Foo - Sexualizing non-sexual needs and desires.

The second in a series of topics on the internet and intimacy. ;)

I was asked a question recently that got my brain to churning.

Q: Why is it, on internet forums, when someone is intrigued by another poster, it right away goes into sex-mode?

My provincial, half-baked theory:

Here in the U.S., intensity of feeling has become associated almost strictly with romantic pairings. Straight guys are not allowed to have intense feelings for other guys. Married people are not allowed to have intense feelings toward members of the opposite sex -- instead, that interest is expected to be focused solely on the married partner.

So, what is UP with all the sex talk on these forum? Is this the only way we know how to express affection?

Yeah, different things are repressed and manifest themselves in different ways... etc.

yes.

I don't know if it's just me, but I don't typically go into sex mode when I'm intrigued by a forum post / poster. In fact I don't think I ever have. But maybe it's because I'm rarely intrigued by what someone writes?

I even spend time on another site related to sexual discussion and I've never felt particularly attracted to any of the members there.

Maybe I'm just oversexed IRL ... or perhaps not understanding what you're getting at?


So, what is UP with all the sex talk on these forum? Is this the only way we know how to express affection?I think discussing sex has little to do with affection. More likely, most people spend a lot of time thinking about sex. The Internet gives us a convenient shroud of anonymity to express what's on our minds for better or worse, but I don't think it necessarily relates to affection. It might be just stuff we're too shy to talk about in "the real world."

what is this "sex" of which you speak???

Sorry? I thought this was BikeForums. Maybe I'm just not reading the right threads.

Maybe it amuses them?

I dunno about some here, but for me the occaisional innuendo-fest can be quite fun.

I don't see anything wrong with thinking about sex constantly...a gutter mind is nothing to be ashamed of.....it's when you can't set aside that gutter mind when needed to that it becomes a problem.

Pretty much my take on everything is "so long as you actually can control it (not just claim you can), and do control it when needed to, there's no serious problems". This goes for eating, drinking, sleeping, farting, slapping the crap out of idiots that try to inflate your MTB tires with jello, etc.

Admit it, all you people are HORNY.
HOR... hey, what's your cup size again? 32C? I'll take it!

Why is it, on internet forums, when someone is intrigued by another poster, it right away goes into sex-mode?
I have many male friends here who I talk to via PM, IM and even telephone and we never talk about sex. I must be different. :o



Straight guys are not allowed to have intense feelings for other guys.
You must not know Jon very well. :rolleyes:



The second in a series of topics on the internet and intimacy. <snip>
So, what is UP with all the sex talk on these forum?
Yeah, why ARE your threads about sex? :eek:




I'm just messin' with ya. :D I hope you get your answers. :)

The second in a series of topics on the internet and intimacy. ;)

I was asked a question recently that got my brain to churning.

Q: Why is it, on internet forums, when someone is intrigued by another poster, it right away goes into sex-mode?

My provincial, half-baked theory:

Here in the U.S., intensity of feeling has become associated almost strictly with romantic pairings. Straight guys are not allowed to have intense feelings for other guys. Married people are not allowed to have intense feelings toward members of the opposite sex -- instead, that interest is expected to be focused solely on the married partner.

So, what is UP with all the sex talk on these forum? Is this the only way we know how to express affection?
That analysis is a bit awry.

It's just people being people. Sexual innuendo and frustration boiling over into desperate attempts at trolling for nookie, or simple silly flirting, are part of what we do.

I fail to see a strong case for the claim that this is because of the internet, rather than the internet simply being the modern (and very useful and addictive) tool for such behaviour. The anonymity aspect just makes it more tempting.

Your "intensity of feeling and romantic pairings" paragraph doesn't make a whole lot of sense. Most people would surely say that they are perfectly comfortable having intense feelings for others. And it's not a mark of dysfunction for people to feel that intense romantic feelings for others is wrong, when they have a partner.

And what sex talk are you talking about? All I see is the occasional innuendo, silly childish flirting, and the *thunk* threads.

I have to take it where I can get it.

Naw mean?

The funny thing is, I have no genuine attraction to any of the women here (except as eye candy). Yet there are a few guys I could really *seriously* dig. If I were gay.

I believe your answers lie somewhere in "On the origin of Species" by Richard Darwin.


Eh..I mean Charles Darwin.



The second in a series of topics on the internet and intimacy. ;)

I was asked a question recently that got my brain to churning.

Q: Why is it, on internet forums, when someone is intrigued by another poster, it right away goes into sex-mode?

My provincial, half-baked theory:

Here in the U.S., intensity of feeling has become associated almost strictly with romantic pairings. Straight guys are not allowed to have intense feelings for other guys. Married people are not allowed to have intense feelings toward members of the opposite sex -- instead, that interest is expected to be focused solely on the married partner.

So, what is UP with all the sex talk on these forum? Is this the only way we know how to express affection?

If someone says something like, "I was walking and then all of a sudden I tripped and tossed my cookies across the room" it's much funnier to respond:


:eek:

then


Too bad - hope the cleanup wasn't bad

(OK.. :eek: would be pretty funny after that too).

Afterall - if I'm not posting a direct answer to a question or offering support I'm posting to amuse myself and hopefully some others. I once posted an answer to a post with, "At least it's not emetophilia" [I do not suggest looking that up - really. I'm doing you a favor by not linking to it. I'm serious now - you kids can't handle it] and while I gave a warning and a bunch of people were grossed out there was someone I started talking to because they found it hysterical and we've become great friends since.

And no, totally not into that - but it's pretty darned funny reading people's reactions to it!

That was very non sexual Air. Bump it up a little, willya? :rolleyes:

buttsecks?????

The funny thing is, I have no genuine attraction to any of the women here (except as eye candy). Yet there are a few guys I could really *seriously* dig. If I were gay.

Admit it- you've already blow up posts of the "Ladies of Foo" thread and hung them on your wall. Everyone else here does that....Right?:rolleyes:

And what sex talk are you talking about? All I see is the occasional innuendo, silly childish flirting, and the *thunk* threads.
I'm talking about, for example, women describing, in detail, their attempts to "jill-off" while biking.

Just to be clear: I'm not exactly a prude. I've worked in the adult industry. And maybe that's why I find it bothersome. It'd be nice to be able to come to a BIKING forum and talk about bikes. Not rubbing one out.

And, those *thunk* threads? Holy crap. There is more fluffing going on there than in low-budget pr0n, but ok, I get it. Ego..fantasy...you tell me what I want to hear, and I'll do the same for you...okie dokie.

The over-sexed vibe in some forums is off-putting, is all.

Others will disagree. That's fine.

Cheers.

Allez - you seem a little tense. Go watch some porn and take care of it.

Allez - you seem a little tense. Go watch some porn and take care of it.

+1.

So, what is UP with all the sex talk on these forum? Is this the only way we know how to express affection?

Haha, you said "up"

Haha, you said "up"


Hey baby, how YOU doin?

Q: Why is it, on internet forums, when someone is intrigued by another poster, it right away goes into sex-mode?

This is all dependent upon your question being based on some valid behavior, which IMO it is not.

Now get undressed and dance like a chicken for us.

Did someone say "hard"? huhuhuhuhuhuh....

http://home1.pacific.net.sg/~chinhow/butthead.jpg

Did someone say "hard"? huhuhuhuhuhuh....

http://home1.pacific.net.sg/~chinhow/butthead.jpg


That was '95? I almost feel old now.


Almost.

I have a very healthy man crush on Explody Pup and am developing feelings again for Chipcom and several others.

I have a very healthy man crush on Explody Pup and am developing feelings again for Chipcom and several others.


Me me me!!!!

yes yes yes!

*prances through daisy field in white sun dress*

*prances through daisy field in white sun dress*
if BDG sees this she may go into full doom mode on both of us.

if BDG sees this she may go into full doom mode on both of us.


Win/win situation if you ask me.

So allez, what sweet nothings do you whisper in that poor little budgie's ear?

Sounds to me like you're transferring your own thought onto others. That's an extension of the point of view that roughly states: if you have a nice hammer, every problem will look like a nail.

Capiche? :D

if BDG sees this she may go into full doom mode on both of us.
:lol: fat chance, that's The cypress job!:p

So allez, what sweet nothings do you whisper in that poor little budgie's ear?

Sounds to me like you're transferring your own thought onto others. That's an extension of the point of view that roughly states: if you have a nice hammer, every problem will look like a nail.

Capiche? :D
I like screws, easier to take back out than nails. Hence I have a nice Makita drill/driver.

I have a very healthy man crush on the Cypress

+1

I'm talking about, for example, women describing, in detail, their attempts to "jill-off" while biking.To be fair, this is Foo, the entirely off-topic section of the forums (Threads about bikes get deleted or moved elsewhere!). Foo is nice, because sometimes you just want to go where everybody knows your name, and they're always glad you came. Foo is a place where you can see that our troubles are all the same. Foo is a place where everybody knows.

Your name.


Just to be clear: I'm not exactly a prude. I've worked in the adult industry. And maybe that's why I find it bothersome. It'd be nice to be able to come to a BIKING forum and talk about bikes. Not rubbing one out.Eh, it probably just seems a bit weird because society as a whole is so hung up about matters relating to sex, seeing it discussed frankly in a place where you wouldn't expect it tends to stand out.

Besides, there are plenty of subforums on this site which are dedicated to nothing but bike talk. This is the place for everything but bike talk. Makes sense to me. :)

:lol: fat chance, that's The cypress job!:p


Ohhh boy, do I feel bad for jsharr.

AO, Foo is a place for people who like to ride bikes to come and socialize and talk about topics outside of bikes. If you want to talk strictly bikes, you should check out the other BF forums, though I don't understand why innuendo comes up so often in those as well. Maybe it's because we are all fundamentally wired to procreate, and the relative anonymity of an Internet forum gives us a place to express that? <shrug>

In any case, as we say, in Foo, "It's all good. And all in fun." :)

Perhaps, AO, you should post this same question in the Road Cycling forum. I'm certain that the guys there will be much more forthcoming with very candid responses to your insightful questions.

And, those *thunk* threads? Holy crap. There is more fluffing going on there than in low-budget pr0n, but ok, I get it. Ego..fantasy...you tell me what I want to hear, and I'll do the same for you...okie dokie.



Cheers. when you make statement like this, you are putting us all on the spot, yes they was fluffing and flirting and kidding around, here's some posts as to how you reacted to some of the pics in the "how hot are these guys?" thread, Im just saying, are you really the person who should judge? you seemed to be participating and having a good time just like the rest of us.

"ME, *now* I see what you really meant when you mentioned elsewhere how much you enjoy "the scenery" on your rides. I can be a little slow on the uptake sometimes.

Lightbulb! Million-dollar idea: "The Men of BikeFo" trading card series. --Or better yet: spoke cards. LMAO! That would rule."

(your post after picking one guy out and posting his pic)
"Eenie, meenie, minie, moe...random click on page 5, and...

SOLID GOLD!!!"

"...just discovered this thread, and am randomly working my way through 39 pages of hotness..."

( after reposting another guy's pic)
"Purrrrr."



This was done all in fun, wasnt it? maybe like the rest of us??

Just to be clear: I'm not exactly a prude. I've worked in the adult industry. And maybe that's why I find it bothersome. It'd be nice to be able to come to a BIKING forum and talk about bikes. Not rubbing one out.

So talk about bikes, who's stopping you? You can even make your own threads...and you have...this one, which is about???? Shucks, sure don't look like it's about bikes.



The over-sexed vibe in some forums is off-putting, is all.


Seems to me what is 'off-putting' is that you ain't getting all the attention...this thread being one indication.

This was done all in fun, wasnt it? maybe like the rest of us??

Some folks just plain don't know how to have good-natured fun, so when others are engaged in it, they get uncomfortable...or just jealous that they are not getting all the attention.

I think it's a little weird too. But whatever. Too each their own.

This is all my fault, and for that, I apologize.

:(

Yes, everyone stop sexualizing Mo'Phat. You're killing Bike Forums.

This is all my fault, and for that, I apologize.

:(

Sokay...as long as you don't get nekkid and dance like a chicken, you're cool in my book.

Dang it, okay virtual MoPhat in jsharrs mind, get down off the monster truck and put the fried chicken back in the fridge.

*shuffles feet and kicks stones with toe of shoe and walks off with forlon look*

The second in a series of topics on the internet and intimacy. ;)

I was asked a question recently that got my brain to churning.

Q: Why is it, on internet forums, when someone is intrigued by another poster, it right away goes into sex-mode?

My provincial, half-baked theory:

Here in the U.S., intensity of feeling has become associated almost strictly with romantic pairings. Straight guys are not allowed to have intense feelings for other guys. Married people are not allowed to have intense feelings toward members of the opposite sex -- instead, that interest is expected to be focused solely on the married partner.

So, what is UP with all the sex talk on these forum? Is this the only way we know how to express affection?

Really? People do this? No one ever does that with me dangit. Who's falling down on the job? hmmph

Really? People do this? No one ever does that with me dangit. Who's falling down on the job? hmmph
me, sorry, when is it convenient for you and I to hook up?

You know, somehow I just KNEW Jsharr would be the first to respond...

But you posted your request anyway. What does that tell you?