Foo - What are all the little things you do, to keep the magic alive?

Have you notice your mate getting less and less interested in th relationship? What do you do to combat this? What are the little things you do or have learned along the way to help keep the magic alive?

Lick her eyeball.

Start using other people for physical emotionless sex.

Handcuffs.

My advice would be to delay marriage until at least the late-30's or early-40's to allow better appreciation of attributes.

My advice would be to delay marriage until at least the late-30's or early-40's to allow better appreciation of attributes.





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Have you notice your mate getting less and less interested in th relationship? What do you do to combat this? What are the little things you do or have learned along the way to help keep the magic alive?

As silly as this may sound, keep taking her out on dates. At the tail-end of my relationship with an ex (of three years), it was never his idea to go out, and I felt like I actually had to ask him to take me out, even just for lunch or something--I lost my interest pretty quickly. Never stop making her feel like she's the sexiest woman in the world.

My advice would be to delay marriage until at least the late-30's or early-40's to allow better appreciation of attributes.

And if you can delay that long, why not another 30 - 40 years just to be safe?:p

I nibble her earlobes!

I know, I know. Too much info.

But seriously. Earlobes.

separate bathrooms. Hard to be romantic when you smell each other's poo.

Have you notice your mate getting less and less interested in th relationship? What do you do to combat this? What are the little things you do or have learned along the way to help keep the magic alive?
gotta have some ****ing magic to begin with

Watch Happy Gilmore together!


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Start using other people for physical emotionless sex.

Unfortunately, mine would never go for that.

I cast magic missle.

Surprises.

Always respect him and make him first before myself. :)

Don't keep watching TV when the other person starts fondling any part of you. Sure-fire magic-killer.

Especially don't try to look around them to catch the score.



Oh, yeah, you wanted things to DO, not things to AVOID.

Um, how's this one: when you get home, be happier to see your partner than you are to see the dog.

Follow up statements your partner makes or stories your partner tells with something related to what they said. (e.g. "I had a great day at work today, we finally got some of those TPS reports out the door." "Oh really? I know you've been working on them for a while, that's great news." Not, "Oh. Hey, I think there's a new Titleist driver I want.")

Remember or resurrect or create some little in-jokes, some just-between-you goofiness.

Hot monkey sex can help, if the two of you still remember how.

Little silly notes in purses/pockets/briefcases and/or surprise text msgs just to say Hey.

<traditional> Flowers. </traditional>

Heh-heh... Marry Chris Angel. :D

I like to find another mate. Keeps the magic alive.

Hot monkey sex can help, if the two of you still remember how.

:lol:

Men, try helping with the housework. Vacuum naked. ;)

Have you notice your mate getting less and less interested in th relationship? What do you do to combat this? What are the little things you do or have learned along the way to help keep the magic alive?

A new vacuum sweeper usually does the trick for me.

Taking her out like it was a first date and all that trying to impress her BS. Girls love that ****.

#1 reason for a failing relationship is simply taking each other for granted. Always make an effort to compliment each other's day-to-day successes and accomplishments. Make your spouse feel special, especially when they've had a hard day. It's not the gimicky box of chocolates or flowers that will keep a marriage strong, although it's a pleasant distraction, it's the mutual respect you have for one another day-to-day that will keep your relationship strong.

A marriage is NOT a selfish union. It's all about taking care of each other - emotionally, physically, financially & spiritually. I see way too many people screw up relationships simply because they got too caught up in themselves.

Physical contact. A little kiss here and there out of nowhere, a stroke on the arm or back, touching the face, or any little bit of tactile activity. It helps to draw the other person in and increases intimacy and affection.

Having long, interesting conversations. Go and read a book about something that fascinates you and talk about it with your partner. Bouncing ideas off of each others heads gets the creative juices flowing, which in my case tends to get other juices flowing. ;)

Take up a new hobby together, or just get out and do something active together. Physical activity as we all know gets the yummy endorphines pumping. Sharing this with your lover will ensure that you both feel amazing at the end of the day, and that is a great recipe for a romantic evening. :)

Tell the person, "I love you" at least once per day.

My advice would be to delay marriage until at least the late-30's or early-40's to allow better appreciation of attributes.

So I guess, I'm ripe for marriage. :D

Physical contact. A little kiss here and there out of nowhere, a stroke on the arm or back, touching the face, or any little bit of tactile activity. It helps to draw the other person in and increases intimacy and affection.

Having long, interesting conversations. Go and read a book about something that fascinates you and talk about it with your partner. Bouncing ideas off of each others heads gets the creative juices flowing, which in my case tends to get other juices flowing. ;)

Take up a new hobby together, or just get out and do something active together. Physical activity as we all know gets the yummy endorphines pumping. Sharing this with your lover will ensure that you both feel amazing at the end of the day, and that is a great recipe for a romantic evening. :)

Those are some great ideas right there.

I just wish we could actually get around to using some of the stuff I have bought.

If you think handcuffs might help, you should google shibari. Obviously the results will be NSFW. The Japanese version with fewer, simpler knots sounds more appealing and possible for me. My boyfriend and I are both a little ADHD. :D

Lick her eyeball.

Actually, I find that licking my own eyeball gets her attention even quicker. (No, it's not a glass eye that pops out.)

Men, try helping with the housework. Vacuum naked. ;)

And watch where the dangly bits are in relation to the end of the vacuum. :eek:

I guess its important to remember we all need a little love now and then.

One thing I try to do is buy her flowers once in a while for no particular reason...Hmmm, I think I'm behind the times on this, perhaps tomorrow...:rolleyes:

I guess its important to remember we all need a little love now and then.

One thing I try to do is buy her flowers once in a while for no particular reason...Hmmm, I think I'm behind the times on this, perhaps tomorrow...:rolleyes:

You buy her flowers and she's gonna think you f'ed up big time...

Figure out what her "love language" is. Once I figured out that little acts of service meant more to my wife than presents, compliments, and physical attention our life together got a lot better.

Last Friday I called her at work and she told me that she was having the day from Hell. I got home before she did and got the house straightened up and got a nice dinner started. She walked in the door and saw the tracks of the vacuum cleaner, smelled the chicken parmesan mixed with the scent of the Lemon Pledge I had used on the furniture. Once dinner was over I told her to relax while I cleaned up the kitchen.

First thing I knew, she was in the shower shaving her legs and I knew it was going to be a good night. ;) We are both 56 years old and have been married more than 36 years.

You buy her flowers and she's gonna think you f'ed up big time...
:lol: so true.

My boyfriend knows I am not the sappy type though. I need to get him started on buying bike parts.

First thing I knew, she was in the shower...
Missed opportunity! :p

Here's some of the things I've done. It's the little thoughtful things that has the most impact: Leave love-notes on post-its in unsuspected places, in the cereal box, in the medicine-cabinet on her toothbrush, in her make-up compact, etc. Date the notes as some of them may take years to find.
send her love-notes via PM/IM/text-message
Pay attention to the little hints she drops on what turns her on. For example, my last GF commented casually in one of our conversationss on how she'd love to find a silverware spork. So I ordered a dozen dinner spoons with a nice peacock design on the handle. Proceeded to cut out little tines on the ends, filed down the edges to be sharp and after destroying 6 of them, PRESTO! A silverware spork! :)
On her birthday, send a card to her mother thanking her for giving birth to the most wonderful person on the planet.
don't buy flowers, make your own arrangement with the color-scheme and specific flowers that she likes best.
back-rubs after work, foot-massages, full-body massages are always appreciated.
get up early on weekend and make her a fantastic breakfast (be prepared to go back to bed)
rent out the entire back room of her favorite restaurant and have a romantic dinner with just the two of you. Violinist and waiter at attention would be cool.
love coupons
treasure hunt, around the house is easy, I set one up where she ran all around town to all her favorite shops to pick up clues and clothes and shoes and finally end up at the restaurant mentioned above.
take her to concert in limo
take her on a drive to catch the sunset at the beach or in the mountains.
arrest-warrant! Need a cop friend to pull this off. Make up a fake arrest-warrant and change the text around to say "love warrant" or some such cheesey thing. "wanted for, hot sexiness, etc, etc." Have her arrested at the end of the day (clear with her supervisor 1st). Then handcuffed and marched out to police-car, and driven to restaurant where you are waiting (at the beach, around sunset of course).
surprize weekend trip away

Figure out what her "love language" is. Once I figured out that little acts of service meant more to my wife than presents, compliments, and physical attention our life together got a lot better. ...

This is a great point. Some of the things that have been mentioned before are going to click for your partner, some of them are going to miss completely. I'm a lot like your wife, Olebiker... a boyfriend going out of his way to do something to make my life easier makes my knees all weak, but flowers (while NICE! And Appreciated! of Course!) don't have quite the same effect.

Bought our first tandem bicycle 10 years ago so we could spend more time together doing something that I was passionate about and that I thought she would also enjoy.

We do, she does, and everything has been better ever since. ;)

Here's some of the things I've done. It's the little thoughtful things that has the most impact: Leave love-notes on post-its in unsuspected places, in the cereal box, in the medicine-cabinet on her toothbrush, in her make-up compact, etc. Date the notes as some of them may take years to find.
send her love-notes via PM/IM/text-message
Pay attention to the little hints she drops on what turns her on. For example, my last GF commented casually in one of our conversationss on how she'd love to find a silverware spork. So ordered a dozen dinner spoons with a nice peacock design on the handle. Proceeded to cut out little tines on the ends, filed down the edges to be sharp and after destroying 6 of them, PRESTO! A silverware spork! :)
On her birthday, send a card to her mother thanking her for giving birth to the most wonderful person on the planet.
don't buy flowers, make your own arrangement with the color-scheme and specific flowers that she likes best.
back-rubs after work, foot-massages, full-body massages are always appreciated.
get up early on weekend and make her a fantastic breakfast (be prepared to go back to bed)
rent out the entire back room of her favorite restaurant and have a romantic dinner with just the two of you. Violinist and waiter at attention would be cool.
love coupons
treasure hunt, around the house is easy, I set one up where she ran all around town to all her favorite shops to pick up clues and clothes and shoes and finally end up at the restaurant mentioned above.
take her to concert in limo
take her on a drive to catch the sunset at the beach or in the mountains.
arrest-warrant! Need a cop friend to pull this off. Make up a fake arrest-warrant and change the text around to say "love warrant" or some such cheesey thing. "wanted for, hot sexiness, etc, etc." Have her arrested at the end of the day (clear with her supervisor 1st). Then handcuffed and marched out to police-car, and driven to restaurant where you are waiting (at the beach, around sunset of course).
surprize weekend trip away


Good Stuff :D

Missed opportunity! :p

I NEVER miss that opportunity.

I know this may sound sappy, but my wife and I have been a couple since 1967, when we were sixteen years old, and I am still just as infatuated with her as I was that hot June night that I asked her to dance with me. I remember details about that dance: The band was called the Somersets; the lead singer's name was Dave Valla; the song was "Summertime". They played it in a slow, languid tempo that allowed me to dance really close. What a great start to a long love affair...

Lauren, if I could just get her to get over her fear of motorcycles so I could buy one without stressing her out, things would be even more perfect.

I've always thought that was strange. I think that with the proper moto gear it's safer than the bicycle, since you can get out of the way and pass crazy drivers instead of hoping they don't hit you as they pass. Ah well, at least it's still working for you otherwise. What about a scooter? It sounds much safer, but they make 125, 250, and even 400cc scoots that go as fast and handle as well as a bike ;)

My boyfriend is about to pick up a parts bike for me. Now that's love. :p

I've always thought that was strange. I think that with the proper moto gear it's safer than the bicycle, since you can get out of the way and pass crazy drivers instead of hoping they don't hit you as they pass. Ah well, at least it's still working for you otherwise. What about a scooter? It sounds much safer, but they make 125, 250, and even 400cc scoots that go as fast and handle as well as a bike ;)

My boyfriend is about to pick up a parts bike for me. Now that's love. :p

I really have a case of the "I wants" for a Kawasaki Vulcan 900 Classic LT to use as a daily driver. A scooter just doesn't have the same appeal as a motorcycle. It's really funny that she is not afraid for me to be on the road on my bicycle, but a motorcycle just scares the bejeesus out of her.

Wipe her off with some spray cleaner and top off the air pressure. Always works for me.

Wipe her off with some spray cleaner and top off the air pressure. Always works for me.

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:roflmao:

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we are talking bikes here, right?

I really have a case of the "I wants" for a Kawasaki Vulcan 900 Classic LT to use as a daily driver. A scooter just doesn't have the same appeal as a motorcycle. It's really funny that she is not afraid for me to be on the road on my bicycle, but a motorcycle just scares the bejeesus out of her.
Ah, you live in a no helmet law state. I bet it'd be easier if she realized just how high quality some of the gear out there is.

Try taking her to the local cyclegear to get some chain lube. Seriously, motorcycle chain lube makes bicycle stuff look like water. You MUST get some to use on the bicycle, and she can see all the stuff that will keep you safe while you are out running errands. Even if you hated motorcycles, I'd tell you to at least go buy some chain lube. I love the honda white graphite but I have some chain wax that's not shabby either. Pretty much all of it's better than anything made for bicycles, and WELL worth the extra few bucks.

My mom was concerned about my safety, but is much less nervous now that she's seen the obscene amount of gear I own. It's almost half of my closet. :lol:

Wipe her off with some spray cleaner and top off the air pressure. Always works for me.
Honda spray polish!

Yes, my bicycles now get motorcycle chain lube and spray polish.

Honda spray polish!

Yes, my bicycles now get motorcycle chain lube and spray polish.
I loves me some honda spary polish. That stuffs is the dog's balls!!!!! I was about to add this after reading your post about chain lube. All I use on my bikes is Honda Spray Polish!!!!!!

Lets have a Foo bike cleaning party!

Poor doggie. :(

Yup, only now it's next dimension instead of honda. Same thing, different name

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