Foo - Find bpohl a girlfriend!!

Okay, so there's been something I've been noticing lately. All of the other guys are getting all of the girls. I find this quite troubling, as I think I'm at least somewhat of a catch. I'm 28, have a good job, own a house, own a car, and am pretty responsible. I'm not super attractive, but I don't think I'm horrible looking, either. I've been okay with being single the past couple years, but it's getting to me more these days. I'm not desperate (maybe a little lonely); I just kinda feel like, at 28 years old, it's really time to be doing the things I always pictured myself doing by this age. The girls I've met in the past year so just never seem to hold my interest. I know all of you have to know at least one girl around my age who would knock my socks off. Let's see them...

I'm now available for any questions.

hmmmmm... you are a little late for when they were picking cabana boys....:p

You just described me. Except for the attractive part. I am super attractive. And I am single. And I am okay with it.

Correct :(

You just described me. Except for the attractive part. I am super attractive. And I am single. And I am okay with it.

I was just trying to be somewhat modest. Jeez.

I don't know... I've been intensely okay with it for the past couple years, but I still have yet to meet a girl with whom I think I could spend any length of time.

I was just trying to be somewhat modest. Jeez.

I don't know... I've been intensely okay with it for the past couple years, but I still have yet to meet a girl with whom I think I could spend any length of time.

I know the feeling. Modesty will likely get you farther than my post.

I don't know... I've been intensely okay with it for the past couple years, but I still have yet to meet a girl with whom I think I could spend any length of time.

Well, you have the rest of your life to figure out who you want to spend... the rest of your life with. :p Take your time! It does suck being lonely, though--I'm with ya there.

Well, you have the rest of your life to figure out who you want to spend... the rest of your life with. :p Take your time! It does suck being lonely, though--I'm with ya there.

How YOU doin'?



:roflmao::roflmao::roflmao:

I'm gonna go buy a new sofa. Maybe that will help!

Snowy just posted a very similar thread about a week ago. Maybe you need to take a trip to Colorado and go riding (bike riding) with Snowy. ;)

This is assuming you are ok with slightly older women and she is ok with slightly younger men. She's like 3 or 4 years older than you I think.

A bed would probably do ya better than a sofa. :p

this thread is the reason Al Gore won a nobel prize for inventing internet p0rn.

the inconvenient truth is that you need to go to Vegas and hang outside the pepperment rhino for the worked up womin that come out primed for action.

no need to thank me for the advise. your welcome.

I just buy another pinball machine. I figure I can wait until I'm rich, then get a young chick that just wants me for my money. Since my net worth is about $200,000, I figure I have another 20 years before I need to worry about this. Bigger house, another pinball machine.

hmmmmm... you are a little late for when they were picking cabana boys....:p

Really! What does one have to do to have a cabana boy?

Really! What does one have to do to have a cabana boy?

Request one and see if he is agreeable, I guess. :)

I feels your pain. I even have good Jeans now..

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51xT9fKEaHL._BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-dp-500-arrow,TopRight,45,-64_OU01_AA240_SH20_.jpg

Really! What does one have to do to have a cabana boy?

wow, you didn't pick?

looks like bpohl is available:)

Really! What does one have to do to have a cabana boy?

Damn, I missed that thread, too!

Be confident. That's the most sought after quality a girl looks for ( or so i'm told). I know you were being modest, but don't sell yourself short either. Don't use what you have as a selling point. Any girl that goes after you for those things, you don't want to be with long term anyway. What i've learned in life, is this. I'm the same person to everyone, I never try to be someone else. Now, sometimes a girl I liked didn't like what she was seeing, and it backfired, but the flip side is , is that some girls I never thought i had shot with liked who I was. So just go with the flow, be yourself always, and things just tend to happen.:)

Really! What does one have to do to have a cabana boy?

Step 1:
Own a cabana.

See, you guys have it all wrong... Finding women has not been a problem. I'm not bragging, but getting a woman to "come back to my place" has been pretty easy. The problem is that I just never want them around very long. I have yet to find one who is that perfect mixture of sweet, thoughtful, fun, smart, and sexy... or even quite close to it. Honestly, all of the reasons why I stated above that I think I'm a catch are the reasons why I've been attracting them, but they just don't seem to be what I would consider relationship material. And, it's strange... I WANT a relationship... I want to be exclusive, committed, etc... I'm just not going to settle for someone who just happens to like me. I want a woman who can hold an intelligent conversation, yet be able to laugh at herself and act silly. I'm just not finding it. Maybe I should just learn to enjoy being single and not worry about it.

Step 1:
Own a cabana.

I really think a patio will suffice:p

See, you guys have it all wrong... Finding women has not been a problem. I'm not bragging, but getting a woman to "come back to my place" has been pretty easy. The problem is that I just never want them around very long. I have yet to find one who is that perfect mixture of sweet, thoughtful, fun, smart, and sexy... or even quite close to it. Honestly, all of the reasons why I stated above that I think I'm a catch are the reasons why I've been attracting them, but they just don't seem to be what I would consider relationship material. And, it's strange... I WANT a relationship... I want to be exclusive, committed, etc... I'm just not going to settle for someone who just happens to like me. I want a woman who can hold an intelligent conversation, yet be able to laugh at herself and act silly. I'm just not finding it. Maybe I should just learn to enjoy being single and not worry about it.

See reply #10.

Finding women has not been a problem. I'm not bragging, but getting a woman to "come back to my place" has been pretty easy. The problem is that I just never want them around very long.

If you don't keep them around very long, then you can't judge how sweet, funny, intelligent, etc. they are. It takes a while for most people to get to know me... some have the wrong idea right off the bat. Give the next one a shot. You might be surprised.

See reply #10.

Snowy is definitely a beautiful girl. She's no Siu, though. Meh, they're both in CO, I think. Maybe NM isn't the best choice. :p

Snowy is definitely a beautiful girl. She's no Siu, though. Meh, they're both in CO, I think. Maybe NM isn't the best choice. :p

Siu is in California.

who is NM?

Siu is in California.

who is NM?

Ahhh, oh well...

Well, I'll be in New Mexico soon... hopefully. From my experience there this week, Nm is a great place to meet ladies... ones in their early twenties with five kids... :o

Everyone keeps telling me to go to church. I'm like come on, you think they'll honestly let my ugly mug into church looking like this?

http://animoscrypt.files.wordpress.com/2007/08/exorcist.jpg

Me giving dating/relationship advice is sort of like Pheard giving advice on . . . well, just anything, :D (sorry, bro - it just slipped out), but here goes anyway:

Stop looking for babes to "bring back to your place." Look for friends. Obviously, friends of the female persuasion, but friends nonetheless. The qualities you are looking for (and your list sounds pretty good to me) are the kind that make a difference outside the bedroom, so that is what to focus on. Focusing on "friends" and not on "long-term mate" also lessens the self-inflicted pressure, which allows you to be that little bit more relaxed and hence present yourself just that little bit less self-consciously, which in turn is likely to be more attractive to exactly the kind of women you describe. It also is a no-lose proposition - getting to know more good people is always a plus, even if you don't end up covering each other in chocolate syrup or indulging your fantasies concerning Swiss convent school girls.

Yes, she should also have that certain something that makes you want to drag her home for lattes and snuggle-bunnies. But if she has those other (and, ultimately, more important) qualities, the snuggle-bunnies will follow - and be all the better for it. And breakfast afterwards will be infinitely better. For a long, long time.

Keep the faith, bpohl. You are on the right track.

Hey, at least you have a job. I'm 33 and coming to the end of a Ph.D. program. I've been teaching on fixed-term contracts so I'm no longer a student and not yet a professional. When I look around for a date, all I hear are chirping crickets.

Snowy is definitely a beautiful girl. She's no Siu, though. Meh, they're both in CO, I think. Maybe NM isn't the best choice. :p

I'm not sure if I should take this as an insult or not?? :)

Regardless is today your birthday?? If so happy Birthday!! :)

The girls I've met in the past year so just never seem to hold my interest.

Care to elaborate? Do you think it is you or them?

Waiting and finding the right one is a lot cheaper and psychological easier the finding one only to get a divorce.



Then you get to start over ha you thought your current life sucks. Coming up on 2yrs and still haven't gotten everything finalized. When will I have my life back?

I'm not sure if I should take this as an insult or not?? :)

Regardless is today your birthday?? If so happy Birthday!! :)

Snowy.. you're beautiful... and no offense at all intended... i've ever once sent a post your way, though...

and yes, it is MY BIRTHDAY!!!!! Woo Hoo!!!

I have the opposite problem, man. Let's trade

Snowy is definitely a beautiful girl. She's no Siu, though.


Nm is a great place to meet ladies... ones in their early twenties with five kids... :o


I'm not bragging, but getting a woman to "come back to my place" has been pretty easy.


and yes, it is MY BIRTHDAY!!!!! Woo Hoo!!!

I think I'm beginning to see the problem.

Snowy.. you're beautiful... and no offense at all intended... i've ever once sent a post your way, though...


I know I was just giving you a hard time :)

I hope you enjoyed your birthday!!! :D

I think I'm beginning to see the problem.

Yeah, maybe so... You know... last night was the first time I've gone out and not tried to meet anyone. And, you know... it was kinda nice. I'm not sure that not "putting myself out there" is the best way to meet a woman, but maybe it wouldn't be so bad to just stop trying and see what happens.

Yeah, maybe so... You know... last night was the first time I've gone out and not tried to meet anyone. And, you know... it was kinda nice. I'm not sure that not "putting myself out there" is the best way to meet a woman, but maybe it wouldn't be so bad to just stop trying and see what happens.


Thats exactely what I have been doing too. Stop trying. Nothing has happened yet, but I have hope :)

Thats exactely what I have been doing too. Stop trying. Nothing has happened yet, but I have hope :)

Yeah, this may be my ticket. Maybe it will take some of my stress away.

Yeah, this may be my ticket. Maybe it will take some of my stress away.

Good luck!! :)

Me giving dating/relationship advice is sort of like Pheard giving advice on . . . well, just anything, :D (sorry, bro - it just slipped out), but here goes anyway:

Stop looking for babes to "bring back to your place." Look for friends. Obviously, friends of the female persuasion, but friends nonetheless. The qualities you are looking for (and your list sounds pretty good to me) are the kind that make a difference outside the bedroom, so that is what to focus on. Focusing on "friends" and not on "long-term mate" also lessens the self-inflicted pressure, which allows you to be that little bit more relaxed and hence present yourself just that little bit less self-consciously, which in turn is likely to be more attractive to exactly the kind of women you describe. It also is a no-lose proposition - getting to know more good people is always a plus, even if you don't end up covering each other in chocolate syrup or indulging your fantasies concerning Swiss convent school girls.

Yes, she should also have that certain something that makes you want to drag her home for lattes and snuggle-bunnies. But if she has those other (and, ultimately, more important) qualities, the snuggle-bunnies will follow - and be all the better for it. And breakfast afterwards will be infinitely better. For a long, long time.

Keep the faith, bpohl. You are on the right track.

I don't know how I missed this post before, but it's really good advice. But, you know, I've been the "nice guy" who "just wanted to be friends first" before, and it's never seemed to work for me. I mean, you know... the whole "friend zone" thing..

I don't know how I missed this post before, but it's really good advice. But, you know, I've been the "nice guy" who "just wanted to be friends first" before, and it's never seemed to work for me. I mean, you know... the whole "friend zone" thing..

Now I didn't say you have to just want to be friends first. I mean, hey, try to preserve the options. ;) And I'm certainly not talking about putting on some kind of act - I mean exactly the opposite. But the qualities your are seeking are much more than skin-deep. So to find them, you have to look much more than skin-deep. That most certainly does not mean you have to take a vow of celibacy . . . . :rolleyes:

the qualities your are seeking are much more than skin-deep. So to find them, you have to look much more than skin-deep.

Point well-taken...

Yeah, maybe so... You know... last night was the first time I've gone out and not tried to meet anyone. And, you know... it was kinda nice. I'm not sure that not "putting myself out there" is the best way to meet a woman, but maybe it wouldn't be so bad to just stop trying and see what happens.
Ssorry I didn't mean to be harsh on your birthday! Best wishes

Okay, so there's been something I've been noticing lately. All of the other guys are getting all of the girls. I find this quite troubling, as I think I'm VERY MUCH a catch. I'm 28, have a good job, own a house, own a car, and am pretty responsible. I'm VERY attractive, but I DON'T HAVE AN EGO ABOUT IT.

Fixed that for you. :)

Fixed that for you. :)

You're way too nice... :o

See, you guys have it all wrong... Finding women has not been a problem. I'm not bragging, but getting a woman to "come back to my place" has been pretty easy. The problem is that I just never want them around very long. I have yet to find one who is that perfect mixture of sweet, thoughtful, fun, smart, and sexy... or even quite close to it. Honestly, all of the reasons why I stated above that I think I'm a catch are the reasons why I've been attracting them, but they just don't seem to be what I would consider relationship material. And, it's strange... I WANT a relationship... I want to be exclusive, committed, etc... I'm just not going to settle for someone who just happens to like me. I want a woman who can hold an intelligent conversation, yet be able to laugh at herself and act silly. I'm just not finding it. Maybe I should just learn to enjoy being single and not worry about it.

:eek: Okay, number one, we women are own worst enemies. We make it way too easy for intimacy to occur immediately (and yes, this IS coming from me, Ms. Dirty-Smut-Minded-Grind-It-All-Way-Up-In-There). You need to work HARDER, young man, and choose wiser! If you truly want the qualities you list, then shall I suggest that you stop bringing 'em back to your place and, instead, spend time with them in any other setting possible that involves clothing! It takes time to discover someone. Contrary to what films would have us believe, rarely does one look across a crowded bar and fall in love at first sight. With a few shots in you, you can fall in lust, but really? How long does that last?

Just my two cents...:D