Foo - i cant do this

im pathetic

oi cant do this anymore
she talked ane we talked tonight and i love her
but already there are guys talking to her on faceobok, like roaches they com e out of the woodwork and she is there waiting for the bait,t hese ****ing creeps

there is no point to it alll...whatsthe pint

You had a little to drink tonight didn't you?

youd think it would erase it all

Timmy, cheer up bro, there are so many other fish in the sea. So many more people to meet, and new love to experience. I know it hurts right now, but when you went in you knew it may not work or last, right? Your glad you did it anyways, right? Hold your head up man, and take some time to heal. I know, you're going to feel like a steaming pile of horse dung for awhile, but it's ok, you'll find someone new. Best thing to do is ignore her, and all the facebook pervs that are flocking. I know it doesn't seem like anything matters right now, but after time you'll feel better, you'll bounce back.

i called my own mother, as a lkast resort, she ahd nothing to say....


i'm a fish in an empty sea....

What's her facebook ID?

Timmy, believe it or not, Jon makes a good point. Seriously.

But, I know you still have early infatatious feelings, and these are hard to "let go." I promise you that you will feel this way at least once or twice more before you finally feel that it's "right" and decide to "pursue" very vigorously a particular relationship. And she will likely be quite receptive to your efforts, for that's when you know it's "clickin'" all around.

Timmy, it might "happen" at your age, but it usually really "clicks" best around 25 or so. <shrug>

Others for whom it's worked much younger will disagree. And that's ok. But they might just have to admit that they are in the minority? :o :)

Eh, Timmy, it's not about fish. It's about humans. It's harder than just baiting a hook again. And yeah, you can have a very serious love affair at your age, and it sounds like you've had one. I'm not going to belittle your loss.

Rather than look toward the next woman, maybe you should work at mourning your broken relationship in a thoughtful way. Don't drink too much now that you've had your achy-breaky drunk. Spend time with friends. Really ramp up the bike rides, set some mileage goals. You ARE going to think about her and grieve, but try to think and grieve while you're riding, not while you're drinking or sitting around in your room. Also, give yourself permission NOT to think about her, to drop the torch when you're ready.

I'm not surprised your mom has little to say, though she's likely worried about you. Ever thought about telling the whole story to a counselor of some kind? Telling the story to a stranger may help you see it as a story. You begin to direct the drama, not just react to it.

By the way, I understand your hyperbole, but your ex has a right to break up with you. She has a right to talk to and date other men, and it's quite likely the men interested in her are not cockroaches, creeps, or pervs. Don't be a creepy voyeur to her facebook conversations, not good for you or her. Let it slide.

Seriously if she's as dumb as you lead me to think she is by "being baited by guys on facebook" you can find someone much more intelligent and worth your time.

<pity post>

The guys were always there, Timmy, you just notice them now. And they'll always be there, no matter which woman you are with. Unless completely you trust the woman you are with these men will always be in the back of your mind, love or not.

Stay off of Facebook.....
it will just draw out the misery indefinately.
Not to trivialize your suprmeme hurt, but wut yer peepz say
is true.....Another person will come along eventually ( in their
time, not yours, unfortunately) and you will wonder why you ever got
so upset. Time really, really does heal. As a grotty grumpy old jaded
kurmudgeon, When my relationships eneded, I came to enjoy the anticipation
of the ineviatable new beginning more than mourn the old.
It'll happen...patience grasshoppah.

Stay off of Facebook.....
it will just draw out the misery indefinately.
Not to trivialize your supreme hurt, but wut yer peepz say
is true.....Another person will come along eventually ( in their
time, not yours, unfortunately) and you will wonder why you ever got
so upset. Time really, really does heal. As a grotty grumpy old jaded
kurmudgeon, When my relationships ended, I came to enjoy the anticipation
of the ineviatable new beginning more than mourn the old.
It'll happen...patience grasshoppah.

i agree with ziemas and lem

when me and my g/f of 6 years broke up i deleted my facebook account and avoided her as much as possible. it helped. so did my bike.

Get friends.

Seriously.

Best thing for me was a certain female friend who REALLY wanted me to get over one girl. Of course, I'm 99% sure she had a motive for that. ;)

http://photos-a.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sf2p/v108/236/6/14827881/n14827881_35835684_3951.jpg

i agree with ziemas and lem

when me and my g/f of 6 years broke up i deleted my facebook account and avoided her as much as possible. it helped. so did my bike.


Yep....Good advice !
Bike = guitar !

Bike to a coffeehouse and hangout tonite.
Get out of your apartment.

:beer: <-----( coffee ;) )

i agree with ziemas and lem

when me and my g/f of 6 years broke up i deleted my facebook account and avoided her as much as possible. it helped. so did my bike.


Yep....Good advice !
Bike = guitar !

Bike to a coffeehouse and hangout tonite.
Get out of your apartment.

:beer: <-----( coffee ;) )

Yeah, the binge drinking didn't help me much.

Yeah, the binge drinking didn't help me much.

Never does, Bro! Like others have said, get out and about! Hit a coffeehouse and totally embarrass yourself in an open mike night or something like that ;) Have fun!:p It's the best medicine as well as the best form of revenge....to live well. :D

Never does, Bro! Like others have said, get out and about! Hit a coffeehouse and totally embarrass yourself in an open mike night or something like that ;) Have fun!:p It's the best medicine as well as the best form of revenge....to live well. :D

This is good advice....do it, and soon!
From what I've read about this young lady through your posts, your better off if you move on. Get out on the town with some freinds, go for a long bike ride, a weekend backpacking trip, karaoke night at the local comedy house, or something to have fun and get away from your thoughts about her. It hurts like hell now, but in no time you'll realise that you're better off without her.

just my 2 cents.

I haven't gone on a bikeride all week...i think now is a good time, cold though :-(

1. Lose the avatar.

2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

3. Grow a pair and move forward. You are not the first person to lose a love. In fact many people on these forums have suffered FAR MORE than you are right now. Yet they moved on and lived life with courage.

4. Bookmark this thread so you can re-read it someday. Never let somebody have so much control over your happiness. A spouse/girlfriend can disappear in an instant for any number of reasons. You have to be able to move on. You need to learn to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone. I don't think you ever have. (Trust me on this one.)

Roll down here to Fl !!
My House is right on the beach and I fall in love/lust
at least 5 times every 1/2 mile ! A lot of natures
beauty to take your mind of of anything....Work, the
rent....the bent rim...the test, etc...nothing matters !
:roflmao:

Im talking about the giant Bufo Toads mind you, lest your
young, fertive imagination thinks otherwise ;)

I am not meaning this to be as cruel as it is going to sound.

If you aren't happy being around yourself by yourself, why should she be happy being around you? Don't let any person "complete" you - be complete in and of yourself and you will be plenty attractive. And you will be happy when you are alone too.

Portis is right - time to move on.

1. Lose the avatar.

2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

3. Grow a pair and move forward. You are not the first person to lose a love. In fact many people on these forums have suffered FAR MORE than you are right now. Yet they moved on and lived life with courage.

4. Bookmark this thread so you can re-read it someday. Never let somebody have so much control over your happiness. A spouse/girlfriend can disappear in an instant for any number of reasons. You have to be able to move on. You need to learn to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone. I don't think you ever have. (Trust me on this one.)


Although i know you're right, let us not assume anything.

I've gone through plenty in my life, and a part of me feels as though this is the last straw. How long can a person be strong? Some more then others i suppose.

Did she cheat on you in your own house in an orgy involving you best friend while you were stuck in a stinking cesspit of a country on the other side of the world? Then, when you get back did she divorce you and take everything including your kids from you? No? Then it can get worse huh?

Time to nut up and act like a man. A stupid woman leaving you is not even in the same zip code as the last straw. It's the next door neighbor of a bad hang nail or a D in sex ed class.

Sack up, screw your head on straight, and move on!

Although i know you're right, let us not assume anything.

I've gone through plenty in my life, and a part of me feels as though this is the last straw. How long can a person be strong? Some more then others i suppose.

My prescription for you is simple - get a passport and go into a third world country - Nicaragua would be a good choice - and see how the other 95% of the world lives. Spend a year or two helping others.

Be strong? You aren't even out of wimpsville. A friend of mine had the Sandinistas gut his sister in law before his eyes and take everything he had.

And he is so happy to be alive. You need to get a perspective.

timmy,

I know that this period has been difficult for you but I feel as though you should try and move on. I've been in your shoes before of having someone break up with me abruptly but, I was able to move on. Yes, it's going to be difficult to see her with another guy or seeing her talk to other guys but, you need to be the better person and not let it bother you. Please stop sulking around being depressed for it's only making you feel worse and not helping the situation. If you could only try maybe you'll find something that would make you feel slightly better for, I'm sorry to say, but at the rate you're going you're going no where. If you could do one thing for me it would be to try and do something that would put a smile on your face. Go out for a long bike ride. Go out with you buddies to a baseball game or something. Don't even think about love or another girl. Right now it's about you. Do things that YOU want to do.

If you only lived closer to Chicago I would try to help you out somehow. If you need someone to talk to you know where to find me.

Although i know you're right, let us not assume anything.

I've gone through plenty in my life, and a part of me feels as though this is the last straw. How long can a person be strong? Some more then others i suppose.

I guess by that you mean, that you believe you have suffered far more than any of us here knows. That might be. Maybe you have suffered more than anyone on these forums, I have no way of knowing that. Still doesn't change a single thing.

The only thing ANY of us have control over is TODAY. What we do today defines tomorrow. And about yesterday? For too many of us it defines both who we are today and tomorrow, odd thing is...you can't do a single thing to change yesterday. Once that is understood today and tomorrow get a lot easier to handle.

There's a lot of wise advice on this thread, Timmy. I think you should re-read Krink and Lem's posts. If you do things that increase endorphins in your body, it will help. Your bike is calling you, Timmy.

Breakups suck. :( Go for a ride and do whatever you can to keep yourself busy. Whatever you do, don't keep going to facebook and continue to obsess over this!

One thing I forgot to add earlier....never tell yourself you can't do something. That becomes self fulfilling. As soon as you tell yourself you can't do it, then you can't, cause you've convinced yourself so.

I guess by that you mean, that you believe you have suffered far more than any of us here knows. That might be. Maybe you have suffered more than anyone on these forums, I have no way of knowing that. Still doesn't change a single thing.

Wow, that's...exactly what i said :rolleyes:

Great advice Modo! A little positive thinking goes a long way. You CAN do this! You can get over this, you're going to be just fine. :)

im pathetic


>in my best botto<
Correct.

If none of this other stuff works, I'm going to prescribe some Sedaka. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1aFymSogiUY)

If none of this other stuff works, I'm going to prescribe some Sedaka. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1aFymSogiUY)

:lol:

i'm getting on the bike...

Timmy,


Do 100 push-ups a day, ride your bike, don't touch the sauce, don't get high and obsess over her.


Maybe I have suffered. Perhaps I learned something by it. Maybe I can pass what I learned on to another...


After being run over by a truck, having a seizure and breaking my skull, and losing my girl...I'm still here.

I hate cliche Hallmark endings, but guess what? I really am better off, and stronger despite it all.

Once your head clears you will look back and wonder what good the man on the verge of giving up is to you.

Never give up. If you think you life is bad guess what?

YOU can change IT.



Now get to it. I told you countless times that I am hard on you because you remind me of me at that age. I didn't have my father alive to be tough and honest with me. Last count, you have at least three fathers and five big bothers, several big sisters, hundreds of loving family and friends on this forum.

Don't give up. If you do, Portis and I will kick your ass...or worse, chipcom and jsharr will provide you with expert 1-on-1 sexual counseling. Do you really want that, brother? No, no you don't.

Take care timmy. I have a lot to do today but I'll check back later to see what you're up to.

~James

Hang in there buddy! All great advice here, don't ignore it; guys typically don't get so much support from their friends! My main suggestion is to do everything BUT think about her. Do what others recommended, get into physical activity, work on your career, work on yourself, you're #1, remember that! To help facilitate that, I recommend NOT using your weeping emotions to dictate your actions everyday. That'll just make you sit around wallowing in your misery. Instead, make to-do lists for yourself every day. Things like:

1. make breakfast
2. go to work
3. have lunch with co-workers
4. do club ride at 5:30pm
5. do happy-hour
6. hit karaoke club

etc., etc., etc... Remember, YOU are #1, you're the most wonderful person in your life, no one else deserves as much attention. :)

Danno, Danno - don't give bad advice like that....

KARAOKE NOOOOO!

I think that my have been the most intense ride i've ever taken, despite the fact that it was only 25 miles....

More on it in a bit...

Attached a ********** to the top tube? :eek: :roflmao:

My first breakup was pretty difficult - but I'm so so glad that things like Facebook weren't around then.

That kind of stuff is evil when you're in this state, Timmy. Wipe it. Just wipe any thoughts of going there, it's far too tempting to wind yourself up like you have. Remove the bookmark and don't go NEAR that place.

Krink, Lem, and Serendipper are on the money - you will go through ***** and come out again. In the meantime work on yourself. I understand where you're at and can only say that everyone has their own way of getting over someone. I simply wish you the best of luck and remind you that there are many here who have been in your situation.

Life is wonderful.