Foo - Asking her dad first

How exactly does one ask a young lady's father for his blessing?

It's more complicated because they're 150 miles away and I have no car. Is phone OK? Mail (USPS, not electronic of course)? A personal visit?

Do I need to send them a pie?

Don't ask. Tell. Now send me the pie.

How exactly does one ask a young lady's father for his blessing?

It's more complicated because they're 150 miles away and I have no car. Is phone OK? Mail (USPS, not electronic of course)? A personal visit?

Do I need to send them a pie?
Ride your bike over there and show up in the most incredibly eye searing combination of Pinstripes and check pattern cycling togs and ask!:D

Send me the pie, send them an email stating:

I knocked up your kid, gonna marry her, no shotguns required, I'll send you the bill for the wedding...maybe even an invitation.

If you have to ask about how to do this, you're not at the point where you should even be considering it... I've found it's better to hit up mum first, she usually opens up easier and quicker to the prospects. In fact some of the chics have been jealous at how much their mothers like me. Send mum a card on her daughter's B-day saying something sappy like,
"Thank you for giving birth to such a wonderful person on this day." http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e346/DannoXYZ/GraemlinsSmilies/Graemlin-Puking.gif

Then mum will soften up the dad for you...

How exactly does one ask a young lady's father for his blessing?

It's more complicated because they're 150 miles away and I have no car. Is phone OK? Mail (USPS, not electronic of course)? A personal visit?

Do I need to send them a pie?
what's with everyone getting married? it's not even spring yet!

She can tell the parents.

She can tell the parents.
I agree.
I don't think you need to ask her parents first. It's about you and her

I sent him a letter from Guam while overseas, he wrote back and said he approved and a few more years would be a fine time. I then called my HER and asked her long distance (two different time zones). She said yes before I asked her. :0)
32 years and counting
Steven

what's with everyone getting married? it's not even spring yet!

she won't let me past 2nd without a ring:( :( :(


I want to ask her dad first because I think she would appreciate it. I already have my "too damn bad" speech ready if he says no, which I can't imagine since her family likes me more than they like her anyway :D

she won't let me past 2nd without a ring:( :( :(


I want to ask her dad first because I think she would appreciate it. I already have my "too damn bad" speech ready if he says no, which I can't imagine since her family likes me more than they like her anyway :D


yikes...move on buddy...it ain't worth marriage...there are plenty of ladies that will let you past 2nd...haha...i've found quite a few and i didn't have to get married...haha

she won't let me past 2nd without a ring:( :( :(

I think that's a bad reason to get married, but that's just me.

I think that's a bad reason to get married, but that's just me.

+1
that's what i was trying to get at...

+1
that's what i was trying to get at...
I posted before I saw yours, but it's about the same. You marry because you want to grow old with someone, not to get some ass. A hooker is cheaper than a divorce, judging by the guys I have seen had their lives turned upside down. Ugly.

I think that's a bad reason to get married, but that's just me.

It would be. I was just kidding. I was hoping 3 :(s would turn into a ;) , but you can't win em all.

Our physical relationship is private, but rest assured we are both happy with where it is.

It's funny as long as it's a joke. What's sad is that there are actually guys that will do this for real.

I think that's a bad reason to get married, but that's just me.Is there ever a good reason to get married???

It's funny as long as it's a joke. What's sad is that there are actually guys that will do this for real.

The only reason to do that is if you couldn't get one of the promiscuous hot girls.

With a body like mine, it's all choice.

Is there ever a good reason to get married???
Not that I know of!

Well, if you wanna have kids it's probably a good idea but that's not an issue for me.

EDIT: and health insurance. Maybe.

I heard someone say once that the only reason to get married was to have someone to take you to the hospital when you couldn't yourself.....thought that was funny

Do I need to send them a pie?

Yes a pie would be a good dowry. :D

If you want to do the old fashioned way of asking her father for his daughter's hand in marriage, you should do it in person.

I think asking for a parent's permission or for good blessing is old fashioned and outdated. Some people might be impressed with that, but I sure wouldn't. Let her talk to them herself. That whole ritual of getting a parent's permission for his daughter is just swimming in negativity to me. Why does someone need to ask permission? It might seem like a nice gesture, but the way I see it is that the woman is being seen as property who can't handle talking to her parents on her own. No one needs anyone's blessing before you ask her first. Her parents don't own her. She is, or should be an independent being capable of independent thought. She can talk to her parents about it. Ask her first.

Sorry about that little rant.

I think asking for a parent's permission or for good blessing is old fashioned and outdated. Some people might be impressed with that, but I sure wouldn't. Let her talk to them herself. That whole ritual of getting a parent's permission for his daughter is just swimming in negativity to me. Why does someone need to ask permission? It might seem like a nice gesture, but the way I see it is that the woman is being seen as property who can't handle talking to her parents on her own. No one needs anyone's blessing before you ask her first. Her parents don't own her. She is, or should be an independent being capable of independent thought. She can talk to her parents about it. Ask her first.

Sorry about that little rant.

On that note...Shadiyah....will you marry me?!? :D haha

not necessary, IMHO. her parent's don't "own" her, so there's no need to ask if you can "have" her for a few dozen years.

On that note...Shadiyah....will you marry me?!? :D haha


Huh? What? What was your name again? You haven't been talking to my dad, have you? :p

can't say that i have....oh well...

I think asking for a parent's permission or for good blessing is old fashioned and outdated. Some people might be impressed with that, but I sure wouldn't. Let her talk to them herself. That whole ritual of getting a parent's permission for his daughter is just swimming in negativity to me. Why does someone need to ask permission? It might seem like a nice gesture, but the way I see it is that the woman is being seen as property who can't handle talking to her parents on her own. No one needs anyone's blessing before you ask her first. Her parents don't own her. She is, or should be an independent being capable of independent thought. She can talk to her parents about it. Ask her first.

Sorry about that little rant.

:eek: sounds like someone ordered the feminachos with a side of guacaholymole.

We have talked about it - she would like me to ask her dad. ;) Being strong, independent, and free-willed has nothing to do with appreciating tradition.

Besides, as somebody has mentioned, though I'm not sure it was in this thread (might be in the one about proposing), in a situation like this where both parties are very close to their families, you are uniting more than just two people - I believe it's respectful and polite to do my part to earn the right to one day call her dad "dad".

feminacho? Meh, its just my opinion. :)

feminacho? Meh, its just my opinion. :)

It's understandable. Just been too long since I've used "guacaholymole".

Well I do love avocados. :p Seriously though, if you've both discussed it and think its cool go for it.

Asking her parents is a nice way of getting on their good side from the get go - it may be outdated but they'd appreciate it.

But my friend - you shouldn't even be thinking about that based on the language you've used.

Ask her, if she agrees then tell the father. She is not his chattel and deserves to not be treated as such. It's time to end this ancient, sexist practice now. :)

I think asking for a parent's permission or for good blessing is old fashioned and outdated. Some people might be impressed with that, but I sure wouldn't. Let her talk to them herself. That whole ritual of getting a parent's permission for his daughter is just swimming in negativity to me. Why does someone need to ask permission? It might seem like a nice gesture, but the way I see it is that the woman is being seen as property who can't handle talking to her parents on her own. No one needs anyone's blessing before you ask her first. Her parents don't own her. She is, or should be an independent being capable of independent thought. She can talk to her parents about it. Ask her first.

Sorry about that little rant.

+1,000,000:beer:

(we'll pretend those are mugs of kombucha):)

what's with everyone getting married? it's not even spring yet!

Well, its 63 in Portsmouth...feels like spring to me!!

Huh? What? What was your name again? You haven't been talking to my dad, have you? :p

Yes, he has, it's a done deal...unless Joe makes me a better offer. Let the bidding begin!

Ask her, if she agrees then tell the father. She is not his chattel and deserves to not be treated as such. It's time to end this ancient, sexist practice now. :)

I agree, like I said in the thread that triggered this one, lets go back to the ways of the Native 'mercians - I want to be bribed with Harleys and leathers!

Asking the Father first is old fashioned and outdated I did it any way, slightly different circumstances, I was 5000 miles away.

We had been talking and the subject came up about wondering what her fathers reaction would be, me at the time being really foolhardy decied to phone and find out (I had never met her father).

One 20 minute transatlantic phonecall later I had permission.

Must be my amazing charm:) or the fact my accent was a lot stronger and he didn't understand a word i said:D

Just shack up. The sex is hotter.

If you can't ask the folks in person, make a video for them and send it with the pie... and maybe some primo coffee?

I agree, like I said in the thread that triggered this one, lets go back to the ways of the Native 'mercians - I want to be bribed with Harleys and leathers!
No, the leathers are for the boyfriend! Mmmm, yes. That would be very nice. :)

No, the leathers are for the boyfriend! Mmmm, yes. That would be very nice. :)

so lauren likes leather ;) :D Good thing to know...haha

Ask her, if she agrees then tell the father. She is not his chattel and deserves to not be treated as such. It's time to end this ancient, sexist practice now. :)


Yup. :)

+1,000,000:beer:

(we'll pretend those are mugs of kombucha):)


:) Yes!!!

I don't mind a beer now and then, though. I'm not a beerinacho. ;)

Yes, he has, it's a done deal...unless Joe makes me a better offer. Let the bidding begin!


What? HUH? You're not the boss of me!!! :p

so lauren likes leather ;) :D Good thing to know...haha
I thought everyone did? How can you not? :p

I thought everyone did? How can you not? :p

Yup. Although I am an animal loving hippie to some people, leather can be sexy as hell. Furs on the other hand look like trash. :)

I agree.
I don't think you need to ask her parents first. It's about you and her

But you want her dad to like you, because he's paying for most of the wedding stuff.

But you want her dad to like you, because he's paying for most of the wedding stuff.

Do parents still do that? My dad sure wouldn't.

Do parents still do that? My dad sure wouldn't.

My daughter wouldn't be preparing to be a wedding planner if parents didn't still do that. :) She was kind of bummed when I told her not to expect an elaborate wedding, but there are plenty of folks who spend insane $$$ on weddings.

Hmmm well it seems kind of silly to me. Especially with the divorce rates these days. One of my friends had a "Princess Wedding" several years ago. I'm not kidding. His wife wanted to be a princess, so they rented out an old, cool, castlely reception house, made everyone dress up in ridiculous renaissance costumes, a joker, king/queen, the whole shindig. It was HIS mom and dad that paid for all of it though, because her parents didn't have the money. Now here they are divorced 6 years later.

If I'm going to get married, I wouldn't expect anyone else to pay for it.