Foo - Just curious, anyone here in a midlife crisis? Please share.

I'm in my 20s but currently revamping my whole life to prepare for future troubles, be it fiscal, emotional, or biological, concommitant with aging. In particular, how does it arise, and in what form, and how should I prepare to adaptively cope once MC occurs?

I'm in my 20s but currently revamping my whole life to prepare for future troubles, be it fiscal, emotional, or biological, concommitant with aging. In particular, how does it arise, and in what form, and how should I prepare to adaptively cope once MC occurs?

I dunno, but unless you are checking out early, you shouldn't be near mid life yet. Call us back in 15 years.

I dunno, but unless you are checking out early, you shouldn't be near mid life yet. Call us back in 15 years.
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If you're really in your mid 20's, go act like it.

Actually, midlife crisis generally hits aroung 50 +/-.:p

That's when an otherwise rational middle aged man sudden;ly buys a sports car, gets a 19 year old GF and generally drops off the deep end for a bit. What you got sounds more like pre21 angst!;)

Let's see,
after you do marriage, house, kids, job changes you can consider one.
I don't think you can prepare for it. Go get laid.

I'm still planing mine. I need to save up for another two years and I will be able to do it up right.

20's, yeah, don't cut my life so short. Get married, that ought to occupy you for a while.

I don't see why the 40- and 50-somethings get to have all of the midlife crisis fun. I fully plan for my midlife crisis to last all of my life. Why wait to have fun?

*hangs his unreasonably expensive bike back on the wall, settles in to shopping for a cool car*

I dunno, but unless you are checking out early, you shouldn't be near mid life yet. Call us back in 15 years.

Really!

My mid life crisis came with a diagnosis of diabetes. It was probably the best thing that happened to me. :)

You and I see diabetes in vastly different ways, Mr. Wright.

By being diagnosed I turned it around. I'm in the best shape of my life.

Oh, okay. :) I could never see diabetes as being a good thing, in itself (I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemies, if I had enemies). Forcing you to get in shape ain't a bad side effect, though.

Thanks! :)

I've been type I for a while. It's really hard as you have to watch what you eat daily. I've more lattitude choosing sex partners than my food LOL. But that's another story.:D


Thanks! :)

1. lost a good job because of a merger. then the company f***ed me on the severence.
2. picked the wrong partner to start a business. 2 years still sucked down my startup $ however.
3. next work for a business that bankrupts after little more than a year.
4. now my daughter is 2 years from college and i still have all my high $ expenses from #1
5. can't buy an interview. 48 years old and too many "failed" careers and too high earnings req's

Bankruptcy here I come!

Thanks for sharing. But atleast you have your health. I really hope things turn around for you. When all else fails, play the lottery-helps get me out of bed every morning. You never know on which day you become a millionaire.


1. lost a good job because of a merger. then the company f***ed me on the severence.
2. picked the wrong partner to start a business. 2 years still sucked down my startup $ however.
3. next work for a business that bankrupts after little more than a year.
4. now my daughter is 2 years from college and i still have all my high $ expenses from #1
5. can't buy an interview. 48 years old and too many "failed" careers and too high earnings req's

Bankruptcy here I come!

I'm in my 20s but currently revamping my whole life to prepare for future troubles, be it fiscal, emotional, or biological, concommitant with aging. In particular, how does it arise, and in what form, and how should I prepare to adaptively cope once MC occurs?

You're right to be concerned about midlife crisis syndrome (MCS) in your 20's. It's a tortuous time involving hormonal imbalances, physical changes (too horrible to describe) and of course emotional and mental changes as well. To help soften the inevitable transitional period I would suggest taking an early pre-emptive 3 prong approach:

1) make sure you hold down only mediocre jobs with little chance of advancement thru-out your 20's and 30's. This way during your early 40's you won't have the monetary means to purchase the multitude of "toys" that comes with full blown MCS. Its a potentially destructive pattern of having lots of fun.

2) Avoid all forms of exercise also during your 20's and 30's letting your muscles atrophy to the point where basic daily chores require excessive amounts of energy. This way you can avoid the temptation of taking the new road bike out for a spin.

3) Practice gluttany whenever possible, preferably gorging on Fast Food. You want to establish an early pattern of eating sub-standard food to prevent the desire of trying out finer foods that a successful career in your 40's can afford you.

Having reached my early 40's I completely understand your concerns and hope that you take my wise words to heart. Unfortunately I have to sign off now. I have to take a few minutes to sit out on the deck with a beer and "enjoy" (this is a code word for suffer through) the warm evening air. Oh the horror!

I have diabetes. When I complete all below advisable provisions is the moment I ride. I will come back as a ghost to haunt you.:lol:


You're right to be concerned about midlife crisis syndrome (MCS) in your 20's. It's a tortuous time involving hormonal imbalances, physical changes (too horrible to describe) and of course emotional and mental changes as well. To help soften the inevitable transitional period I would suggest taking an early pre-emptive 3 prong approach:

1) make sure you hold down only mediocre jobs with little chance of advancement thru-out your 20's and 30's. This way during your early 40's you won't have the monetary means to purchase the multitude of "toys" that comes with full blown MCS. Its a potentially destructive pattern of having lots of fun.

2) Avoid all forms of exercise also during your 20's and 30's letting your muscles atrophy to the point where basic daily chores require excessive amounts of energy. This way you can avoid the temptation of taking the new road bike out for a spin.

3) Practice gluttany whenever possible, preferably gorging on Fast Food. You want to establish an early pattern of eating sub-standard food to prevent the desire of trying out finer foods that a successful career in your 40's can afford you.

Having reached my early 40's I completely understand your concerns and hope that you take my wise words to heart. Unfortunately I have to sign off now. I have to take a few minutes to sit out on the deck with a beer and "enjoy" (this is a code word for suffer through) the warm evening air. Oh the horror!

I`ve always been intrigued with the mid-life crisis mindset. Whats the recipe for a mid-life crisis? I have done so much in my 39 years that I just don`t see how buying a Porsche 911, dressing sharp and chasing younger women will add anything to my life. I think I`d rather just retire to the garage and do some wood working or putz around in other productive ways.

In mid-life crisis? Yes, that's why I post here.

In mid-life crisis? Yes, that's why I post here.


:lol:




An existiential crisis can hit anyone at any time. "Mid-life crisis" is just a catchphrase, it doesn't really mean anything.

It seems like men are more likely to have a mid life crisis if they married young and didn't sow all of their wild oats in their early years. I sowed a lot. So I think i will be pretty cool.

I've also been thinking about going out and build a fixie out of one of my really old frames -- kinda hoping that the sleak fixie look for a bike I rode in the '70s would be considered hawt and sexy.



But, I suspect that it won't be hawt and sexy, at least not with someone riding it who can't seem to take on the devil may care attitude of riding without a helmet (that's what comes of too many friends dying over the years due to busted heads).

My first one was at about 35. I bought all the stuff I felt I had been denying myself. I figured what the hell, I don't and won't have a family, why not spend my savings. That didn't work now I am married with kids and broke. My next started a couple years ago. I realized I was getting old but didn't feel it. I am watching my family and friends health deteriorate and it sucks. Some of them even passed away younger than I am. Got back into somewhat good shape, have grown my hair long again and generally not acting my age. Kind of pitiful in a way, but I want to go out with my boots on so to speak. I don't want to be riding around the mall on a Rascal powerchair or dragging a breathing machine through the Old Country Buffet. I hope this one doesn't end for another couple decades.

I'm in my 20s but currently revamping my whole life to prepare for future troubles, be it fiscal, emotional, or biological, concommitant with aging. In particular, how does it arise, and in what form, and how should I prepare to adaptively cope once MC occurs?
What's the thing you feel most secure about in your life? What is it in life you love the most? From what do you derive the greatest joy, the greatest passion? What are your highest, most important dreams? What mark do you want leave on the world?

Your mid-life crisis will hit you in one or more of those areas. Hard. Very, very hard. And when it does, you'll wish life had settled for giving a good swift kick in the balls every day for five years.

since I don't expect to live to 104, I think I have successfully migrated past mid life.

I expect to live to 100, so I'm NOT there yet. :p

I had mine when I was 12, so I started writing my will.

Moving to different country certainly postponed mine; I am too busy for one - or it is hiding behind my emigrant/imigrant issues.

But my plan for midlife crisis is simple - no chick, no sport car, no harley - I am gonna buy myself a week of sniper training program:)

Got back into somewhat good shape, have grown my hair long again and generally not acting my age. Kind of pitiful in a way, but I want to go out with my boots on so to speak. I don't want to be riding around the mall on a Rascal powerchair or dragging a breathing machine through the Old Country Buffet. I hope this one doesn't end for another couple decades.

Actually I think this is a quite healthy attitude. Live for today. Cross bridges when you come to them.