Foo - So I Was Listening To Johnny Cash...

the song Solitary Man to be exact, and I started to think a little harder about my life. I've heard some people say "there's someone for everyone", but what if that's not true? What if, even though I'd like a companion, I'm destined to be that solitary man? Is it possibly because I'm not dependant on other people to make me happy, or am I, in fact, too dependant on other people? I'm neigh on 30 and I've never been married, or even engaged, which, in my circle, is pretty stinking rare. Should I suck it up, quit whining, eat some asparagus, and get a life?

I trust you all to be brutally honest. :D

Have you met snowy?

East Hill

I say you just quit listening to Johnny Cash.

As long as the asparagus is fresh, grilled or broiled and still crisp, then yeah, eat some. If it is that canned stuff that tastes and feels like soggy cigars made from pond scum, then no, do not eat the asparagus.

I'll be 30 in a couple months and have never been married or engaged either. I'm not too worried.

Neither one of us is even half way through life (g*d willing). If you're happy in your life, someone will see that and want to be with you one of these days. If you're not happy, work on getting happy and then see above.


Also, just for reference, according to the Census bureau, Median Age (http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0005061.html) for first marriage for men in 2006 was 27.5. That means that for eveyone getting married at 21,22,23,24,25 there is someone like us who hasn't been married. It might be odd in your circle, but it isn't in the general U.S. population.

No worries.

Have you met snowy?

East Hill

EH...you little matchmaker you...;)

The real irony about being single is that when you get lonely and start looking for someone...you never seem to find them, or worse...you choose someone out of desparation that is just plain wrong for you.

If I were single again, I'd just try to have a lot of good friends, both male and female. If I wasn't interested in a relationship, I'd be open and honest about it...and then, one day, when it's right....someone may show up...or not. I was at that point before I met my wife. We stayed friends and I purposely kept her at arm's length until I knew being married again was what I wanted. Luckily when I asked her she felt the same way, and we had the reassurance that our marriage is based on a good friendship. :)

Oh, and if I were single...I'd be all over snowy like a plateful of asparagus.

Don't listen much to J.C. - but his Hurt (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SmVAWKfJ4Go) song is raw and sad. :(

Oh and as to the whole point of your pondering ... there are a bunch of us in the same position, some - like me - who have struck out with marriage no. 1 ... and so keep plugging along ... there's someone out there

EH...you little matchmaker you...;)

The real irony about being single is that when you get lonely and start looking for someone...you never seem to find them, or worse...you choose someone out of desparation that is just plain wrong for you.


Well, they are both in the same state...:p .

It's like having children: some people try so hard to have kids that the stress level dooms the project. I think finding the right person has similar aspects--you try so hard to find the right person, or have a certain type in mind, that you can't relax and see that perfect-for-you person right at the end of your nose.

East Hill

the song Solitary Man to be exact, and I started to think a little harder about my life. I've heard some people say "there's someone for everyone", but what if that's not true? What if, even though I'd like a companion, I'm destined to be that solitary man? Is it possibly because I'm not dependant on other people to make me happy, or am I, in fact, too dependant on other people? I'm neigh on 30 and I've never been married, or even engaged, which, in my circle, is pretty stinking rare. Should I suck it up, quit whining, eat some asparagus, and get a life?

I trust you all to be brutally honest. :D

Sure it wasn't Neil Diamond? :p

Snowy is in HIDING!! *Says this as she peeks out* :)

Gotta love the man in black...

It's not like I'm searching, in fact, I'm quite happy when I'm not dating anyone. Sometimes, I'm much happier than when I am dating someone. It's just that I have this suspicion that the man in black is signing about me.

I was over 40 when I got married (lots of varied dating until that time). Don't worry too much about it. You probably haven't found the right one yet. When you do everything will be okay.

Yes, I do believe that there is someone for everyone. I myself do not easily into any catagory that would be concidered "normal" by society in general. Yes, it was difficult to find someone that matched just the right amount of "weirdness" while retaining a balance of sanity but I did manage.

If I can do it anyone outside of that whole Ted Bundyish crowd can. Come to think about a lot of those guys on Death Row tend to get girlfriends and wives too, but I'm sure it only works out for them because they don't actually have to live with their spouses.

I'm not loving the opposite sex right now!! Well more frustrated then anything. So, what does that mean for Snowy???? RIDING, RIDING, RIDING. :) Yup, I've managed to ride the last 5 days!! I have class tonight so its a break I have to take.

UnsafeAlpine. I often wonder the same things. Especially when I have to hear everyday how happy my friends are in their relationships.
The only difference is am I the girl in black?? :)

I would suggest different music... Something more uplifting and bright.

Some possibilities:

I am a Rock - Simon and Garfunkle

I Can't Live - Nillson (sp)

Alone Again Naturally - Gilbert O'Sullivan

I am I Said - Neil Diamond

Lucky Man - Emerson, Lake & Palmer

Time - Pink Floyd

Comfortably Numb - Pink Floyd

Free Four - Pink Floyd


The memories of a man in his old age,
Are the deeds of a man in his prime.
You shuffle in the gloom of your sick room,
And talk to yourself 'til you die.

Do you sense a trend? Anything Roger Waters had a hand in writing. :)

Enjoy!

I'm not loving the opposite sex right now!! Well more frustrated then anything. So, what does that mean for Snowy???? RIDING, RIDING, RIDING. :) Yup, I've managed to ride the last 5 days!! I have class tonight so its a break I have to take.

UnsafeAlpine. I often wonder the same things. Especially when I have to hear everyday how happy my friends are in their relationships.
The only difference is am I the girl in black?? :)

16,000 km in 2007 pretty much says it all.

Snowy - Speaking of black, where's that picture of you in that sexy little cocktail dress ?

:D

Snowy is in HIDING!! *Says this as she peeks out* :)

It sounds as if you're safe :p .

Still....:)

East Hill

16,000 km in 2007 pretty much says it all.

Snowy - Speaking of black, where's that picture of you in that sexy little cocktail dress ?

:D

HA HA HA. Last time I was in a dress......was HECK I can't even remember!! :)

It sounds as if you're safe :p .

Still....:)

East Hill

As long as I don't get eaten by any mountain lions, I'm definitely safe!! :D

HA HA HA. Last time I was in a dress......was HECK I can't even remember!! :)


Sixty Fiver would probably make do with plain sexy black spandex, then :p .

East Hill

HA HA HA. Last time I was in a dress......was HECK I can't even remember!! :)

I wish I could say that. I wish even more that Chipcom could say that.

Sixty Fiver would probably make do with plain sexy black spandex, then :p .

East Hill

He has my "myspacepage" so he can see me in black spandex!! :p

Plus, I hear that he has a special someone;):D

Sixty Fiver would probably make do with plain sexy black spandex, then :p .

East Hill

I might wear a little sexy black lycra from time to time but don't really find it to be all that attractive or flattering.

Give me comfortable flannels, khakis, and sweaters any time.

Plus, I hear that he has a special someone;):D

I have heard that also...but he is too much of a gentleman to reveal his secret love :) .


I might wear a little sexy black lycra from time to time but don't really find it to be all that attractive or flattering.

Give me comfortable flannels, khakis, and sweaters any time.

Does that go for snowy as well? We like to see men in lycra ;) .

East Hill

I might wear a little sexy black lycra from time to time but don't really find it to be all that attractive or flattering.

Give me comfortable flannels, khakis, and sweaters any time.

there is an awesome idea for a kit hidden in there somewhere. Team Lumberjack cuts down the competition at the TdF

The last time I wore a sexy little black dress I couldn't keep the guys and girls off me... the fellows didn't realize I was a guy (I guess I make a great drag queen) and the girls found it somewhat sexy.

Alpine -I have to go with suck it up, enjoy your life, and try the grilled asparagus.

It works for me.

there is an awesome idea for a kit hidden in there somewhere. Team Lumberjack cuts down the competition at the TdF

Seriously dude... there are few greater joys in this life than blowing by some lycra sporting poseur in mtb shorts, fleece, and running shoes.

If I could get some plaid cycling jerseys that might work... they would go with the new kilt I'm eyeing up.

the plaid jerseys would have to have suspenders (you might know them as braces) printed on them.

Seriously dude... there are few greater joys in this life than blowing by some lycra sporting poseur in mtb shorts, fleece, and running shoes.

If I could get some plaid cycling jerseys that might work... they would go with the new kilt I'm eyeing up.

aaaaahhhhhhh! My minds eye must be poked out with an ice pick now.
I just had the image of a man riding in a kilt, and well, the wind got under the kilt.

aaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!

aaaaahhhhhhh! My minds eye must be poked out with an ice pick now.
I just had the image of a man riding in a kilt, and well, the wind got under the kilt.

aaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!

Sounds like a pleasant view to me ;) . I like men in kilts :D .

East Hill

aaaaahhhhhhh! My minds eye must be poked out with an ice pick now.
I just had the image of a man riding in a kilt, and well, the wind got under the kilt.

aaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!

Yep... you'd never be right after seeing that.

Seriously dude... there are few greater joys in this life than blowing by some lycra sporting poseur in mtb shorts, fleece, and running shoes.

If I could get some plaid cycling jerseys that might work... they would go with the new kilt I'm eyeing up.

I've been thinking about doing the kilt, too. Are you looking at a traditional style, or the American style utilty kilts?

I've been thinking about doing the kilt, too. Are you looking at a traditional style, or the American style utilty kilts?

I'd love to see how that goes over on the front range!!

I'd love to see how that goes over on the front range!!

Pretty well. I know a couple guys over in Fort Collins that wear kilts all the time. I'm worried about the roughneck oil field workers I live around :eek:

Seriously dude... there are few greater joys in this life than blowing by some lycra sporting poseur in mtb shorts, fleece, and running shoes.

If I could get some plaid cycling jerseys that might work... they would go with the new kilt I'm eyeing up.

heh. i like blowing by them in shredded Levis, a t-shirt, and Tevas.

on a knobby-tyred 'cross bike.

that's why i do it all the time, really...

jhota, thought of you on the drive home yesterday. Passed a flat bed wrecker with a Jaguar saloon on it, had not been inspected or licensed since 2003 at the least, but looked like it was of 70s vintage. It was dark green.

Pretty well. I know a couple guys over in Fort Collins that wear kilts all the time. I'm worried about the roughneck oil field workers I live around :eek:

Sweet call me next time their out :)

I say you just quit listening to Johnny Cash.

As long as the asparagus is fresh, grilled or broiled and still crisp, then yeah, eat some. If it is that canned stuff that tastes and feels like soggy cigars made from pond scum, then no, do not eat the asparagus.

the Basques love their white asparagus, fresh or pickled.

me, i just don't like white asparagus. green... that's different.

Sweet call me next time their out :)

Every Friday and Saturday night. Usually found at Surfside, with one of my ex's. They're easy to spot, they're the ones wearing the kilts ;)

jhota, thought of you on the drive home yesterday. Passed a flat bed wrecker with a Jaguar saloon on it, had not been inspected or licensed since 2003 at the least, but looked like it was of 70s vintage. It was dark green.

no! a Jag on a wrecker? never! :p

sounds like a usual day at work for me - except for the singular pronouns.

I've been thinking about doing the kilt, too. Are you looking at a traditional style, or the American style utilty kilts?

The Utilikilts are pretty functional and I'd like a Sport Kilt as well.

No, no. Lumberjacks ftw.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sZa26_esLBE&feature=related

Flowerblossom - Just have to thank you for reminding me that I do indeed have some chocolate stashed.

Mmmm.

You're welcome.

Speaking of chocolate, I have to brag. After spin class tonight we were treated with the most fabulous flourless chocolate torte with ganache frosting, best evah.

I'm so buzzed.

Back to lumberjacks.

To get back on topic, i often wonder the same thing. I have a SO right now but I really can't say if it will last. Too many issues etc and we currently live 9 hours apart.

On the same note, I used to work with a 38 year old single woman. She has since stopped working at the company, but she was always going on and on about finding some one to marry. To make a long story short, we're all glad she's gone and can totally understand why no one wants to date/marry her. So if you have that sort of personality, you might be f'd, if not, i'd only start worrying in about 10 years or so.

Should I suck it up, quit whining, eat some asparagus, and get a life?

I trust you all to be brutally honest. :D

Seeing as this is steak and BJ day and you are asking why you can't find a woman, I think I have found your problem.

http://badgerherald.com/artsetc/2003/04/09/the_ageold_question_.php

"But of all foods, asparagus is rumored to be the absolute worst when it comes to matters of taste. Much like a dinner at Olive Garden, you just can’t hide the taste of asparagus-laced semen."

the song Solitary Man to be exact, and I started to think a little harder about my life. I've heard some people say "there's someone for everyone", but what if that's not true? What if, even though I'd like a companion, I'm destined to be that solitary man? Is it possibly because I'm not dependant on other people to make me happy, or am I, in fact, too dependant on other people? I'm neigh on 30 and I've never been married, or even engaged, which, in my circle, is pretty stinking rare. Should I suck it up, quit whining, eat some asparagus, and get a life?

I trust you all to be brutally honest. :D

Dude when you're 40 and in the same boat get back to me. Until then HTFU.

;)

Wait... what does asparagus have to do with anything????

asapargus is the common root that binds us all together.

Back in my mid thirties I had two male friends my age who had never been married. One day I asked my wife if she thought Roland and Jeff would ever get married. Her answer... "It depends how much they love each other"

Wait... what does asparagus have to do with anything????

"Asparagus "stirs up lust in man and woman." (Nicholas Culpepper 1616-1654, a legendary figure in the field of herbal medicine).

There's the tie-in. ;)