Foo - Internet grudges

Why do we let it happen?

People may get offended by what others say in threads, but that is their opinion. They are entitled to what they feel, think or believe in. Just because their reasoning for such beliefs doesn't match with someone else's doesn't mean they have to be treated unfairly. It can go both ways.

All I'm saying is that the past few days I have seen a few disagreements that really have turned into grudges that result in hurt feelings. (Especially mine, even though I wasn't involved in them :( ). I can't stand to see people (my friends) get into this. I can see discussing a difference of opinion but when it comes to degrading someone that just isn't very nice. It continues on in various threads as if people are targeting each other.

I understand that there are some that have ulterior motives, such as to cause a "posse" of sorts to get others to dislike someone but that to me is unfair. I think that the people who do that are not secure with what their cause is and need verification from others that what they do or say is right. And what that does is put others into the middle of it.

The ignore feature might help in these instances so nothing is seen that can be hurtful and therefore, no retaliation is warranted.

In the words of Rodney whathisname, "C-c-can't we all just g-g-get along?" :)

I highly doubt these things are real. Of course, I have a great difficulty reading people and thier emotions.

Perhaps pixels do cause high blood pressure and anger? This place just helps me more than anything.

Like anything good, if you abuse it you could hurt yourself, I guess. Doubtful anyone could really hurt even your feelings on a computer (not sure---again I may be exceptional for reasons most of you understand).

I try not to abuse this place (my clubhouse) or overstep my boundaries, but sometimes I make mistakes. Then I correct them. I appreciate those that help me grow.

I hold no grudges in this place, it would ruin my experience. I wouldn't let anyone ruin anything good in my life.

"C-c-can't we all just g-g-get along?" :)
Apparently not.:D

Doubtful anyone could really hurt even your feelings on a computer


What I meant is when I see my two friends argue and be mean to each other. That hurts to see them do that. Because inside I know that they are truly upset and I don't want either of them to be unhappy. Makes ME unhappy. :(

which threads?

"water off a duck's back."


the few people who annoy me more than they humor me i have on ignore. i think there are only 5. and i get the impression they like to be a$$holes just for the sake of being a$$holes.......a$$holisticness is fine in the name of comedy, but not just to be a condenscending prick

the few people who annoy me more than they humor me i have on ignore. i think there are only 5. and i get the impression they like to be a$$holes just for the sake of being a$$holes.......a$$holisticness if fine in the name of comedy, but not just to be condenscending prick
There's a couple people in ssfg that I have on ignore. I feel that the arguments and belittlement are best left to PM's rather than have them spill out into the forums. It ruins the experience for everyone.

the few people who annoy me more than they humor me i have on ignore. i think there are only 5. and i get the impression they like to be a$$holes just for the sake of being a$$holes.......a$$holisticness if fine in the name of comedy, but not just to be condenscending prick

Do you like blackberry pie? Just a question.

I think it's funny when people derail a thread or PM me just to tell me how much they think I suck.

One man's cutdown is another man's ego boost.

Do you like blackberry pie? Just a question.


i don't know.

you.....you humor me.

One man's cutdown is another man's ego boost.


you don't suck!

you don't suck!


Ratfink! :mad:

you.....you humor me.

Not on your ignore list yet! Woo-Hoo!:D

Internet grudges are usually a special blend of many different herbs and spices....oops that's KFC, I meant misunderstandings and dramaqueening.

Basic way to sum it up was done best by the fine comedic minds of the strip Penny Arcade:

http://www.penny-arcade.com/images/2004/20040319h.jpg

Someone, somewhere had to take things way out of context or out of hand to stir crap up enough to get to the point of a grudge, so I feel the above image applies greatly :)

I think it's funny when people derail a thread or PM me just to tell me how much they think I suck.

One man's cutdown is another man's ego boost.

Ya know, I never have given the thought to PM's being used to tell someone how much they suck. It just never occured to me to use the PM's in such a way. I try to use my PM's for telling someone how much I agree with their point or finding out a little more info on any certain subject. If someone has to PM someone else because they suck, what does that say for their character? I have always tried to avoid any 'no holds barred' grudge matches on BF's. Not the place in my opinion, even though most of my posts are on P&R.

Sometimes when the wind blows cold we shut the door. :rolleyes:

I've been dissed, shot down, and downright insulted by some posters - and it goes a long way toward the entertainment value of this forum. People who hold internet grudges would be better served to vent on the telemarketers who call at dinner-time.

I've been dissed, shot down, and downright insulted by some posters - and it goes a long way toward the entertainment value of this forum. People who hold internet grudges would be better served to vent on the telemarketers who call at dinner-time.
Yes AP, the way I've seen you handle it is admirable. Me personally, it's hard for someone online to hurt my feelings, but I do get annoyed every once in awhile. For me to hold a grudge, you have to have done something terrible to me, or to someone special to me. I don't really even have a grudge against Pete even, he's just being himself, I just happen to not agree or mesh with him at all.

I think it's funny when people derail a thread or PM me just to tell me how much they think I suck.

One man's cutdown is another man's ego boost.
So wait, if you take insults as compliments, how do we pierce the mental armor of The Cypress?

Ya know, I never have given the thought to PM's being used to tell someone how much they suck. It just never occured to me to use the PM's in such a way.


I must admit that I've used a PM to ask someone why they had a problem with me. I felt that they were criticizing me for not being able to protect myself when I was mugged. They asked me what I could have done to protect myself when I was tapped on the shoulder and then punched in the face as I turned around.

We PM'd back and forth, telling each other off. Somehow through all of this we ended up talking nicely to each other.

Currently we are good buddies and spend a lot of time together. :)

So wait, if you take insults as compliments, how do we pierce the mental armor of The Cypress?


Ban me and find out... :D






















(please don't though)

Currently we are good buddies and spend a lot of time together. :)

- after you punched them in the face?

:-)

(i wonder how many BF folks know what 'PLONK!' means?)

(i wonder how many BF folks know what 'PLONK!' means?)


Here in Bozeman, it's a ritzy wine and cheese bar...

What does it mean to you?

I highly doubt these things are real. Of course, I have a great difficulty reading people and thier emotions.

Perhaps pixels do cause high blood pressure and anger? This place just helps me more than anything.

Like anything good, if you abuse it you could hurt yourself, I guess. Doubtful anyone could really hurt even your feelings on a computer (not sure---again I may be exceptional for reasons most of you understand).

I try not to abuse this place (my clubhouse) or overstep my boundaries, but sometimes I make mistakes. Then I correct them. I appreciate those that help me grow.

I hold no grudges in this place, it would ruin my experience. I wouldn't let anyone ruin anything good in my life.

I agree with you.

Yes AP, the way I've seen you handle it is admirable. Me personally, it's hard for someone online to hurt my feelings, but I do get annoyed every once in awhile. For me to hold a grudge, you have to have done something terrible to me, or to someone special to me. I don't really even have a grudge against Pete even, he's just being himself, I just happen to not agree or mesh with him at all.


how'd you know I was thinking...Pete? :D

Hey Siu,

I guess we all say something we shouldn't from time to time. Maybe it's the glass of wine we've had, or just bringing an attitude because of something else. We can geeet aloooong, it's just part of being a community, we're all a bit imperfect.

I think it's funny when people derail a thread or PM me just to tell me how much they think I suck.

One man's cutdown is another man's ego boost.

You suck Hammer Gels.

Yes AP, the way I've seen you handle it is admirable. Me personally, it's hard for someone online to hurt my feelings, but I do get annoyed every once in awhile. For me to hold a grudge, you have to have done something terrible to me, or to someone special to me. I don't really even have a grudge against Pete even, he's just being himself, I just happen to not agree or mesh with him at all.

I never knew I was so, uh, "popular."

I never knew I was so, uh, "popular."

It's that damn Pinarello of yours.

It's that damn Pinarello of yours.

Then the sight of Team PriorityHealth's Paris Carbons all lined up on a rack today should/would be enough to start World War III. At least on the internet...

I never knew I was so, uh, "popular."


you flatter yourself, DrPete. We're talking Pete F.;)

you flatter yourself, DrPete. We're talking Pete F.;)

I don't know if "flatter" is the right word, but I'm a little relieved. ;)

So wait, if you take insults as compliments, how do we pierce the mental armor of The Cypress?
I can't go into details, but it involves Crisco, a shetland pony, baling wire and many boxes of Cap'n Crunch.


Oh, and a trapeze. Can't forget the trapeze.

I don't anything I read here as any real grudge. The closest would be overspill from whatever forums the more jeuvenile hang out in, and that's still just petty sniping.

Nobody here bothers me enough to hold any grudge against them. And I think in reality that's the same for most and any sparring here is just for sh!ts and giggles.

I don't anything I read here as any real grudge. The closest would be overspill from whatever forums the more jeuvenile hang out in, and that's still just petty sniping.

Nobody here bothers me enough to hold any grudge against them. And I think in reality that's the same for most and any sparring here is just for sh!ts and giggles.

Once again, I agree. Why let someone you don't know, will prob. never know, make you mad.

I think it's funny when people derail a thread or PM me just to tell me how much they think I suck.

One man's cutdown is another man's ego boost.

You suck. :p

I never knew I was so, uh, "popular."

You suck too.

Everybody sucks! I'm gonna hold my breath until everyone kisses my lily white okole...so there!

turning a bit blue here folks....

Can't feel my toes....

Seeing trails now...

Either God or Jsharr is talking to me now...telling me to walk into the light...

Did you all see that? BF just went down for one minute! Forgive them Lord, they know not what they do!

Interesting discussion. Aside from a couple of people over in P&R, I really have had very little problems. One of the ones (perhaps both) are banned so I don't think it was me. ;) One thought that came to me about 34 years ago (gag - I am OLD!) was that the majority of people aren't thinking about me - perhaps NO ONE is thinking about me. So, if someone says something I could take wrong, I try to figure out a way to take it without being upset. Even if they are trying to be personal, I don't have to take it that way. After all, they probably aren't think about me, just having a bad day - or perhaps are creeps.

Really, it rarely has anything to do with me at all, so no point getting my tail in a knot over it.

However, I would like to say that if someone does have a problem with me - some of my workers would like to talk with you... ;)

http://www.fincaleola.com/images/Workers.jpg

OK, you guys don't suck...breathing is definitely better than holding a grudge...or your breath. :o

http://www.fincaleola.com/images/Workers.jpg

Must be cool to have your own munchkins.
We represent, the Lolipop Guild, the Lolipop Guild, the Lolipop Guild!

(I'm jooooking...don't want no Costa Rican necktie!) :D

Chipcom - I, being sophesticated and mature, assume you didn't really mean it - but I think Fernando is swiming across the Rio Grande as we type...

OK, Siu, I forgive you. ;)

Seriously, I haven't had any issues with any members here . . . yet.

I like a good debate/argument as much as the next person (though I haven't done much of it here), but there's no point in taking it beyond the immediate discussion. I've already got enough stuff to worry about in life and I don't need to get bent out of shape over what anonymous people write on the Internets.

One thought that came to me about 34 years ago (gag - I am OLD!) was that the majority of people aren't thinking about me - perhaps NO ONE is thinking about me.
I think you've got something there. Alas, even more applicable to me. :rolleyes:

What do you do when your workers have a problem with you? :eek:

I'm suprised Max and I haven't been pointed out in this thread, or maybe thats who the thread is about :p.

Okay - time to be realitively serious. I think Foo is very different from the other areas of BF. Truthfully, we are just fooing around most of the time. I suspect when a newbie impacts the tomfoolery, well, sometimes they don't know how to take it.

I appreciate how people respect each other even though there is a lot of differences between us. This is more like a fruit salad than a single course...

Unfortunately Sui, you are more visible than I so people tend to spit their angst more at you than me - or perhaps they figure since I live in Costa Rica I must be at the least deranged.