Foo - Do you think shes flirting with me?

So theres this really cute girl on my floor in my dorm and lately she has been talking to me a lot more. Yesterday she said I was anti-social but, I'm really not (I'm just shy.)

Ask her out and you'll find out rather quickly! ;)

Nothing ventured, nothing gained :D

No, she's getting frustrated with you. Ask her out. Life is waaayyy to short to be shy.

I think she's playing games with you. That is what girls do. They are evil. Pull her hair and throw mud on her.

Give her a rose. Just one. Red.

Wait! No hair pulling and mud throwing until at least the third date!:D

No red rose! Go with a daisy!

Give her a rose. Just one. Red.

Yeah. Great idea. Stalker.

I once found a single rose in the seat of my Jeep. (no doors, no roof, so it was easy to put it there.) I never found out who put it there.

Give her a rose. Just one. Red.


You DO NOT give a girl you have never dated a rose. None , especially just one. If you do she will think you are just creepy.

As others have suggested, simply ask her out. To lunch, to dinner, to coffee, to get a snack, but make it some place where you can have a conversation (i.e. not a movie or concert). Talk, and not all about yourself, and see if there is any compatibility. If there is compatibility, then and only then, do you even consider giving flowers.

I never found out who put it there.

http://www.africanveil.org/Paris2.jpg

Now you know.

You DO NOT give a girl you have never dated a rose. None , especially just one. If you do she will think you are just creepy.

As others have suggested, simply ask her out. To lunch, to dinner, to coffee, to get a snack, but make it some place where you can have a conversation (i.e. not a movie or concert). Talk, and not all about yourself, and see if there is any compatibility. If there is compatibility, then and only then, do you give her flowers.

This may be a generational thing, you are prob a couple generations behind me. For me, it's a great way to get the preliminaries out of the way for about a buck.

Have you ever tried it?

That's why I never tried to find out....

Yeah. Great idea. Stalker.

I once found a single rose in the seat of my Jeep. (no doors, no roof, so it was easy to put it there.) I never found out who put it there.

Looks like with this generation one needs to write a detailed manual on how to give a flower.

1) Buy the damn rose

2) walk up to the girl and look her in the eye.

3) Say 'I'd like you to have this'. But given your previous statement 'here' might be a better idea.

So theres this really cute girl on my floor in my dorm and lately she has been talking to me a lot more. Yesterday she said I was anti-social but, I'm really not (I'm just shy.)

It's been awhile since i was in college either, but suffice it to say...if i had ANY girl on my floor in my dorm room, the flirting part was long over with. ;)

Alrighty...

I was pondering the point at which hair pulling becomes acceptable and enjoying all the romanticisms and now I find myself wondering how I am gonna wipe that last image from my brain.

There is only one cure...

http://www.bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=300676

I would love to get one single red rose.

As to the OP, maybe she is just calling it how she sees it?

Looks like with this generation one needs to write a detailed manual on how to give a flower.

1) Buy the damn rose

2) walk up to the girl and look her in the eye.

3) Say 'I'd like you to have this'. But given your previous statement 'here' might be a better idea.

No follow-up to, 'I'd like you to have this'?

I picture the girl looking a bit confused, responding with "ooookkaayyyy". Turning away, rolling here eyes, returning to her room and describing to her roommate what had just taken place. They both exhale deeply, tremble just a bit and then the rose hits the trash can.


Would in not be easier and more direct to:

1) Walk up to the girl
2) Look her in the eye
3) Say, "(enter her name here), I was going to (enter establishment name here) to get (pick one - lunch, a snack, coffee, dinner), would you like to join me?

This part is very simple if she says "yes", then there is an interest, if she says "no", then there is no interest. In either event you do not come away looking like a creepy guy who gives single roses to random girls.

I would love to get one single red rose.

And I bet you will.

As others have suggested, simply ask her out. To lunch, to dinner, to coffee, to get a snack, but make it some place where you can have a conversation (i.e. not a movie or concert). Talk, and not all about yourself, and see if there is any compatibility. If there is compatibility, then and only then, do you even consider giving flowers.

Be sure to wear an "I'm with stupid" shirt on the first date. Chicks dig that.

Just ask her out.


This should be a sticky for all guys.

I think she's playing games with you. That is what girls do. They are evil. Pull her hair and throw mud on her.

Pull bra strap, then try to kiss her. Saves talking to her.

You DO NOT give a girl you have never dated a rose. None , especially just one. If you do she will think you are just creepy.

As others have suggested, simply ask her out. To lunch, to dinner, to coffee, to get a snack, but make it some place where you can have a conversation (i.e. not a movie or concert). Talk, and not all about yourself, and see if there is any compatibility. If there is compatibility, then and only then, do you even consider giving flowers.

It depends on the girl. Hopefully you have had some conversations with the chick first. I haven't dated in a long time but a few girls were into that romance aspect of dating and liked the rose, so I go it. Some thought of dating as speed interviews...it really depends on the people involved.

No follow-up to, 'I'd like you to have this'?

I picture the girl looking a bit confused, responding with "ooookkaayyyy". Turning away, rolling here eyes, returning to her room and describing to her roommate what had just taken place. They both exhale deeply, tremble just a bit and then the rose hits the trash can.


Would in not be easier and more direct to:

1) Walk up to the girl
2) Look her in the eye
3) Say, "(enter her name here), I was going to (enter establishment name here) to get (pick one - lunch, a snack, coffee, dinner), would you like to join me?

This part is very simple if she says "yes", then there is an interest, if she says "no", then there is no interest. In either event you do not come away looking like a creepy guy who gives single roses to random girls.

Sorry, I didn't realise how far humanity had slid.

Calling you "anti-social" was code for "prove me wrong by asking me out". You missed your chance.

Ask her out for coffee or lunch, if it goes well, then give her the rose the next time you see her.

give her a dozen roses and a diamond ring. then show her all the pictures of her on your wall that you have taken of her without her knowing. she'll love it!



come to think of it, that never worked for me either. and restraining orders are a *****.

but seriously, who knows?
I don't think giving a flower is creepy.
go out and get drunk together, that's always telling. and an instant ice breaker!

When she tells you that you're anti-social, what she really means is that she wants you.

When she tells you that you're anti-social, what she really means is that she wants you.

Well, if that's the case, I should have a harem by tomorrow... ;)

Before you take advice from any of us you should probably figure out which of us have girlfriends, which are always single, and how many restraining orders everyone has. They weigh the advice vs. the giver. :)

Make her a gift

1: Cut a hole in a box,
2: Put your junk in that box,
3: Make her open the box...

There is a lot of really bad advice here...

Just talk to the girl.

Talking can be an amazing thing.

ask her if she likes to play the rusty trombone. If she says yes, then surely it was meant to be.

Before you take advice from any of us you should probably figure out which of us have girlfriends, which are always single, and how many restraining orders everyone has. They weigh the advice vs. the giver. :)
What incredibly sensible advice.

http://www.africanveil.org/Paris2.jpg

Now you know.

:roflmao:

Now you know.

MY EYES! MY EYES!

I've always understood the single red rose to mean I love you.So I would think not a good thing if you've just met.

Yeah, red-rose has way too many implicit messages that may not be what you want to send if you don't know her that well. Remember that it's a sick and twisted aspect of human-nature that we do not value what we we get easily or for free. Just think of how many girls will sleep with you the very first time you meet them?

So don't be easy as well, make her work to get you, make her chase, be a challenge. So... use what she said to you on her as well:

"So I bet you're a cool girl who likes to have lots of fun. I've got a couple of minutes before my next class, let's grab coffee... or are you ANTI-SOCIAL?"

Personally, I'd walk away after that and make her chase. Resist the temptation to look back.

Yeah, red-rose has way too many implicit messages that may not be what you want to send if you don't know her that well. Remember that it's a sick and twisted aspect of human-nature that we do not value what we we get easily or for free. Just think of how many girls will sleep with you the very first time you meet them?

So don't be easy as well, make her work to get you, make her chase, be a challenge. So... use what she said to you on her as well:

"So I bet you're a cool girl who likes to have lots of fun, let's grab coffee. I've got a couple of minutes before my next class.... or are you ANTI-SOCIAL?"

Personally, I'd walk away after that and make her chase. Resist the temptation to look back.

The Zen Master has spoken.

Remember, it can't go worse than offering a girl you've just met a beer only to find out she doesn't drink.








P.S. We've been together since. 21 years in February.

"So I bet you're a cool girl who likes to have lots of fun. I've got a couple of minutes before my next class, let's grab coffee... or are you ANTI-SOCIAL?"

Personally, I'd walk away after that and make her chase. Resist the temptation to look back.

Ask me out and then walk away, and I'd let you keep walking. ;)

I can't believe this hasn't been asked yet: Is she hot?

There is a lot of really bad advice here...

Just talk to the girl.

Talking can be an amazing thing.

+1

Based on what you've told us, we can't make any serious decision on your question. It's all clearly speculation.

At best, it seems that "you're anti-social" means "you're kinda cute, but you need to open up more before I would consider dating you".

Ask me out and then walk away, and I'd let you keep walking. ;)Yeah, but you're anti-social, so that's OK... http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e346/DannoXYZ/GraemlinsSmilies/Graemlin-tongue.gif

I've always understood the single red rose to mean I love you.So I would think not a good thing if you've just met.

Would a single dead rose be a better signal to send?

MY EYES! MY EYES!

exactly:rolleyes:

Yeah, red-rose has way too many implicit messages that may not be what you want to send if you don't know her that well. Remember that it's a sick and twisted aspect of human-nature that we do not value what we we get easily or for free. Just think of how many girls will sleep with you the very first time you meet them?

So don't be easy as well, make her work to get you, make her chase, be a challenge. So... use what she said to you on her as well:

"So I bet you're a cool girl who likes to have lots of fun. I've got a couple of minutes before my next class, let's grab coffee... or are you ANTI-SOCIAL?"

Personally, I'd walk away after that and make her chase. Resist the temptation to look back.

The rose is likely a bad idea for many reasons.

I see someone is worried that humanity has fallen because a rose isn't acceptable, but that's really not the case. A rose is risky because of the internal messages a rose might trigger for the recipient, that you have no control over. It is acceptable if you have a certain rapport with the girl. If not, the soundest strategy is simply asking her to accompany you on a short, informal date.

Also, DannoXYZ's advice has great potential. I'd probably stick to the "cool girl" and strike the "likes to have fun" part just because it doesn't sound like something I'd say. And I certainly wouldn't walk away after asking her out, but I would smile rather wryly after adding, "...well, unless you're ANTI-SOCIAL." Turning her comment about you toward her is a clever way to defend yourself and twist a bit of ironic humor on the situation. Good stuff.

But, anything along the lines of asking her to join you for a simple, brief excursion as given in the example is a good way to go.

Girls like guys who are adventurous and interesting. They also want what they can't have.

To this end I suggest dressing like a pirate and hiding at her door. When she comes out in the morning leap out shouting 'Arrrrrr! You can't have me wench!!' and running away.

So theres this really cute girl on my floor in my dorm and lately she has been talking to me a lot more. Yesterday she said I was anti-social but, I'm really not (I'm just shy.)

Where are you guys reading that the OP is attracted to this girl? He asked if she was flirting with him. The answer to that is almost certainly yes. Should he ask her out just because of that? No.

So don't be easy as well, make her work to get you, make her chase, be a challenge. So... use what she said to you on her as well:

"So I bet you're a cool girl who likes to have lots of fun. I've got a couple of minutes before my next class, let's grab coffee... or are you ANTI-SOCIAL?"



Bingo.. I would go for the know it all "I got you cornered now" smirk rather than walk away but then again....

Bingo.. I would go for the know it all "I got you cornered now" smirk rather than walk away but then again....

Yeah, with maybe a wrestling move for good measure. Personally I prefer the sleeper hold.