Foo - Best to avoid a highschool relationship at this point?

Well after a few months of being single, I've met a girl. Actually I've known this girl since the beginning of this year, just actually got to know her a few weeks ago. There are a few stirring of feelings, I can't deny that. I've been visiting her at lunch a bit this past week. Shes a very smart girl (part of the attraction of course). Not all of her friends have the aptitude she does though. I am reluctant to act on this because I'm not sure whether or not I want to be in a highschool relationship at this point. For one, she is one year behind me. The thing is, I don't think I want to deal with the situation where I go away to college and am no longer at the school. Then it's like I am 100+ miles away, that never works. So the thing is, do I want to start this in the first place? Am I doing the right thing by not acting on this?

Well after a few months of being single, I've met a girl. Actually I've known this girl since the beginning of this year, just actually got to know her a few weeks ago. There are a few stirring of feelings, I can't deny that. I've been visiting her at lunch a bit this past week. Shes a very smart girl (part of the attraction of course). Not all of her friends have the aptitude she does though. I am reluctant to act on this because I'm not sure whether or not I want to be in a highschool relationship at this point. For one, she is one year behind me. The thing is, I don't think I want to deal with the situation where I go away to college and am no longer at the school. Then it's like I am 100+ miles away, that never works. So the thing is, do I want to start this in the first place? Am I doing the right thing by not acting on this?

The only things I regret in my life are the chances I didn't take.

Every relationship doesn't have to be a 'serious' relationship. No offense pal, but you are way too young to be living all this drama. Go have fun, you gotta grow up and enter the sucky world of responsible adulthood soon enough, enjoy being a kid while you can.

The only things I regret in my life are the chances I didn't take.
Well, I've actually thought about this. On the other end, I want to focus on performing well in school and transitioning into a new upcoming phase of life.

I recommend going for it. But to also make it a short-term relationship. You don't need to put yourself through the stress of a long-distance relationship during your first year of school.

If you do the above, make your intentions absolutely clear. If she digs, groovy. If not, then try to get with her sister.

I recommend going for it. But to also make it a short-term relationship. You don't need to put yourself through the stress of a long-distance relationship during your first year of school.

If you do the above, make your intentions absolutely clear. If she digs, groovy. If not, then try to get with her sister.

I think I will spend a bit more time with her over in the immediate future, and see how it goes. Folks make a good point

Just go for it, its not like your getting married to the girl! Go have your fun.

I heard that girls have cooties..

edit: I've never seen a "real" girl before so I don't know if this is true or not..

Go for it!!! Part of developing and growing in life is managing multiple goals and projects. You want to look at the AND result rather than EITHER/OR. You can do well in school AND have a girlfriend AND ride your bike AND party AND do road-trips AND go see concerts, etc.

The future is wide open and it's going to be what you make of it from THIS moment on. If you want her in your life in the next week, month, year, that's going to happen. And next year, well, what you want for next year will happen when it comes around. You can have BOTH the future AND the current moment. Live it up before it's too late! :)

just don't go for the wham bam thank you ma'am.

it's always nice to have a lady for support.

Best to avoid a highschool relationship at this point?

I'm not sure if it is for you, but i'm pretty sure it's best for me.

I'm not sure if is for you, but i'm pretty sure it's best for me.
Just don't give her your real name.

I'm not sure if is for you, but i'm pretty sure it's best for me.
That's what I love about high school girls- I keep getting older, they stay the same age!

The thing is, I don't think I want to deal with the situation where I go away to college and am no longer at the school. Then it's like I am 100+ miles away, that never works.

Cross that bridge when you get to it. If you look hard enough, there are foreseeable challenges in almost any relationship. You can always find something that could go wrong. Generally speaking, if you wait until all conditions are 100% right, you'll never do anything. Instead you'll miss a lot of opportunities to make things the way you want them to be (or at least close to it). Focus on what could go right, rather than what could go wrong.

My relationship in high school was in many ways more meaningful than most of my others - she was a really special person. Go for it!

Dude, go for it. You'll regret it more if you don't than if you do.

Trust me there.

don't avoid relationships if you don't have to. It's all about living. You can take care of your school work, you're a big boy.

ooooh. Tough one. Depends on a lot of things.

Long distance relationships are hard. They can be a good experience in the long run, but are usually the kind that people appreciate AFTER the fact rather than as they are actually happening. That's not to say that they CAN'T work, but they are hard.

Devil's advocate and all, it IS possible to commute those distances you know. I've done it. 120 mile commute to an ex of mine. And after more than a year of dating, the dealbreaker was not even over the distance. I have friends that have been dating for years that have more than a 2 hour drive separating them. Who's to say that things won't work out?

That kind of experience is most always a good thing anyway. As long as you keep a good attitude and are willing to learn from it. As others have said, if you really want it then go for it and see what happens. As long as you're true to yourself, the hurt or happiness that may come will be worth it.

A really great looking, funny, smart girl asked me out in college.

I agreed because I thought we'd have some fun for a while, then move on.

30 years later....we're still having fun.

Go for it.

Well, the only thing I regret at this point in my life
Is not doing what you're going to try and do
just kidding, you do whatever
Pretty much the same scenario but we were closer than you two seem to be at this point

Not only should you avoid a high school relationship, you should avoid high school.

Just joking...

Since the perspective in this thread has been one sided, I'll offer this:

Learn to be alone. This is an important skill that many people don't have and are afraid to cultivate.

Ask yourself what you want in life, what you want the world to be, and then see if this relationship encourages these things. Maybe it will? Maybe it won’t? Can you predict?

Girls= Confusing evil.
Well, most of them.

What I'd say you do is see if your really into this girl, if you are, then 100 miles would seem like nothing.

Well, you wouldnt be able to do anything with her but thats what they invented the internet for.

I'm kidding. Dont scold meh!

P-cow, seems like you are making this harder than it has to be. There is no reason to make a decision about hanging out with this girl based on a bunch of what-if's, may-be's and unknowns. You seem to be worried about what may or may not happen in the future without considering whether this girl has the same feelings for you or not.

My advice, and I echo what has been said before me on this thread: go for it. See what happens. You two may have a grand adventure together this year which you will be ever thankful for. What do you have to lose? Set those unnessessary worries aside and just take things one day at a time.

Peace and joy,
Liz

Every relationship doesn't have to be a 'serious' relationship. No offense pal, but you are way too young to be living all this drama. Go have fun, you gotta grow up and enter the sucky world of responsible adulthood soon enough, enjoy being a kid while you can.

+100000000000000000000000000000000000000000


If you only ever listen to one bit of advice this is the one you should listen too.

Well, shes dating some guy it turns out. Oh well, I had a feeling this was short lived.

That's what I love about high school girls- I keep getting older, they stay the same age!
Matthew McConoghey's (sp?) greatest role ever. Dazed & Confused is hilarious.


Cow, the best thing about high school relationships is that they invariably end once you go off to the real fun: college. Oh, sure, you might try the old 'long-distance relationship,' but from what I've seen that usually lasts until each of you goes to your first off-campus kegger.

Just don't knock her up. That really spoils a good kegger buzz.

Matthew McConoghey's (sp?) greatest role ever. Dazed & Confused is hilarious.

+1

to OP/Mod - why are you overthinking this stuff? College is a long ways away.

He's like that, it's what make PC2 an individual... You'll get used to it. :)

ah, sorry, dude.

+1

to OP/Mod - why are you overthinking this stuff? College is a long ways away.
But it's not. I graduate in 5 months.

...and then you have a couple months summer break...

7 months of fun!

Well, shes dating some guy it turns out. Oh well, I had a feeling this was short lived.
You're going to let that stop you?

You're overthinking this HS dating thing way too much.

Go rent the movie Little Miss Sunshine. Take the same advice Grandpa gives to his Grandson.


:D

Seriously...listen to Chipcom...


C Am C Am C Am Dm
You work and work for years and years, you're always on the go;

Dm7 G7 Dm7 G7 Dm7 G7 C
You never take a minute off, too busy makin' dough.

C Am C Am C C7 F
Someday, you say, you'll have your fun when you're a millionaire --

F Fm C A Dm7 G7 C G7
Imagine all the fun you'll have in your old rockin' chair.



Refrain:

C Am7 Dm7
Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think;

G7 Dm7 G7 C
Enjoy yourself, while you're still in the pink.

C C7 F
The years go by as quickly as a wink --

Dm7 F C Am Dm7 G7 C
Enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself, it's later than you think.


C Am C Am C Am Dm
You're gonna take that ocean trip, no matter, come what may;

Dm7 G7 Dm7 G7 Dm7 G7 C
You've got your reservations but you just can't get away.

C Am C Am C C7 F
Next year, for sure, you'll see the world, you'll really get around --

F Fm C A Dm7 G7 C G7
But how far can you travel when you're six-feet under ground?


C Am C Am C Am Dm
Your heart of hearts, your dream of dreams, your ravishing brunette;

Dm7 G7 Dm7 G7 Dm7 G7 C
She's left you and she's now become somebody else's pet.

C Am C Am C C7 F
Lay down that gun, don't try, my friend, to reach the great beyond;

F Fm C A Dm7 G7 C G7
You'll have more fun by reachin' for a redhead or a blonde.



Repeat Refrain:


C Am C Am C Am Dm
You never go to nightclubs and you just don't care to dance;

Dm7 G7 Dm7 G7 Dm7 G7 C
You don't have time for silly things like moonlight and romance.

C Am C Am C C7 F
You only think of dollar bills tied neatly in a stack;

F Fm C A Dm7 G7 C G7
But when you kiss a dollar bill, it doesn't kiss you back.

I'm listening to The Specials version but the lyrics in this version are better.
Enjoy yourself kid....

But it's not. I graduate in 5 months.

which is still a long ways away for a pimply faced teenager.

dude - if you're into the chic, and she's into you, then go for it. you won't be heading to college until august.

btw - i'll look forward to your threads in 10 months time, i'm guessing they'll be something of like this:

What fraternity should I join?

Is it OK to sleep with an unconscious coed?

I slept with the coed, should I propose now, or after Thanksgiving Break?

My roommate is gay, should I be afraid?

The TA flunked me, and I haven't seen my teacher since orientation day - what should I do?

Help, I've gained my freshman 15, and now I can't fit my pocket protector into my shirt!!!

;)

Is she hot? We need pics.

I'm avoiding every relationship until I know I can stay with the person until I die.

I'm avoiding every relationship until I know I can stay with the person until I die.
How do you know you can stay with that person until you're in a relationship with them?

which is still a long ways away for a pimply faced teenager.
dude - if you're into the chic, and she's into you, then go for it. you won't be heading to college until august.
btw - i'll look forward to your threads in 10 months time, i'm guessing they'll be something of like this:
What fraternity should I join?
Is it OK to sleep with an unconscious coed?
I slept with the coed, should I propose now, or after Thanksgiving Break?
My roommate is gay, should I be afraid?
The TA flunked me, and I haven't seen my teacher since orientation day - what should I do?
Help, I've gained my freshman 15, and now I can't fit my pocket protector into my shirt!!!

You went through all of them, didn't you, botto? It's good to know you're normal.

You went through all of them, didn't you, botto? It's good to know you're normal.

Nope, only one actually.

How do you know you can stay with that person until you're in a relationship with them?

Dude. You know you can't fly the mission if you are insane. But if you tell us that you are insane, then we know you really aren't insane, which means you can fly the mission. But flying the mission would make you insane, so you really can't fly the mission.

Nope, only one actually.
were you the unconcious co-ed?

in the grand scheme of things, the situation you're in now is not going to be as important as you think it is now.
most of the time, your regrets are going to be the "what if.."

you're still young so go out and have fun. there's nothing wrong with just going out with people and building relationships. at least this way you'll know whether they turn out or not.
+ you'll get familiar with all the drama it comes with so when you meet the right person, you'll be able to handle things better

were you the unconcious co-ed?

nope. i was still more or less a straight edge punk when i left for college.

nope. i was still more or less a straight edge punk when i left for college.
that's also a great way to avoid high school relationships. :)

not worth it. you're about to go to college, with more and possibly better and smarter women aplenty.

that's also a great way to avoid high school relationships. :)

well, i didn't drink. that's about as far as i went. :D

How do you know you can stay with that person until you're in a relationship with them?

After high school, college, and finding a career, I'll look for someone.

Until I can stay in one place with my mate, it's not worth getting involved, because it'll have to come to an end, and we will be sad.

After high school, college, and finding a career, I'll look for someone.

Until I can stay in one place with my mate, it's not worth getting involved, because it'll have to come to an end, and we will be sad.

We probably could have gathered this from your user id. ;)

Seriously... why would you not want to have a relationship in that long meantime between puberty and career? Not necessarily with the point of getting married, but with the almost better point of understanding how you will act and react within the structure of a relationship? If you don't, you'll be tempted to settle for the first person who's ready to settle for you down the line. Settling at that point is sad.

We probably could have gathered this from your user id. ;)

Seriously... why would you not want to have a relationship in that long meantime between puberty and career? Not necessarily with the point of getting married, but with the almost better point of understanding how you will act and react within the structure of a relationship? If you don't, you'll be tempted to settle for the first person who's ready to settle for you down the line. Settling at that point is sad.

I've already tried, It doesn't work right now.

I used to have a girlfriend back home, then I moved, and now I don't, which really chewed.

I currently have friends who are girls, but no girlfriends.

When I'm ready, I'll do what I have to do.