Foo - how was your week? ( had a really tough one)

I wont go into details but I had a really tough week.

As some of you know I have a daughter with life threatening allergies and this week was tough.
Pollen is getting bad, she suffered 3 asthma attacks just this week, missed school because of a sinus infection and bronchitus, the kid is just not all that great.
Two things made me very sad this week, she misses a lot of school because of her condition and sleeps a lot and she asked me " am I missing out on my life?"
made me sad...

Then the school had a field trip planned where it excluded her because of the high exposure to peanuts but more so because it would of been too risky on her life to even breathe in there, the air born allergie to the peanuts would of for sure get to her. Doctor said NO, they excluded her and didnt even try to make accommodations for her to be able to go like all her friends.

I had to fight all week, I had the 504 laws ( laws for children with desabilities) and the office of civil rights help me. Noone can be left behind and excluded souly based on thier desabilities.

They are now forced to make accommodations for her to be able to enjoy a field trip like everyone else.

It was just a tough week and tough for me to explain to her why some people are so inconsiderate and she said something that made me sad. She said " at least if I was in a wheelchair, they could SEE that I cant always do everything the other kids do"

Anyway, I needed to get this out, thanks for listening to me, Im just a bit sad and frustrated by how much I have to fight with people for my child.

Hope everyone's week was better than mine! :)

((HUGS))

Yeah, sometimes life can be a real pain in the rump.

I heop your daughter's feeling better. Allergies are one of those things that people don't really think is a disability unless they have one themselves.

sorry yours was bad, mine was good.

spent last night at southwest frameworks watching cudas serrotta get buffed out and then helped install headset and cut down steerer on fork.

gonna chill with my wife and boys for the weekend and try to get in a ride.

ordered some new look pedals and hopefully will be getting some new road shoes tomorrow.

hope things get better for you bdg.

will say a prayer for your family tonight.

Awww I'm sorry it was a tough week for you, BDG! That must be so frustrating for you both!

My week has gone rather well. Doing pretty good here in Utah land. :)

Sorry yours was so shiatty, BDG. Mine, too. ((hugs)) I can commiserate, FWIW. :(

maybe this would be the right time for a foo drink?:)

I had 4 cigarettes due to stress at work after not smoking for over a year. SIGH! Oh well back on the no smoke wagon!

My week was okay...I had my last day at my one job, but my family is going to be in town this weekend, and that stresses me out.

I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter is having so much trouble, I hope that she feels better. She is LUCKY to have a mom who will fight for her to be a normal kid.

Mine wasn't too bad FTW.

maybe this would be the right time for a foo drink?:)
cheers, have a pina colada, and a mai tai, and another mai tai.

My week was okay...I had my last day at my one job, but my family is going to be in town this weekend, and that stresses me out.

I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter is having so much trouble, I hope that she feels better. She is LUCKY to have a mom who will fight for her to be a normal kid.
thanks..
yeah.. everyone seems to think Im so strong and wont let anyone push her over, today I heard "wow, you're a strong cookie"
thruth is I kinda needed to tell someone that althought I won and they will have to make it accessible for her, Im really not that strong. There was plenty of phone calls made where I had to pause because tears were coming down my face.
For instance when I asked the administration to help lower the risks of exposures, i was told"just dont have her go" and the anger and sadness that came over me was something else.

I just couldnt tell anyone around me that I feel drained, I sure dont want my daughter to see that Im a bit weaker then she thinks I am. I figured this was the right place to ask for a hug!

Anyway,thanks for the listening ear everyone..:)

I am sorry for your daughters condition BDG. No child deserves that. It is great you are willing to fight for her as so many will not. Get that drink and make it a double. My week started crappy and ended great. Biopsy says I don't have cancer and we are picking up our new puppy tomorrow.

I am sorry for your daughters condition BDG. No child deserves that. It is great you are willing to fight for her as so many will not. Get that drink and make it a double. My week started crappy and ended great. Biopsy says I don't have cancer and we are picking up our new puppy tomorrow.
:) :beer:
extremely happy for you!

...As some of you know I have a daughter with life threatening allergies...

Don't know if this is an option but my son's alergies almost disappeared when we moved to the high and dry climate of Colorado. Calgary perhaps?

BDG like most of us you have the strength of a thousand lions when it comes to your loved ones. It may have been a tiring fight and it hurts you to see her like this - feeling left out and not understood - but for her to see that you can make a difference..........she is watching you every step of the way. She is getting stronger because of you. She is learning because of you. And you know what? When you are not able to be there for her and she is older, she will be a person who will never back down when it comes HER turn to fight. ;)

cgallagh, I am very happy to hear your good news, I've been down that path before. Time to celebrate life and release all of that stress you must have been holding. I know that during that time, I found out a whole lot of things that I saw I thought were different. :)

My week has been pretty darn peachy. Work is great, friends are wonderful to me and my bike is coming a month early!

+1 to what everyone else said, BDG- and +100 to Siu re: your example to your daughter. My wife had to fight constantly for our older one (now 19) for soimething completely different, but she had to fight nonetheless. For sure, I must say that this has to be one of the important reasons why our older one is so strong and model citizen with the most incredible empathy for others. So while I'm sure you feel exhausted, frustrated, and sad, know that you are indeed having a positive influence- you might not see it now, but I bet down the line it will be quite evident.

Feel better- tomorrow's another day, and another week starts in a couple of days- it will all be good. And have a margarita on me :)

*hugs* for BDG

I had a long, long week. I had finals on Monday and Tuesday. Since then I've been working and riding. Last night I was able to let loose and have a social gathering with most of my fraternity brothers. It was a good end to a long week.

If any other allergies are asthmatic, I can tell you a dry climate is AMAZING (if you ever had that option).

My heartfelt sympathies go out to you. You're the type of mother few people are lucky enough to have. Many would break under your stress or not attempt it, though I'm sure you know that. I'm quite familiar with your situation as my last gf went through hell on an almost daily basis for her children. It's draining and it's hell. But you do it and you know you can and will succeed, because when you see the example you're setting for your daughter and how much this does for both of you, somehow you know there's a bottomless well of love down there that you know you can always draw on.

It's bad dealing with those allergies, but dealing with inertia, bureaucracy, and apathy sometimes feels like it's one straw too many.

You'll pull through. You have the spirit. And you have the love of your daughter to give you inspiration and comfort.

Try to take it easy this weekend. At the very least order your man to bring you pancakes in bed on Sunday.

**HUGS**

Don't feel you have to play the pillar of steel in front of your daughter. In a way, showing your vulnerability and sharing your sadness offers her a way to help you by loving you back. It's a two way street, and she gains as much from being able to be there for you as you do from being there for her.

Embracing your weakness gives you strength.

If it's any consolation my last 2 weeks have been pretty crappy (though not as bad as yours).

If it's any consolation my last 2 weeks have been pretty crappy (though not as bad as yours).
:)
thanks and thanks and thanks for all those kind words.. it's so good to have a place like this, I dont feel so alone in this now..
and big hug to you too for your two crappy weeks..
Id say we HAVE to organise some sort of online cook outs for all of us! :)

thruth is I kinda needed to tell someone that althought I won and they will have to make it accessible for her, Im really not that strong. There was plenty of phone calls made where I had to pause because tears were coming down my face.
For instance when I asked the administration to help lower the risks of exposures, i was told"just dont have her go" and the anger and sadness that came over me was something else.

I just couldnt tell anyone around me that I feel drained, I sure dont want my daughter to see that Im a bit weaker then she thinks I am. I figured this was the right place to ask for a hug!

Anyway,thanks for the listening ear everyone..:)

I've found that tears are very rarely a sign of weakness :) A sign of fierce passion, you bet. Your daughter's lucky to have you in her corner. It's totally to be expected that you'd feel drained after that week - I hope you get to relax some.

You coming out my way again, X? :)

Oh okay. Let me know when you do.

This week sucked.

Monday: Torrential rain, I broke out my MTB to commute on, and I got soaked, completely and totally soaked. People around the office came back from the weekend with colds, and here I am shivering, slightly wet under my work clothes, defenseless.

Tuesday: Started to feel like crap, tickle in the back of my throat. Broke out the road bike! Woot! Tuesday night, running a fever of about 100.

Wednesday: Called in sick, slept all day, coughed, sneezed, ugh. Drank tons of water.

Thursday: Went to work again, the commute made my throat feel even more raw, but I felt better than Wednesday.


Friday: Pain and suffering. No fever, but I couldn't concentrate at all today. I took it easy on my bike today so that I didn't breathe at all through my mouth, and I probably downed 2 cups of tea, 3 cups of coffee and 8x refills of my 24oz bike bottle while at work today.

I'm feeling a little better now, but I have some after-hours telecommuting to do at 0:01 Sunday AM. So much for being bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at church, where I have to set up and run sound, lights, and video with limited helpers that haven't been properly trained, except for my mom. Not sure I'm going to make her run video on Mother's Day though, that would be lame.

My week was boring. I did play some golf and go shooting, but I was bored.

I'm waiting for my company I've gone back to for the summer to get a job they can send me to.

I'm sorry to hear that she has those allergies, but it's great that you stand up for her! By the law of averages, if you get kicked in the chamois one week, things are bound to turn around sooner or later. I'm sure it will be sooner for you, since you're trying to make things better. Hang in there!

thanks..
yeah.. everyone seems to think Im so strong and wont let anyone push her over, today I heard "wow, you're a strong cookie"
thruth is I kinda needed to tell someone that althought I won and they will have to make it accessible for her, Im really not that strong.
Yes, you are "that strong." The fact that you sometimes feel like the weight of the world is on you or that you are about to buckle does not make you any less strong. It's a sign that your strength is not infinite - but then, neither is anyone else's. It's also a sign that you are not only stroing, but courageous. After all, courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to force yourself to go on in the face of fear. So good on yer, BDG. Don't let anyone - including yourself - say you aren't strong enough.

I'm not sure I completely agree with Nicodemus, but I do think he is on to something. Letting your daughter know that you feel as together as you appear will, I think, help her understand that she can in fact stand up for herself even if she doesn't feel as confident as you appear to be to her. Where I may disagree with Nico is that I'm not sure that sharing the full depth of your frustration, anger, tiredness, self-doubt, etc., is a good idea. But clueing her in that it doesn't take Supergirl to do what you do -- just perseverence and the ability to project self-confidence -- has the potential to be one the best life lesson you could possibly teach her.

thanks..
yeah.. everyone seems to think Im so strong and wont let anyone push her over, today I heard "wow, you're a strong cookie"
thruth is I kinda needed to tell someone that althought I won and they will have to make it accessible for her, Im really not that strong. There was plenty of phone calls made where I had to pause because tears were coming down my face.
For instance when I asked the administration to help lower the risks of exposures, i was told"just dont have her go" and the anger and sadness that came over me was something else.

I just couldnt tell anyone around me that I feel drained, I sure dont want my daughter to see that Im a bit weaker then she thinks I am. I figured this was the right place to ask for a hug!

Anyway,thanks for the listening ear everyone..:)

Karen, you ARE strong. Tears don't make you any less strong. You are a good Mom.

Anyway, I needed to get this out, thanks for listening to me, Im just a bit sad and frustrated by how much I have to fight with people for my child.
Hope everyone's week was better than mine! :)Sorry you had to go through that; it must have been so frustrating. I hope it brought your daughter closer to you - you are very caring to have stood up the way you did.

I have mild allergies and this week there were so many times I had coughing fits so bad I had to resort to codeine just to stop the cough. People that so not have allergies just don't really understand how incapacitating it can be!

My week ended nicely with seeing an old friend get placed in a new job with the recognition he deserves...

I was born with a problem. I won't get into it here, as I don't want everyone to know about it.

What I will say is that it was out of my control and made me a social liability.

My body somehow compensated for the problem around 7th-8th grade, but I had my entire school career up to that point fighting with an internal disability which is still not well understood.

I'm just saying I know, partially at least, where you're coming from, and that I know you can do whatever you need to, or even want to.

I was born with a problem. I won't get into it here, as I don't want everyone to know about it.

What I will say is that it was out of my control and made me a social liability.

My body somehow compensated for the problem around 7th-8th grade, but I had my entire school career up to that point fighting with an internal disability which is still not well understood.

I'm just saying I know, partially at least, where you're coming from, and that I know you can do whatever you need to, or even want to.


I feel you. I , too was born with a "problem" that led to my current medical condition. My internal "disability" is not understood either. What's worse is...you can't really tell I'm any different than anyone else at first assessment (I, too have learned to compensate).

But now that I have a facial deformity due to the broken cheekbone/eye socket...I have strangely accepted my differences. I certainly can't do anything retroactively to change reality.

I think it was harder to accept the invisible inevitability of my existence, but easier to accept the physical.
So in a strange way, it was a good thing I fell on my face last week. These lessons are hard to come by.

In summation, I felt pretty damned bad on the outside, but pretty damned good on the inside this past week.:)

I feel you. I , too was born with a "problem" that led to my current medical condition. My internal "disability" is not understood either. What's worse is...you can't really tell I'm any different than anyone else at first assessment (I, too have learned to compensate).

But now that I have a facial deformity due to the broken cheekbone/eye socket...I have strangely accepted my differences. I certainly can't do anything retroactively to change reality.

I think it was harder to accept the invisible inevitability of my existence, but easier to accept the physical.
So in a strange way, it was a good thing I fell on my face last week. These lessons are hard to come by.

In summation, I felt pretty damned bad on the outside, but pretty damned good on the inside this past week.:)

Which is why "Serendipper" truly fits you.

Came across something in the kitchen today that reminded me of something left undone. Key-lime juice. My husband loved key-lime pie, and, last time we were in Sarasota, in 2002, we bought some key-lime juice on the way home. I never managed to bake the damned thing. He never got to eat it....

Perfect crappy end to an overall crappy week....

Which is why "Serendipper" truly fits you.


Hey, man..."dad" ain't a bad title for one such as yourself, either.:) You sorta hold this crazy place together. I wouldn't be surprised if the same were true at the base and at the house.

:) Thanks!

Perfect crappy end to an overall crappy week....

I'm not a big touchy-feelly type guy,but ((((((HUG))))))

Came across something in the kitchen today that reminded me of something left undone. Key-lime juice. My husband loved key-lime pie, and, last time we were in Sarasota, in 2002, we bought some key-lime juice on the way home. I never managed to bake the damned thing. He never got to eat it....

Perfect crappy end to an overall crappy week....


BUT! He is within you. SO....

Bake that pie and have some for the both of you and he will have his key lime pie! :)

edit: Oh and by the way. Phone is on if you feel like it. :o

Came across something in the kitchen today that reminded me of something left undone. Key-lime juice. My husband loved key-lime pie, and, last time we were in Sarasota, in 2002, we bought some key-lime juice on the way home. I never managed to bake the damned thing. He never got to eat it....

Perfect crappy end to an overall crappy week....

:(

Thanks, Foo friends. I'm gonna go to bed on those kind thoughts. :)

Tomorrow will be a better day. Surely. :beer:

Thanks, Foo friends. I'm gonna go to bed on those kind thoughts. :)

Tomorrow will be a better day. Surely. :beer:


:beer: <--Stella (content Vega look)

Heh. Thanks, Shirley. :)

And thanks for the Stella, 'Dipper. You remembered! :beer: ;)

((hugs)) all! Wish I had more to say but luckily everyone else was more eloquent than this Clyde over here could come up with...especially after this week (and tonight).

I forgot to post some other stuff..

1. My pool coach decided to screw me over. Ok, yesterday May 11 at 5pm was the deadline for all collegiate regional champions and second place finishers to register for the national championship in July. If you were not registered by 5pm May 11 your spot will be given up to the next player "on deck". Being the first place finisher in my region I was invited to compete on the national level. So, my coach put it upon herself to register me. Mind you, she had between early Feburary and yesterday to register me. Guess when she decided to register? Yesterday at Noon. I had no idea on how far she was with the registration so I began to register myself. (My coach has had many moments where she was lazy. I didn't want to get screwed over due to her being lazy.) Apparently I needed forms filled out and I had to be registered online. When I found this out I began to "freak out". I had to contact the woman who is organizing the national championship to give me an extension on sending in the paperwork which I was thankful for. As I began to register myself for the tournament I find out that my coach was doing it simultanously with me which caused major problems. I also didn't know if I had my registration waived or if I received a scholarship to pay for my hotel, plane ticket, etc for I am not driving 8+ hours to Minnesota. When I finally got in touch with her I found out that she had already gotten the paperwork filled out for me. I was pretty mad/disappointed about that for she didn't inform me at all on how far she was with registration. In the end, she didn't register me but, instead, I registered myself. The online registration rejected her registering me. Due to this chaos, I ended up having a slight anxiety (panic) attack. Thanks coach...

2. Now my allergies are starting to act up due to the pollen, weather, and the many animals that I've been around. I have watery/teary eyes, I'm sneezing, and I'm congested. Fabulous. What sucks is that I have work in the morning at 10am.


*sneeze sneeze*...I hate having allergies. BTW, BDG, I kinda know how it is to have an allergy to peanuts for I can't have more than a small handful or I'll have an asthma attack. It's not pleasant.

I wont go into details but I had a really tough week.

As some of you know I have a daughter with life threatening allergies and this week was tough.
Pollen is getting bad, she suffered 3 asthma attacks just this week, missed school because of a sinus infection and bronchitus, the kid is just not all that great.


Not to sound stupid, but did you consider moving to some desert state? My son deals with astma and it got better with swimming and inhalers but it was one of the option somebody sugested to move to Arizona to avoid the pollen.

My $0.02 only

Tomorrow will be awesome, Vega.

And don't call me Shirley.
Damnit, damnit, damnit - beaten to the punch again.:mad:

Hey, Vega: +1 to what Siu said about the key lime pie.

I forgot to post some other stuff..

1. My pool coach decided to screw me over. Ok, yesterday May 11 at 5pm was the deadline for all collegiate regional champions and second place
Well, you must know that pool cues have, over the years, been used for purposes other than knocking balls into pockets. Use that concept and experiment on your coach. Tell her it's "memory improvement therapy."

Good Morning. This week was exciting for me. Last week I was transfered to a different department at work and this week I was a floater. I went where I was needed. Even back into labeling for a while. I got to do different jobs and the week went fast for me. :) I even has a sit down job. Hope that this will continue, I really enjoyed the different jobs I had.

thanks for the kind words everyone! you guys rock :)
I feel much better today!
if this teach me one thing is that the other things in my life are so insignificant compare to the life of your children and it sure puts everything back in perpective for me as to what I want to put energie on.

Life is good :)

Glad to see you got register, gio. Hope you kick serious butt!!