Foo - who in your family influenced you the most?

who has influenced you the most?
who has made a real positive impact on your life? and tell us why.. :)

Grandmother on my dad's side. Or "Ma Mere" as we call her.

Because she's like, 85 and she still drives herself to bingo every Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday. :)

That would be my father....not in the way you are thinking though! He's one of the primary reasons for my interest in Psychology.

As an example though? I think about what he'd do in aany situation and then find another solution!

That would be my father....not in the way you are thinking though! He's one of the primary reasons for my interest in Psychology.

As an example though? I think about what he'd do in aany situation and then find another solution!
you mean you didnt agree with his ways?

you mean you didn't agree with his ways?
Yuppers! I have issues, I know, but it works well and has kept me within an ethical position I can look at myself in the mirror with....unlike him. He had no ethics or any moral compass.:( It's a shame, really.....

My Dad. He was a great example, and never gave up trying to teach us stuff. he still inspires me!

My son, the day he was born I went from reckless to responsible, seriously.

I told my story and then took it back:) was too painful.
let's just say that out of my brother's suffering Ive learned to not judge by looks and listen carefully to people and it has made me a better person.
The only downside is that I get in trouble a lot for defending people who get bullied, Im not a very big person but id rather the harm be done to me then others.
I will always stand up to anyone who get a kick out of hurting others.

My mom - haven't really thought about her for years, but when one of my older brothers called today, he ended the call with 'take care, kiddo' - one of my Mom's sign-offs.

She was a valient lady, who instilled in me - more than the feminist movement of the 60's & 70's - that I could be whatever I wanted to be (I have 5 brothers). I wanted to go to college in an upstate NY college town, and she sent me to NYU. Her motto was 'take on the challenge'.

mom

who has influenced you the most?
who has made a real positive impact on your life? and tell us why.. :)


My mother. She raised four boys by herself. She had no "higher education" or job skills. She worked two jobs at a time to make sure we had a roof over our heads and food to eat. She always put us first. She made sure we were involved in sports and attended church. She showed us what dedication and love were all about. We all turned out to be fine young men thanks to her fine example of what a mom should be. I learned how to work hard and respect others thanks to her.

Dad. Anyone who knows me (so, almost no-one here ;) ) will tell you that.

Mom. She was a rebel and the toughie of her family. Brought up American born in a strict Chinese family, she had to struggle between American and Chinese culture and custom.

A very hard worker herself, she instilled within us the belief in God, ourselves and what we can do. To fight for what is right. To try to never hurt others. To respect. To work hard. To do what is right within our hearts. To never give up. To love others and the life around us. To appreciate what God has given us.

The Chinese community she was brought up in looks at us differently because we do not fit the traditional Chinese mold. Myself for example - It is not "proper" for a Chinese girl to ride motorcycles, drive and work on muscle cars, climb mountains, ride mountain bikes, throw freight or become a very aggressive advocate for union workers. Chinese girls just don't do those things.

But mom told me to do what I can and want, just as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. She encouraged me to be who I am and love myself for being able to do those "bad" things. Things that other Chinese girls didn't have the courage to do.

She told me to go forth and never be intimidated or afraid even though I was a little.

She taught me to love.:love:

My dad. He taught me self reliance and luckily has never been afraid to tell me he loves me every opportunity he gets (even though I am now 30 with a family of my own). Thanks Dad.

My sister...she means the world to me. :)

And I bet you mean the world to her, too.

I'd like to think so :)

Well if I had you for a brother, that would be the case.:)

thankyou :)

:lol: you guys are messing me up with the same avatar, for a sec I thought siu was talking back and forth to herself!

:lol: you guys are messing me up with the same avatar, for a sec I thought siu was talking back and forth to herself!
:D

:lol: you guys are messing me up with the same avatar, for a sec I thought siu was talking back and forth to herself!


So my secret it out! :eek: :D

Siu - I bet your mom & mine would have heen best buddies, given the chance!

My Dad. He always put others before himself. The day he was released from the hospital after having a brain tumor removed he thought it was important that he took Mom & me out to lunch. We thought we should get him home to bed, but he wouldn't hear of it.

RIP Dad. :(

That would be my father....not in the way you are thinking though! He's one of the primary reasons for my interest in Psychology.

As an example though? I think about what he'd do in aany situation and then find another solution!

Hmmm. I'm not alone, and you are not alone. I've been trying to find a way to forgive him but it just never happens. It does help to know how much I am like him, though. It helps me push through the "victim" mentality he often has, and do what has to be done. Being able to see what kind of person I could easily be straightens me out in a hurry.

He wasn't always like this. After my mother divorced him he was never the same.

My little brother and I are very close. We influenced each other quite a bit.

My former step-mom (dad's 3rd wife).

She's the woman who was the most responsible for raising me. She entered my life when I was in 2nd grade, they divorced at the end of my sophomore year of HS, and was less than 5 miles away throughout the rest of HS. I think of her as mom, much more so than the woman who gave birth to me.

She taught me manners and how to be a caring individual.

I would say that my mother has influenced me the most
I was severely aphasic and was given little to no chance of ever speaking and would likely only ever know a handful of real words
She put me through mother ain't having it school. Hours a day of work from age 3.
By the end of 2nd grade I was out of all speech classes
Who knows if I would be speaking this well if not for her.

She also gave me my sense of humor
She also pushed me really hard which is probably the reason for why I'm such a perfectionist
She taught me how NOT to handle money.
She has taught me that I don't care to be the loudest

My father has taught me to always be of service
and Not to drink

My gramma


I learn from others mistakes.


My cat Cooler influenced me a great deal.

Siu - I bet your mom & mine would have heen best buddies, given the chance!


Are they a lot alike? :)

My cousin, Stephen, who died in 1998 at age 29. He was so patient and sensitive to other's feelings - and he loved me. Nothing like being truly loved by someone who has known you since you were both infants. There is a history that cannot be manufactured in any other relationship.

My late grandfather (as of yesterday....:( )

He taught me, that no matter how dark a situation is, no matter what the odds are....if you stick to your beliefs and keep your wits, you will come out on top.

My sister... when my parent's divorced when I was 10 and she 15, we only had each other to reach out to during this scary time. From then on we never fought (like siblings usually do!). She taught me a lot and she is my best friend. I know if the poop hits the fan, she'll be there for me and I the same for her. She just taught me a lot about life and girls when growing up.

After that, my mom, who taught me the Aloha spirit and then my dad... who taught me organization and discipline. (He was in the military) Although I don't always execute as often as I need to.

Mom. She was a rebel and the toughie of her family. Brought up American born in a strict Chinese family, she had to struggle between American and Chinese culture and custom.

A very hard worker herself, she instilled within us the belief in God, ourselves and what we can do. To fight for what is right. To try to never hurt others. To respect. To work hard. To do what is right within our hearts. To never give up. To love others and the life around us. To appreciate what God has given us.

The Chinese community she was brought up in looks at us differently because we do not fit the traditional Chinese mold. Myself for example - It is not "proper" for a Chinese girl to ride motorcycles, drive and work on muscle cars, climb mountains, ride mountain bikes, throw freight or become a very aggressive advocate for union workers. Chinese girls just don't do those things.

But mom told me to do what I can and want, just as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. She encouraged me to be who I am and love myself for being able to do those "bad" things. Things that other Chinese girls didn't have the courage to do.

She told me to go forth and never be intimidated or afraid even though I was a little.

She taught me to love.:love:
Sounds like a great Mom!:D

My Uncle Charlie.

http://www.facade.com/celebrity/photo/Charles_Manson.jpg

:lol:

You didn't really expect me to be serious, did you? :p

My mom, who grew up in a German Catholic farming family. She taught me self-reliance and self-expression, despite being raised in a conservative situation that relegated women to a secondary position. She was still an individual, a person, and a human being. Secondary, my dad, who despite his being raised in an old fashioned family who taught him that women where weaker, taught me that taking care of your loved ones, your responsibilities, and your family, was life. My pops served several tours in Vietnam, he (despite my political leanings) rules.

My uncle Roger, my moms little brother.

He showed me that life does not always hand you a fair shake living 50+ yrs with cerebral palsy, and that physical limitations can be over come with the mind. He taught me that with determination you can do what ever you want, graduating college and working as a computer programmer back in the 80's. Though him I developed my love of science and genetics through breading poultry (chickens, ducks, geese, turkeys) for show. I have missed him more then anyone else in my life but I know he will always be a part of who I have become.

Kind, caring, and optimistic.

My late grandfather (as of yesterday....:( )

He taught me, that no matter how dark a situation is, no matter what the odds are....if you stick to your beliefs and keep your wits, you will come out on top.
So sorry to hear, Catatonic. Deepest sympathies. :(

My sheltie, Taffy. She taught me about unconditional love and how to die with grace and dignity. She was the best dog a boy could ever have. After that, it is probably my Dad. Taught me about hard work and honesty. You do what you say you are going to do, when you say you are going to do it. Period.