Foo - I don't get it.

Do guys like a feisty woman? Find them to be a challenge?

There's a manager from another location of ours that I met a few times who I understand has been really hard on his employees, although I myself have never worked with him. We are talking about suspensions and terminations that eventually were reversed. When shopping earlier today, I saw him at the store (I turned my head to avoid him) and pretty much tried to continue shopping when he approached me and said hello to me in a very enthusiastic way. At that point I had to greet him back, for I didn't want to *ahem* be rude. Anyway, he asked me how I'm doing and after my reply I commented that he looked stressed. He said it wasn't stress, just that he's a mean person and that's the way his face is. I told him "Oh I heard".

For some reason he seemed to want to continue chatting so it came down to work numbers and treatment of employees. I did not hold back my opinions of what I saw, me being a union rep for my location. I was very straight forward and gave him the view from the employee's side.

Anyway, after a half hour of that type of discussion, he began to talk to me in a personal way....talking about where he came from, his family (even down to where grandma was from) and what mix of race he is. After a while he looked at my basket (which contained ingredients for dinner) and hinted to me that he will be having top ramen tonight. And he smiled at me. I just rolled my eyes at him and said I had to go start cooking.

:notamused:

For someone who is as hard assed as he is to his employees he sure opened up. I don't get it. Why open up to someone who pretty much just told you off??

Because there are many men that soften up when meeting a woman for the first time. These are the women that eventually subjugate to relationships with "***holes" that deteriorate very rapidly.

Well you are a very good looking woman, maybe he was thinking you might want to get to know him in a less professional way.

Lonely...nothing more. Mean people, especially managers have NOBODY who wants to talk to them. You just got 'stuck'. Do a better job avoiding him in the future.

Do guys like a feisty woman? Find them to be a challenge?

Yes, and uh...yes.

Yes, and uh...yes.

OooOoo let's take this to another thread <winky, winky>

;)

agree with Ka Jun.

That said, often someone's work personality has nothing to do with who someone is outside of
work.
There was this one manager in South Africa who I would argue with in meetings. basically we
both would state the other either 1) didn't know what they were talking about, or 2) were an idiot and
full of it, or Both. Other employees used to cringe when we would get into it, however 5 minutes after the meeting he would be inviting me over for a braai or drinks at the pub etc. we really were good friends, just not so much at work.

marty

Well you are a very good looking woman, maybe he was thinking you might want to get to know him in a less professional way.

Proof?

maybe you hurt his feelings by giving it to him straight, and he wanted to return the favor so he could regain his status as "alpha"? or he's lonely.

Proof?No, this proves nothing.

I'm not the ***hole in question. I'm just saying what I think he might have been hoping for. She had an armful of food for dinner, and he said he would be having ramen.

OooOoo let's take this to another thread <winky, winky>

;)

My feisty woman wouldn't be down w/ that.:p

That's where the "challenge" part comes in.

Challenge is sanitized speak for what is colloquially termed a "getting a smackdown".

Because there are many men that soften up when meeting a woman for the first time. These are the women that eventually subjugate to relationships with "***holes" that deteriorate very rapidly.

I've met him on several occasions and because of the way he's treated people, I have always tried to avoid him. As a matter of fact, he showed up at my work one day and tried to get me to attend a diversity meeting with the subject of "women in management". I rejected his offer but somehow my name was still on the list of attendees. I didn't show up.

Sounds awfully creepy Siu! I think he has taken an interest in you! Beware!

No, this proves nothing.

I'm not the ***hole in question. I'm just saying what I think he might have been hoping for. She had an armful of food for dinner, and he said he would be having ramen.

That was taken the wrong way, but not a big deal.

Either way, anyone trying to make a date using that approach is bound to fail (in most cases).

That was taken the wrong way, but not a big deal.

I got it;)

the proof is rarely presented but has been sufficient (for proof purposes, anyway...wouldn't say no to some more samples:innocent:).

Haven't they all been removed?

Haven't they all been removed?

not from my memory:)

That was taken the wrong way, but not a big deal.

Either way, anyone trying to make a date using that approach is bound to fail (in most cases).True, it normally fails.

It just takes so little effort that a lot of guys will just throw it out there, hoping it might work this time.

I think it comes down to guys liking any girls that talk to them, and you were talking to him, so.....


We really are very simple creatures. Like dogs, only not so complicated.

He was wanting to stage his own production of, "The Taming of the Siu".

He was wanting to stage his own production of, "The Taming of the Siu".

One might as well try to tame the wind or command the oceans tide to stop. You stay wild Siu! Always!!!!;)

You were honest with him and didn't kowtow or recoil in horror.
Bet that is a rare occurrence for him.

He was wanting to stage his own production of, "The Taming of the Siu".

sheer brilliance.

people who are aholes to fellow workers are generally numbnuts who have little or no interpersonal skills and cannot read people's hints, nuances or signals. the logic in his mind is: she chatted with me outside work = i don't repel her = she must secretly like me. sounds like fertile ground for obsession. be afraid.

and you took the encounter beyond a passing greeting and initiated the chat beyond a "good to see you" by asking about his stress. = oh she is interested in me

Siu, in answer to the first question.....most men like a feisty woman....I mean a miksop is just so boring!

I suspect he wanted to let you know that he's not just a hard-nosed manager - that he's a real person. A real, socially awkward person.

So, did he like what you cooked for him?

My little sister underestimates her ability to make men weak in the knees...

single rose on your desk next work day. run for the hills!

i think it comes down to guys liking any girls that talk to them, and you were talking to him, so.....


We really are very simple creatures. Like dogs, only not so complicated.
+3000

This is the reason a lot of us guys spend so much time thinking " how the....did he get her?"

You were honest with him and didn't kowtow or recoil in horror.
Bet that is a rare occurrence for him.

Do you really think so? Could be, huh? Most people that mention his name, do so in a negative manner. I do not feel afraid of him because I don't work for him nor am I doing anything that he could threaten my job for.



I suspect he wanted to let you know that he's not just a hard-nosed manager - that he's a real person. A real, socially awkward person.

That could be it. Most people really don't like him since he's hurt so many of them. The funny thing is how he remembered which location I worked at. We have over 250 employees at my warehouse and a couple hundred locations in California alone.

people who are aholes to fellow workers are generally numbnuts who have little or no interpersonal skills and cannot read people's hints, nuances or signals. the logic in his mind is: she chatted with me outside work = i don't repel her = she must secretly like me. sounds like fertile ground for obsession. be afraid.

and you took the encounter beyond a passing greeting and initiated the chat beyond a "good to see you" by asking about his stress. = oh she is interested in me

Yeah; making conversations with people is generally good, but these are the consequences that they may have.

He was wanting to stage his own production of, "The Taming of the Siu".

Bingo. He'll feel better about his own power (more than just manhood) if he can 'conquer' you, Siu my darlin.
Or he just thinks you're hawt, which you are. ;)

Siu, in answer to the first question.....most men like a feisty woman....I mean a miksop is just so boring!

I disagree; I think most men, like most women, like being with an unpredictable person. Of course, people don't appreciate extremes, but a varying and healthy degree of change and entropy makes for a very "interesting" person and, potentially, for a very interesting relationship.

I think that relationships and marriages die because this unpredictability eventually dissipates as the relationship matures. If the general consensus is anything like my experience, people might think that a mature relationship invalidates the need to be "interesting," when nothing could be further from the truth. This was the basis for ending my first relationship, and is the premise for continuing the one I am in now.

Feisty:

1chiefly Southern & Midland a: full of nervous energy : fidgety (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fidgety) b: touchy (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/touchy) , quarrelsome (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/quarrelsome) c: exuberantly frisky2: having or showing a lively aggressiveness : spunky (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/spunky) <the movie's feisty heroine>
— feist·i·ness noun


I take this to mean definition C! I like feisty ladies and I MARRIED one!

I like feisty women because they are female.

I like feisty women because they are female.

I rest my case!:p

Do you really think so? Could be, huh? Most people that mention his name, do so in a negative manner. I do not feel afraid of him because I don't work for him nor am I doing anything that he could threaten my job for.



Yep. That kind of attitude can lead to a rather insular life outside of work.

My little sister underestimates her ability to make men weak in the knees...

Your sister?

http://www.celebrity9.com/img/tonya-harding/tonya-harding.jpg

Your sister?

http://www.celebrity9.com/img/tonya-harding/tonya-harding.jpg

:lol:

My sister is far more beautiful, kind beyond words, and is adored by everyone she meets.

We look nothing like each other so that throws people off.

Lonely...nothing more.

Yep. So lonely indeed.

http://wakarimasenlol.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/pyzamronery.jpg

Thank you 65er. And I don't use splintery wooden bats. I use a spinning hook kick combined with a jumping scissor sweep. And for good measure a side kick to the side of the knee. Now THAT's the proper way to mess up a leg. :thumb:

Thank you 65er. And I don't use splintery wooden bats. I use a spinning hook kick combined with a jumping scissor sweep. And for good measure a side kick to the side of the knee. Now THAT's the proper way to mess up a leg. :thumb:

And that's why I love you so.

(((hugs)))

You are all wrong. The reason this happened is because of the bike riding (quads).

Your sister?

http://www.celebrity9.com/img/tonya-harding/tonya-harding.jpg

Ahahahaha...man...Tonya Harding joke, gets me every time.

Yes, and uh...yes.

Forgot to add the caveat. Unless aforementioned said "feisty" - ness is aimed at the heat of battle at you.