Foo - Lets be friends!

This coming from a girl I had a (one) date a couple years ago. She just randomly emailed me out of nowhere a couple weeks ago and wanted to see me. So we hung out, did stuff. I figured she was waiting for me to make a move.

Wrong.

I feel unbelievably stupid. Who better to tell than the anonymous members of bikeforums?

So you're saying that she just wanted to be friends and nothing else?

What can I tell you.. Thats really out of left field..

You have entered the friendzone. There is no way out.


Well...there are ways. But they are all incredibly difficult to pull off. Good luck.

Meh. Maybe she did want OP to make a move. Just not try for the grandslam on the first at-bat. :p

Better than hearing the statement "we're friends, friends with benefits, right?".


<nasty bad face here>

I had a girl I dated a little from a few years back, suddenly IM me out of the blue and ask if I would donate my "love juice" because she wanted to have a baby. Now THAT was weird.

I had a girl I dated a little from a few years back, suddenly IM me out of the blue and ask if I would donate my "love juice" because she wanted to have a baby. Now THAT was weird.



That was $800.00!:rolleyes:

I had a girl I dated a little from a few years back, suddenly IM me out of the blue and ask if I would donate my "love juice" because she wanted to have a baby. Now THAT was weird.

http://www.bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=326555

http://www.bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=326555



I don't think he was aiming for her head.

I don't think he was aiming for her head.

:roflmao:

So you're saying that she just wanted to be friends and nothing else?

I'm not sure I was listening after the point where I realized her answer was no. I asked if she wanted to be boyfriend/girlfriend.

Would've been better just to have gotten a no instead. ****.

Seriously I think I need some sort of girl secret decoder ring.

So you dated this woman once a couple of years back, she gets a hold of you out of no where and you ask her to be boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you even know her anymore?

Seriously I think I need some sort of girl secret decoder ring.

Not really. If it seems bizarre, then it probably IS bizarre. What she did is just plain weird.

So you dated this woman once a couple of years back, she gets a hold of you out of no where and you ask her to be boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you even know her anymore?

It's exactly these type of questions why I want to stab myself in the face with a rusty nail. Right now. I wouldn't call it dated, unless one date counts as "dated". And then, nothing happened for a year or two. Literally nothing. Then the email, bunch of lunches/stuff. And I figured you know - back to post #1. And here we are.

God, **** this.

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
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I seen you 'round for a long long time
I really 'membered you when you drink my wine

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I seen you walkin' down in Chinatown
I called you but you could not look around

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I bring my money to the welfare line
I see you standing in it every time

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

The color of your skin don't matter to me
As long as we can live in harmony

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I'd kinda like to be the President
so I can show you how your money's spent

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

Sometimes I don't speak too bright
but yet I know what I'm talking about

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I know you're working for the CIA
they wouldn't have you in the Mafia

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Ah life is what happens to you when you least expect it!:D

So you dated this woman once a couple of years back, she gets a hold of you out of no where and you ask her to be boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you even know her anymore?

heh. Was a bartender for several years, and saw the background to different things - saw mens doing it - saw womens doing it. Users. And it's sad that some people like this just don't care because it leaves the person wanting to date - a bad taste because the expectation may be that the next person may be like this last person ----- and it most likely won't be.

Scratch this one and move on.


I like you Siu!

It's exactly these type of questions why I want to stab myself in the face with a rusty nail. Right now. I wouldn't call it dated, unless one date counts as "dated". And then, nothing happened for a year or two. Literally nothing. Then the email, bunch of lunches/stuff. And I figured you know - back to post #1. And here we are.

God, **** this.

I bet she needed some kind of ego boost here. Maybe she has been feeling kind of down lately and needed to know that she still "has it"? Did she go through a break up recently?

TUDE: You ain't so bad yerself.........;)

My advice would be give it space and move away if you can.. Its only gonna get back to being the same old story x months from now..

I bet she needed some kind of ego boost here. Maybe she has been feeling kind of down lately and needed to know that she still "has it"? Did she go through a break up recently?
Ugh, I detest that mindset. It's not like they're playing with a doll with no feelings when they do this. :mad:

You have entered the friendzone. There is no way out.



Drunk sex is a gateway, sometimes leads to more. You just need toplay it like the yellow jersey, know exactly when to make your move hahaha :D

Ugh, I detest that mindset. It's not like they're playing with a doll with no feelings when they do this. :mad:

Ehhhhhhhh it's only operator. :rolleyes:

Just kidding there, mr. O. :p

Please be careful though. I can't stand users.

Yeah i'm the notorious ******* on here. I probably deserved this.

Ugh, I detest that mindset. It's not like they're playing with a doll with no feelings when they do this. :mad:

A friend of my girlfriend did something like this to see if she 'still had it'. When the subject was brought up in conversation va few weeks ago, I said, "WTF are you f-ing kidding me?". And the worst part she has a boyfriend who is in the Army...

This coming from a girl I had a (one) date a couple years ago. She just randomly emailed me out of nowhere a couple weeks ago and wanted to see me. So we hung out, did stuff. I figured she was waiting for me to make a move.

Wrong.

I feel unbelievably stupid. Who better to tell than the anonymous members of bikeforums?

My answer to that is "lets get drunk" LOL.

It's exactly these type of questions why I want to stab myself in the face with a rusty nail. Right now. I wouldn't call it dated, unless one date counts as "dated". And then, nothing happened for a year or two. Literally nothing. Then the email, bunch of lunches/stuff. And I figured you know - back to post #1. And here we are.

God, **** this.Dude, you gotta bang her within the first 2-3 meetings if you want anything more than "just friends"!!! By the time 4th meeting occurs with nothing happening, she's filed you away in that "comfortable friendly nice guy" category... :(

This coming from a girl I had a (one) date a couple years ago. She just randomly emailed me out of nowhere a couple weeks ago and wanted to see me. So we hung out, did stuff. I figured she was waiting for me to make a move.

Wrong.

I feel unbelievably stupid. Who better to tell than the anonymous members of bikeforums?



Let's just be friends, or LJBF, means she wants to be frined. She does not want to be intimate with you, or be anything that friends. In other words she want to use you. You have absolutely no hope of ever being more than a friend with her.

Thus, unless you want a friend, move on. Forget her and move on.

By the way, the way to be friend with a girl is never to think of her sexually. Otherwise she can never be a friend. But you have a real possibility of being an emotional tampton. Check this out: http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=emotional%20tampon&search=Search

My thought on girl friends, or firiends that are girl?

I don't ever want to be friend with a girl. UNLESS she has some rere friend qualities that I'm looking for. I only want zex form her. Else, if she's sooooo darn good I want her to be my wife. Rare.

Did he get banned just for being stupid or did I miss something good?

Did he get banned just for being stupid or did I miss something good?

For abuse of engrish maybe?

He was too much of a man for us.

http://www.bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=326896

Dude, you gotta bang her within the first 2-3 meetings if you want anything more than "just friends"!!! By the time 4th meeting occurs with nothing happening, she's filed you away in that "comfortable friendly nice guy" category... :(

I failed.

This coming from a girl I had a (one) date a couple years ago. She just randomly emailed me out of nowhere a couple weeks ago and wanted to see me. So we hung out, did stuff. I figured she was waiting for me to make a move.

Wrong.

I feel unbelievably stupid. Who better to tell than the anonymous members of bikeforums?

There's always Rosie Palm and the Finger sisters...:D

You have entered the friendzone. There is no way out.


Well...there are ways. But they are all incredibly difficult to pull off. Good luck.

BUT...going from friends to relationship almost guarantees something of commitment almost every time...

Sorry that happened to you, man.

I bet she needed some kind of ego boost here. Maybe she has been feeling kind of down lately and needed to know that she still "has it"? Did she go through a break up recently?Aaaarrrrgggggg!!!!! The memories. Stop the memories!. All of my single days I seemed to be a magnet for just this type of ****. It isn't any fun!

Operator, smile and move on. Save your ego and your sanity.

This doesn't surprise me one bit. Operator's modus operandi is to jump into some thread and, without reading any of the posts, impulsively insert something snarky like:


Shift poorly? Time to learn how to adjust your bike properly?
BB goes loose? Time to learn how to install it properly.

This PSA brought to you by, learn how to fix a bike.com.

If you're too lazy to take the time to read 15-20 posts on BF, good luck trying to read your date's needs and wants.

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Dude, you gotta bang her within the first 2-3 meetings if you want anything more than "just friends"!!! By the time 4th meeting occurs with nothing happening, she's filed you away in that "comfortable friendly nice guy" category... :(

My current GF would beg to differ.

Dude, you gotta bang her within the first 2-3 meetings if you want anything more than "just friends"!!! By the time 4th meeting occurs with nothing happening, she's filed you away in that "comfortable friendly nice guy" category... :(

Arrrgh! I'm Doomed!:eek: I usually get filed into that "comfortable friendly nice guy" category on the 1st meeting. There is obviously no hope for me.:p

Dude, you gotta bang her within the first 2-3 meetings if you want anything more than "just friends"!!! By the time 4th meeting occurs with nothing happening, she's filed you away in that "comfortable friendly nice guy" category... :(

As much as I hate to admit it, this is soooo true. Almost without exception, this has been my experience.

It's exactly these type of questions why I want to stab myself in the face with a rusty nail.

:eek:
post pics.

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I seen you 'round for a long long time
I really 'membered you when you drink my wine

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I seen you walkin' down in Chinatown
I called you but you could not look around

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I bring my money to the welfare line
I see you standing in it every time

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

The color of your skin don't matter to me
As long as we can live in harmony

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I'd kinda like to be the President
so I can show you how your money's spent

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

Sometimes I don't speak too bright
but yet I know what I'm talking about

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

I know you're working for the CIA
they wouldn't have you in the Mafia

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?

Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
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Why can't we be friends?

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Ah life is what happens to you when you least expect it!:D


Wow. When typed out, that song SUCKS.

Not even being a friend with benefits?

Buck Fuddy?

A friend of my girlfriend did something like this to see if she 'still had it'. When the subject was brought up in conversation va few weeks ago, I said, "WTF are you f-ing kidding me?". And the worst part she has a boyfriend who is in the Army...

this is gross.

The cliche' "fixed it for you" post:

Wow, that song SUCKS.

The cliche' "fixed it for you" post:

Thank you. I didn't want to be the first to say it.

Dude, you gotta bang her within the first 2-3 meetings if you want anything more than "just friends"!!! By the time 4th meeting occurs with nothing happening, she's filed you away in that "comfortable friendly nice guy" category... :(

I would agree with this in general, except I think if you simply TRY and get action within the first few dates, you still may be in the clear. Some people just want to play the game longer than others.

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post pics.


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I had a girl I dated a little from a few years back, suddenly IM me out of the blue and ask if I would donate my "love juice" because she wanted to have a baby. Now THAT was weird.

You're so right, KT.

I would agree with this in general, except I think if you simply TRY and get action within the first few dates, you still may be in the clear. Some people just want to play the game longer than others.Nothing wrong with keeping things going long-term. ;) I was just pointing out that how things begin has a HUGE impact on the long-term results you get. There's usually two common paths:

1. bang'em ASAP, be up-front about it, don't hold back and no need to hide anything. THEN you can choose to be "friends" afterwards. In fact, you pretty much have a 100% sure-shot at being friends after the deed. You have both the power AND the choice to be friends with a chic you've bagged. In fact, things are so much easier after you've ravaged them 20 different ways all night long. They'll take you out for meals, cook for you, maybe even do your laundry, pamper you, etc. It's up to YOU on how things progress in the future. However...

2. being "friends" means different things to a guy vs. a girl. Remember, there is no such thing as non-gendered communications. You will ALWAYS be a man speaking with a woman. So the words and their surrounding context will have different meanings to each person. When a woman thinks of a guy as "just friends", it's really not the same kind of friend as her chics. He's probably actually a little below them in importance. That's what happens when you are "nice". However, a guy that she thinks is "hot, sexy, and funny", she'll usually place higher importance than her chics.

Here's an interesting paradox though... guys who are "nice" and "just friends" are kinda sneaky and not as trustworthy. Because a lot of guys are weasels and accept "being friends" as somehow a stepping-stone to progress and think that somehow they can work their way in. HAH! They really just come across as shady and makes the girls uncomfortable. Whereas guys who are always trying to get into her pants are seen as more open, honest and trustworthy; girls can deal with these kinds of guys because the hotties are hit on 20-30x a day. So basically the paths look like this...

1. be a pig first --> leads to 100% chance of being friends as well. You'll have the best of both and have lots of possibilities to choose from.

2. be "nice guy friend" --> and you have maybe a 1% chance of ever hitting it. And even then, it'll be A LOT of work and everything will be on her terms.

So it's just a choice, pick your path that leads to the results you want. It's kinda like choosing a cheeseburger or ice-cream dessert. A lot of guys will pick ice-cream and try to force it to become a cheeseburger by putting it on a bun and putting cheese, pickles, ketchup and mustard on it. Still won't taste as good as a cheeseburger, just order what you want in the beginning.


For me and my fiancé, did I try to get into her pants right from the start? You bet! Did I bag her within the 1st month? Sure! Has this past year been full of fun, romance and juicy excitement? Hell yeah!!! If I had chosen the 2nd path, we'd probably still be "friends" and I'll probably be calling her up weekly trying to set up "dates" where I can try to pull some tricky "moves"... HAH! Life is short, go straight for dessert first!!! :)

Nothing wrong with keeping things going long-term. ;) I was just pointing out that how things begin has a HUGE impact on the long-term results you get. There's usually two common paths:

1. bang'em ASAP, be up-front about it, don't hold back and no need to hide anything. THEN you can choose to be "friends" afterwards. In fact, you pretty much have a 100% sure-shot at being friends after the deed. You have both the power AND the choice to be friends with a chic you've bagged. In fact, things are so much easier after you've ravaged them 20 different ways all night long. They'll take you out for meals, cook for you, maybe even do your laundry, pamper you, etc. It's up to YOU on how things progress in the future. However...

2. being "friends" means different things to a guy vs. a girl. Remember, there is no such thing as non-gendered communications. You will ALWAYS be a man speaking with a woman. So the words and their surrounding context will have different meanings to each person. When a woman thinks of a guy as "just friends", it's really not the same kind of friend as her chics. He's probably actually a little below them in importance. That's what happens when you are "nice". However, a guy that she thinks is "hot, sexy, and funny", she'll usually place higher importance than her chics.

Here's an interesting paradox though... guys who are "nice" and "just friends" are kinda sneaky and not as trustworthy. Because a lot of guys are weasels and accept "being friends" as somehow a stepping-stone to progress and think that somehow they can work their way in. HAH! They really just come across as shady and makes the girls uncomfortable. Whereas guys who are always trying to get into her pants are seen as more open, honest and trustworthy; girls can deal with these kinds of guys because the hotties are hit on 20-30x a day. So basically the paths look like this...

1. be a pig first --> leads to 100% chance of being friends as well. You'll have the best of both and have lots of possibilities to choose from.

2. be "nice guy friend" --> and you have maybe a 1% chance of ever hitting it. And even then, it'll be A LOT of work and everything will be on her terms.

So it's just a choice, pick your path that leads to the results you want. It's kinda like choosing a cheeseburger or ice-cream dessert. A lot of guys will pick ice-cream and try to force it to become a cheeseburger by putting it on a bun and putting cheese, pickles, ketchup and mustard on it. Still won't taste as good as a cheeseburger, just order what you want in the beginning.


For me and my fiancé, did I try to get into her pants right from the start? You bet! Did I bag her within the 1st month? Sure! Has this past year been full of fun, romance and juicy excitement? Hell yeah!!! If I had chosen the 2nd path, we'd probably still be "friends" and I'll probably be calling her up weekly trying to set up "dates" where I can try to pull some tricky "moves"... HAH! Life is short, go straight for dessert first!!! :)

someone sticky this post!!!