Foo - I have two single friends who would be great together. Should I play matchmaker?

Two good friends who don't know each other since they live about 4 hours apart. They would be great together. Both are attractive and fun. Problem is, she is older by about 8 years though she doesn't act like it because she's a hoot. I don't know how he feels about older women (his ex was way too young for him). His age does not bother her. Both are looking for a lasting, meaningful relationship and are not having any luck.

Should I set them up? Have you ever played matchmaker? How did it turn out for them and you?

Just get them in the same place at the same time....let the rest work if it works...

:)

Just handle the introduction and that's it. Don't push for anything...

+1 on both. Sometimes being a good matchmaker is more about timing than planning. ;) :)

No.

Introduce them maybe and then let it be. You don't want to be the blame if anything goes wrong. And if it does work out you know they will both ditch you for each other, right? It happens all the time. The friends always get dumped for the romantic interest.

Throw a little houseparty for twenty guests with crudités, cheese platters, other light snacks, and drinks. Introduce them like this,


"...Susan, this is my friend from work, Mike. Mike, this is my old college roommate, Susan. Susan, he just completed a century ride yesterday and I was telling him how you just purchased a custom Independent Fabrication titanium frameset with carbon fiber fork this week. Oh, shoot, my hors' doerves are burning! I gotta' run..."

If there is anything there, nature will take its course.

Why ruin their happy lives by trying to force them into relationships? :D
Truth is, or so it would seem to me, is that people who are looking for relationships, are really just looking for companionship and monogomous (sp?) sex, seriously, and not all the baggage that goes along with emotional relationships.

monogamous sex

good one.

NO, FOR GOD'S SAKE NOOOOO!@!!!!!!!!@#$w#$%%^^^&^&&

My best friend is currently doing this with another good friend of hers who thinks we'd be perfect. It's a total turn-off.

If there's attraction it will find its own way.

Well-intentioned romanticising matchmaker buddinskis EFF OFF!

Find a way to introduce them to each other sure, but people can smell an eager matchmaking attempt a mile off.

Throw a little houseparty for twenty guests with crudités, cheese platters, other light snacks, and drinks. Introduce them like this,


"...Susan, this is my friend from work, Mike. Mike, this is my old college roommate, Susan. Susan, he just completed a century ride yesterday and I was telling him how you just purchased a custom Independent Fabrication titanium frameset with carbon fiber fork this week. Oh, shoot, my hors' doerves are burning! I gotta' run..."

If there is anything there, nature will take its course.


You've done this before. :)

Hi Bruce19-

It's actually my introduction technique that I use at business functions, reunions, and general social gatherings...just slightly modified. A gracious host helps his/her party guests to have an enjoyable conversation, rather than saying, "Susan, this is Mike. Mike, this is Susan," and walking away to leave them fumbling & stumbling for words. The host has the advantage of knowing everyone at the party, so they can help kick-off the conversations among people whom might not know each other.

Try this technique at your next party and people will rave to you about the event. All you're really doing is accelerating how quickly people become comfortable with each other, that's all...

~ Blue Jays ~

Introduce them... yes of course. Play matchmaker...no. If they are going to hit it off, just introduce them and let nature take it';s course from there.

Danger Will Robinson!!!!!!

Oh Yes Just Send Them A Telegram Saying They've Won X Dollars And To Pick It Up At X Locaton At X Hour. Coordinate With Local Police Sting For Suspects Who Have Jumped Bail.

It's actually my introduction technique that I use at business functions, reunions, and general social gatherings...just slightly modified. A gracious host helps his/her party guests to have an enjoyable conversation, rather than saying, "Susan, this is Mike. Mike, this is Susan," and walking away to leave them fumbling & stumbling for words. The host has the advantage of knowing everyone at the party, so they can help kick-off the conversations among people whom might not know each other.
Try this technique at your next party and people will rave to you about the event. All you're really doing is accelerating how quickly people become comfortable with each other, that's all...

That's almost exactly how the judge set up my incredible friendship with my parole officer!

They live four hours apart? That might be a bit of a commute, no?

Unless one of them doesn't care for where he/she lives and wouldn't mind moving, down the road.

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Hi Bruce19-

It's actually my introduction technique that I use at business functions, reunions, and general social gatherings...just slightly modified. A gracious host helps his/her party guests to have an enjoyable conversation, rather than saying, "Susan, this is Mike. Mike, this is Susan," and walking away to leave them fumbling & stumbling for words. The host has the advantage of knowing everyone at the party, so they can help kick-off the conversations among people whom might not know each other.

Try this technique at your next party and people will rave to you about the event. All you're really doing is accelerating how quickly people become comfortable with each other, that's all...

~ Blue Jays ~

remind me to never attend one of your "functions, reunions, and general social gatherings". then again, i doubt i'll be passing through Pleasantville any time soon.

remind me to never attend one of your "functions, reunions, and general social gatherings". then again, i doubt i'll be passing through Pleasantville any time soon.

Sorry Blue Jays, you'll have to cross Mr. Sunshine off the list for this weekend's party. :D :p

Sorry Blue Jays, you'll have to cross Mr. Sunshine off the list for this weekend's party. :D :p

pretty please.

Hi Bruce19-

It's actually my introduction technique that I use at business functions, reunions, and general social gatherings...just slightly modified. A gracious host helps his/her party guests to have an enjoyable conversation, rather than saying, "Susan, this is Mike. Mike, this is Susan," and walking away to leave them fumbling & stumbling for words. The host has the advantage of knowing everyone at the party, so they can help kick-off the conversations among people whom might not know each other.

Try this technique at your next party and people will rave to you about the event. All you're really doing is accelerating how quickly people become comfortable with each other, that's all...

~ Blue Jays ~

I'd rather not be raved to. :p

I suppose it could work, but there's a lot of potential for disaster if the host makes any errors.

OP - Even if you do just introduce them, if either one of them is on to what you're doing when it happens, it could be doomed - and one or both of the friendships with it.

Hi USAZorro-

A host error such as what? You're simply introducing two people whom you know at a party you're hosting. The technique is the same whether it's business contacts or friends. A courteous host gives people unfamiliar with each other common ground on which to have a discussion. It's just good manners, nothing more, nothing less.

~ Blue Jays ~

Hi botto-

Stick with me and I'll have you all polished and proper in no time quick!

~ Blue Jays ~

Hi botto-

Stick with me and I'll have you all polished and proper in no time quick!

~ Blue Jays ~

No thanks. I have no interest in becoming a pedantic robot.

Hi botto-

LOL! :)

~ Blue Jays ~

Hi botto-

LOL! :)

~ Blue Jays ~


correct

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Hi botto-

I have avatars and signatures turned off. I'll have to check to see what you're talking about.

~ Blue Jays ~

No thanks. I have no interest in becoming a pedantic robot.

Sorry bub--too late. Waaaayyy too late. :D

Sorry bub--too late. Waaaayyy too late. :D

Hi Second Mouse -

Incorrect.

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Hi Second Mouse -

Incorrect.

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Hi botto. http://s3.amazonaws.com/advrider/wave.gif

Whatever.

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Whatever.

Hi Second Mouse-

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A host error such as what? You're simply introducing two people whom you know at a party you're hosting. The technique is the same whether it's business contacts or friends. A courteous host gives people unfamiliar with each other common ground on which to have a discussion. It's just good manners, nothing more, nothing less.

~ Blue Jays ~
I would rather have a non-skewed portrait of someone I meet. With someone eagerly offering conversation topics there's a temptation to try and keep a conversation alive with someone I might otherwise have filtered out as boring and not worth talking to. I admire your pluck and enthusiasm, but for me that would feel too over-eager. I find most people I meet generally mundane and would prefer not to have to bother with any more polite conversation than the minimum civil standard.

When I run into someone who I'm going to have a natural connection with, I can smell it a mile away and don't need any help.

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wtf are you talking about? Spell it out for me smart guy, i are too dum

Hell No! Never do that unless you want them both to hate you down the road. Besides, that's for Chuck Woolery and Love Connection!

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/3/3c/Love_Connection2.jpg

I don't see any problem in an introduction, but trying to turn two people on to each other can be annoying on everyone's part.

wtf are you talking about? Spell it out for me smart guy, i are too dum

rustig jonge, rustig.

Hi Nicodemus-

Using the format you outlined, you would be compelled to approach each person at a cocktail party as a "cold call" as if it were a Toastmasters business card exchange! A heterosexual guy attending a dinner party who is informed a fellow attendee (also a heterosexual guy for this example...) is "into" bicycles, high-end audio, photography, skiing, or whatever, is a good thing.

It's not simply for potential romantic situations...it's important etiquette. A proper host or hostess facilitates discussion at the event they're hosting.

~ Blue Jays ~

Hi Shadiyah-

You are absolutely right. That is why I'm a proponent of informing people they share a hobby and walking away. There is no need to force the issue or make people uncomfortable. We're in agreement.

~ Blue Jays ~

Hi USAZorro-

A host error such as what? You're simply introducing two people whom you know at a party you're hosting. The technique is the same whether it's business contacts or friends. A courteous host gives people unfamiliar with each other common ground on which to have a discussion. It's just good manners, nothing more, nothing less.

~ Blue Jays ~

Example.

"Jane, this is Tim. He's a plastic surgeon." "Jane performs in adult movies." :p

Hi botto-

It is poor netiquette to post a 2700 x 4050 image at 620 KB on a forum. Links to pictures are preferable when you wish to cast insults at other BikeForums.net members.

~ Blue Jays ~

Example.

"Jane, this is Tim. He's a plastic surgeon." "Jane performs in adult movies." :p
Hi USAZorro -

:lol:

~ whoever i am ~

Invite them to a party. Drug both of them with Rohypnol. Strip both of them down naked and put them in bed together. Scatter their clothes throughout the place, starting from the couch. When they wake up, in eachother's arms, sick and dazed from being drugged, they will look deep in eachother's eyes and throw up. Maybe simultaneously. They will then press charges against you and you'll serve time in the state pen for two counts of sexual assault. They will start out being pretty awkward around eachother (who wouldn't!) but will slowly grow closer together as your trial progresses and they go through that faitful night's events. Their hatred of you will bind them together and they will fall deeply in love. They will eventually marry and have two children. They will be working parents, which will cause a strain on the relationship as well as the usual strain of trying to raise two children in today's world. Their eventful meeting will begin to spread like rust through a stress fracture. Was he really drugged? Did he take advantage of me? Questions and doubts will spread fast and quickly form into acusations. The divorce will be swift and brutal. The wife will make off with the lion's share of the family assets, as well as the two children. She will be left a bitter husk of a woman and the children will eventually tab up a gigantic psychiatric bill to try and correct the misandry they inherited from their mother. The father will be reduced to a pauper, shelling out the majority of his paycheck to the mom, and the rest to the divorce lawyer. The divorce proceedings will have made him begin to doubt his own memory. Did he really take advantage of her? The guilt and doubt will weaken him until he spends one cold December morning in the garage with his car running. At least it will be a painless death, which is more than the mother will recieve once the eldest of the two children finally snaps.

So, yeah, go ahead and set them up, you sadistic bastard. Go ahead and ruin four innocent lives. I hope it keeps your black heart happy!

pup FTW!!!

:roflmao:


Triple word score for great use of "misandry," by the way.

Hi Shadiyah-

You are absolutely right. That is why I'm a proponent of informing people they share a hobby and walking away. There is no need to force the issue or make people uncomfortable. We're in agreement.

~ Blue Jays ~

Yup, sounds good to me! Even if they dont' get all romantic, you could have introduced two people who might become very good friends! :)

Hi USAZorro-

That would be a perfect example of a conversation that will takeoff! :D

~ Blue Jays ~

LOL I think Explody Pup has done this before as well.

Triple word score for great use of "misandry," by the way.
Awwww, shucks.

You know, we can always count on explody pup to cut through the shiznit and boil a problem down to its essence. Bless you explody pup - wherever you are.

You mean...whoever you are.