in the last year. I agree with ep and Stacey, take back the presents and get yourself something nice for the bike. Then go out and ride hard and fast, preferably with hills, while the weather is still decent. You will feel much better afterwards.