Living Car Free - car free dating

Do any of you guys have problems finding girls that will accept that you are car free and are not going to change? It seems like our options are very limited since most girls want a guy who can come pick them up in a nice car and be wearing nice clothes. Where are all the chicks who dont mind me pulling up on my bike with some grease on my pant leg?

Also me being a Libertarian I usually have extremely different views than the typical liberal biker chicks. I cant win :(

It's never been a problem for me, but then again I don't enjoy forcing my opinions on others and arguing about politics with the women I choose to spend time with.

Do any of you guys have problems finding girls that will accept that you are car free and are not going to change? It seems like our options are very limited since most girls want a guy who can come pick them up in a nice car and be wearing nice clothes. Where are all the chicks who dont mind me pulling up on my bike with some grease on my pant leg?

Also me being a Libertarian I usually have extremely different views than the typical liberal biker chicks. I cant win :(
Is this some joke post?

I never thought of putting grease on a pant leg or talking politics at a date. Clean yourself up and show some interest in him/her. If you are going to be car free and use a bike for transportation you gotta learn how to ride it. The grease on the leg brands you as incompetant. Even without a chain guard and coat protector anyone who has successfully completed toilet training can learn to tie loose clothing and not soil themselves with a greasy chain.

lol. You guys are funny. Most liberals are the ones who LOVE forcing their ideas on people, thats why I cant date them you idiot. Liberals are all about government telling you what to do. I don't force my ideas on anyone. So you totally just made something up about me. I have been ridding my bike car free for years and sometimes you get a little dirty, specially in the winter time.

Thanks for not helping at all guys.

lol. You guys are funny. Most liberals are the ones who LOVE forcing their ideas on people, thats why I cant date them you idiot. Liberals are all about government telling you what to do. I don't force my ideas on anyone. So you totally just made something up about me. I have been ridding my bike car free for years and sometimes you get a little dirty, specially in the winter time.

Thanks for not helping at all guys.

You live in one of the most bicycle friendly places in this country, and you can't find someone compatible??? Maybe you shouldn't be blaming the bike.

pick her up in a cab

Liberals are all about government telling you what to do.

You don't seem to understand liberalism. I think you've been letting the right-wing's distorted rantings define your views of liberalism. The heart of liberalism is closer to leveling the playing field, keeping the privileged from oppressing the poor and providing a support network because no one can always be independent. We all need each other.

Do any of you guys have problems finding girls that will accept that you are car free and are not going to change? It seems like our options are very limited since most girls want a guy who can come pick them up in a nice car and be wearing nice clothes. Where are all the chicks who dont mind me pulling up on my bike with some grease on my pant leg?

Also me being a Libertarian I usually have extremely different views than the typical liberal biker chicks. I cant win :(

Now, now, you can't make such assumptions about all women. After all, you don't want all women, you just want one. From my experience, women want a man who is successful, pays attention to them and is fun to be with.

When I was young, it was harder to find women in L.A. who could deal with a car-free lifestyle. Many young women seemed to see not having a car as the sign of a loser, one who was not on an upward path of success. Now that I'm over 50, it's no problem. The bicycle just shows to them that I'm in good shape. Older women understand that there are bumps in the road of everyone's life.

The deal I make is that I pay for all the dinners and they pay for the gas. This overcomes the perception that I have no money as I have no car.

You want to pull up on your bike with grease stained pants? Fine, arrive 15 minutes early and carry a change of clothes. Be sure to have applied the deodorant liberally before starting. And in some cases, she may even be okay with you taking a quick shower before the date. Or have her pick you up.

So why can't you find any libertarian chicks? Do you help at libertarian functions? Being a liberal, I always found the Unitarian churches were a good source of like-minded women. Surely there is some similar institution that you can find. Good luck in your search.

Recent statistics show that over 80% of kids 18-25 have rated "riches and fame" as being the "primary objective" or "very important" to their goals in life. "Developing a meaningful philosophy of life" is down about 50% since the 70s. This is why most girls want you to have big cars and flashy clothes, and why you can never explain to them why being carfree is smart and responsibe.

That said, I'd like to suggest you put your politics aside (whether you bring it up or the girl does) and just talk about what you do have in common, which (by default, since you want a cycling girl) is bikes. Start hanging out at a local infoshop or anarchist enclave and you'll probably find a lot of girls who share a lot of your libertarian sentiments, ride bikes, and would never call themselves libertarians or anarchists.

See http://www.bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=205503 it's 6 pages of this subject.

Depending on how firm you are about car-free living, you have some options. If you have no car, you are saving a lot of money, enough so that you could rent a car several times a month and still be ahead financially. You could try not mentioning the car-free lifestyle at all, and just renting a car for the date. You would show up in a nice clean modern automobile, suitable for first impressions. Then, make absolutely no mention of being car-free. (Make it a game, you are under cover.) If no second date appears, car-free-ness is irrelevant. If a second date does come about, show up in a rented car again. If she doesn't notice that it is a different car, proceed as before. Do not mention being car-free until she wonders why you always show up in a different one. Then, when she asks, you again have options. The most obvious is to explain how you don't have a car since you haven't needed one up to this point, and you are saving a huge amount of money.

After that point, you are on your own. Maybe you could say that you are saving money for a trip to Europe, or something appealing like that.

You live in one of the most bicycle friendly places in this country, and you can't find someone compatible??? Maybe you shouldn't be blaming the bike.
Its a joke post from someone who isn't car free. The poster claims to have been car free for years but can't get a bike with fenders and chain guard or wear protective clothes or hire a cab or rent a car. Its not likely that someone is so feeble minded. Its winter here, and for the next month I'll have to appear in meetings all dressed up in a suit. I'm planning on biking in a suit on those meeting days. I won't become soiled either. Car culture people- its not a problem for us car free, it really isn't. We car free have so many more options in our lives. After I post this I'll walk over to my girlfriends place. If I were car dependent and drove over she'd probably dump me for being stupid.

lol. You guys are funny. Most liberals are the ones who LOVE forcing their ideas on people, thats why I cant date them you idiot. Liberals are all about government telling you what to do. I don't force my ideas on anyone. So you totally just made something up about me. I have been ridding my bike car free for years and sometimes you get a little dirty, specially in the winter time.

Thanks for not helping at all guys. I think I just figured out why few people want to date you. It has nothing to do with bikes, with grease, or with politics.

lol. You guys are funny. Most liberals are the ones who LOVE forcing their ideas on people, thats why I cant date them you idiot. Liberals are all about government telling you what to do. I don't force my ideas on anyone. So you totally just made something up about me. I have been ridding my bike car free for years and sometimes you get a little dirty, specially in the winter time.

Thanks for not helping at all guys.

After reading this post, I can tell you with certainty: it's not the bike vs. car thing that's giving you trouble with the fair sex. Work on your social skills, young man...

Why does the guy always have to be the one to pick up the girl? It's the 21st century, tell THEM to pick YOU up! Right after they agree to go out with you, just say "Great! Pick me up at 8!".

As a libertarian living in Vermont, let me give you a little advice about dealing with liberal women.

First, realize that many of them are just repeating stuff they read or heard. So just because they're saying it doesn't really mean they believe in it completely. Just let stuff slide, and see if you can figure them out. Slowly start pointing things out, but don't do it as an argument. And make sure they know you aren't a Republican! Eventually you'll be able to get them to understand your viewpoints better, since they only make sense, right? ;-) There will be some who are so rabid you can't get them to follow logic, but they probably don't like men anyways.

First, realize that many of them are just repeating stuff they read or heard.


Yeah, that's a good way to get a woman to like you; patronize her for her beliefs.



Gabriel

Tell her about how you ride a bike because you care about the environment, but that you're in favor of completely doing away with federal environmental regulations so businesses can pollute whenever they want, with absolutely no consequences. Free Markets will "self regulate" just fine on their own. Mention Ayn Rand. She'll think you're really smart.

Tell her about how you ride a bike because you care about the environment, but that you're in favor of completely doing away with federal environmental regulations so businesses can pollute whenever they want, with absolutely no consequences. Free Markets will "self regulate" just fine on their own. Mention Ayn Rand. She'll think you're really smart.
:D

Yeah, that's a good way to get a woman to like you; patronize her for her beliefs.



Gabriel

I guess you missed the "let it slide" part.

I guess you missed the "let it slide" part.



your basic premise:



First, realize that many of them are just repeating stuff they read or heard.


Is unspeakably patronizing. If you think they aren't going to pick up on that, you're nuts.


Gabriel

lol. You guys are funny. Most liberals are the ones who LOVE forcing their ideas on people, thats why I cant date them you idiot. Liberals are all about government telling you what to do. I don't force my ideas on anyone. So you totally just made something up about me. I have been ridding my bike car free for years and sometimes you get a little dirty, specially in the winter time.

Thanks for not helping at all guys.

hmm.. By calling ppl idiots and labelling liberals are those who force their ideas on others, you have just successfully label and forced your own opinions on/of others. Either that or there is something about ur attitude that spells hypocrisy.

Start hanging out at a local infoshop or anarchist enclave and you'll probably find a lot of girls who share a lot of your libertarian sentiments, ride bikes, and would never call themselves libertarians or anarchists.

You will recognise such girls as they will be so covered up in ink that you will suspect a coked-up Bob Ross was the reconstructive surgeon hired to fix the hideous scarring from her unfortunate chemical fire incident. Her hair will be a color. This color will suggest in your mind the image of someone ringing out used ink-jet cartridges into her scalp...violently. She'll think you're cute because one of her eyelids will be swollen shut under the jangling cacophony of forty-seven piercings. She may seem to talk to herself occasionally; this is not psychosis, but rather the effect of the opposing ear's 72 piercings receiving signals from ham radio operators in Ursa Major. Your perfect anarcho-libertarian car-free cutie-pie will express the same indifference regarding your body odor as she does her own.

Congratulations, Mister Original Poster! Your dream date awaits, and lo! you haven't made even one small concession to competing ideas about politics or lifestyle. Indeed, such a girl is perfect for a man who sticks to his guns, unwilling to compromise any aspect of his chosen path, no matter the consequence he bears in the minds of others who believe him to be a bombastic, self-important pr***. How little they must understand you. Why, you're a political visionary! A two-wheeled truth-teller of the first rank -- right up there with Franklin Roosevelt (except your two wheels are arranged differently). You suffer for the truth of your cause, and will surely find a like-minded woman of equally heroic proportions. And By Golly you DESERVE her. Enjoy your date! We look forward to hearing about it.

-- right up there with Franklin Roosevelt (except your two wheels are arranged differently).


I laughed `til I cried.


Except his chair had two little wheels out front. Maybe the OP can get some training wheels?



Gabriel

It's the 21st century, tell THEM to pick YOU up! Right after they agree to go out with you, just say "Great! Pick me up at 8!".

Sounds like a plan. If they bug you for assuming they have a car, say "okay meet me on the bike/public transit".

Sounds like a plan. If they bug you for assuming they have a car, say "okay meet me on the bike/public transit".

One woman I dated who had a car while I was car free usually insisted that I drive her car when she wanted me to go with her somewhere in her car. But, she also got a bike and seemed to really enjoy biking with me. Be flexible with the transprt plans. Sometimes when we'd meet she would drive to the rendevous and I'd bike or public transit. Other times she'd pick me up. Other times I'd bike to her place and we'd take off on our bikes. Other times she'd take public transit and I'd bike then haul her on my bike. Other times we'd both take public transit. I never got a cab or rental car with her but those options seem reasonable too.

Just be friendly and nice. Treat them with dignity and respect. Don't put them on a pedestal or try to knock them off of one. Use a leg band to keep your pant leg from getting covered with grease. Although many people view owning a flashy car as a good thing,others are more down to earth. You have to mine a lot of coal before you find a diamond.

You have to mine a lot of coal before you find a diamond.

Visit Arkansas. Crater of Diamonds State Park (http://www.arkansasstateparks.com/craterofdiamonds), no coal mining necessary. :p

Visit Arkansas. Crater of Diamonds State Park (http://www.arkansasstateparks.com/craterofdiamonds), no coal mining necessary. :p
Actually some local guy found a 2.37 carat diamond there and named it after his wife: "The Star of Thelma." :D

NPR did a hilarious piece (http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=6712275) on it a couple weeks ago.

I've dealt with transportation in different ways with a bunch of female friends and girlfriends. Most of the time, the bike gets left someplace while we're together. Ride the bike to wherever she is, lock it up, then take a taxi, public transportation, or her car.

lol. You guys are funny. Most liberals are the ones who LOVE forcing their ideas on people, thats why I cant date them you idiot. Liberals are all about government telling you what to do.


As a libertarian living in Vermont, let me give you a little advice about dealing with liberal women.

First, realize that many of them are just repeating stuff they read or heard. So just because they're saying it doesn't really mean they believe in it completely. Just let stuff slide, and see if you can figure them out. Slowly start pointing things out, but don't do it as an argument. And make sure they know you aren't a Republican! Eventually you'll be able to get them to understand your viewpoints better, since they only make sense, right? ;-) There will be some who are so rabid you can't get them to follow logic, but they probably don't like men anyways. I don't care a whole lot for politics, but I'm starting to get a clue: libertarian is a synonym for a$$hole, is it?

I don't care a whole lot for politics, but I'm starting to get a clue: libertarian is a synonym for a$$hole, is it?


Naw, only these guys. I've known quite a few libertarians who were good people.


Gabriel

If the relationship looks like it's going somewhere, or even if you want to experiment, you could get a tandem. Ride it to her place, and pick her up! She wouldn't have to worry (if she's inexperienced) about navigating or even bike handling. Tell her, "Just pedal and relax. See what you think." If you're going to dinner it's a good way to earn that appetite, and if you're coming home from dinner, it's a good constitutional. And lemme tell you, soloing the tandem to her place is more than a bit fun. It's not much heavier than a comparable regular bike, crazy stable, and super comfy. And when she gets on, fast as a ferret on meth.

Franklin Roosevelt (except your two wheels are arranged differently).

this and an Ayn Rand reference in the same thread? I love BF... :)

1) Hope she has a big trunk, so you can put your bike in it. ;)
2) Ever heard of a bus??
3) Ever heard of taxis??
4) Ever heard of not being a completely patronizing blowhard?

I've known quite a few libertarians who were good people.

Yep, some good ones, some bad ones- just like the rest of us.

Tell her about how you ride a bike because you care about the environment, but that you're in favor of completely doing away with federal environmental regulations so businesses can pollute whenever they want, with absolutely no consequences. Free Markets will "self regulate" just fine on their own. Mention Ayn Rand. She'll think you're really smart.

:lol:

1) Hope she has a big trunk, so you can put your bike in it. ;)


And when you see her big trunk, ask her if you can put your junk in her trunk. The date will end well, I promise.

I try not to drag down dates with opinions or politics. I'm usually concerned with making sure the lady i'm trying to sleep with has my undivided attention.:)
Take a bus. Take a cab. Stop looking for these stuck up kinds, they really aren't worth it, trust me