Foo - Ok, what the frick...

I'm not trying to brag, I'm just trying to figure out why this has happened to me. I have never er....dated someone who hasn't ended up falling in love with me. Why? Why can't I just date someone for fun? Why does it have to end up like this? I guess that's a major reason why I don't date much, I don't like getting close to people, and it just seems to happen. fragh

I hate to say this, but I am getting very confused.

Must be time for bed.

East Hill

Or is the real question the other way around?

I'm not trying to brag, I'm just trying to figure out why this has happened to me. I have never dated someone nicer than that mean chick. Why? Why can't I just date someone other than her? Why does it have to end up like this? I guess that's a major reason why I don't date anybody else, they won't abuse me as much. fragh

Fixed it for ya. :D



:eek:

You know I luv ya, right?

I'm not trying to brag, I'm just trying to figure out why this has happened to me. I have never er....dated someone who hasn't ended up falling in love with me. Why? Why can't I just date someone for fun? Why does it have to end up like this? I guess that's a major reason why I don't date much, I don't like getting close to people, and it just seems to happen. fragh

It could be anything. For example, I rarely ever dated anyone I didn't know for a good long time as friends. (i.e. no blind dates, etc) As such, I never had an "ugly" breakup and we often remained friends afterwards. Sounds to me that maybe you tend not to get into dating someone until you've already (subconsciously) picked up on them being the sort to potentially fall for you, so it feels like it always happens that way.

Either that, or you got some of that Austin Powers mojo action going on for you. :thumb:

I hate to say this, but I am getting very confused.

Must be time for bed.

East Hill

Popcorn, EH? :popcorn

Fixed it for ya. :D



:eek:

You know I luv ya, right?

Thanks Siu :p

That's what friends are for, UA. You're a good sport. ((hugs))

We have never dated and I love you.

It's your car. It's why I want you.

you guys are useless. :notamused: :p

you guys are useless. :notamused: :p

and at your service:p

you guys are useless. :notamused: :p

Yes master, we learn at your feet.

Dude, he's never been to the fish pedicure. Be careful.

Dude, he's never been to the fish pedicure. Be careful.

I have a nice bass, I am safe.

I'm thinking one of these two, or a combination of both:

The manipulative b'ches theory:

There's a select group of women who are masters at the art of manipulate men. It's seems to be genetic, since my 2yo daughter does it very well... she seems to carry the gene (from her mother I'm sure). They prey upon men who can be emotionally messed up with ease. They use their trickery to achieve their goal, be it gold-digging, temporary companionship or good old sportsmanship (so they could brag about how much they messed you up with the other b'ches).

The chronic loneliness syndrome:

These are men who can't live without companionship. They try to be extremely nice to every woman out there in an unconscious effort to increase their mating pool. Every woman in contact with them will eventually give in to the extraordinary kindness, thinking they just found a jewel. After a while, they found out that the loneliness is indeed very chronic and won't go away unless high levels of attention are administered 24x7, along with lotsa lotsa sex. They can't keep up and just leave.

I have a nice ass, I am safe.


[Don't ask, don't tell.] :innocent:

actually it is a mule.

I'm thinking one of these two, or a combination of both:

The manipulative b'ches theory:

There's a select group of women who are masters at the art of manipulate men. It's seems to be genetic, since my 2yo daughter does it very well... she seems to carry the gene (from her mother I'm sure). They prey upon men who can be emotionally messed up with ease. They use their trickery to achieve their goal, be it gold-digging, temporary companionship or good old sportsmanship (so they could brag about how much they messed you up with the other b'ches).

The chronic loneliness syndrome:

These are men who can't live without companionship. They try to be extremely nice to every woman out there in an unconscious effort to increase their mating pool. Every woman in contact with them will eventually give in to the extraordinary kindness, thinking they just found a jewel. After a while, they found out that the loneliness is indeed very chronic and won't go away unless high levels of attention are administered 24x7, along with lotsa lotsa sex. They can't keep up and just leave.

That's interesting, but I don't believe either is the case here. Normally, I've been pretty happy being single. In fact, most of the time when I'm dating someone, I'd rather be single. I've liked the freedom to do what I want, when I want to.

As far as the women go, I really don't believe any of them have been manipulative. I don't really have anything for someone like that to want. I'm poor and I can be a jerk sometimes. So, I doubt they're being manipulative when they say they love me.

ummm.... Can we just be friends? :)

ummm.... Can we just be friends? :)

Woohoo! Finally! :p

UA, maybe you should switch teams.....:innocent:

UA, maybe you should switch teams.....:innocent:

Hmmmm.....

*debating whether or not to come out of the closet on BF*

Hmmmm.....

*debating whether or not to come out of the closet on BF*

<Tude dials the BF film crew and sends them out to get UA's statement ...>

<Tude dials the BF film crew and sends them out to get UA's statement ...>

I wonder if you could use the film crews from High School Musical and Brokeback Mountain? Maybe release a new film, "Rocky Mountain High"?

Hmmmm.....

*debating whether or not to come out of the closet on BF*

Dood, I've already busted the door off. We can see your rainbow knickers :D

They're only half rainbow...:p

I'm not trying to brag, I'm just trying to figure out why this has happened to me. I have never er....dated someone who hasn't ended up falling in love with me. Why? Why can't I just date someone for fun? Why does it have to end up like this? I guess that's a major reason why I don't date much, I don't like getting close to people, and it just seems to happen. fragh
I've got a similar issue with guys- I always end up with the lovesick puppies. I'd say a big difference between you and I though is that it sounds like you might be falling, too- which is an amazing thing I've yet to really experience, and am a bit envious of people who fall- and even those who fall easily. Instead of fretting about how much "love sucks" -- especially when its over, I say dive in head first and enjoy it while you have it. You'll have much more to smile about in the end.

I've only loved 1 person I've dated, the rest I've really enjoyed being with and I liked having someone to hang out with, but loving....no... Even people I've just hooked up with for some fun have ended up falling in love with me. I'm just really nervous about hooking up with someone right now because I really don't want to be in another relationship right now.

I think that's why it's so hard for me to move on. I can't do the rebound thing because I don't want the person I'm with to fall in love with me.

I wonder if you could use the film crews from High School Musical and Brokeback Mountain? Maybe release a new film, "Rocky Mountain High"?

can't. John Denver's dead.

They're only half rainbow...:p

Oh really?

http://www.jacksofscience.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/10/in-rainbow.jpg

hehe

<UA looking down>

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/192/450944247_d9dfc7416f.jpg?v=0

And he started out so young ....

http://www.plushpants.co.uk/images/baby/Sophie%2010%20weeks%20TB%20Rainbow%20Fleece%20Wrap.jpg

Ah so the truth shall reign.

No wonder he's confused.

Ah so the truth shall reign.

No wonder he's confused.

Yes, it started so long ago ...

http://www.silvasyouth.com/Rainbow.gif

:lol:

i nominate this as the most colorful thread ever.

The chronic loneliness syndrome:

These are men who can't live without companionship. They try to be extremely nice to every woman out there in an unconscious effort to increase their mating pool. Every woman in contact with them will eventually give in to the extraordinary kindness, thinking they just found a jewel. After a while, they found out that the loneliness is indeed very chronic and won't go away unless high levels of attention are administered 24x7, along with lotsa lotsa sex. They can't keep up and just leave.

Interestingly enough, I think I know a woman that's like this...

Yes, it started so long ago ...

http://www.silvasyouth.com/Rainbow.gif

:lol:

I love rainbows!

I'm not trying to brag, I'm just trying to figure out why this has happened to me. I have never er....dated someone who hasn't ended up falling in love with me. Why? Why can't I just date someone for fun? Why does it have to end up like this? I guess that's a major reason why I don't date much, I don't like getting close to people, and it just seems to happen. fragh

yr a s e x machine and they cant leave you anymore. Simple really :lol:

yr a s e x machine and they cant leave you anymore. Simple really :lol:

:roflmao:

:twitchy: Just googled sex machine....:twitchy:

Its a james brown song, :innocent:

:twitchy: Just googled sex machine....:twitchy:

you find the Sybian? :innocent:

you find the Sybian? :innocent:

:twitchy:

heh

:twitchy: Just googled sex machine....:twitchy:

I do remember a pron a few years ago that involved a similar sounding machine ....

But, oh wait, that was someone else. :innocent:

I'm not trying to brag, I'm just trying to figure out why this has happened to me. I have never er....dated someone who hasn't ended up falling in love with me. Why? Why can't I just date someone for fun? Why does it have to end up like this? I guess that's a major reason why I don't date much, I don't like getting close to people, and it just seems to happen. fragh

because you're doing it wrong (no offense).

I learned that going after girls is VERY much similar to climbing on a bike...you just have to not give a damn, and just do it.

Read up stuff online; LOTS of information there. The more you talk to women, the more dates you'll have (for better and DEFINITELY for worse).

I think that's why it's so hard for me to move on. I can't do the rebound thing because I don't want the person I'm with to fall in love with me.

Just be upfront and honest about what you want out of the relationship and take action when you feel is necessary.

I was in a similar situation 3 years ago when I had recently gotten out of a long, toxic relationship, and I did NOT want to get heavily involved in another. BUT, I did end up falling in love with the greatest guy in the world anyway, and its not always such a bad thing. :)

Just be upfront and honest about what you want out of the relationship and take action when you feel is necessary.

I was in a similar situation 3 years ago when I had recently gotten out of a long, toxic relationship, and I did NOT want to get heavily involved in another. BUT, I did end up falling in love with the greatest guy in the world anyway, and its not always such a bad thing. :)

Oh gosh, you're in love with me too?...:p

Maybe it's more that I just don't want to deal with any of that right now. Ah, I don't know...

Oh gosh, you're in love with me too?...:p

Maybe it's more that I just don't want to deal with any of that right now. Ah, I don't know...

Then don't deal with it. If you don't feel you're ready to be dating then don't do it. You'll probably save yourself a lot of trouble. There's no rule book that says you have to rebound. Do it if you feel like it. If not, then let yourself just be alone for a while.

Edit* to add a :p face to the first part. ;)