Foo - How many women do this?

My wife has a habit that drives me a little crazy. If I have a drink that contains any booze, she drinks a bunch of it. If I'm eating something that tastes good, she eats a fair amount of it.

I'd expect this to happen some of the time, but it's almost constant. So why would I care about an activity that could be interpreted from the outside as sociable? For starters, if I'm drinking a beer I like to have the bottle not disappear the second I set it down or right before I want to pick it up. Also, if I have a beer, I actually like to drink the whole thing -- I'm not into half servings. If I'm cooking dinner, I like to know how much of stuff to make. If I'm led to believe she won't eat any of something, I'd just as soon not be starved afterwards because I had to cut my portions way down.

Since I know this happens, I often say something to the effect of "how about I grab you a beer? you want me to make you a little ....?, etc" and the answer is always no, even if I push the issue. I've brought it up on a number of occasions since I'm happy to get her whatever it is I'm enjoying. This happens at restaurants too.

From what I can tell, the logic is partly that the calories don't count if they start out with me. But that's not the whole story because she insists that I don't load up for two when I'm getting something for myself. What gives?

Some women are like that. When our family goes out for dinner, my Mom never orders anything, but insists on grabbing other people's food and eating that way. Her Mom (my grandma) does the same thing.

My wife has a habit that drives me a little crazy. If I have a drink that contains any booze, she drinks a bunch of it.



My lady usually asks me why I'm drinking in the middle of the day. Then she asks me to put my pants on.

Yep, my wife takes my food sometimes. I usually successfully convert this into getting more of whatever it is. She gets half and I get half... then I order a second (whatever), and it's all mine. Or I convince her to get the same thing she wants me to get and I get half of hers, too.

Helps that I'm a cyclist and can get away with eating all of this. :)

it's called love

Order double. You have to preempt the strike if you know she's coming.

Last time someone tried to snatch food off my plate I had to ask for a second fork... the first one got blood all over it.

Ever since then my fries have been safe.

I've said once before and I'll say it again. I rule my relationship with a woman with an iron fist. If a woman tries to take my food, beer or money, the relationship is off. I don't care is she wonders about me and misses me for the rest of her life. It is her loss. Know understand this, I'm an idiot and I have no idea what I'm talking about. I've had a very long week at work and all I want to do is go home and jump on the bike. Some of my co-workers are claiming that I started speaking in tongues during lunch at the local Chinese joint. So I ordered the Kung Po chicken, does that mean I'm speaking in tongues? Anyway, I have to go see my Psychologist in a little bit due to the fact that I'm a nutjob.

Peace,

Couch

There was just a thread like this a few weeks ago. Started by coasting maybe??

My wife does it all the time...drives me bonkers! I ordered this plate of nachos because I want a plate of nachos. If you want nachos order a plate. I'm happy to pay for you to have your own plate of nachos.

My wife does it all the time...




Wait...you're married?


I guess she's a legal US citizen now, so how's that eye and brain transplant coming along?:D

There was just a thread like this a few weeks ago. Started by coasting maybe??

My wife does it all the time...drives me bonkers! I ordered this plate of nachos because I want a plate of nachos. If you want nachos order a plate. I'm happy to pay for you to have your own plate of nachos.


very very unlikely. i never start thoughtful discussions, just spontaneous nonsense based on what is on my mind or what i just ate. simple minded.

There was just a thread like this a few weeks ago. Started by coasting maybe??

My wife does it all the time...drives me bonkers! I ordered this plate of nachos because I want a plate of nachos. If you want nachos order a plate. I'm happy to pay for you to have your own plate of nachos.

No, no, no... let her have some and then order another plate of nachos! Mas nachos por favor!

Wait...you're married?


I guess she's a legal US citizen now, so how's that eye and brain transplant coming along?:D

Homey don't play that kind of marriage relationship! :thumb:

Where were you back in Jan or Feb when the threads about it were flying?

If anyone took a sip of my shiner bock...oh the horror.

There was just a thread like this a few weeks ago. Started by coasting maybe??

My wife does it all the time...drives me bonkers! I ordered this plate of nachos because I want a plate of nachos. If you want nachos order a plate. I'm happy to pay for you to have your own plate of nachos.

considering she has to put up with you, she's a saint.

considering she has to put up with you, she's a saint.

No argument there! :thumb:

My mom calls it "helping to share." She'll ask my dad, "Can I help you share this?"

It's a woman thing. I dated a girl for 3 years. I never ate an entire meal myself. It was weird after we broke up. I didn't know how to react to the food on my plate and no one around to eat part of it.

Homey don't play that kind of marriage relationship! :thumb:

Where were you back in Jan or Feb when the threads about it were flying?




Getting attached to a beloved ball & chain like you my friend!:thumb:

My mom calls it "helping to share." She'll ask my dad, "Can I help you share this?"

It's a woman thing. I dated a girl for 3 years. I never ate an entire meal myself. It was weird after we broke up. I didn't know how to react to the food on my plate and no one around to eat part of it.

Not all women do this.

For you men who are complaining, why didn't you just nip it in the bud when it first started to become a habit? Is it really that difficult to do? I would have no problem telling a guy that I prefer to eat/drink my own food, and he can get his own.

For you men who are complaining, why didn't you just nip it in the bud when it first started to become a habit? Is it really that difficult to do?



If we were flexible enough to nip it in the bud, then we wouldn't need women at all.

very very unlikely. i never start thoughtful discussions, just spontaneous nonsense based on what is on my mind or what i just ate. simple minded.

I got it mixed up with this thread of yours:
http://www.bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=561113&highlight=jewelry

I can't find the one I was really thinking of, but it was within the last month or so. Vbulletin search has always sucked. :(

For you men who are complaining, why didn't you just nip it in the bud when it first started to become a habit? Is it really that difficult to do? I would have no problem telling a guy that I prefer to eat/drink my own food, and he can get his own.
There are plenty of reasons not to nip it in the bud. If something makes someone else happy, why not just let it go if it's only once in awhile? Aside from good karma, setting people straight whenever they annoy you is not a good recipe for staying hitched.

Even if that weren't the case, the rules are different for men and women. For example, my wife can (and does) make fun of me or call me an idiot in front of friends/family/strangers and everyone has a laugh, including me. On the other hand, I wouldn't dare (or even want to) do the same because even the exact same words would not be taken the same way. Generally speaking, women who lay down the law with men are considered independent and men who lay down the law with women are considered jerks. That's just how it is.

I make it obvious that I'd like my own stuff, and it sounds like at least some of the guys here do too. So it's not a matter of the women we're whining about not knowing what's going on.

I'm just puzzled by the dynamics. This practice seems much more common among women than men.

Not all women do this.

For you men who are complaining, why didn't you just nip it in the bud when it first started to become a habit? Is it really that difficult to do? I would have no problem telling a guy that I prefer to eat/drink my own food, and he can get his own.



Shaddup and make me a sandwich.

Shaddup and make me a sandwich.
And since you're already there, go ahead and grab me a beer....

Shaddup and make me a sandwich.You forgot the magic word.

Might not be a woman thing--it's a cultural thing for me. Filipinos love sharing food, so when we go out to eat, teh bf will order one thing, and I'll order another thing, and we'll have around half of each others' food and/or drink. It's just more FUN that way.

To us, the whole point of eating is the experience of sharing and trying a variety of things. Even if we both want the same dish/drink, one of us will make sure to get a different one because it's boring to have the same thing.

Hell, I go to restaurants alone, reach across to the booth behind me, and grab a handful of pancake. No one has ever objected.

Hell, I go to restaurants alone, reach across to the booth behind me, and grab a handful of pancake. No one has ever objected.

If sasquatch did that to me, I wouldn't complain, either. :innocent:

I have never minded this at all... it seems normal.

If sasquatch did that to me, I wouldn't complain, either. :innocent:Pff, get with the program, sir.

Might not be a woman thing--it's a cultural thing for me. Filipinos love sharing food, so when we go out to eat, teh bf will order one thing, and I'll order another thing, and we'll have around half of each others' food and/or drink. It's just more FUN that way.

To us, the whole point of eating is the experience of sharing and trying a variety of things. Even if we both want the same dish/drink, one of us will make sure to get a different one because it's boring to have the same thing.
You're thinking of eating family style -- that's very different than what we're talking about.

What the guys here are griping about would be if your bf insisted he didn't want anything at all. When the thing you ordered arrives, he eats half and then drinks half of your beer.

The issue isn't that he's eating food you have. It's that if he hadn't insisted on getting nothing, you might have wanted to order more so everyone would have plenty to eat. When you're cooking yourself, it can take quite awhile before a new serving is ready.

And BTW, my wife might like sharing my food and my drink, but I've tried a few experiments and she definitely doesn't like it if I drink part of her tea or have part of a snack she got. :rolleyes:

My wife does it, but ONLY after I ask her if she would like me to make enough for both of us and she says no.......urgh.

Now I know I am different.

No, I don't swipe food or drinks from Mr. East Hill. If he asks me if I'd like to try a bit, I usually do. On the other hand, he always takes a tiny sip from my cider before he hands it to me. I don't mind that a bit, but when he asks me if I'd like some of his beer, I always say no :lol: .

My mom calls it "helping to share." She'll ask my dad, "Can I help you share this?"

It's a woman thing. I dated a girl for 3 years. I never ate an entire meal myself. It was weird after we broke up. I didn't know how to react to the food on my plate and no one around to eat part of it.

:notamused: Try again.

You forgot the magic word.

Now!

You forgot the magic word.



"and a beer"

Pff, get with the program, sir.

Sorry. A shaved sasquatch... :P

I don't take people's food, it actually bugs the crap out of me when people try that stunt with me.

For one thing, vegetarian and a nondrinker.

You gonna object if I swipe a piece of broccoli? Not that I would. :P

Oh hell. I know when I go into a restaurant situation - or even an at home dinner situation what I'm ordering or what I'm cooking.

Beer/booze wize - I also know. Now I may ask to sample the other person's beer as I may not have had it -and respect wishes for visa versa - and if I like it - I order my own - and would expect the same from my dinner mates - try it and if ya like it - get yer own. I'm not a drink/plate sampler - actually that term is not correct either - should be - I'm not a drink/plate sharer.

:notamused: Try again.


I don't take people's food, it actually bugs the crap out of me when people try that stunt with me.

For one thing, vegetarian and a nondrinker.

You gonna object if I swipe a piece of broccoli? Not that I would. :P


Oh hell. I know when I go into a restaurant situation - or even an at home dinner situation what I'm ordering or what I'm cooking.

Beer/booze wize - I also know. Now I may ask to sample the other person's beer as I may not have had it -and respect wishes for visa versa - and if I like it - I order my own - and would expect the same from my dinner mates - try it and if ya like it - get yer own. I'm not a drink/plate sampler - actually that term is not correct either - should be - I'm not a drink/plate sharer.

You guys have just dated/married the wrong women. :p

None of my female friends are food-stealers, either.

If some guy tried to steal my cocktail, he'd be in big trouble. If you've tolerated it for a long time and find it acceptable in the woman you're with, then why complain about it?

You guys have just dated/married the wrong women. :p

None of my female friends are food-stealers, either.

If some guy tried to steal my cocktail, he'd be in big trouble. If you've tolerated it for a long time and find it acceptable in the woman you're with, then why complain about it?

hehe - actually I get the "wow I can't finish this and I don't want to take it home, do you want it?"

And the pride and feminine figure in me wants to say "NO".

But I say yes, and thank you. And have fork and knife in hand.

:D

My wife and I share food and drink all the time. We rarely fill two glasses at dinnertime, we just put one glass where we can both reach it.

If it happens that often, why don't you just make extra food? Then when she eats "your" food, she's really just eating that portion that you've already made for her?

My BF and I used to share microwaved nachos off the same plate when we lived together. Sigh.

I fondly remember kicking back with a Blu-Ray and some poor man's nachos.

Since we have one (1) vegan and one (1) carnivore in our marriage, we don't have that problem. :p :thumb:

I have however had people think that my appetizer that I order as my main meal (because there are no vegan entrees) should be shared. Some people will pour salt on my chips & salsa or ketchup on my fries :mad:, someone complained that I ate all the edamame. :rolleyes:

It is also annoying when people in a group assume that everyone's food will be shared family style without asking first.

I've found that growling and brandishing various sharp utensils are most efficacious at dissuading others from sampling from one's plate.

Puts me in mind of making several people nervous at a chinese restaurant when, without my realizing it, I kept growling while gnawing on the spareribs.

I have however had people think that my appetizer that I order as my main mealAnd how fun is it when the server reacts with a "That's all?!" when you order, or brings your appetizer meal a half an hour before everyone else's meal? :rolleyes:

This thread makes me chuckle. I have never heard of or seen anyone woman out eat a man. I did have a friend who would ALWAYS pick at my salad if it came before hers. I got tired of it so I would move it away from her or not sit by her so that she would have to wait one more minute for hers.
If someone ever played with food and table manners, I would call them on it and put a stop to it immediately.

This thread makes me chuckle. I have never heard of or seen anyone woman out eat a man. I did have a friend who would ALWAYS pick at my salad if it came before hers. I got tired of it so I would move it away from her or not sit by her so that she would have to wait one more minute for hers.
If someone ever played with food and table manners, I would call them on it and put a stop to it immediately.

Women have no problem telling other women to leave their food alone. It seems that men do not possess this trait.

Usually that habit has something to do with an unhappy relationship to food.

Nope, my wife doesn't do this either. I can't remember ever dating anyone who did.