Fifty Plus (50+) - Should we fall in love

at our age w/someone new????????????:eek:



and then to keep it OT, take a bike tour together????????

ps: I'm single and my SO has decided to stay at home. She has too many other obligations for foreign travel.

I'm sorry, but I don't understand the question...

I'm not clear about your question, either. Are you asking if it's OK at our age to leave your significant other at home and travel with a new lover on a sneaky, adulterous bike ride?

I'm not clear about your question, either. Are you asking if it's OK at our age to leave your significant other at home and travel with a new lover on a sneaky, adulterous bike ride?

Now that sounds fascinating! Do tell! Do tell!

Put me on the list with those who don't understand the question. But my kneejerk response before I realized I didn't know what you were asking was, "If you can decide whether to do it, it isn't love." Maybe I'm spoiled by a great 35-year marriage, but to me, love isn't something you can schedule or control to a significant degree. You can decide to break up a relationship, but that's a different thing.

If you are going to break it off, have the decency to do it now, before the other woman.

Just for the record, any single ladies wanting to experiment with this in my area are free to give me a call :rolleyes:

Richard

Just for the record, any single ladies wanting to experiment with this in my area are free to give me a call :rolleyes:

Richard

:roflmao:

Remember the immortal (immoral?) words of CSN&Y "if you're not with the one you love, then love the one you're with"

:roflmao:

Remember the immortal (immoral?) words of CSN&Y "if you're not with the one you love, then love the one you're with"

I believe the lyrics are, "If you can't be with the one you love, honey, love the one you're with...":rolleyes:

I believe the lyrics are, "If you can't be with the one you love, honey, love the one you're with...":rolleyes:
Yeah, that does kinda sound more like it.

Its just a machine for pete's sake!..........its not love.................its infatuation.

I'm reading this as someone who either is married AND seperated, or divorced but still in contact with former spouse, who now has new boy/girlfriend that he/she wants to take on a cycling vacation ?

Or maybe not ?.

SB

Absolutely!
fall in love, shack up, and get a tandem!

Actually aren't you old enough to know better??? To me this isn't even a funny question, just weird. :mad:

I'm not clear about your question, either. Are you asking if it's OK at our age to leave your significant other at home and travel with a new lover on a sneaky, adulterous bike ride?

Adultery? He's not married. It says significant other, not wife.

He's asking the group to endorse sleeping around?

Wasn't there an earlier post asking for advise on whether to break up with the SO?

This isn't even funny, just sad.

Actually aren't you old enough to know better??? To me this isn't even a funny question, just weird. :mad:

Right Pam,

Just weird! Alright, it isn't really clear what the question is, . . . but it sounds like there's a lot going on in the background that isn't reflected in the question :rolleyes:.

Rick / OCRR

at our age w/someone new????????????:eek:



and then to keep it OT, take a bike tour together????????

ps: I'm single and my SO has decided to stay at home. She has too many other obligations for foreign travel.

Let Dr. Laura sort it out...

clarification bluntly stated. No adultery.

My SO for several yrs. refuses to travel. I love travel; hence, the relationship is on the outs...for the second time.

I'm 60. Is that too old to look for another relationship--this time w/someone that loves travel and bikes?

No time for foreign travel? BIKE ARKANSAS! :)

So if you're not committed by marriage or connected by children, I don't think it's that big a deal to...

Slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
No need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free.

Hop on the bus, Gus
Don't need to discuss much
Drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free.

Thanks for the clarification. If the relationship with the SO is over, and you have communicated that to her, then go for it! If not, then end it, and then go for it! My step-father is 86. He has a girlfriend (my mother died about three years ago). It's never too late. And good for the body and mind and soul.

"Catch and Release" posts probably belong on a bass fishing forum.

Never to old to start again. sad that you cannot work out the travel thing, as there must be some good qualities that have kept you together over the years.

My Dad used to hte to ravel and Mom had the travel bug. In the last few years of this ife he started to enjoy some travel, then he died. Mom has continued to travel. Point is some people do change on travel. Why doesthe SO refuse to travel? Is it something that can be cured?

Geesh............and I thought you had fallen in love with a new bike.....:rolleyes:

People of every age should be in love.
I have spoken.

I believe the lyrics are, "If you can't be with the one you love, honey, love the one you're with...":rolleyes:

I think Steven Stills did this as a solo effort.

clarification bluntly stated. No adultery.

My SO for several yrs. refuses to travel. I love travel; hence, the relationship is on the outs...for the second time.

I'm 60. Is that too old to look for another relationship--this time w/someone that loves travel and bikes?


Then do the right thing... make a clean break. Separate and go your own way and when you are ready to enter into another relationship (and buddy a healthy minded person would wait and let time past) then look for someone else. My suggestion, start riding with a club - generally a great place to meet other people with similar interests. Or you can just advertise for a travelling mate. There's a weird book out there about doing just that called (something like) "Adventures With Coconut Head"

Also week long rides are a great way to meet folks. I've met several gentlemen that way who have become good friends. I guess it's never too old to look for a relationship. But you are old enough to know how to treat a woman better. If you are asking this question and still with your SO, then, well, my not so humble opinion (as Dr. L would say) is you have some growing up to do.

If you are asking this question and still with your SO, then, well, my not so humble opinion (as Dr. L would say) is you have some growing up to do.

On some aspects of my life, I hope I never grow up. Maybe I should change my name to Peter Pan.:)

I think there's too much thought going into this. If it feels good, do it!

I think Pam is exactly right.

I met my wife while riding with the bike club (no, not the one Pam rides with!) and we travel together, go on week long rides together, even ride double centuries together, and we are currently in the process of Living Happily Ever After!

Rick / OCRR

Geesh............and I thought you had fallen in love with a new bike.....:rolleyes:

I think the OP's abilty to define himself as "single" yet having a "SO" is what leads to the confusion that no doubt might carry over into his personal life...:p

No one is ever too old to fall in love...:love:

clarification bluntly stated. No adultery.

My SO for several yrs. refuses to travel. I love travel; hence, the relationship is on the outs...for the second time.

I'm 60. Is that too old to look for another relationship--this time w/someone that loves travel and bikes?

At your age, with your level of fitness, and enough funds for foreign travel adventures....well, as they say in the military, it's a "Target Rich Environment". Enjoy! (But, watch out for gold diggers ;)).

I'm 60. Is that too old to look for another relationship--this time w/someone that loves travel and bikes?

Absolutely not!!! If you're alive and kicking, you should seek out a good companion for yourself.

Maybe the SO is ready for the OP to go.

Have the chat.
Be simple and direct.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Then go and have some fun!!

card:

I rather think of myself as young at heart as well. I rather play in the dirt then go to fancy restaurants, watch Simpsons and South Park than some chick flick and not be particularly responsible, but... if I had a SO sitting at home, I wouldn't be trolling for dates elsewhere. Even kids know that is wrong.

I really hope you are just trying to make conversation and am not serious. At least I choose to believe that is the case otherwise I feel bad for the lady you leave sitting at home. If you are serious, for her sake break it off and move on. Let her find someone who appreciates her and what she has to offer.

Sorry for getting so serious but for some reason I don't expect posts like this on this forum - Foo or the So Cal Regional thread maybe but not here.

And the guy comes down all over my sorry a** because I wondered aloud about a divorce?
Just do it. Or don't. Them's purty much your choices

And the guy comes down all over my sorry a** because I wondered aloud about a divorce?
Just do it. Or don't. Them's purty much your choices

Sir, only because you came down on my posterior about dogs and grammer. I would assume the same choices would apply to your Foo'd thread with the deleted posts; however, I don't claim to be a wordsmith, just a simple hick from the backwoods of Texas.

Originally Posted by SaiKaiTai
And the guy comes down all over my sorry a** because I wondered aloud about a divorce?
Just do it. Or don't. Them's purty much your choices

Sir, only because you came down on my posterior about dogs and grammer. I would assume the same choices would apply to your Foo'd thread with the deleted posts; however, I don't claim to be a wordsmith, just a simple hick from the backwoods of Texas.

You boys play nice :p

You boys play nice :p

I would like to; however, it seems since I've been on this forum, someone has derived great pleasure flaming me. Hence, I lowered myself to strike out on his divorce thread. Obviously, my striking back hit a nerve. I come here to have fun, play and gain biking info. If that is wrong, my appologies.

I would like to; however, it seems since I've been on this forum, someone has derived great pleasure flaming me. Hence, I lowered myself to strike out on his divorce thread. Obviously, my striking back hit a nerve. I come here to have fun, play and gain biking info. If that is wrong, my appologies.

Well that's explains alot.

The Foo thread is where you go to flame and enflame... This forum is playful but in a G rated way.
And personally I like it that way. If I wanted sleeze there are other forums to post on. If you are trolling for dates try cyclesingles.com.

This forum is playful but in a G rated way.


And here I thought it was PG-50+ ......:D

You boys play nice :p

I'm being nice :D

I think he's just simply asking for our opinion, among "friends". Card, it seems that you know what to do, or at least what you want to do. Be honest with yourself and your lady friend, and if you do break it off then do it gently and let her go in friendship. If you want to find a cycling companion, then the suggestions to join a club or go on a bike tour sound like a great idea. And I don't know why you say you don't write well, cuz you do!

Not being weakened by having your precious bodily fluids drained away in frivolous convolutions with any SO will make you a faster, harder rider. We here at BF50Plus are in accord on that.

Not being weakened by having your precious bodily fluids drained away in frivolous convolutions with any SO will make you a faster, harder rider. We here at BF50Plus are in accord on that.

So THAT explains why I'm so slow! ;)

There's a Lyle Lovett song floating around here somewhere.

I'm being nice :D

OK, kids. Hug it out....And CrossChain, I know not of which you speak. I do possess chain degreaser. All other fluids seem to have evaporated.

Sir, only because you came down on my posterior about dogs and grammer. I would assume the same choices would apply to your Foo'd thread with the deleted posts; however, I don't claim to be a wordsmith, just a simple hick from the backwoods of Texas.

Did so!

Did not!!

Did so!

Did not!!
:D:D

are you living with this person or do you both maintain separate residences? If you cohabitate then its gonna be pretty messy breaking it off. If not at least you won't get kicked out. If you don't want to be with this person then get on with the getting on

Not being weakened by having your precious bodily fluids drained away in frivolous convolutions with any SO will make you a faster, harder rider. We here at BF50Plus are in accord on that.

As the Ab Fab Eddy and Patsy learned to chant in a retreat for menopausal women, "Embrace the dryness!"