Foo - Personal Space

So I lost my wallet yesterday on a ride. I didn't realize until this morning. I went looking for it this morning in the car when the gas light came on. Uh oh. At that point I head right into work and make a call to my office to have them wire me some money as my bank is not located where I'm at. I require a fairly decent amount of money to operate on a daily basis so the wire was a hefty amount as I'm here the rest of the week. I get to the nearest Western Union and fill out their little form when this man walks up leans on the counter, maybe 6" from me, and is looking over my shoulder. This irritates me to no end, people getting in my space unwelcome like that. The lady behind the counter is even looking at this guy crazy. She starts pulling the money out and I tell her to hold on. I look over at the guy and politely ask him to please step back. He was appalled. The lady behind the counter sided with me and asked him to respect the privacy of my transaction. I mean, I could feel the guy breathing on me he was so close. Anyway he stepped back an huffed. I got my money and left. Man it annoys me when people do that. Just so you know I like my personal space. If we're engaged in a conversation or something of that nature it's fine but otherwise, stay the hell away from me.

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How's your arm by the way?

Couch

That would freak me out as well, I am not sure I would have the balls (of course I don't literally have balls, ovaries doesn't have the same ring to it) to actually say something. I usually go for the Evil Glare of Doom tm.

How's your arm by the way?

Couch

Got the stitches out today so good. Thanks for asking.


That would freak me out as well, I am not sure I would have the balls (of course I don't literally have balls, ovaries doesn't have the same ring to it) to actually say something. I usually go for the Evil Glare of Doom tm.

I've been in physical altercations over this. I really don't like people getting in my space.

I've been in physical altercations over this. I really don't like people getting in my space.

Was it the old yawn + stretch = jerked elbow to the bridge of the nose + "Woopsie!"?

Got the stitches out today so good. Thanks for asking.



I've been in physical altercations over this. I really don't like people getting in my space.

I've gone bezerk over strangers touching me. That's past my tolerance boundary. I was riding in a hot bus many years ago when a ******** guy (literally he was ********) reached out and grabbed my arm. I was utterly incensed and loudly said:

"GET.YOUR.HAND.OFF.ME" he :eek: and let go of me immediately. Can't stand strangers touching me ******** or not.

Once I was waiting for a bus with my husband at the time and this aggressive female panhandler that frequented that area interrupted our conversation and sidled up right up beside him, way too close, touched his arm or something. I don't remember exactly what I said but the word "*****" was mentioned. :innocent:

So I lost my wallet yesterday on a ride. I didn't realize until this morning. I went looking for it this morning in the car when the gas light came on. Uh oh. At that point I head right into work and make a call to my office to have them wire me some money as my bank is not located where I'm at. I require a fairly decent amount of money to operate on a daily basis so the wire was a hefty amount as I'm here the rest of the week. I get to the nearest Western Union and fill out their little form when this man walks up leans on the counter, maybe 6" from me, and is looking over my shoulder. This irritates me to no end, people getting in my space unwelcome like that. The lady behind the counter is even looking at this guy crazy. She starts pulling the money out and I tell her to hold on. I look over at the guy and politely ask him to please step back. He was appalled. The lady behind the counter sided with me and asked him to respect the privacy of my transaction. I mean, I could feel the guy breathing on me he was so close. Anyway he stepped back an huffed. I got my money and left. Man it annoys me when people do that. Just so you know I like my personal space. If we're engaged in a conversation or something of that nature it's fine but otherwise, stay the hell away from me.

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Thats what I would have done. :thumb:

What? No wrestling him to the ground? You disappoint me, Cracker.

What? No wrestling him to the ground? You disappoint me, Cracker.

He didn't attempt to "restrain" me. You know it would it would be a whole different story otherwise.

I've been in physical altercations over this. I really don't like people getting in my space.

Especially when there's an RC helicopter involved...

I cannot stand another male getting into my personal space. Women I'm more tolerant of. But with men I go into mental fight mode.
I don't like men who like to hug, either.

Especially when there's an RC helicopter involved...

I'm surprised it made it to the 10th post. I love this place.

The guy is looking over your shoulder, watching how much money you're getting, and he's appalled when you ask him to step back? I don't know that I would have been so polite.

The guy is looking over your shoulder, watching how much money you're getting, and he's appalled when you ask him to step back? I don't know that I would have been so polite.

Honestly, I believe there are a lot of people out there who just don't know any better and just don't have any self awareness. I make it a point to be polite and courteous because of that. A person's reaction, however, is what can make the ass come out in me.

Having been in Asia for a while, I find my personal space bubble is *much* smaller than that of most North Americans, though larger than many Chinese. I have my limits (like if the guy in front of me on the jam-packed elevator hasn't washed his hair in weeks), but in general, my tolerance is pretty high.

I learned this by almost getting beaten up in Vancouver when I accidentally brushed a really big guy walking the opposite direction down the street. He immediately twirled around and loudly asked me what my problem was. I'm so used to being jostled and bumped when walking in public areas that I hadn't even noticed.

Having been in Asia for a while, I find my personal space bubble is *much* smaller than that of most North Americans, though larger than many Chinese. I have my limits (like if the guy in front of me on the jam-packed elevator hasn't washed his hair in weeks), but in general, my tolerance is pretty high.

I learned this by almost getting beaten up in Vancouver when I accidentally brushed a really big guy walking the opposite direction down the street. He immediately twirled around and loudly asked me what my problem was. I'm so used to being jostled and bumped when walking in public areas that I hadn't even noticed.

Whoa...THIS Vancouver?!

you're right demanding personal space. that's understandable but probably not if it were a girl.:lol:

Whoa...THIS Vancouver?!

Yup. Somewhere downtown... can't remember exactly.

3 feet, baby! That's my rule. I've had to ask a few folks to step back when they weren't respecting the traditional American 3 feet of social distance. (They got PO'd but tough muffies!) I need to be at least an arm's length away from anyone I don't really know.

You were totally in the right. :thumb:

I learned this by almost getting beaten up in Vancouver when I accidentally brushed a really big guy walking the opposite direction down the street. He immediately twirled around and loudly asked me what my problem was. I'm so used to being jostled and bumped when walking in public areas that I hadn't even noticed.


i once kneeled down to tie my shoelaces and got pushed over and stepped over. And it was a new suit. animals, i tell you.

crackerjab was just annoyed it wasn't a hot girl getting too close. i've seen his other posts.

Damn...I was hoping this story would end with a makeout session. I guess it still could. :)

crackerjab was just annoyed it wasn't a hot girl getting too close. i've seen his other posts.

Not only do I not mind hot chicks getting too close, they can touch too. But gently.

Not only do I not mind hot chicks getting too close, they can touch too. But gently.

Especially if they're touching each other. :thumb:

CJ, you should have beat the close breather to death with the corpse of a helicopter salesman.

That would freak me out as well, I am not sure I would have the balls (of course I don't literally have balls, ovaries doesn't have the same ring to it) to actually say something. I usually go for the Evil Glare of Doom tm.

I like the using the term gonads instead of balls. Has the same ring as balls, but can apply to both sexes.:thumb:


Having been in Asia for a while, I find my personal space bubble is *much* smaller than that of most North Americans, though larger than many Chinese. I have my limits (like if the guy in front of me on the jam-packed elevator hasn't washed his hair in weeks), but in general, my tolerance is pretty high.

I learned this by almost getting beaten up in Vancouver when I accidentally brushed a really big guy walking the opposite direction down the street. He immediately twirled around and loudly asked me what my problem was. I'm so used to being jostled and bumped when walking in public areas that I hadn't even noticed.

Yeah, having been raised in some of the most crowded cities in Asia and being on public transportation a lot makes my personal bubble much smaller than most people who live in non-crowded places, like the US or Canada. It's just a function of not having enough space, really. You can't help it if the bus/street/shop/whatever is super crowded and there's just no room, so you just have to deal.

However, I still have a HUGE aversion to non-accidental touches by strangers, and I also don't like it if people do have space to stand away but don't.

CJ, you should have beat the close breather to death with the corpse of a helicopter salesman.

He was lucky.


I like the using the term gonads instead of balls. Has the same ring as balls, but can apply to both sexes.:thumb:



Yeah, having been raised in some of the most crowded cities in Asia and being on public transportation a lot makes my personal bubble much smaller than most people who live in non-crowded places, like the US or Canada. It's just a function of not having enough space, really. You can't help it if the bus/street/shop/whatever is super crowded and there's just no room, so you just have to deal.

However, I still have a HUGE aversion to non-accidental touches by strangers, and I also don't like it if people do have space to stand away but don't.


If it's crowded lack of personal space is acceptable. When you have 1000sf space then it's not.

You should have stabbed him with the pen and gone and gotten a new one, all with a huge grin on your face.

To me, it is extremely person/situation specific.

Sometimes I get creeped out when people are close enough that I can see them, but one time I was in a crowded situation where the back of my hand was on someone's breast and she kept it there. My wife was with and she oddly didn't have a problem with it.

As far as my co-workers, knowing they are in the same building kinda bugs me, even if I can't see them.

Glad the arm is feeling better.

I am no longer polite when it comes to my personal space violation. I have been known to whirl around with fists on hips to confront a stranger face-to-face while demanding in a not-so-nice voice, "Can I HeLP You?" I usually scare them away.

Still not sure which approach to take with MIL though. It is way easier to be direct and confrontational with strangers than it is with family members. I find that we dance while she talks. She gets too close, I step back, she closes the gap, I step back and try to get a piece of furniture between us. <sigh> It doesn't end until I find a way to escape.

Glad the arm is feeling better.

I am no longer polite when it comes to my personal space violation. I have been known to whirl around with fists on hips to confront a stranger face-to-face while demanding in a not-so-nice voice, "Can I HeLP You?" I usually scare them away.

Still not sure which approach to take with MIL though. It is way easier to be direct and confrontational with strangers than it is with family members. I find that we dance while she talks. She gets too close, I step back, she closes the gap, I step back and try to get a piece of furniture between us. <sigh> It doesn't end until I find a way to escape.

Same sex close face talkers are the worst.

Same sex close face talkers are the worst.

If they are male and same sex, then being face to face would require a lot of dexterity..........umm nevermind.

If they are male and same sex, then being face to face would require a lot of dexterity..........umm nevermind.

Nothing says I love you like face to face... ummm nevermind.

The very concept of personal interaction with someone you don't know is frightneing to people in Seattle. Lots of people walk around looking at the ground 5' in front of them, and refuse to acknowledge the existence of other people, except for the fact that they avoid walking too close to them.
Banks, pharmacies, customer service counters etc. have recognized this behaviour and implemented a system which works well for up here: They use the typical stretch-line barriers to create the queue/corral, and at the head of the queue is a tape line on the floor. A sign at the final stanchion reads: "Please respect the privacy of our other patrons and wait behind the line for the next (clerk/teller/etc.)" It's a gentle reminder to out-of-towners; We live the PNW so we don't have to deal with many people, so please, leave us be.

I've gone bezerk over strangers touching me. That's past my tolerance boundary. I was riding in a hot bus many years ago when a ******** guy (literally he was ********) reached out and grabbed my arm. I was utterly incensed and loudly said:

"GET.YOUR.HAND.OFF.ME" he :eek: and let go of me immediately. Can't stand strangers touching me ******** or not.



thinking you'd go completely off the chart when little boys on the train/bus/street here in Japan do a kancho to you :)

i've learned to position myself on trains/buses so it happens less frequently but it still happens occasionally to me. What really surprised me at first was how parents wouldn't really do anything about it.

what is a "kancho?" some kind of sexual thing? I would react violently to that.

google is your friend here Luddite.

what is a "kancho?" some kind of sexual thing? I would react violently to that.

It's what I used to call a butt knife.

google is your friend here Luddite.

Is it one of those "what has been seen cannot be unseen" situations? :lol:

Had an old boyfriend who literally hung on me. I'm sure guys have the same with wimmens. At first - rather fun, but later - it was always having his hand on me, knee resting on me - his face - infront of mine - too much.

Yeah I like my space - but I also like some up close and personals, if ya know what mean and I knows that you do.

:D

thinking you'd go completely off the chart when little boys on the train/bus/street here in Japan do a kancho to you :)

i've learned to position myself on trains/buses so it happens less frequently but it still happens occasionally to me. What really surprised me at first was how parents wouldn't really do anything about it.

I would have ill words with some parents but the language barrier would make it difficult for me.

Is it one of those "what has been seen cannot be unseen" situations? :lol:

No, apparently one places both hands together, palms inward, fingers interlaced and extends both index fingers. Then one uses said rigid digits to stab at the anus of their "victim" while yelling "kan CHO" with the emphasis on CHO.

No, apparently one places both hands together, palms inward, fingers interlaced and extends both index fingers. Then one uses said rigid digits to stab at the anus of their "victim" while yelling "kan CHO" with the emphasis on CHO.

I'm not sure which is more disturbing: the fact that you know about this, or the fact that I now know and I learned it from you (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Elr5K2Vuo). :twitchy:

On a different note, "Rigid Digits" sounds like a great name for a rock band.

I can't believe no one has linked to this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LrllCZw8jiM

Crackerjab is Francis Sawyer. I did not believe this until I touched him in a homoerotic way and he killed me.

what is a "kancho?" some kind of sexual thing? I would react violently to that.

Here's a link.

http://www.kancho.jp/

Enjoy!

Perfect body position for a knee to the face. :thumb:

Since we're talking about kancho...take a look at this Failblog pic:

http://failblog.files.wordpress.com/2009/07/fail-owned-billboard-fail.jpg?w=500&h=375

:roflmao:

what is a "kancho?" some kind of sexual thing? I would react violently to that.

It’s much more about being mischievous than anything sexual….but it can still be very annoying.