Mountain - Plains - "Dating" Advice for in Colorado Springs
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10-09-07, 04:07 PM
Hey guys, I know that this is not about bikes but it IS a regional forum so I hopes that someone around here might know what to answer for my questions.
There is a certain lady that I really like and she clearly professed interest in me (lol, I one of those guy thinking, "Wow, I can't believe that such a beautiful woman likes me this much" lol) But unfortunately I've never had much of any relational experience with dating and wonder if anybody here have any suggestion of where to go out should we get bored.
Where and when: We are supposed to meet at a bookstore at 6 tomorrow. Not sure what we are going to do there later on but i'm ok with it since we will mainly chat our butt off (I just hope that I don't make her laught too hard and get us kicked out for "disturbing the peace")
Mainly I was just wondering if anybody here knows of anything going on tomorrow that may be worth it to go to should we get bored. Unfortunately since I'm a bit unemployed, it will have to be cheap or free (don't worry, I'm trying to come up with some extra money. I found out about a place that may buy my computer games and I have enough of them to maybe get enough money to help out big time).
P.S. Neither of us mentioned the word "Date" but I think it is going to be close enough to one considering how we talked to each other via txt msg/e-mail.
P.S.S. Oh in case you was wondering how much of a experience I might have with these thing, I have never gone on a real date before. All of the (4) ex I have was all a social match-up and none of them ever had any spark between us. But I do feel something between me and this pretty lady :D
yet another P.S. Mod, if you believe that this is the wrong forum to post this in, please move it to a appropriate forum rather than deleting it outright.
10-09-07, 04:37 PM
Oh, I'll be back tomorrow morning at around 10 here to check up on this thread. I hopes that somebody have a good suggestion for me. Have a good night y'all :D
I'll leave this post here. Okay my advice. Since your going to a bookstore to meet, see if there is a coffee shop inside. If not find one. Its the best place to visit and chat. From the sounds of it, you both seem to have some things in common. If this is the case, then you shouldn't have any problems chatting it up for a few hours.
Also, if you don't want to hang at the coffee shop, what about a walk in the park, or a small hike??
These are all things that cost little or NO money. :)
I wish you the best of luck and really just relax!!! Be yourself and have a good time!!!
10-10-07, 10:35 AM
thanks :D Yeah I know about the relaxing part. That was one of the reason why I like her, it is soo easy to relax around her :) though about the going for a walk or hiking, I'm not sure how much of a outdoor person she is yet But I'll ask about it tonight anyway. But Unfortunately, by the time we could be ready to go for a walk it would be dark and since both of us are deaf and communicate via sign language, we needs the light.
Still it is a great suggestion for another time cause I know palmer park north of my home have a slightly isolated picnic areas that could be a nice place to hang out for lunch or a sunset dinner (wow, that sound like a great idea since some of the picnic area can clearly see the pike peak mountain directly to the west during sunset).
P.S. oh i forgot to include that the bookstore do indeed have a coffee shop in it. It is also conviently near the mall since I've just heard from her that she might want to buy a pant for a concert (in nov) she is planning to go to. and the mall have a bunch of good store like "Hot Topics" and whatnot.
10-10-07, 02:23 PM
It seems you have lots of things to do and share at a bookstore. While you are visiting in the coffee shop section of the bookstore, ask her what books she likes. If she is not that fond of reading, ask her about music or movies. Go find those parts of the store and look at some of those books or CDs or DVDs together. Have her tell you what she liked about her favorites. She will ask you about your interests. Talk about the authors or the plots or the artists or the actors in whatever you are discussing. A brilliant conversationalist is one who shows interest in the other person and lets that person do most of the talking. If she has a favorite movie you have not seen, it would be a great opportunity to make a second date to rent the movie and view it together. And, remember what the Germans said during reunification in the early 1990s: "What belongs together, grows together."
10-10-07, 03:25 PM
my favorite first date was a run around washington park up here in Denver. When she decided that we should do two laps and then we both kicked it up on our last mile and we both finished pretty exhausted, I was sold on her. That was 11 years ago, now I call her my wife. Do something outside, hike, run, walk, or even better go for a bike ride.
10-11-07, 05:23 PM
:D for a little while I had thought that the "date" had gone a little stale. But today just now, I went to see her before her class at the downtown PPCC to try and calm her down (she was quite a bit stressed about the amount of homeworks that she had). It worked quite a bit and since her class is going to take about a hour and half, I should be able to finish everything I need to do in the library and go over to her class and pretend to take picture of her dancing. She is a bit shy but laugh rather easily so it should be easy to keep seeing her around :D
One Great New though, I found out that she used to LOVE riding around on a bike. So I will attempt to find her a free bike and fix it up for her to have fun with me on a ride around town and whatnot. Hopefully it'll help her out all around since she is a dance major (with a focus on modern dancing I think).
Twobikes, I've done just that :D instead of staying at the bookstore, we went to the nearby mall for her to look at a store with a pant that she want to buy. We ended up talking some about her favorite band and whatnot. I just loves the fact that she is only gothic-style dressed up (what I mean is that she perfer to dress up slightly gothic but not to the point of wearing odd article of clothing like a furry tail and ear or shaving her head bald and whatnot like I've seen other people around do). And I do love the look :D It is just easy to talk to her about her fave things and whatnot. She loves scary movie so I may invite her sometime later to my apartment to watch a DVD that she haven't seen.
Any good suggestion for a new scary movie that is released on DVD?
Jeez, I love finally being able to actually talk to a lady like I do with her. Been soo long since I've done that. I'll see her again this saturday for one of the bi-weekly deaf meet at the mall :D I just hope that none of the other guys there try to hit on her too lol
Heh, Look like i'm having a little difficulties thinking straight for now. I'll be off and surfing around :D C'ya around later!
10-11-07, 06:11 PM
It sounds like things went fairly well for the two of you. I have not watched any scary movies, but I like things that are light, entertaining, and funny. It is an old movie now, but I enjoyed "Second Hand Lions." I also enjoyed "Open Range." I do not remember anything in either of those that would embarrass either of you to watch, especially with the other present. If you enjoy each other's company, it really will not matter what activity you choose for a date. The important thing will be spending time together.
10-15-07, 01:16 PM
Sigh, 2 word: third-wheel
what is it about nice guy that always seem to scare girls into relationship (not including the nice guy)? the last few girls I liked ended up going into seperate relationships after me becoming more friendly and nicer with them. I don't means being more obsessive but simply becoming much more understanding and trying to help them with stuffs like stresses and whatnot.
Oh well, at least once I get my road bike fixed, I can start looking around some more and this time, within the colorado springs cycling club since a member said that she would help to get my membership paid if neccessary. and there are several peoples in general that knows sign language so it may be a very good place to start making more friends and see how it goes.
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