Foo - Stupid, Stupid, Stupid....

I need the collective wisdom of Foo on this one. :rolleyes:

I have three friends whom I'll call Betty, Veronica, and Jughead. Betty and I used to date, but now we're really good friends, and Veronica and Jughead are married. Betty and Veronica are best friends and Jughead and I are friends as well. While I was dating Betty, I started sleeping with Veronica. Call me what you will; it's nothing I haven't called myself because of this. I've heard a lot of people mention cheating situations and how they wish they new or they wish their friends had said something, and I can understand wanting to know, but in this case, all that would end up happening is a divorce and an all-around loss of friendships. Nothing good will come from telling Betty and Jughead, other than the truth being out.

Is truth so important that it's worth what this would cost?

They way I see it, a mass grave and a goodbye message on an etch a sketch are your only outs.

Questions:
1. Were Veronica and Jughead married at the time?
2. Is this all in the past?

I wouldn't have done that - but if I had, I wouldn't volunteer the information. If Veronica wants to tell Jughead, that's her choice.

It's not an untruth if you just keep your mouth shut.

V is keeping the secret too.

No sense in bringing it up now.

Unless your intention is to blow up J and V's marriage and hope that V runs to you in gratitude. (which won't happen)

Veronica and Jughead were married and the last time we slept together was 2 years ago.

leave it alone

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:lol:

leave it alone

+1,000,000

That's close, but I don't recall a dog being involv....no, wait, it's all coming back to me.

I need the collective wisdom of Foo on this one. :rolleyes:

I have three friends whom I'll call Betty, Veronica, and Jughead. Betty and I used to date, but now we're really good friends, and Veronica and Jughead are married. Betty and Veronica are best friends and Jughead and I are friends as well. While I was dating Betty, I started sleeping with Veronica. Call me what you will; it's nothing I haven't called myself because of this. I've heard a lot of people mention cheating situations and how they wish they new or they wish their friends had said something, and I can understand wanting to know, but in this case, all that would end up happening is a divorce and an all-around loss of friendships. Nothing good will come from telling Betty and Jughead, other than the truth being out.

Is truth so important that it's worth what this would cost?

Have you stopped?

Truth ignored does not cease to exist. It will come out sooner or latter.

Is this starting to bother you now, after it being two years ago? Why the sudden thoughts of this?

Why are you contemplating the truth now? What can be gained from it? What can be lost from it? What is your goal in terms of coming out with the confession?

At this point, Veronica has a lot more to lose than you.

If it is only to make yourself feel better, forget it.
It now is really between Veronica and Jug.

Leave it alone.

At this point, Veronica has a lot more to lose than you.

If it is only to make yourself feel better, forget it.
It now is really between Veronica and Jug.

Leave it alone.

Unless V gets mad a J for something.

again, that is between them.

I guess, but if He and Jug are friends, I can see that coming to an end.

You could always post your secret on the Moon (http://bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=410254), if it would make you feel better.

Good thing Veronica didn't marry Reggie. Jughead is a pushover. Reggie would gladly kill you.

If this is just to get over your own guilt then leave it alone.

Don't be selfish and ruin a good(?) relationship that V and J have. No good will come of this, as you have mentioned yourself.

Unless of course you are all swingers and a foursome is inevitable. :D

Shuttup, shuttup shuttup.

If that fails, deny deny deny.

its not worth it, not worth it, NOT WORTH IT.

Shes prolly smoking hot, it was worht it. If she loves him she wont tell, if your ex and her are good friends, she already knows and will take it to the grave. if your conscience bothers you, turn to drink, but for the love of god shut up and never EVER bring it up to any of them.

trust an immoral idiot, ive been through such situations, and silence till death is the easiest.

keep it to yourself. the only thing that is gained from telling people is that you feel better for getting the guilt off of your chest. you did the crime.. you have to live with the consequences. let sleeping dogs lie.

Have an orgy with all three of them. Then you won't have anything to worry about.

Have an orgy with all three of them. Then you won't have anything to worry about.

You obviously have not watched Chasing Amy.

Keep your mouth shut. In fact, staple gun it shut if need be.

oh yeah - keep your mouth shut. You're trying to make yourself feel less guilty by owning up, and that's being selfish and self serving in a way. Yours and Veronica's guilt is your punishment for doing the deed. If her husband loves her (which I assume he does) this would crush him.

If you have some STD for which testing is needed, you have to tell. If there is a child involved and some question about paternity, and you have some sort of genetically-caused condition or disease, you have to tell.

Otherwise, keep your mouth shut. Telling "the truth" is not the only issue here; the pain of others is a major consideration, probably the single most important one. How on earth is telling now going to help anyone, except possibly you in purging some sense of guilt?

If you have a pressing need to talk to somebody about this, that is what therapists are for - and one with a degree and a license whom you pay and who has to keep your confidences by law, not a buddy or the local bartender. Otherwise, keep . . . your . . . mouth . . . shut. If it's too painful to keep seeing these people and keep silent, then end the friendships - with all three of them. But keep your mouth shut.

Did I mention that you should keep your mouth shut?

and keep your mouth shut.

but did you get to piitb?

The only thing you have to do now to totally ruin everyones lives is get it on with Jughead. ;)

So why is this eating you up now if it was over 2 years ago?

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Hate to advocate dishonesty, but it sounds like owning up to your misdeeds might cause more trouble than it solves. Just don't do it again, and wallow in your guilt, I guess. :)

Hmmmmmm, tough situation, but after two years, is it really worth ruining 3 lives and your own? Suffer in your own private hell and let it be.

How could Veronica and Jughead have some good merry relationship it Veronica was with Unsafe?

I am glad to see Jughead getting some. I wondered about him. With that hat and all.

I should posit this to my friend. She has been reading all this book called "Why Men dont listen and Women cant read maps". Apparently there is some study out there which says that when men have extra, shall we say, personal relations, they are just looking for a fix. But if women stray, odds are that it points to something underlying. Women apparently by and large do not disassociate their feelings from the sexes unlike men. Although we can all disprove that statement with anecdotes, I think it might pass muster in the married/older (read >30) women demographic.

So you can either bring it up and see how it goes or keep quite and hope things do not blow up with J and V and she doesn't quip a very trite "and by the way, I slept with unsafe".