Foo - The Dating thread.

With all of these dating threads happening around here, I decided to make 'the dating/relationships/sociology thread.'

Discuss.

With all of these dating threads happening around here, I decided to make 'the dating/relationships/sociology thread.'

Discuss.

sociology? I had one class taught by a sociologist. Weirdest mofo you ever saw....

I hate people.

I hate people.

that's ma' girl:p

Okay then, I'll start.

I was at a restaurant on Saturday with a friend of mine and the waitress was really hot. I was flirting w/ her the whole time and giving her a hard time because she didn't wear a name tag. She was really cute and seemed to respond well to the flirting, so at the end of the dinner I asked her if she wanted to go hang out next weekend. She said sure and I got her number. Now, I keep going over the conversation in my head and realizing some of the stupid idiotic things I said. I'm also realizing that I know her name, but she probably doesn't know mine :lol:. That shouldn't be a problem though, I'll just say my name when I call her (after I wait my mandatory 5 days).

So, there is my story. I don't ask girls out much so I was pretty pumped when I just randomly did it and she said yes. Now, I just need a good first date place....Any recommendations? I don't want to go for the dinner/movie thing. Seems to boring.

I hate people.

Sociology at it's simplest.

Okay then, I'll start.

I was at a restaurant on Saturday with a friend of mine and the waitress was really hot. I was flirting w/ her the whole time and giving her a hard time because she didn't wear a name tag. She was really cute and seemed to respond well to the flirting, so at the end of the dinner I asked her if she wanted to go hang out next weekend. She said sure and I got her number. Now, I keep going over the conversation in my head and realizing some of the stupid idiotic things I said. I'm also realizing that I know her name, but she probably doesn't know mine :lol:. That shouldn't be a problem though, I'll just say my name when I call her (after I wait my mandatory 5 days).

So, there is my story. I don't ask girls out much so I was pretty pumped when I just randomly did it and she said yes. Now, I just need a good first date place....Any recommendations? I don't want to go for the dinner/movie thing. Seems to boring.

Good job, man!

Question: when you say flirting, do you mean that you were making subtle references to how interested you were in her, or just trying to be witty and get her to laugh?

I'm having trouble with that.

Okay then, I'll start.

I was at a restaurant on Saturday with a friend of mine and the waitress was really hot. I was flirting w/ her the whole time and giving her a hard time because she didn't wear a name tag. She was really cute and seemed to respond well to the flirting, so at the end of the dinner I asked her if she wanted to go hang out next weekend. She said sure and I got her number. Now, I keep going over the conversation in my head and realizing some of the stupid idiotic things I said. I'm also realizing that I know her name, but she probably doesn't know mine :lol:. That shouldn't be a problem though, I'll just say my name when I call her (after I wait my mandatory 5 days).

So, there is my story. I don't ask girls out much so I was pretty pumped when I just randomly did it and she said yes. Now, I just need a good first date place....Any recommendations? I don't want to go for the dinner/movie thing. Seems to boring.

Try something quirky, like Putt-Putt golf or something. It's a hoot, and no one is expected to be any good.

Whatever you do, DON'T do dinner date or movies. Seriously.

Try bowling; it's fun! Mini golf is a good idea; I think I'll try that next time! Do you have cheap rafting around? I know that in NYC, we have free rafting on the weekends, but it's closing up shop soon for the fall/winter. Free concerts in the park are good, or check your newspaper for events. I just discovered this; the Weekends section is INVALUABLE.

Good job, man!

Question: when you say flirting, do you mean that you were making subtle references to how interested you were in her, or just trying to be witty and get her to laugh?

I'm having trouble with that.

That one. We had gone into this restaurant before this Saturday and she was our waitress. That was when I first saw her. She was really cool and I asked her what her name was and I told her I wouldn't have to ask if she were wearing a nametag. She laughed, and that was pretty much it. So, on Saturday I went in and she was our waitress again. She remembered me and I said hey Sarah "too cool for a nametag" and that made her laugh. So, I figured it was going well and just asked her out.

Good info on the first date places guys, keep the recommendations coming!

Okay, cool. That's what I try to do, and it seems to get me first dates just fine, but nothing else afterwards...

For instance (I'm not sure if I wrote about this here, I don't think I did), I met this woman a few weeks ago through a friend of mine. When we first met at the bar my friend's band was playing at, I didn't pay much attention to her, as she didn't seem to be the social kind. I talked to the drummer for a while, got a free CD, and THEN started talking to her (and her cousin). My friends (purposely) isolated me with the two of them, and while I was a bit nervous at first, I landed up having a great time. The subject woman and I connected REALLY well, and we talked for a long time. We agreed to meet up later on.

Our second meet was more or less like the first. We were supposed to check out a museum, but she wanted to eat, so we did. Again, we connected really well, and talked about random stuff for a few hours. I thought things would end okay (I wanted to go a lot slower with the women I've been meeting recently)...but then I never hear from her again. I've tried calling her and texting her, to no avail. I've wanted to email her, but I doubt she'd respond to that. I want to keep touch with her, since she was really cool and I thought we had a good connection, but I have no idea of what happened.

The only thing that I can think of was that we talked about "dating" and how people perceive it/work with it, and I mentioned that there are people that follow "rules" to better their chances. This was early into the dinner, and we hung out for much longer than that...

At the same time, I was talking to her cousin through Facebook. I didn't mean anything by it, but we were bantering quite a lot. We talked quite a bit through there, and it seemed that she liked talking to me...We agreed to meet up later, but couldn't because she had errands to run and was going back to college that same week. I got her number and gave her a call about a week later. NOTHING from her either....I left a Facebook message, and haven't heard from her either...

Really weird.

I hate people.

Not sure I actually qualify as "people". :innocent:

Okay, cool. That's what I try to do, and it seems to get me first dates just fine, but nothing else afterwards...

Keep asking questions about her. The most interesting people are the ones that want to know about you. Don't talk about yourself. She will ask when she wants to know.

Keep asking questions about her. The most interesting people are the ones that want to know about you. Don't talk about yourself. She will ask when she wants to know.

Good advice. As long as you ask the right questions, she will talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk....

For anybody:

When I call her, what should I say? I'm new to this whole thing and just want to make sure I play it out right. Also, if I get the answering machine should I leave a message? Damn, I hate dating.

Keep asking questions about her. The most interesting people are the ones that want to know about you. Don't talk about yourself. She will ask when she wants to know.

I do that, and the woman indeed talks about her...but only some bother to ask questions about me, which I thought was an indicator of interest...

I try not to make it sound like an interview process, because lots of guys do that, and I'm sure girls don't like that kind of talk anyway. If I feel that it's getting to that, then there is a disconnect somewhere.

Good advice. As long as you ask the right questions, she will talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk....

For anybody:

When I call her, what should I say? I'm new to this whole thing and just want to make sure I play it out right. Also, if I get the answering machine should I leave a message? Damn, I hate dating.

Be witty about your first call. Normally, I say something to try and get her to laugh and know that it's me. If you can, use something that you talked about before (provided that it was interesting), and follow up from there.

I am a player.
aka commitment phobe.

Admitting it is the first step, right? :thumb:

I am a player.
aka commitment phobe.

Admitting it is the first step, right? :thumb:

Hey, how you doing?

Uh oh, Unsafe has posted in this thread.

I am a player.
aka commitment phobe.

Admitting it is the first step, right? :thumb:

Why?

Don't worry, I'll just make fun of other people. :thumb:

or attempt to hook up with anyone that posts in here.

Why?
you know, that is the question of the day/week/month... year, practically. one of my friends pointed out this weekend that I must be afraid of commitment, considering I have several acceptable suitors that are interested, I just don't care to date anyone. Or maybe I have more options than I can make up my mind on.

can we re-name this thread Mr Crassic's Dating Advice? ;)

I hate people.

Me too, but I like sex. :twitchy:

Me too, but I like sex. :twitchy:

You're my new hero if you hate them while having sex....

You're my new hero if you hate them while having sex....:eek:

I thought things would end okay (I wanted to go a lot slower with the women I've been meeting recently)...but then I never hear from her again.

At the same time, I was talking to her cousin through Facebook. I didn't mean anything by it, but we were bantering quite a lot. ... We agreed to meet up later ... and haven't heard from her either

I'm thinking the two were aware that you were trying both of them at the same time.

Also, the "mandatory 5 days" rule to call a girl after you get her number is BS. When guys do that, I assume they're not really interested, and I normally lose interest pretty quickly--and it's actually been my experience that when they've waited that long, they weren't that interested in the first place. If you get her number, let her know you actually DID want it by calling her within a couple (2) days, because whatever connection you may have had starts to fizzle after that.

Also, the "mandatory 5 days" rule to call a girl after you get her number is BS. When guys do that, I assume they're not really interested, and I normally lose interest pretty quickly--and it's actually been my experience that when they've waited that long, they weren't that interested in the first place. If you get her number, let her know you actually DID want it by calling her within a couple (2) days, because whatever connection you may have had starts to fizzle after that.

Absolutely agreed. If you want a girl that's one thing - not if you want women who will treat you with respect down the line and not play games.

can we re-name this thread Mr Crassic's Dating Advice? ;)

Why? I suck with dating; I just know how to make friends and get first dates!

Why? I suck with dating; I just know how to make friends and get first dates!

that's more than I can do

Hmm...well I did lie a little bit to one of them when I said that I didn't speak "that much" with her cousin...though her cousin never asked about whether I was speaking to the other.

Oh well.

You're my new hero if you hate them while having sex....

That's really easy. Paper bags are good for something!

(I've never done that, for those that are wondering.)

That's really easy. Paper bags are good for something!

(I've never done that, for those that are wondering.)

I don't hate people for how they look, I hate them for who they are...Hate sex is much easier if they're hot...:innocent: not that I've done that...

I don't hate people for how they look, I hate them for who they are...Hate sex is much easier if they're hot...:innocent: not that I've done that...

I've done the "hate sex" thing, though it was more like "dislike sex" because there was not a smidge of chemistry between us.

Though one thing is to let it linger for months and another is to realize it for what it is and just do it...

You're my new hero if you hate them while having sex....

QUICKLY UA - cover your ears and eyes - do not read any more of the bad boy's response!!

I love dating....most of the time....well minus the psychos!!

I hope you're not talking about me; I'm actually SUPER innocent when it comes to that stuff. Seriously.

I've done the "hate sex" thing, though it was more like "dislike sex" because there was not a smidge of chemistry between us.

Though one thing is to let it linger for months and another is to realize it for what it is and just do it...no, no. you're doing it wrong. you're supposed to hate the person but love doing the dirty anyway.

no, no. you're doing it wrong. you're supposed to hate the person but love doing the dirty anyway.

Nope; that sucked too.

(okay...it wasn't so bad, but I've had better.)

Hey, how you doing?

Be careful man... that line can get you in a lot of trouble.

:D

Last time I went on a date maximan1 was 5 years old.

ironically, I'm listening to buckcherry- crazy chick at the moment.

crazy chick?:rolleyes:

You're my new hero if you hate them while having sex....

Angry sex is so hot though.

they're all crazy...

ironically, I'm listening to buckcherry- crazy chick at the moment.

LOVE LOVE LOVE that song - and describes too many people I know way too well...

they're all crazy...

+1
(except for my foo crushes....and they know who they are)

ironically, I'm listening to buckcherry- crazy chick at the moment.

Wow, that is totally not what I would've pictured you listening to...

Wow, that is totally not what I would've pictured you listening to...do tell what you pictured?
I mostly listen to anything but pop/top 40, twangy country and rap.. wait, whats left? :) pretty much alternative rock, folk rock, pop-punk, occasional hard rock metal, techno mixed in.

Well, you are from Minnesota...