Fifty Plus (50+) - This day has been the worst - going home and ride

I received a phone call at 6:30am this morning from my ex daughter-in-law informing me her dad had passed away. Even though she's been divorced from my son for 10 years I've remained close to her and her parents. He's been sick for a couple years but had been feeling better recently.

I just received an email informing me my cousin passed away at 1:00 pm this afternoon. I just spoke with him earlier this year and he was the picture of health. He learned a couple weeks later he had colon cancer and it had spread through out his body.

I think a long quiet ride on one of the trails is what I need at the moment.

Do it. I had two brothers pass away in two years, both younger by almost 10 years. I rode alot those days.

Oh Beverly...my heart aches for you. Get in that long, quiet ride.

Death always catches you off guard don't it. It seems like it happens where it's least expected. The older we get we'll run into it more and more. I wonder where they got the saying of the golden years. Anyhow good luck and you will be in my prays.

Here's hoping you find some peace and that things turn around in a very positive way for you quickly.

Yes, a long quiet ride will be good. So sorry to hear the news.

My dad recently passed away - riding, while not a salvation, gives me time to reflect and appreciate what he gave me and what I have.

Vaya con Dios Beverly.

Wow. Get that ride in, Beverly. Reflect - distract, or whatever it takes. Get on your bike. It's always helped me during such times.

... Brad

Condolences Beverly. Hope your ride was soothing

Whatever you need to help you deal with this sad news, do that. My heart goes out to you.

Sorry, Beverly. Days like that are the days to think about riding.

I also always remember that, no matter how badly my day may go, there will be two Chihuahuas waiting at home that will be just absolutely thrilled to see me, and will put a smile back on my face no matter how bad I felt up until then. That's always another comforting thought for me; I'm sure you have your thoughts like that, too. Visit them today.

I don't know if it's quite the same thing but -when we put our 16 year old Golden, Abbey, down- the next day I just had to ride. I was out of my head, really... totally clueless and unaware of my surroundings but I was on my bike and it felt good. And it kept on feeling good; it really helped me get through it all. It still is.

Take that ride.

Beverly-This 50+ group will have lots of losses to report. My wife is youngest (and healthy) of five sisters. So guess what? We have a disaster every year. Both, Helga and I deal with that with increased exercise. We do have problems but they do not destroy us.
I am now dealing with the stress of retirement coming up. In fact this weekend I will go to Germany to decide that and the future of the company I started.
None of that is meant to trivialize your problems but to put it in prospective.
All we can do is do the best we can, all the time.
Will

Sorry to hear that Beverly. Hope the ride helped. When things like that happen to me (and they have far too often) I always just like to be alone for a while.

And I'll add my condolences, too.

I've lost three co-workers to short-term cancer. It always gets me to thinking that one needs to figure out what they want to accomplish in their life and then get to it. I hate it when people put off their dreams and then never get around to them.

One of those co-workers had always wanted to go with his wife on an Alaskan cruise. They had the money saved up, but didn't go when they could have when he was 57, and then again when he was 58. They had the trip booked in July when he was 59. But he was found to have extensive cancer in May and wasn't able to make the trip. I took that experience as one of life's lessons.

I hope your cousin and ex-DIL's father had rich, fulfilling lives.

My dad recently passed away - riding, while not a salvation, gives me time to reflect and appreciate what he gave me and what I have.

Vaya con Dios Beverly.

same here
the daily ride (almost) have grown in its significance for me.
riding makes everything more vivid, including the memories
the joy of remembrance ovecomes the hurt of loss
heres hoping that works for you, Bobby c and Bev (and all of us) as well

well said, cyclezen..as usual

I'll add my condolences too, my thoughts are with you.

Hi Beverly, I know the pain you are going through, and you are not alone. We are all the survivors of friends and loved ones who pass on, and what we are left with is our memories of them to cherish for the rest of our days. My Uncle just recently passed away and he was special to me more so than my other uncles, so you can probably imagine what I'm feeling. Thankfully I commute every day to and from work, plus my weekend rides, so I'm able to be alone with my thoughts on the matter.

You know, we all have each other out here on this board, and thats a good thing. :)

Thanks everyone. Although both deaths were expected it was just upsetting when they occurred on the same day.

I didn't get the ride in last night as I took the daughter out for dinner then returned home to a couple glasses of wine and a good book. I did manage a 26 mile ride this morning on one of the most boring trails in the area. It's a raill-to-trail, 13 miles without so much as a curve and it's a 1% climb going west into the wind. The trip back is wonderful. I can easily maintain 16-20 mph :)

My condolences also, and it sounds like you did good taking care of yourself!

Sorry Beverly, ride away and heal.

It's been three days since the OP of this thread, and I've been stumped as to how to respond. It's heartbreaking to have two deaths in your family on one day...but equally poigniant is the idea that the death of your son's ex-wife's father would have so much meaning. This say so much about you, Beverly.

I'm very sorry for your loss, and we're all flattered that you would share your thoughts and feeling at this time with us.

It's been three days since the OP of this thread, and I've been stumped as to how to respond. It's heartbreaking to have two deaths in your family on one day...but equally poigniant is the idea that the death of your son's ex-wife's father would have so much meaning. This say so much about you, Beverly.

I'm very sorry for your loss, and we're all flattered that you would share your thoughts and feeling at this time with us.

I've never let a divorce in the family end the relationships established through that marriage. My son's ex-wife had two children from a previous marriage and they still call me Grandma and visit quite often. Birthday celebrations and holidays often include ex's and even their new spouses. Her father and I were an unbeatable pair playing euchre:)

I've never let a divorce in the family end the relationships established through that marriage. My son's ex-wife had two children from a previous marriage and they still call me Grandma and visit quite often. Birthday celebrations and holidays often include ex's and even their new spouses. Her father and I were an unbeatable pair playing euchre:)

Somehow with that topless avatar and all, I can't quite get my head around Grandma Beverly.:)

Somehow with that topless avatar and all, I can't quite get my head around Grandma Beverly.:)

Well this little bit of information will spin that head. It's also Great Grandma Beverly:)

I've never let a divorce in the family end the relationships established through that marriage. My son's ex-wife had two children from a previous marriage and they still call me Grandma and visit quite often. Birthday celebrations and holidays often include ex's and even their new spouses. Her father and I were an unbeatable pair playing euchre:)
Euchre? <perk>