Recreational & Family - Do your little ones hate their helmets as much as my little one?

My 20 month old still hates wearing his helmet. I started him in a trailer when he was about 13 months old, and I was hoping that he will get used to it after a while which did not happen. Now, after a period of 5 months with no riding, he is even more opposed to it than he used to be. Last summer, he was at least falling asleep after a while of fighting to take it off, but yesterday he fought all through the 1 hour ride I took him.

How long did it take for your little ones to get used to the helmet? Even though he is in the trailer, I am hesitant to take the helmet off, but him not enjoying himself will become a worry if he keeps this up.

Ihsan

Do you wear your helmet as an example?

We have not had many problems with helmets, but we have rarely used helmets in the trailer. So helmets don't really come into play for us until they come out of the trailer (onto their own bike, the TAB or the tandem) which is about 3+.

At 20 months he is likely not talking very well yet and reasoning is also probably difficult. Any way that you could maneuver him into being excited to pick out his own helmet? You would get "buy in" that way. It also could be a fit issue. Something to consider, is it the helmet he does not like or the position of his head in the trailer with the helmet on? The seat backs along with the protrusion on the back of the helmet can force their head down. A neck pillow or towel around the neck can help get them into a more comfortable position.

The helmet should not be an issue too much longer. He should be more compliant to rules in the coming months.

Do you wear your helmet as an example?

Yes I do. Religiously.



At 20 months he is likely not talking very well yet and reasoning is also probably difficult. Any way that you could maneuver him into being excited to pick out his own helmet? You would get "buy in" that way. It also could be a fit issue. Something to consider, is it the helmet he does not like or the position of his head in the trailer with the helmet on? The seat backs along with the protrusion on the back of the helmet can force their head down. A neck pillow or towel around the neck can help get them into a more comfortable position.

Well, he does pick his helmet up and comes to me when he wants to express his desire to go out riding. Once he gets his wish though, getting strapped into the trailer that is, he tries to get rid of it. The trailer has a "helmet pocket", which works very well but of course it is not the same as not wearing one.



The helmet should not be an issue too much longer. He should be more compliant to rules in the coming months.
Oh I can't wait.

Thanks,
Ihsan

I took my 2 year old into BikeMart and said, "Pick one." He got excited and picked one. I brought him home and let him wear it around the house a bit, unstrapped. Took him out to the bike and fastened the neck strap. He freaked. I asked him if he wanted the helmet off or did he want to go for a ride. he said off. I grabbed his hand and started walking back inside. He said "Go for ride". I said he had to strap on his helmet. He understood that he had two choices that he could choose from and I would be OK with either. He chose to fasten the helmet and have fun.

You could always get a sheet of stickers and let the kid go nuts.

When you ride, is it fun for the kid, or are you just making time? My rides with my son are 5 miles or so where we try to stop and play for 10 minutes at as many parks as we can. Takes a long time, but we both have fun.

Man, I can't wait for daylight savings time...

When you ride, is it fun for the kid, or are you just making time? My rides with my son are 5 miles or so where we try to stop and play for 10 minutes at as many parks as we can. Takes a long time, but we both have fun.

Man, I can't wait for daylight savings time...

Last year he was having fun. I'm not so sure about yesterday's ride though. "Stop and play" breaks sound good actually. I may try that next week, weather permitting of course.

Ihsan

My little one (16 now) liked his a lot when he first got it. He wore it all day long. Once he was swimming in the kiddie pool on the back deck, and as he walked into the kitchen (lino floor) with wet feet, his feet went ...zip... out from under him, and he came down on the back of his head on the doorway threshold. (aluminum or steel thing) With the helmet on, he bounce right back up, and continued his day with no worries whatsoever.

Last year he was having fun. I'm not so sure about yesterday's ride though. "Stop and play" breaks sound good actually. I may try that next week, weather permitting of course.

Ihsan

To me, they are really important.

Put yourself in the kids shoes. You are just under 3 feet tall, you are in a trailer behind high wheels with a crappy plastic window staring at the back of a wheel, someone's hiney, and potentially a mesmerizing blinky. Some giant you call your dad straps you in to the point of non-movement and then hits every bump in the road for an hour...

Now, take your adult attention span and cut it by about 70%.

I always make a point to fun it up for the kid.

Ideas:

Go to the dollar store and got a $1 kite. it will wind up in a tree. Leave it there.
Pack a loaf of bread and feed pigeons.
Hit every park (NEVER ride past one). Make something special out of it.
On climbs up hills, turn around and say, "I think i can, I think i can" and have him or her cheer\ "hooray!" when you get to the top. Bring a copy of the little engine that could and read it on a park bench.
We "go for coffee." This entails us riding to a dunkin donuts 3 miles away and he gets a couple of munchkins and an OJ. I get an iced coffee. We sit and talk (as best as a 2 year old can). Then later we have to explain to other people that when our child says he wants coffee that that actually means he wants donuts.
One thing he loves is "bicycle rocks" where he gets to take a fistful of pebble stones from the playground into the trailer and can throw them out the side. Its the ONLY time he is allowed to throw rocks. He LOVES it.

My little one (16 now) liked his a lot when he first got it. He wore it all day long. Once he was swimming in the kiddie pool on the back deck, and as he walked into the kitchen (lino floor) with wet feet, his feet went ...zip... out from under him, and he came down on the back of his head on the doorway threshold. (aluminum or steel thing) With the helmet on, he bounce right back up, and continued his day with no worries whatsoever.

He liked to put it on and run around when we first got him as well.


To me, they are really important.

Put yourself in the kids shoes. You are just under 3 feet tall, you are in a trailer behind high wheels with a crappy plastic window staring at the back of a wheel, someone's hiney, and potentially a mesmerizing blinky. Some giant you call your dad straps you in to the point of non-movement and then hits every bump in the road for an hour...

Now, take your adult attention span and cut it by about 70%.

I always make a point to fun it up for the kid.

Ideas:

Go to the dollar store and got a $1 kite. it will wind up in a tree. Leave it there.
Pack a loaf of bread and feed pigeons.
Hit every park (NEVER ride past one). Make something special out of it.
On climbs up hills, turn around and say, "I think i can, I think i can" and have him or her cheer\ "hooray!" when you get to the top. Bring a copy of the little engine that could and read it on a park bench.
We "go for coffee." This entails us riding to a dunkin donuts 3 miles away and he gets a couple of munchkins and an OJ. I get an iced coffee. We sit and talk (as best as a 2 year old can). Then later we have to explain to other people that when our child says he wants coffee that that actually means he wants donuts.
One thing he loves is "bicycle rocks" where he gets to take a fistful of pebble stones from the playground into the trailer and can throw them out the side. Its the ONLY time he is allowed to throw rocks. He LOVES it.

Thanks, I remember seeing one or two parks on our regular trail. Great suggestions.

Ihsan

I battle with both my son, 8 and my daughter, 14, about wearing a helmet. My daughter has been warned by a police officer on the way to school and yet still its an argument. Drives me bonkers. It surely doesn't help that the neighborhood kids don't seem to wear one.

I haven't been on a bike in years but I am shopping for one now and intend to wear a helmet always.

I am going to try stickers for the 8 year old, that may help if only a little. Thanks!

for trailer rides, my kids don't wear helmets.

if they want to ride on the trail-a-bike or their own bikes, helmets and shoes are mandatory. if they willfully disobey, i put the bike into a timeout.

for trailer rides, my kids don't wear helmets.


Last week's was the first ride of the season so I'm willing to think that he may need to get used to them again, but if he continues to resist it I may have to do the same. I'm only riding with him on asphalt trails anyway.

Ihsan

My question is whats the point of a helmet inside the trailer, there not going to hit their head on anything even if the trailer flipped over?
We found that and eventually they managed to get them off while in the trailer. We let them pick them out, wear ours, they wore them around the house, etc. We are hoping now that he has a toy camera and two way radios to play with they might be distracted from the helmets.

We have six kids - 13 to 5 - and they use the helmets religiously because they know there is no option. They see mine in the back of the car with my bike and know dad uses his too. If I hop on the mountain bike and ride the half mile to the mail box without a helmet I get lectured by all of the kids - loudly.

My question is whats the point of a helmet inside the trailer, there not going to hit their head on anything even if the trailer flipped over?
We found that and eventually they managed to get them off while in the trailer. We let them pick them out, wear ours, they wore them around the house, etc. We are hoping now that he has a toy camera and two way radios to play with they might be distracted from the helmets.

The point is that if they wear the helmet in the trailer from the age of two, it becomes a natural part of bicycling. When they get out of the trailer and onto a trail a bike or a regular bike, there is no discussion.

Having a two year old, i do a lot of things with him that make no sense for a two year old but will make perfect sense for a five year old. I do this so it isn't a fight when they are 5.

I started wearing a helmet as an example to the kids. They are now 11 and 15 and both automatically reach for their helmets. I let them pick them out when we went to go get them, they picked Pryme multi-sport, multi-hit helmets.

When they were or trailering age, it was indeed somewhat difficult to get them to keep the helmets on. Like what was posted above give them their choices. Helmet on we can ride, no helmet no ride. My sister-in-law used to take my nephew everywhere in a bike seat then a trail-a-bike. He was a fighter cryer screamer, and would sometimes be riding down the road on the way to day care wailing away. Sometimes you just gotta strap it on and go if you have to be somewhere.

I'll get lectured as well on those rare days I feel young and indestructible and leave the lid at home. They'll even call me at work when they get home from school. "Daddy.. you forgot your helmet!!!"

Oh and trail-a-bikes train their muscles in the biking balance, when the nephew came to learn to ride it was basically ... push, watch him ride. Took all of two minutes. Can't say enough good things about them.

The point is that if they wear the helmet in the trailer from the age of two, it becomes a natural part of bicycling.

That's the whole reason I want him to get used to anyway, the only problem is he is 20 months old, and "take it or leave it" warnings may be meaningless at that age.

Ihsan

I guess we were just lucky. My daughter had no problem wearing a helmet at that age. Maybe because she loved Dora so much (a "Dora the Explorer" helmet)? Or maybe because she wanted to ride her "bike" (a big wheel at that point) so much.

But two-year-olds are called "terrible twos" for a reason (even if they're only 20 months). Good luck, I think if you keep at it he'll get used to it. And I completely agree with getting them started early.

We really struggle with our son when he is in the trailer as well. We put the helmet on him to start, but he rarely has it on when we stop. He even pulls the pads off the inside the helmet that velcro on and toss them out, and somehow we have always found them. I'm thinking some glue may be in order.

Hate to admit it, but he often "wins". As we ride mostly on our local trail, and only a few blocks on low traffic streets (rarely meet a car) to get there, I've been a bad dad and let it go.

I tell myself that the trailer adds protection from an accident like a dump over, but know deep down that if a car ever hit the trailer it would provide very little actual protection.

I'll try to be a better dad this season... =\.

What age do you usually move to a trail a bike?

I guess we were just lucky. My daughter had no problem wearing a helmet at that age. Maybe because she loved Dora so much (a "Dora the Explorer" helmet)? Or maybe because she wanted to ride her "bike" (a big wheel at that point) so much.

But two-year-olds are called "terrible twos" for a reason (even if they're only 20 months). Good luck, I think if you keep at it he'll get used to it. And I completely agree with getting them started early.

I have a son about to turn three. The "terrible twos" are not terrible. This is the age where they consciously realize they have control and are trying to figure out what the boundaries are. This is when you must be the most diligent and not let laziness, tiredness, distraction, etc. get in your way. You have to have stronger will then them even if it seems like something not to care about or trivial. It is not trivial because they are testing you and they know they are testing you.

For me the terrible twos is only difficult because of the ENDLESS energy of the child. They can't play enough, can't sit still, and want to MOVE.

They are two. If they don't want to wear a helmet it is not a choice. If they refuse, take away the play time and/or spank them depending upon the situation.

My boys see me in my helmet and want to be like me, so they wear theirs. They now put their helmets on instinctively whenever they ride bikes, scooters, skateboards, etc.

Here is a pic of my youngest to prove the point.

http://i144.photobucket.com/albums/r162/jsharr/wadesbirthday07002.jpg

What age do you usually move to a trail a bike?

Depends on the kid and your comfort level, but ours typically start no earlier than 3, no later than 4.

First rides are up and down the street familiarization rides. We increase gradually. We always have the trailer along to give them breaks from having to hang on (they typically can't pedal, and sometimes can't reach the pedals). The breaks are especially important if you travel on bumpy trails. They tense up and tire out their arms and hands. If you don't have a trailer and want some extra insurance that they can make it through the ride, get a seat back for the TAB. It provides a back rest and strap to help keep the child on the bike.

Unfortunately, these types of threads usually devolve into "IMO on child rearing....." :deadhorse:

This might not encourage you but, we never had any problem getting the kids to accept their helmets. For them it was always a part of cycling. My youngest always looks forward to putting his on for our rides because then he is like everyone else. Our kids always had a say in the helmets we got them. Usually there is a great deal of choice within any given price range. I don't remember doing anything else to make helmets more acceptable for them though.

Thanks for all the input. I think I have very good pointers to try from this thread.

Ihsan

Oh I can't wait.

Thanks,
Ihsan

Then you'll have to brace yourself for adolescence.

I guess I'm lucky. My darling daughter will even wear it around the house. I don't know if it's just that she's a good kid or she always sees me wearing a helmet (on the bike).

Depending on the age, do keep the rides short. Last summer when she was ~20 months, I would only do rides in the local park. I would ride the few blocks to the park, ride around the park, stop and let her play on the toys for a while, then back in the trailer and home. Maybe 15 minutes bike time total.

I'm planning on stretching it out some more this summer, but I'm still going to keep it in small increments, make sure there's a quick bail-out option.

I liked the idea of stickers, I'll have to try that too (and I have some reflective tape too).

Last night at Target I found bunny-ear clip-ons. I got one for her and one for myself, I'll zip-tie 'em to our helmets. I don't know if she'll lke it, but I've been wanting a set for quite some time now...

dude, I think most people hate helmets. not just kids. I'm 15 and I cna't take them.

dude, I think most people hate helmets. not just kids. I'm 15 and I cna't take them.

Brains work better inside the skull than outside.

Only a few people hate helmets and refuse to wear them, its like my inalws refusing to wear seatbelts because they heard some rumor that you could be trapped by it in a burning vehilce.
My kids loved them in the store and ran around the house with them, if it wasn't for them ripping out the little velcro pads inside I'd leave them out where they could get to them and wear them around the house as they pleased but I can't.

I don't have kids, but if I did I wouldn't care much for the thought of their little skulls bouncing on the pavement without anything more than hair and skin to protect them.

If they don't like it, tough. You're the parent, and what you say should go.

My kid (19 months) is the helmet police. She yells at people who are not wearing helmets and says, "Yay, hehmut!" to anyone who is. We were really lax about the helmet in the trailer but she insists on it. I have NO IDEA how I birthed such an authoritarian little safety nut, but I'm not going to argue with her.

If you were closer, Ihsan Gin, we'd invite you for a ride and let the toddler peer pressure do its magic!

My kid (19 months) is the helmet police. She yells at people who are not wearing helmets and says, "Yay, hehmut!" to anyone who is. We were really lax about the helmet in the trailer but she insists on it. I have NO IDEA how I birthed such an authoritarian little safety nut, but I'm not going to argue with her.

If you were closer, Ihsan Gin, we'd invite you for a ride and let the toddler peer pressure do its magic!

Thanks xeney.. Err, no trips for you guys towards our neck of the woods in the near future, eh?

I made some progress. Three year old understands helmet or go back in the house. 1.5 year old just cries and manages to tear her helmet apart. Giro Infant/toddler, the part that goes around the head is just velcro'ed in as well as all the pads with little tiny patches of velcro. I bought a roll of industrial strength velcro and cut a paice to match the shape of the pad in the top and replace the three little velcro strips with mine so she shouldn't be able to pull it out as easily but the one for the back is missing and I'm having a hard time getting the main part back in right. I'm going to maybe try a different helmet, maybe this one isn't comfortable or somehting. If I lay it in the middle of the living room she will pick it up and put it on and run around with it though.

I think Giro changed their design because my neighbor's son has the same model but the velcro halo is now gone. My kid hates his helmet for the first few blocks, then the motion-induced narcolepsy kicks in. :D
I don't think I could've made it across town if my 19 month old didn't fall asleep so much in the trailer.

Do you wear your helmet as an example?

My first thoughts, too. My 3 yr old had his on in the house and was pretending to bike to school, had his backpack on and everything.

I think Giro changed their design because my neighbor's son has the same model but the velcro halo is now gone. My kid hates his helmet for the first few blocks, then the motion-induced narcolepsy kicks in. :D
I don't think I could've made it across town if my 19 month old didn't fall asleep so much in the trailer.

We just bought this at Christmas time so it should be pretty recent. I found the other little peice she pulled off so I'm going to replace the velcro that holds it on too and then try a different brand helmet.

Helmet = Ride
No helmet = no ride.

I stop if I look back and he's pulled it off.

He's in the trailer but i want to make sure if something happens he's ok. You can bounce around a good bit in an accident and he's only attached to the cloth pad so to speak.

I was hit by a car as a kid and the helmet saved my life. No other options in my opinion.

Giro has a "Mike and the bike" helmet we got him and it came with a book and two pages of stickers for $30 at the LBS. He reads his book and gets sticker for potty training. Nice tie in for him mentally.

Rode with him today and he was great, i talk to him and have him yell "Go go go!" up the hills. It feels great to hear him say "Good job Daddy!"
:)

Helmet = Ride
No helmet = no ride.



Three year ols can get that but the 1.5 year old can't. We had the same issue with the car seat butput her in, let her scream and turn the radio up. Eventually she got the point and stopped fighting. I would just put the helmet on her and ride and make her get used to it but all the neighbors stare when they hear the trailer coming by with a scream coming from it :)

If it becomes part of the pre-bike ride ritual, eventually it will become habit. Check the tires, check the brakes, make sure anything loose is secured, check helmet straps and go.

After a while, you can start giving the child the choice and more often than not, the habit will be so ingrained that they won't really feel comfortable without a helmet.

For those who always wear seatbelts, you probably complained bitterly as a child when forced to wear one. I know I did. Nowadays, if I'm in my car and I have to take my belt off for some reason, it feels weird and uncomfortable.

The same ritual-habit can be enforced upon a child with bike helmets.

Three year ols can get that but the 1.5 year old can't. We had the same issue with the car seat butput her in, let her scream and turn the radio up. Eventually she got the point and stopped fighting. I would just put the helmet on her and ride and make her get used to it but all the neighbors stare when they hear the trailer coming by with a scream coming from it :)


Sounds like you just need to add a radio!

My daughters started cycling at a much later age and helmets have never been an issue for them...they give me flak if I am not wearing mine (which is pretty rare).

My step sons were also pretty good about wearing helmets as they were habituated to using them from all the time they spend roller blading and skateboarding.

All last summer my 8 year old would get up in the morning and the first thing she would do was put on her helmet and ask me... "can we go for a ride?"

:)

A 20 month old child should understand the correlation between wearing a helmet and going for a ride so if the helmet comes off or won't go on or there is undue screaming... just cancel the ride.